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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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ive thought about this for awhile...when guys like skaters and hardcore guys wear extremely tight girl pants. what do they do with thier thing? theres no space for it in the pants...
anyone know?

Lol, my friend wears really tight girl pants. I asked him that once, and he laughed at me. Then he said that he had room, haha.

=] Cute question.

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i been with my gf for 2 months and she says she loves me. i told her its not love, we are getting 2 know each other love will deverlope if we meant 4 each other, time will say so. was that right?

Oh, I know you didn't tell your girlfriend that!

You can't tell girls that, it's like telling them you don't love them...!!!

=[ Boo on you.

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I've been known lose my temper easily, usually with me ending up slapping someone in the face. Usually it only happens once a week where I'll just get really angry over something stupid that wouldn’t have mattered the day before. I take my anger out on guys usually (I'm a girl) I'm wondering if I have bi polar (sp?) since I can be totally fine one second and out of control the nest. My mom thinks I need a consular since she thinks I'm "Angry all the time" and "Depressed" but I’m not sure what to think. Any ideas? Btw, I’m 14

It doesn't sound like the bi polar disorder. It just sounds like you have anger issues that you need to work out. I think you should seek the professional help, and leave the diagnosis to them.

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One of my friends and I have are having this argument. She insists on talking about my sexual orientation. It doesn't bother me that she talks about it, with myself or with others, but she insists on labeling me a 'bisexual'.

She says it's just a word everyone understands and I should accept it as a descriptor. I admit it's a pretty accurate description of me but I still don't like the label and I can't identify with all the bullshit and connotations attached to it. It wouldn't bother me so much if I was single, but because I'm with someone people seem to hear bisexual and think 'easy' or that I'm up for a threesome and such stupidity.

Is she right in using a word just cause it's easily understood by most people or can I put my foot down because I don't like it?

Your sexual orientation is YOUR business, not her's, and it's not her choice to discuss, it's yours. She should really stop trying. Tell her that she shouldn't label you something like that because that's not how you see yourself. Put your foot down if you don't like it. And don't take her crap.

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well my uncle reely h8's the music i listen 2 and the things i wear. like bandanna's and beggy jeans with chains on them. cuz am punk. so he reely insults me, and it was really hot 1day, and i didnt wear a jacket ot anything, so i left the house and see him just before my friends house. and he pulls over and asks where im going, and if i want a lift,and he asks why im dressed like that, and why i have my skateboard with me, im like because i want to have it with me, and refuse the offer for the ride because i was nealy there. so then he tells my mom he saw me, and he says to her " i saw him with his skateboard, and he didnt have a jumper or jacket on!" and like he lyks to be mean to evryone. im getting realy onnoyed now. what do i do.

p.s, by the way i asked another question like this but in this one thers more detail

Your uncle seems very stereotypical, and that's the thing that bothers him. You're not the way he wants to see you. Explain to him that you're still the same person, but your music interests, and clothing interests have changed somewhat. Explain to him that skateboarding not only helps lose weight, but it's fun. [I'm not calling you fat, so please don't take it that way.] Anyways, Just tell him you have your own style, and that if he doesn't like it, he should just get over it, or stop talking to you. I got annoyed like that too when all my family said stuff to me about dressing different and listening to different music. [I used to be like you. I still am, sorta, but, now I don't even call myself punk or whatever. I use my own style.] Now, I don't even care what people think of me, ESPECIALLY family. If people don't like me for the changes I've made, or who I've become, then, hey, that's really too bad for them. He'll get over it, but in the mean time, talk to him about it. I hope I helped you in some way.

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Go for anything you wanna do. It's your life, and if no one likes it, fuck them. Just do your own thing. If you wanna be goth, go ahead. =] I went through that too. Haha. You can be anything you wanna. Have fun trying to do your thing.

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I was wondering if there is a website to keep a ten year old occupied on. I would like it to have no pictures or videos or music and the most obvious one no porn. Also no viruses and adware/spyware. Oh and no games.

Man, tell your kid to read a book or watch tv. Because you won't find any websites like that.

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where and how do i make my own xanga backgrounds? and how do i put them in! everytime i try the picture only goes in the center and its little and ugly! everyone always has these cute backgrounds and i need to make one and know how to put it on my xanga!

i rate 5's for good answers
anything will help this problem

For layouts, you don't need to make them. You can always get them from somewhere else. On Xanga, go into the blogrings and search fro Xanga Layouts. They have tons of users who make them, and if you don't find one you like, go to:

- www.createblog.com

They have amazing layouts. As for installing.

Log in first, and then you click on Look And Feel. Then log in again for security issues. In the place were it says Header, place your code, and it requires you to put another code in Web Stats, do that too. And then click Save Changes. It's very simple.

I hope I helped you, if not, leave your screenname in my inbox so I can IM you and walk you through it step by step.

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ok welllll....do guys findd it weird when girls play video games? or is it cool? and do guys like it when girls are girly but still "boyey"?

P.S. boyey is not a real word..i just made it up...fyi

Most guys like it. I love playing video games, and I get just as into it as they do. Yes, I yell and scream and get mad at the game when I lose, ahaa. Whenever I'm on the phone with my boyfriend he just acts like he doesn't know me 'cause I get so into it, but yeah. Guys like it, they think it's cute, and they love it when girls are cool with the things they do. That means more time together, and a girl who doesn't care if he spends time playing video games. Hell, she can play too. =] Besides, I don't blame you. Video games = LIFE.

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I have a boyfriend and he is really nice. He is always very sweet and considerate of me. He has made it clear that he really likes me alot and I like him too.

He sounds really outgoing on the phone, but then at school he is so nervous, he can barely talk to me. My friends and I get the feeling that he thinks I'm really popular and experienced which actually, I'm not. So on instant messenger he kept saying, "Were going to make on on Monday and school" and he always calls me "babe" on the phone or computer. But then at school, he is so nervous around me.

So, is he a jerk, or just one really nervous insecure kid?

He's just nervous. He's not a jerk. Some boys are just sooo shy, and no one ever knows why. I don't know, just give him a chance.

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What happens when the unstoppable force meets the immovable object?

Serious answers only, please. Dumb answers will be met with horrible flaming death by pyromaniac ninjas.

Aha, ninjas are awesome. Let them pwn me.

But, the force goes around the object.

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Well okay, I have a friend named *Helena*. And she has this ex-boyfriend named *Kenny*.

They went out for a month and he dumped her. For that, I always thought he was a jerk.

But last night, I spent time with him and some more of my friends and my ex-boyfriend [who I think I still have feelings for]. Me and him [*Kenny*] were wrestling and he pinned me down all the time. He was being really nice to me [something I didn't think he was capable of].

Then my ex-boyfriend slapped *Kenny* with baby powder. *Kenny* pushed my ex and he [my ex] tripped and went crazy. Him and *Kenny* started fighting. And one thing my ex said was "What the $%#% *Kenny*?! You pushed me in my own damn house?! In front of my ex-girlfriend?! GET OUT OF MY HOUSE!"

I don't know what that means. But my ex and *Kenny* were friends again minutes later.

I think I have feeling for *Kenny* since he was really sweet to me. But I don't know if I can go for him since he is one of my best friend's ex-boyfriend? Can I go for him?

Don't go there. There's unwritten rules girls MUST follow, but rules are made to be broken. You're not to go out with your friend's ex boyfriend, and she's not to date your's. I don't really know what to tell you. My best friend did that to me almost a year ago, and I HATED her ever since, because he was someone I really loved, and still is, because we're back together. =], but anyways, talk to her about it first before you decide to do ANYTHING. If she still likes him, back off.

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My step father has been forcing me to have sex with him for a few years now. When I was 8-9 he brought home a porno tape and showed it to me. I called my mom and told her that it was a sick tape and he threw it away. After that, my dad has brought porno tapes for us to watch and has had sex with me various times. I hate it when this happens, but I've been afraid to tell anyone!! He taps my ass and touches it and stuff. What do I do to make it stop?!?!

Are you dumb? Call the cops.

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What the hell? Yes it is. Call the cops and file a restraining order as well as a sexual abuse complaint. He can go to jail for that. Calling the cops = GOOD HELP.

I don't understand why you rated me a 1, but whatever. Go ahead and be raped...Just when you don't call the cops don't be mad about how he keeps doing it because there's no one to stop him.

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the guy who plays napolean dynamite, is in this movie with a few other people, about playing baseball...does anyone know what it's called or a link for it? thanks a lot - i saw it the other day but forgot it

It's called "The Benchwarmers."

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Sometimes... I feel so chubby.

Well, like most young teenagers, I'm obsessed with my weight and staying healthy. Actually, it's not exactly my weight... It's just that I look kind of fat. I'm 14 years old... I stand at 5' 1" and I weigh just about 105 pounds... I never thought that I was over-weight (but am I?)... It's just I look fatter than how much I really weigh. Is that even normal? Does that even make sense?(o.O) My friends are always telling me I look fine and that I'm "skinny" but I know they're just saying that so I won't feel bad. A lot of my friends weigh more than me and are taller than me... but they look more... normal. Sometimes I just think I'm insecure... or something... Should I exercise more often? Should I try to lose just a little weight? Or am I just going crazy?

Thanks...

What the hell?! You're not fat, you're skinny. I'd kill to be your size. I weigh 145, trust me, it's not so good. They're not telling you that so you won't "feel bad." They're telling you that because it's TRUE. You are insecure, trust me, you're NOT fat, AT ALL. If you really wanna stay in shape, and gain confidence; EXERCISE and EAT HEALTHY. Very simple.

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16/f. ok so since about january i have been watching my weight. (working out, eating right.) it really worked because i was 119 pounds. all of a sudden, starting about 2 weeks ago, i just started pigging out and it was like a couldnt control myself. i eat when im not hungry and i havent been exercising as much. i gained 8 pounds. its terrible. what can i do to stop this and get motivated to lose weight again?

Pfft, try being 145. 119 is NOTHING. =[ Anyways, if you really wanna lose weight and get back on track, put a picture of a supermodel on your cabinet doors & fridge door, so whenever you go to open them, you see the picture and you don't eat, and if you do go to eat...pick up an apple!

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I can wear 32A or 32B, but most stores don't carry size 32, they usually start at 34. Does anyone know where I can get a nice push-up, cleavage-enhancing, curve-enhancing bra in size 32A or 32B for under $30? I've tried Target, Kohls, and Macy's, but I didn't find any I liked. and I'm pretty sure Victoria's Secret bras start at size 34. Any help would be much appreciated :)

I'm pretty sure that Wal*Mart and KMart have what you're looking for. And, I'm also pretty positive that Wal*Mart has those sizes, but I think they start in like Kids er something. Not sure.

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what does it mean when you hold up your pinky.

as like an insult?

I always heard it meant like Fuck You to Chinese people...but, I'm not sure.

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Okay I was wondering if anyone new where they could show me a link to this music video by "The starting line" Called "Bedroom talk"
I know they have a video, I just cant seem to find it anywhere.

Thanks

As always, google is your buddy. =]

- http://www.musicremedy.com/audio/2889

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okay! ahh! so i haven't kissed anyone before. and so one day this weekend the guy i like and me are going to make out. i'm scared, is there anything i can do to prepare? but like eh, how do you? and does it REALLY come naturally?
any tips are great :)

Yep, it really comes naturally. When I first met my current boyfriend, I had kissed before, but not with tounge, so I had NO idea what I was doing, if he'd like it, or if I'd suck. But, it came naturally, so I really had nothing to worry about. Just go with the flow, and don't worry. Things will be fine.

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Do you guys have ANY ideas on what to buy or make my BEST friend for her birthday?! I want it to be special, but I can't think of anything! Please help.

Buy her a CD of her favorite band. Take her out and buy her whatever she wants. Take her for ice cream. Buy her a card. Buy her a shirt. Give her a gift card to her favorite store or mall. Buy her a hat. Buy her a necklace. Buy her earrings. Buy her a new purse. Buy her some jeans.

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