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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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see im organinzeing a relief fund for hurricane katrina an the people in new orleans, and i was wondering where i could get some recent pictures of a horrible flooding down there to show people around here what these people have to endure everyday, so any websites with and recent news/info/pictures would be exxtttrreemmlllyyy helpful!
thank you so much i rate (link)
Punch wikipedia into your search page and look up Hurricane Katrina. Bunches of pictures in there. :)


Does anyone know a good place to get a mushroom/fungi identification guide? the woods and caverns near my homestead are chock full of mushrooms and I want to know which ones to pick. (link)
Here is a web site that may tell you where you can get the info.

http://www.naturalhub.com/gather_hunt_food.htm

Here is a site if you want some books that you can buy.

http://theforagerpress.com/bookstore/mushguides.htm

I didn't find much info in the online versions, but I buy a couple of magazines that are interesting and may have articles that can be of help. Mother Earth news is one. Their online site was down. when it is up this is the address

http://www.motherearthnews.com/

Another good one is Backwoods Home. It is a good magazine and has some articles available online at:

http://www.backwoodshome.com/article_index.html?gh

Hope that isn't overkill on the answer. :)


okay well i have a problem, 10 minutes ago i was all dandy and happy. and like after that 10 minutes passed i have a really bad, im mean, REALL BAD stomach ach. its like feeling like you have to throw up and and can't! I cannot take any medicen becasue i need my moms approval and/or dads, but both of them are sleeping and i tred waking my mom up and she doesnt listen and keep sleeping. i cant take a nice cold bath or anything.

if it helps, i just got back form vacation and im a bit burnt. if that helps im a bit chilly too (its like 70* out and my body is used to about 80*)

pelase help i sware to my life ill rate you what you deserve.

if youi are one of those dumb ass people that are like "SUCK IT UP LET IT OUT!" like you know who you are! dont even think about trying to answer this!!

xOx Lauraina (link)
A bad sunburn can give you chills and an upset stomach. Since you can't take any nasty Pepto bismol or anything without permission ( very good rule), then try some crackers...just plain old saltines and some 7-up or any other beverage like that without caffeine. Hopefully you have those things and can get some sleep. Feel better! :)


The kid I like has a girlfriend, which hes told me he doesnt really like her anymore. And he wants to go out with me, but hes afraid if he breaks up with her, she'll get the whole school and all her dumb friends after him. He said hes going to hug me, thats hes not afraid to show that he likes me too. But I don't even compare to his girlfriend! Soo....should I ask him to break up with her? Should I just wait? Someone please help me! I'm going crazy! (link)
Hes going to have to break up with her if you want to have a future with him. Unfortunately there are guys out there who will tell you anything. If he doesn't break up with her then tell him to forget it. I know that isn't the answer you'd like to have but, don't be used by any guy! I sincerely doubt the whole school is going to come after him. That's just an excuse. :)


Ok..I dated this guy back in june and we had sex but I cheated on him and we broke up..but in like august he called me and he was like you should come up my house and chill, so I did. We ended up having sex that day and I left and he didn't call me for like a month..and like a week ago he started calling me to come up his house and "chill" but I don't know because my friends think he's just using me for a "booty call" he called saturday, sunday and today but today he just wanted me to come down his work but I turned him down all times... I don't know what to do..is it a booty call? or does he wanna start things back up? IM so confused..plz help..i'll rate fives!!!!! (link)
I hate to say it but I have to agree with your friends. Getting sex and then not calling for a month...not a good sign. Don't go out with him again unless you talk to him and get a commitment. Even then I'd make him wait until you are positive of his feelings for you. :)


While picking out clothes to wear to school tomorrow, I noticed my sweaters in the back of my closet, and began to wonder if it was okay to wear them yet. The temperature has been averaging about 75 degrees here, but it's VERY cold in school...So, since it's after Labor Day, is it okay to wear sweaters yet?

thank yah much! (link)
I think its fine to wear a sweater when you want to. Especially since a lot of places keep the AC so cold. If it isn't to hot, go ahead and wear a sweater. :)


Where can i punblish my poems online that doesn't cost me money? dont say xanga or any online journals
thanks (link)
If they happen to be love poems, a place I visit now and then would work for you. I just read as I have no talent! I have for you the link that will take you right to the submit page. Look forward to reading your poems. Don't be thrown off by the lyrics in the address...They take poems too. :)

http://www.romantic-lyrics.com/submit.shtml


what does dousch mean? sorry i dont know how to spell it! But its pronouced like doosh. Thanks! (link)
Here is the dictionary definition for you.

douche (dūsh)
n.
A stream of water, often containing medicinal or cleansing agents, that is applied to a body part or cavity for hygienic or therapeutic purposes.


My penis is to big what should I do? (link)
Brag


ok thanks for the advice but how did you know their name and what's their name so i can report them under the abuse and last how could you tell or know that they had been banned begfore?
Thanks (link)
I am a L2 moderater, so I have access to the information. You don't need the name to file a report because we get the info the same way! Just cut and paste the info in the address line of your search page and they will get caught. Don't put up with any nonsense in your in box. Don't be afraid to reject a question. OK? :)


i guess this question would go under it

ok well on my advice column some asked me a question and their like people make fun of my cause i sacrfice llamas and turtle for fun how can i cope with this? And then they stared talking about how their grandma smoked pot and meth and saying one time she almost smoked the kid and the kids cat. Then they said please help me SHELLMINSTER (my nams shelly) then they said please help me or i'll comitte sucide. So i just answer go see a pro or talk to some one you truset. Cause if i deleted it and kids were playing a prank on my then it seemed like i was chicken.
I just don't know if it was real cause then i really should tell this person what to do but if it's fake then why say something that will sound really stupid. So basically is there a way to find out weather it's real or fake or find out who said it??

Sorry for the length!
THANKS! (link)
Shelly, I checked and the person asking your question has been banned before. Next time, simply cut & paste the url and send it in an abuse report. Then reject the question. If the question you get sounds a little fishy...it probably is. Go with your instincts, they will be right 99% of the time! No one here is going to consider you a chicken for not answering a question, legitimate or otherwise. :)


its so hard because it feels at times that he does want me back but toher times it feels like he just dont care i dont know what to do (link)
Maybe you need to give it more time. Do you feel like he cares more often than you feel he doesn't? If you decide to give him another try then you need to talk with him and lay down some ground rules before you even say ok. Make sure he is going to treat you right first. :)


and tell him what?? he knows how i feel for him and i had told him when we broke up that i would wait for him to get thorugh his drama

what more is there for me to say

should i come out telling him that i miss him or something like that (link)
If you want to get back with him you do. If you don't want any more drama then of course you don't want to get back with him. It is entirely up to you. I think he is saying he cares for you, what you do with that info is all yours. If you think things have changed since you broke up and you want to try again then I think you should. If nothing has changed then use caution. :)


Sometimes if I can't fall asleep at night- I'll drink one or two smirnoffs, or a mikes hard lemonade, and then I pass right out. I don't do this often and I know I don't have a problem. I'm most definitely not an alcholic- I know my limits and I'm not irresponsible. I was just wondering if anyone knows a better way to get some sleep without having to drink. I'm scared of sleeping pills, so those aren't an option. Thanks. (link)
This will sound totally stupid but it does work. Try sleeping at the opposit end of the bed. :)


if you and your ex are arguing and he comes out saying take a fucking hint i do care about you



does dat mean wut it says dat he acres or does dat mean there might be another chnace (link)
I think it means he feels whatever hes doing should be telling you he cares. So it sounds like he does care for you. Where there is caring there is always a chance of getting back together if you want it. Go have a talk with the boy! Good luck. :)


Ok I know this question sounds dum, but what can I do to help me get better faster. i have a cold (runny nose, stopped up nose, and I can rwally breathe! ) What can I do.?

Sign, Sick Ass (link)
Tylenol Cold medicine, non drowsy formula. They also usually have a generic store brand. Willhave you feeling a lot better in a couple of hours. :)


okay well.. i have my period but i dont carry a purse beacuse im like the tomboy type and everyone would make a big deal if i do.. so what can i do to carry tampons without have to use a purse and dont say pockets please!! what do i do if i get it during school? how long can you keep a tampon in for? and i have a gym bag should i put them in there and go to the bathroom after ? beacuse that would be like. 5 1/2 hours is that too long? if so what else can i do to hide them? isnt tss if you leave it in for more then 10 hours? i need help and fast! i rate 5's help me please!! (link)
Gym bag would work. Anything you can put in your locker where you can get to it. A backpack would work too. I think they make things to carry them in so nobody would know what it was. If you had a glasses case that would work too. Use your imagination! Just keep one or two in your locker tucked away somewhere for emergencies. :)


I've told 3 guys that i would have sex with them sometime in high shcool, and i feel like kind of a whore. I know that a lot of people have sex and everything but i feel like it would kind of be a slutty thing to do. What do you think? (link)
I think you're probably right. You don't just sleep with anybody and everybody. Make sure you have deep feelings for them and they for you first. There are to many reasons not to take risks like that. Living a long time being the main one. :)


What does 'pre-cum' mean? (link)
edit: Sorry, I thought you wanted the actual answer. I could have easily told you to look it up yourself. :) ===================================================== here is the wikipedia definition for you.

pre-ejaculate
Pre-ejaculate (also known as pre-ejaculatory fluid or Cowper's fluid) is the clear lubricating fluid that is issued from a man's penis when he is aroused. Slang terms for pre-ejaculate include pre-come, pre-cum, dog water, and speed drop.

The fluid is usually secreted by Cowper's glands during foreplay or at an early stage during sex, some time before the man reaches orgasm and semen is ejaculated. Pre-ejaculatory fluid prepares the urethra for the passage of semen and neutralizes the pH of any residual urine. It also lubricates the movement of the foreskin over the glans. The amount of fluid that the human male can issue varies widely between individuals, from imperceptible amounts to a copious flow.

A problem for couples who seek to avoid pregnancy, however, is that the pre-ejaculate may contain sperm. This is one additional reason why withdrawal (coitus interruptus) is not considered to be a reliable method of birth control. However, some research has been done which suggests that there are no live sperm. In fact studies have so far shown that pre-ejaculate contains only "small clumps" of non-motile sperm at rates well below the levels necessary for fertility.[1] (http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/query.fcgi?cmd=Retrieve&db=pubmed&dopt=Abstract&list_uids=12286905)

A more serious problem is those same studies have shown the presence of HIV, the virus responsable for the disease AIDS, in pre-ejaculate. Although the frequency of HIV transmission through oral-genital contact is fairly low [2] (http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/query.fcgi?cmd=Retrieve&db=pubmed&dopt=Abstract&list_uids=11364482) a risk still exists.









I have been good friends with this guy for 5 years and had a "crush" on him for 2. I have been rather forward with him, smiling at him (not something I usually do), talking to him whenever I can, giving him treats I made myself, that sort of thing. Recently, (link)
I think he likes you. I doubt he'd spend the entire night flirting and talking to you if he didn't. :)




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