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I had a girl, she was a great girl at that. I truly thought that she was the one. But here lately something has happened and there has been a giant misunderstanding. I have not talked to her in weeks and I don't know what's going on. I'm confused and she said some things that make me think that she might not love me anymore. I don't wanna lose this girl, but I can't make her love me, she has to figure out what she wants on her own. I just want her to be happy. What should I do? I hear you're great at advise.

The best thing to do is make sure all misunderstandings that exist are cleared up completely. Youve got to get talking again.Most girls like to feel liked, and just knowing you care about this girl will help you to hang on to her. Also, if you present your feelings in a gentle kind way and let her know where you stand and where you want to be, she will be able to make her decision and be happy, and knowing how you feel about her being great, hopefully,she will wantto be with you again. She may or may not be the one, but it is not worth never finding out. Honesty may be hard, but it will never leave things out there. Sorry for being so late.

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me and my friend want to make a movie. but we have no idea what it should be about. but we're only 13 so we cant get a real camera and put the movie on TV. we dont do plays in front of people. haha. i have a video camera and im going to use that. but its my moms and i have to sneak it and then put it back before she gets home from work. but what should we make the movie about? and how do we do it? we're willing to put in a lot of time for this...thanks.

Hello. Many famous filmakers make it big by having their first film make a good impression. Most people's first films are usually documentaries. You and your friend should make a documentary on something that you think people would be interested in. Maybe you guys have a cool hobby that not many other people do and you want to make a film on that. You could make a film on a journey to acheiving some sort of goal. If you do not want to do a documentary, then you could always do a fictional film. You can always do a film with volunteers from around town to help you with the set and everything like that. The way to make the film is to find a great film editing program from online first. Windows Movie Maker is very good. Download the program, and then begin filming with a digital video camera, so you can have computer acccess. Each day, take your camera and edit each day's work. Save your work each day, and then film more the next day. Keep editing and filming, and by the time you are done, you can make copies for many people to see. Happy filming!
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hey
im 16/f/uk incase you was wondering!
i play cornet and piano and i am grade 8 on cornet and about 3 on piano. for about 6/7 months ive been really considering joing the royal marines band. im about to start collage and im doing a excellent music course that will make me improve more on my music playing. that lasts for two years. i am overweight so basically during now and the time i leave college i am going to get very fit to join the marines. (i hope... wish me luck!) anyways i was wondering if any one knows or has joined the roayal marines band and is it good/bad and general stuff like that...
thanx for any help!!
i rate! xoxox

Hello. I am terribly sorry, because your question has been unanswered for an extremely long time. I do not know anything on the royal marines band, but I would imagine it is good because the marines are supposed to help with manners and everyday life skills and you love music, which you would be playing. I just did not want your question to go unanswered. I hope you are training yourself by lots of running, because I would imagine you will be doing lots of it. I am sorry that I nor many others could help you. Happy playing!
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what are ways, healthy and unhealthy, to lose weight fast?

Hello. I do not know any ways to lose weight fast, but I do know that more than half of the time, things that make you lost weight fast will also make you gain it back rapidly. Choose wisely. Happy losing!
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hi...i'm 14 and i'm going to be a freshman this yr...so i used to go to public schools 2nd gr. and under, then inn 3rd gr.-8th i was in public school, but this year and all thru high school i'm going back to my old public school...does any1 have tips on how to meet new friends...I also wld love to be on Homecoming Court (sort of a popularity contest...)and my Freshman homeroom class is supposed to vote on who gets to be in it...how do I get these ppl to vote for me?

Hello. The best way to make friends is to put all your fears behind you... Think of your new year as a chance to do all of the things you wanted to do in your old school that you couldn't. You should make sure that you don't act shy, because that makes people less likely to approach you. Let people know about your interersts and your hopes to make new friends. Practice introducing yourself to people. When you meet someone new, make sure you let them know that you are interested in what they are interested in. And most importantly, make a terrific first impression. Be a polite and fun person. Show people that you want their company. When people see that you are an outgoing and polite person, they will want to be around you. Just make sure you aren't clingy or anything of the sort. Give people a good amount of space. Do not rush into friendships. Go at their pace. Happy schooling!
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All my friends seem depressed expecially my one friend who talks about "Killing her parents with no remorse" on her xanga. Im really worried for her. Thing is, she says she would do it but I know she wouldnt. She talks more about suicide and how terrible her life is. Her life really isnt bad, her parents just have really strict limits which I know can drive a teen crazy. She doesnt seem to know that there millions of kids out there with way worse situations than her who make it through everyday. She keeps repeating it alot probably for attention (Maybe shes asking for help, I dont know) Im just really not sure what to do anymore...

Hello. You are probably right, when you say your friend is doing it for attention. However, sometimes a desperate attempt at attention is also a cry for help. The best thing to do is to keep a close eye on your friend, but do not smother her with sympathy or orders for her to stop acting this way, because that could cause problems and it would be giving her attention for the wrong reasons. If you think things are really getting serious, then you should take action. As far as her and her parents' safety (with the killing threats) they will all most likely be safe because if someone else is reading her xanga and they find it very serious, they will make sure nothing happens. Happy friending!
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i have been in private school my whole life since pre-k now im going into eight and im a little worried because after this year im going to a public school im a little worried is private school all that differnt from public ps people at my school think im a misfit b/c i dont rly fit in with the whole private school thing so plz help

I used to go to a private school and had to switch to public school for middle school. I felt nervous and had questions as well. The only real difference is that when you go to public school, you get lots of attention because you used to be in private school. However, that will be useful in making friends. You will have to follow different rules, of course, but overall school is school, and it will be easy to adapt. Happy schooling!
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this is a very long story... i will give you the short version... i am going into 7th grade.. in 6th grade i started middle school... i only had like 13 friends cuz most of my friends went to a different middle school... well anyway i met this girl that i thought was my friend... but she turned me really really really mean. Down at heart i am nice but i cant help what comes out of my mouth! I met this boy... brendan... i fell for him... very hard... but i was mean to him so he hates me now!!! And it kills me inside... i cant tell you how many times he has made me cry! Well i want to start 7th grade on a clean slate and be nicer to EVERYONE especially brendan... how can i do that?

You are already on the right track to being a better person. You should let people who you feel you've hurt alot in the past know that you are truly sorry and that things will be different from now on. Most people will respect your apology and will to change. Do the same with Brendan. Let him know that the past is the past and that you two have had a rocky one. Simply talk to him, tell him that, and ask him how he feels about a new start between the two of you. He probably feels the same about the way you two treated eachother in the past, and a clean slate is just a short swipe away! Here's to a new start!
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I like some of the clothing from the Dickies brand but i know like if you wear something from volcom and you dont like skate your a poser. So i dont want to be a poser to everyone cuz no one will talk to me. My style is kinda punk rockish. I get kinda overwhelmed cuz its like im supose to walk into the store knowing what all these brands are.

So can i wear the dickies brand and all?
And what does it stand for?

It seems difficult to be in a world where you are criticized for something as ridiculous as the clothing you wear. However, we are in a world like that, and it is difficult to deal with. Although you aren't supposed to care what anyone else thinks, it is human instinct to be offended and embarrased, and that can happen if no one talks to you. As for wearing the clothes, it's up to you in the end. The best thing to do would probably be to wear some of the dickies clothing, but without showing it off, that way you are wearing what you want and people won't think you are trying to make a statement. You can also search online for clothing that is quite similar to the dickies clothing, but has a different brand name. This way, you are wearing the style that you like and also starting an individual trend. I started wearing a new type of clothing once, and it made me a total individual. Happy shopping!
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okay so i started liking this guy who moved back from cali and he knows and everything, i think he likes me back but im on 25% sure he does. what can i do to get his attention more and find out if he likes me...asap!

ill rate 5 no matter what but it has to be serious

Hello. To get his attention, the best thing to do is let him know that you are glad he is back from California and to show your interest in his interests. Let him know that you want to learn about what he likes, because when someone knows that someone else is interested in them, they usually become more interested as well. Since you at least have a feeling that he likes you, there is a good chance that he does. To find out for sure, all you can do is talk to him and again, let him know you are interested. If he likes you back, he will show it. Have a fine day!
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Ok I was basically fwb's with this guy named Rick and We would chat online e-mail eachother everyday and he would talk to me in school and then all of a sudden after a month of telling me he liked me he says he doesnt like me after he wrote me the sweetest e-mail then he says I like you theres just a girl at our school I like and she likes me and ive liked her for about a year now. Then I started crying But I like myself but that night I didnt he made me cry for about 2 hours I mean I was in love with him and today he wrote me an email saying the girl who liked him doesnt anymore what should I do?

Hello. Well, I don't blame you for crying so much because Rick deffinately led you on. In reguards to him not liking the girl anymore, you shouldn't automatically take Rick back because if another girl was worth his time and you weren't, then maybe you should let him know that you aren't just a sucker for him and not automatically take him back and be "FWBs" with him again. Good Luck, and thank you for your time.
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Ok, i'm not sure if thats how u spell it but still.....okay i sweat. and i dont mean a little i mean a lot! i'm female by the way. so all my real cute lil shirts i cant wear b/c i sweat so much it shows wet spots underneath my arms (and only there, not my hands or anything like that) my parents refuse to take me to the doctor. I've tried powder, anti*persprent, and al the specail deoderants!! Does guys deoderant work better, if so what kind? and do u have any ideas on what i can do? thanks so much!

Hello. Don't use anti-persperants because they clog your sweat glans. This means that when it runs out, you sweat extensively and alot more. Just use regular deoderant and cover your body in baby powder. Thank you for your time.
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Does cornbread have corn in the mixture???

Hello. Cornbread is made with cornmeal, which is basically a dried corn substance. Although most cornbread/cornmuffin recipes don't have whole corn pieces in them, some people prefer to make their breads/muffins with whole pieces of corn. I like it both ways, but it's more common to make corn goods without whole kernels. Which ever you prefer to make, both ways are correct. Thank you for your time!
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okay i LOVE to cook. whenever i make this dish... it's chicken in a lemon sauce with garlic pasta.. my chicken never comes out tender. but when i make all of my other dishes, like chicken parm. chicken marsala, chicken stir fry and everything else, they always come out tender! how can i get my chicken to be tender?

Hello. My father is a butcher, so im a huge meat fanatic. You can cook the chicken before you add the lemon-garlic, but then you get less citrus flavor in the chicken because it was pre-cooked and its fats couldnt collect the juices and soak up as much... When it's pre-cooked it also dries out faster. A good tip is to soak the chicken in vinegar the night before you prepare. Once you take the meat out, the vinegar will be soaked in but once cooked, the vinegar will act as a base for whatever you cook the chicken in, and the meat will stay tender as it soaks the citrus and gets the full flavor. Plus, the citrus won't dry out the chicken because the vinegar will keep the chicken tenderized but lemon and garlic flavor will still enter the meat. Thank you for your time. Good cooking!
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I'm in love with a guy I never even met but I talk to him on MSN and he's so sweet and everything he lives like 10 hours away and I don't know I live in Ontario he lives in Calgary and I'm so in love I can't help my self he's sweet and like yeah feels like I know him it's been 2 years almost since I first met him on Chat Rooms...ne suggestions?...and why do I always fall for the guys I never met and never will?

Hello. Take serious precautions with this guy. In reguards to your second part, you probably fall for guys that you haven't met because they're less aware of your flaws, are harder to impress (because they cant be sure who they're talking to) and because they're mysterious. Thank you for your time.
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ok this is the same person who wrote the question about how i dont know how to tell my mom i have a boyfriend.....well she caught us together.(we werent doin nething but we sat close)...well i went for a walk and he met up wit me so we made out then sat next to each otha watchin the sun set...when my mom pulls up and asked me if i was ok and asked who was that kid sittin next to me....i told her he'd fallen off his bike and was hurt so i just sat and talked to him......she gave him a ride home but still didnt think of me likin him........now i definatly cant tell her bc now shes gonna think i go for walks everyday just to see him....now how do i tell her that i have a boyfriend?

Hello. You might want to tell your mom that the "bike boy" was very nice and a good friend of your's. Then you may want to tell her that you like him alot and want to be his girlfriend. If she gives you a hard time then you might have to take matters into your own hands, and decide whether or not to confess or keep it a secret. However, if she understands, then your free to do what you want. Thank you for your time, good luck!
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I've been in love with my best guy friend for years. We tried going out when we first met but he didn't have strong feelings for me, so he dumped me and later on we became really tight. I'm still deeply in love with him and he has a GF who I'm close with too. No one knows how I feel and I know for sure he does not feel the same way. How do I get this wonderful, funny, perfect guy out of my head? What should I do?

Hello. In reguards to wanting to get your best friend out of your head, that's not going to happen. He's your best friend, and no matter what, you're always going to have feelings for him, no matter if they're friendly or more. It's hard that his girlfriend is close to you and that you have to sit and watch them be so happy. However, there your friends, and you should be happy for them. Don't try to get him out of your head, because that won't help at all. Just be happy for what you guys had, be happy that he's your friend, and know that you'll always have him around. Thank you for your time!
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is it bad to want you parents to get a divorce? because you dont really like your dad or something? cause i feel bad, but i kinda want them to split up :( i feel really bad...

Hello. When my father does something to get me angry, I often want my parents to get divorced because he's being unfair to my mom or my siblings. However, it's perfectly normal to want your parents to get a divore sometimes, because it's usually just out of anger. Thank you for your time, and your normal, don't worry!
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Hey ok the new school year starts this monday and im scared bout making new friends cuz last year i told people i was christian (im not afraid 2 share my faith) so they all thought i was weird and stuff...and i dont cuss so instead of saying a bad word id say like crap or freak or whatever and they'd make fun of me..i still want ppl to know im christian this year but im scared i wont have friends! i know what i did wrong last year id tell people that Jesus loves them jokingly and they got scared so yea not gonna do that but even if i tell them that im a christian they might reject me..so what do i do?

Hello. I can relate almost excatly to you're situation... I came into the fifth grade of public school after being in catholic school for four years. I didn't swear nor know much about the things the other kids were talking about, and I was 1-2 years younger than everyone else because I am advanced. I am going into the 9th grade now, and I still don't swear at all, but that's because the others have learned to accept me. People are brought up in diffrent ways and taught different things, so just be youurself and if someone rejects you for being a christian, than that's just someone you don't befriend. Things will work out fine, don't worry. Thank you for your time, and good luck!
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I dont know why, i always feel like people on here are trying to help me and doing a good job of it, but i never find really good help. Not trying to scare you or whatever, i rate 5's as long as your nice, lol. But anyway heres my REAL issue. Ok so i know this sk8ter guy. We talk sometimes but never have we been close friends. I dont know he doesnt really have many 'close' friends that are girls, but hes really hot. Hes just so into skateboarding i guess. Every year I try and get to know him more and more but his friends are all jerks, and im not going to try and change his group. Thats not me. But.. its like to be his friend you have to be theirs. They have to accept you. And no way am I being friends with jerks. Any good tips to get to be better friends? Also.. if hes not 4 me, my town is so small. Its hard to meet guys around here, and reallly you can never find a good one. I've never been 'ugly' or anything like that i've been told im pretty and all that but no guy has actually ever told me to my face or whatever that hes liked me. I feel.. kind of.. i d k. What do i do to sorta change this? Besides be myself. I know how to be myself, but from there where do i go?

thanks to anyone who will read this

Hello. If this "sk8er boy" doesn't have many female friends but is 'sort of' friends with you, then he deffinately likes you for who you are. As for his "jerk" friends, if they don't like you now, they won't like you. That's no problem. Just try to find something you and sk8er boy have in common that you both like (since it's not skateboarding, :) and if that doesn't work,then you may want to keep things as they are now, if that's as good as it's going to get. I am terribly sorry for any inconveiniences I may have caused, but I couldn't pass by you're diffuculty and I wanted to try and help. Thank you for you're time, and I hope all goes WELL for you!
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