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My boyfriend of 9 months
Hi, i am 16. Ive been with my boyfriend for 9 months now - this is a long relationship for me. This boy means a lot to me, and we love each other heaps - except we're really on and off. We break up all the time because his friends always get in the way.
Like, on the weekend of my 16th, he decided to go away with his friends to the coast and left me alone at home with dad, and that really cut me deep. Anyway, we always break up because he prefers his friends over me, but the thing is, i hate it. I want to tell him that i need his attention without sounding selfish and he gets really angry really easily. also, we broke up last weekend. i heard he got a new girl that is 15.. i think, anyway shes 2 years younger than him, and i heard they were going out so then i decided to go out one night on a weeknight so me and a few friends went for a drive and i ended up kissing one of his old friends. well that weekend after that he called me and we talked for 4 hours and sorted things out and i broke up with this other boy for the guy i love, but.. this girl he was apparently with is getting in the way.. im really insecure about it and i say "you love her more than me" and he agrees, but i know he doesnt. im really confused. does he love her or not. i love him so much and im sick of breaking up and when we got back together last weekend he talked to her on MSN messenger saying that he "still wants to be friends with her", so does he have feelings for her or not? thanks
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Haha.. this reminds me of my ex-boyfriend. He just broke up with me after 2 years for the same reason. He's probably just trying to get over you. He could still have feelings for her, but it's all just a matter of trust. I hope everything works out.
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Seriously, this guy seems a bit fishy, like something is up. I know that you think a lot of this boy and you have strong feelings for him, but do you honestly think he feels the same way? (I'm not trying to be mean or harsh here, I'm just trying to help you out.) It seems like he doesn't like you as much as you like him. If he did, he wouldn't be doing these things to you. He wouldn't be breaking up with you and he wouldn't be going for other girls.
I had a boyfriend that did this to me and I ALWAYS went back to him no matter what he did, I still took him back. I though I was in love and I though he was the one for me. We'd break up every week, then the next day we'd get back together. Then, I thought to myself. This isn't how a REAL relationship is supposed to be. Even if you fight, you're supposed to stick with one another and work things out. Breaking up and going back out is foolish and immature. If it were really love, you guys wouldn't be breaking up in the first place. Honestly, I know what you're going through and it's really hard. But you have to make up your mind and think about yourself. Do what will make you happy.
I'm sure you're an amazing girl, so you should have an amazing guy by your side. You may think that you really love this guy, but since he does these things to you, this isn't true love. True love is him being by your side no matter what and not breaking up everyday over foolish things. You need a guy that will stick by and can be your bestfriend as well as your boyfriend. A guy that will treat you like a princess and will never hurt you or make you cry. You're still young, so you shouldn't be tied down to a guy. Your perfect guy is still out there, you just have to play the field a bit and look for him.
I suggest making a pro (everything good about him) and con (everything bad about him) about this guy and seeing which one gets more. This might help you out a lot with what you want to do about this relationship. I wish you the best of luck, hun. ♥
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uhm. he might but not in like a big way. if he went back with you then he obviously still has feelings for you. i suggest telling him that he needs to spend more time with you or your never gonna work out.
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