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how do u deal with your parents judge your friends but they go to far with it.like i have a friend who has gone thru some problems but they are gone now but yet they dont let me even see her or talk to her or nething i dont understand n they are like ruining my life cuz she is the only one i have EVER been able to talk to u or hang wit what do i do they judge my friends n go way to far with it
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You should let your parents know how you feel. Let them know that you understand their concern, and that you don't wanna judge their parenting, but that you really like this friend and they shouldn't stop you from hanging out with her... I mean, unless your parents think she has caused problems for you (such as low grades since you started hanging out, addictions to drugs or alcohol, bad or illegal behavior, rude/no manners) If your parents think that this friend has changed you in a negative way, then they are going to insist you don't hang out, and maybe you should look for a new friend (sucks, I know)
But if they have no reason but their own personal dislike for your friend, then they should understand that you have tha ability to choose your own friends... Let them know that you want them to give your friend another chance. Good Luck! =)
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I know completely how u feel my parents r the same way with my parents my best friend was disliked by my parents but what i did was ignore what they saud bout her and kept on being her friend and everytime i was around my parents id bring her up and try to make her sound good so they cant say anything bad but after a while they got the point that i wasnt gonna stop being her friend so pritty much what im tryin to say dont let ur parents get the best of u.well i hope i helped *GoOd LuCk*
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My mother is the worst at judging my friends! I know exactly what your going through. If you feel really strong about it then talk to your mom...sit her down. But sadly enough I've tried that and found I was screwed and had to find new friends which is rediculous....but maybe your mom is right yano? Sorry I didn't help much...
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tell ur family that it's your friends and they can't run ur life anymore. just be honest and tell them how you feel about it.
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Tell them, this is your friend, I mean, they really can't control your life. Tell them this, "If you really trust me, then trust me to make the right decisions in choosing my friends." As long as you haven't done anything to lose their trust you should be fine.
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my parents r really judgemental too but it' just how they r they r even really judgemental of me. like they judge ppl based on their looks and what they wear withought even getting to know them and it makes me soo angry. but i've just learned to like tune them out when they start talking about ppl in that way. don't worry i know how u feel my parents r very traditional and expect not only me but everyone else to dress and look a certain way and it pisses me off
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omg i have the saaame problem! you need to sit them down and have a talk. thats when they only listen. tell them that your not stupid and you know how to pick your friends, and that they dont know your friend like you do, so they have NO right to judge her. explain all teh good things about your friend, and how shes such a good friend to you and they will finally understand why your friends with her and they will respect her.
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the only thing i can tell u to do is to try and make your parents understand..... tell them she is the only person that si here for me when i need her so u have no rite to do this just explan. i understand because my mom is the same way.. ilke i will tell her somthing then she will be like ew she is a hoe i dont want u talking to her!!!!!!!!!! hit me back and tell eveything that happened!
jasmine
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You have to make your friends understand that its not fair for them to judge your friends. And that you wouldnt do the things she id becuase you are not like that and you learn from other peoples mistakes.
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Have you tried telling your parents this? Just let them know that she is the only one that you can reeeeally talk to. Ask if you can just CALL her...if that doesn't work...take the phone, say youre calling someone else if they ask. =)
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