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lieing about virginity
My boyfriend and I are going to become sexually active soon and I just have one problem. I told him I'm a virgin and I'm really not. No one knows that I've had sex once before and I cannot tell him or anyone because of specific reasons. He's not a virgin either, but will he be able to tell I'm not?
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Yeah, he'll be able to tell that you're not a virgin so you should just have a talk with him and let him know. I hope this helps and good luck!
Crystal
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Yes he will be able to tell... but hun just be completly honest with him and remember honesty is the best thing. He will probably enjoy the sex much better if he knows you have done it before like he did.
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-Katie
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hEY IT'S NAQUIA
WOW THAT'S BAD I THINK YOU SHOULD NOT TELL HIM ABOUT IT WHAT IF YOU GUYS BREAKUP THEN HE MIGHT TELL PEOPLE MAYBE HE WILL TELL BY THE WAY YOU KNOW HOW TO DO MORE THINGS BETTER THAN HIM CAUSE HE'S NEW TO THE WHOLE IDEA SO PRETEND THAT YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOUR DOING AS WELL AS HIM AND IF YOU DO JUST ACT LIKE YOU HAVE SEEN NASTY MOVIES ABOUT SEX AND YOU ALL ABOUT IT OR TELL HIM YOUR PARENTS TOLD YOU .
BYE PEACE CHOOSE WISELY .
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I know there have been a lot of answers to this question so I just want to put my two cents in. There is absolutely no way a person can tell you are or are not a virgin unless you tell them. The vaginal wall is like elastic, once you have had intercourse it goes back to the way it was, if it did not then women who have had babies would have gaping holes between their legs. As far as "popping the cherry" goes, it probably popped either riding your bike or something else to that extent because unless you tear during sex you will not bleed the first time you have intercourse. Women when excited have a natural way to lubricate themselves to avoid tearing in that area, the reason so many people bleed their first time is because they are uncomfortable and are unsure of what to do and there bodies respond to the strongest stimuli and at that point anxiety overrides pleasure. I am sure you have your reasons for not telling him that is entirely your business. If a guy tells you that he can tell if you are a virgin or not then he is lying, ask your OB/GYN and I am sure they will back me up.
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yes he will be able to tell that you have had penitration easily. just be honest. if you aren't
then he mite leave you because you lied to him and didn't even try to tell him.
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No he wont be able to tell.
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No, won't be able to tell. I have had sex with 2 different girls. One girl was our first. The other gurl was a little down her line, farther than you, and was a mistake. I could clearly state that there was no difference at all in the two. The only difference is the one that was more experiance did some "excersises" that made it a little tighter... and my first was still a little looser around then she was.... hope I helped without grossing you out. O ya, and the cherry, if you can tell him you're a virgin and really not, you can just tell him that you popped it riding a bike like most other gurls do.
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No.
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well he was honest to you right?...he told u that he already lost it...and why cant u be honest to him?...what kind of reasons?...well maybe he can tell..not by looking at ur vigina..but maybe by tha way u do things...u mite know how to work good! lol...well u can IM me sumtime..im alwaez on AIM
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Well if your thinkin of havin sexy, You should be straight up Honest. I mean best bet is to speak the truth instead of something bad happening and im sure he will take it ok!
-stephanie
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ok 1st of all, if ur thinking about becoming sexually active with this guy you should tell him the truth. Why do you feel the need to lie about it? It's not like he can judge you because he isn't a virgin either. And if he does judge you than all you have to do is find sumbody better than that because you deserve so much more. But anyway, yes I think he will be able to tell that you've had sex before because there won't be as much resistance. In other words you won't pop. But, if he hasn't had sex with a virgin before than he might not be able to tell because he won't know what it feels like to have sex with a virgin. I think that you should just tell him that you aren't a virgin. Then, you don't even have to worry about any of this. Get back to me if you need any further help.
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Yes, he will be able to tell your "not" a virgin. If you've had sex before then the guy before had to of poped your cherry so when you and your boyfriend have sex and he thinks your a virgin and your cherry doesn't pop then he's probably gonna wonder why. Plus, your probably not so virgin tight like you was when you first had sex and he's gonna notice that to. Hope i helped! :)
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Well, if ur becomign sexually active, first off, u should trus tur partner and he should trust u, in other words, u should prolly tell him ur not a virgin. If u don't tell him, he might b able 2 tell ur not a virgin cuz u might b a lil streched out, or if ur cherry popped he might notice too.
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Depends really on how much you were able to take the first time. If your hymen was broken, then yes. Other than that you'll all set. But I would tell him, but swear him to secrecy.
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He won't be able to tell...but I wouldn't want my boyfriend lying about that. So, just think about it...and maybe it really is something that needs to be talked about? But, do what you want...he won't know.
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There's no way he can tell for sure.
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No he wont. but why are you gonna lie to him? relationships are based alot on trust.
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