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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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I've been goin out with this guy for about a year now. We both really like each other and I believe it could be love (I'm 18)... we've talked about having sex, we're both virgins and he told me he's ready to have sex with me and wouldn't push me if I wasn't (and he hasn't pushed me at all)... but I don't really know if I am or aren't... so how can I tell for sure if I'm ready?!

when you're ready you wont be asking yourself if you are.

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So i've been going out with this girl for almost 8 months now, right? Anyways, I love her a lot, I really do, I just dont know if I am really what she wants anymore. She teases me about other guys and stuff constantly, and she really gives me the impression that she doesnt love me as much as she used to. Can someone help me on what I should do?

you need to talk to her and tell her that she is not as affectionate as she used to be. and let her know it bothers you when she teases you about other guys. ask her what is really going on. is she trying to send you a message?

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My boyfriend and I are going to become sexually active soon and I just have one problem. I told him I'm a virgin and I'm really not. No one knows that I've had sex once before and I cannot tell him or anyone because of specific reasons. He's not a virgin either, but will he be able to tell I'm not?

No he wont. but why are you gonna lie to him? relationships are based alot on trust.

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is it just me.. or does it bug you girl when guys try toooo hard.. yea its cute that they wanna give you the world.. but isnt it like.. sometimes i just need a good time?!! or am i crazy! thanks x0x0x0

whats wrong with a guy wanting to give you the world? why is that trying to hard? i think its just him being nice.

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It looks like my mother is finally lettig me get my nose pierced for my 16th birtday in a few months. My birthday is in October, and I could get it done around then, or I could wait until Christmas break. What I want to know is...does anyone know any specifics about it? Like...does it swell up? How long does it take to not look like you "just got it done". Because I don't want to go to school having a strawberry for a nose. Please don't resond to this, if you have no idea what you're talking about, thanks ;)

Okay well sometimes it can swell up. But some people, like me, get it done and it doesnt even stay red the next day. The day after i got mine done, it looked like i had it for years. but usually it takes like 1 week for it to fully heal. just make sure you clean it, i think peroxide works best. Use a q'tip to clean it because sometimes cotton balls get stuck. and make sure you clean it in the inside of your nose too becuase you have to get both sides of the hole. same goes ofr turning it. keep turning it whatever chance you get and make sure you turn it from the inside as well as the outside. you might wanna turn it from the inside when you are alone though. lol. Once you can always turn it from the inside and out and it doesnt get stuck, then you can change it. but if its only been a week and you change it make sure you do it quickly, because the whole may close. and to get the inside post out if you get it done with a gun, use tweezers to get the post out. try buying one of those earrings that are especially for the nose, they are usually twisted or have a ball at the end of them so that they dont fall out. and never get anything too big. little studs always look cute. hope i helped.

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I dont have a question,but this is Kevin1986. I just wanted to make sure that you actually read that right. Can I get pregnant from oral sex? That's what I read. Is that the dumbest question you've read in your life or is there one stupider? If there has been a stupider one,please inbox me back and tell me.

Its one of the stupid ones. did you see the one that said "whos the guy from pink'd? is it donald trump?" thats another stupid one.

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SORRY IT'S SO LONG, BUT I HAD TO SAY IT!!!!

STUFF SOME OF THE MODERATORS ARE SICK OF DEALING WITH (actually im speaking for myself, and i'm not sure but maybe a few others)

the people that ask to be rated, I usually rate them LOW, just because it seems like all they care about are ratings, and they aren't in it for the advice

the people who say I Rate, it's like they're so desperate, that they tell people that they rate, just so they can get better answers, WTF¿?

And what bugs me, are either the non-advice questions, like asking for a screen name(thats what you have friends for)

And, the people who ask the following, I like a guy, I'm Not sure if he likes me, What Should I Do? Uh Hello obvious, TELL HIM!!!

And people who say, My boy Friend wants to have sex, I'm not sure, I almost feel like I'm to young, what should I do? well thats easy, if u have to ask, then the answer's NO

The one thing that gets me is people who say admin please don't delete, HELLO that just makes the admin know that it's a Dumb question

All these repeats, and stupid I Rate, Rate me questions are SO ANNOYING, i just wanted to state that

sorry i know that it wasn't asking for advice, but i just felt like posting that, it just really gets on my nerves, i mean i have done that before, but i've realized how stupid it was!

by the way, if u wanna leave something in my inbox, like a rude reply to this, or just any question, then my name is SoUtHeRn_ChIcKeTy

i don't care if this gets deleted, i just HAD to post it!!

I'm tired of stupid questions too. whenevr i see a trail of dumb questions, i add one to the list just for fun. it makes me feel alot better.

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I don't get it. Disco is cool! If you don't know how to dance, chances are Disco works. Does anyone know how and why it died????

who cares?

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Next to the questions, why r there smileys that r either smiling or frowning or in between what do they mean, and can u change them if it is ur question?

they are ratings for the question. and no you can not change them. and you can only rate questions if you are a moderator.

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whos that guy from punk'd? is that donald trump??

ashton kutcher

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how do u get pen off ur leg??

try rubbing alcohol

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how do u deal with your parents judge your friends but they go to far with it.like i have a friend who has gone thru some problems but they are gone now but yet they dont let me even see her or talk to her or nething i dont understand n they are like ruining my life cuz she is the only one i have EVER been able to talk to u or hang wit what do i do they judge my friends n go way to far with it

You have to make your friends understand that its not fair for them to judge your friends. And that you wouldnt do the things she id becuase you are not like that and you learn from other peoples mistakes.

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Hey, its your advice columnist NicoleMarie. I had my first sonogram yesterday but its still 2 early to see if its a boy or girl. But now i'm excited. Can anyone give any ideas for baby names? But nothing too common. Thank you!

hey i'm 19 weks pregnant. I know how frustrating it can be when you cant think of any baby names. Especially when you dont know the sex. I like Kianna, Maritza, Marissa, Siarra, Meranda, Jennifer, Arianna, Brooklyn, Paris, and Dallas for girls. And I like Damian, Xavier, Machi, Malachi, Dominick... boys names are harder to pick though. You can alos go to pregnancyweekly.com and sign up for that. they are very informative nad they have a baby name search too. Good luck with the pregnacy!

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ok well my boyfriend and best friend have been fightin alot latly and now they r sayin they wont be friends again and ive asked them to try to 4give each other they wuldnt and then i sed ok if u cant do that just try to be nice and not fight wen we all 3 r 2gether and they wotn so im so lost kuz i dont wanna pick bekuz i dont wanna loose 1 or both of them so HELP!!
-Lost & Confused-

well if they cant get along together. then you are just gonna have to find a way to find time to hang out with them seprately.

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i feel like guys only like girls for their bodies, so i reject alot og guys. what should i do?

not all guys are like that. if you keep thinking that way you will never gind mr. right. give some guys a chance.

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Hey!I'm Casey(girl)and im 14.My friend is also 14 and she is in 6 month relationship with her b.f.They have had sex 8 times and whenever they are together they always do stuff(sex,BJ,makeout,HJ etc.)I sometimes start to think he is using her but then again they r in a serious relationship. Is that the way to go in a relationship? Do you think their realtionship will go far if thats all they do?If u have ne advice please write..thanx!;)

if thats all they do then thier relationship wont last. but maybe they do it so much that its so annoying to you that thats all you think they do. they might do or talk about things other than sexual. i guess you will just have to wait and see if they last.

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okay i need help there is thiiis super fine gurl and she flirts with me i mean bendin over huggin kissin and were good friends. im scared to make the move cause she might say no and end our friendship or she might say yes and that would be great wat do i do

make the move, you will never know until you make the move

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okay my 3 best friends called me up one day and sayd i was talkin alot of crap when i asked who told them they said they couldent tell and when i asked what they said they said they couldent tell and they also said they couldent tell b.c " when we get in a fight i always find a way to get out of it" when thats not true i always get out of it b.c i tell them the truth even if its true... well they all hate me now and i dont know what to do!!

okay fuck them bitches. they are not real friend sif they are gonna jufge you like that and say that you always end up getting out of shit? what is that supposed to mean? that they DONT want you to get out of it. Like you shouldn't defend yourself or something? and then they wanna go and beat around the bush and be like ph we cant tell you wo told us or what you said. what the hell did they call you complaining for if they werent even gonna tell you what you supposedly did. sounds to me like they just wanted to be 3 little bitches and start with you for nothing. if i were you, i would say fuck them and go find some friends who dont act like stupid ass little girls.

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Hi my name is Casey(girl) and im 14 years old.I try really hard for guys to like me but i never seem to attract that many. How do i get guys to like me??

well you cant make someone like you. They judt either do or dont. and to be honest, sometimes when you try too hard, guys can see through that. It makes you seem desperate and they lose intrest. Just be yourself.

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ok my boyfriend is 14 and we have been going out for 11 and a half months. what do i get him for our 1 year anniversary?? anyone got any ideas? xoxo please help! im desperate!! loves ya!!!

get him a video game or if you know a team he really likes you can you can get him a fitted cap or a shirt or jersey.

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