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Is he a jerk?
I have a boyfriend and he is really nice. He is always very sweet and considerate of me. He has made it clear that he really likes me alot and I like him too.
He sounds really outgoing on the phone, but then at school he is so nervous, he can barely talk to me. My friends and I get the feeling that he thinks I'm really popular and experienced which actually, I'm not. So on instant messenger he kept saying, "Were going to make on on Monday and school" and he always calls me "babe" on the phone or computer. But then at school, he is so nervous around me.
So, is he a jerk, or just one really nervous insecure kid?
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Sounds like he's just nervous and insecure. You could try meeting him somewhere a little more neutral (not a mall or similar) as, if you are popular at school, it would be your 'turf' and therefore be intimidating to him. Then try opening up to him a little. Tell him a secret about yourself. Not a big one, mind. Something small that you don't really mind people knowing but perhaps haven't mentioned. By opening up to him, you're giving him an opportunity to open up to you. The more he can feel open, the more relaxed he's likely to feel.
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he is not a jerk...jsut reallly shy..he is just warming up a bit...if you give it a bit...he will eventuallly be fine..
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He's just nervous. He's not a jerk. Some boys are just sooo shy, and no one ever knows why. I don't know, just give him a chance.
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He just sounds nervous. I know a guy that used to be like that. He probably feels more comfortable talking to you on aim or the phone. For most people, saying anything that is outgoing in someway is 10 times harderin person than when you aren't face to face with the person. Give him time, and he will hopefully become more comfortable around you. Be patient, he sounds really shy & if he is as sweet as you say he is, it's worth waiting for him to loosen up.
Good luck
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Not a jerk at all. I remember I had a boyfriend a few years back that I could talk to all I want on the phone, but I got REALLY shy around him at school. It got better over time though. So just give it a bit of time. If you are sure he wont get mad, mention it to him. Dont attack him or anything, just casually bring it up. Hope everything goes okay =]
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He is not a jerk, he is just shy. Give him time and just talk to him a lot. Make him feel comfortable in school. :]
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Aw, sweetie he isn`t a jerk. He`s just really shy. Have you talked to him about this? If you just want to get this problem out of the way, kiss him at school, whenever he unexpects it.
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♥ awe. he's just shy around you at school. He really likes you. And I think you guys should try hanging out, out of school, and see if he lightens up a little. That's really cute. Stick with him! xoxo.
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believe it or not, a lot of people have that problem. he is definetly not a jerk. when hes on the phone with you or on AIM hes more comfortable beacuse you cant see him and neither can anybody else. he knows that you 2 are the only ones that know what you guys talk about.. which is why its a good idea to not tell all the details to your friends. in school its a completely different story because not only does he have to worry about what you think about how he looks and says... but he has to worry about what other people think because theyre probably watching and listening. you need to help him.. but dont put him in an awkward position. be discrete. heres what to do: ease him into being more outgoing in person. if he doesnt feel comfortable around you at school go out in public by yourselves. try the movies first (its dark so its not a big step) then ease him into the mall, then maybe have a bunch of people over. etc. he'll gradually become more comfortable showing other people (including you) his outgoing side. and also make sure you encourage him to be outgoing. just smile and laugh and have fun.
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I have no clue why you would think that he's a jerk.
He's just a regular guy that can't speak when he sees a pretty girl. It happens. Girls aren't the only one's to act scared and nervous. You should just try to loosen him up. Act stupid so that he sees its ok. Make him feel like you won't judge him and it's ok to mess up. And most guys seem to like when the girl makes the first move. So try to kiss him out of the blue when he least expects it. I'm sure he will be stunned and will feel better about him self.
Hope I helped
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hes not a jerk just maybe a little embarassed by what his friends would say or how you would react to what he says maybe he will warm up to you after awhile, see what happens and talk to him about it see what the actual reason is. I hope i could help if not keep talking to me about and we'll work it out ok.
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I would say that he is just a really insecure kid. All you can really do about that is convince him into talking to you the same ways thyat he does on the phone and let him know that you arent that popular or experienced so he doesnt need to be nervous. Just tell him that he should act like himself not someone that hes not.
hope i have helped-kate♥♥
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