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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle

"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."

I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.

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So i really liek this kid thats 2 years older than me..and i think he might have an interest in me..but we used to be able to talk for hours and now..when he signs on i get a weird feeling in my stomach..and i can never get him off my mind. and now i dont know how to IM him. I really like him..and his one close friend said he did. But, i dont know if i should get more info out of his friend or not. Please help!

OMG i do that too. ill be like "no i wont IM him.. hes probaly talking to a thousand people" then later on, ill be mad at myself i didnt IM him, & then when i do, we have so much fun talking to eachother. if his friend says he likes you, he probaly does. why would his friend make that up? yano? well just IM him say hey, & just tell him about your day & stuff..ask his friend more about it.

hope that helped ! kbye

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i'm normal, i have some love handles and a little belly, but i'm not fat. does that mean im not "hott" ?

Personally, i think super skinny girls look like if they bend over they'll break. Most guys don't even like skinny girls, well super skinny. It makes them look like they have they body of a 4 year old. Its gay. Normal is perfect. & it probaly means you're a little more shaply & everything, which guys deff. like!

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This has been confusing me for awhile. People tell me I'm pretty all the time. And when I go to camp or leave my town, the guys all want me. But when I'm home, it seems like they want nothing to do with me. Guys also have said I'm hot and whatever, but why do they not make a move? I'm so confused and so sick of people saying, your pretty and me not getting any guys. Why do you think this is?

You could be the prettiest girl alive, but if your personality is nothing special...they a guy can't get too interested. Guys say they first look at your looks, but personality is more important. So yepp, hope that helped! bye =)

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I feel pretty weird asking this, probably because I think every girl asks at least once. I like a boy and suddenly I'm terrified to go near him. There are two things wrong with this. One, I'm the opposite of shy. I'm not just saying that, either. When it comes to anything else I'm outgoing and LOUD. Secondly, this has never happened before! I'm in 10th grade and this is so new to me, it's scary. I really want to talk to him, but I always lose track for about 5 seconds and get this powerful fluttering thing in my stomach. How do I make it stop, and what can I do?

You're the same as me. I'm loud & crazy & fun around anyone but the person I like alot. I hate it. I'm shy around the people I like, because I don't want to embaress myself. But, all you can really do is, be yourself. Just suck it up, go say heyyyyy & be yourself. & hope for the best.

k hope i helped! bye=)

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I have this friend he's a guy hes one of my best friends and everyone time he goes out with another girl i sorta get jelous i dont know why though...i just cant really figure out if i like him more then a friend

I think you might like him. Maybe not a whole lot though. I have the same problem, like I'll be talking to him online & he'll be like "All these girls call me" & i get like all mad. I kinda think, that I just want to be the only girl he talks too & everything. Try to focus on someone else. I can't really tell you for sure if you like him or not, because I don't know how you truly feel about him. If you think about him alot & think "oh, i can't wait to tell him this!" & stuff like that.. you probaly just consider him as a really good friend. If your fantasizing about the two of you gettting together, then you probaly like him.


I hope that helped a little! bye

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Ok .. i dont know if this is the rightr catagory but..

I used to have acne really bad on my chest (I still do but not even near as bad as i did before). And now, even though it's better, i Have acne scars on my breasts and it makes me so self conscious. I also have what looks like stretch marks (but they might be scars too.. i dont really know why i would have stretch marks because my boobs aren't that big).

But is there any way to get rid of these things? I dont even like letting my fiance see me... is there some kind of lotion or laser surgery or SOMETHING? Please help me.

I have proactiv,just so I won't get any acne, but I was reading the thing, & you can get this stuff, that makes it heal faster, & makes it go away. The scars or like darker spots.. last about 2 weeks or something, or it will go away in 2 weeks. ? I don't know, but this lotion stuff whatever it does.. makes it go away, bottomline.

In your mall, we have a proactiv stand, if you have one go to it and assk about it. =)

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me and my gf broke up like 3 weeks ago but we still hang out sometimes. we were watching a movie and when it was over we started makin out and so i stopped real quick and was like, "we're still friends, okay?" and she didnt say anything so i kept kissin her but she wasnt kissing me back and she started crying so i kinda just left. we've talked since then but why was she crying??? did i do the right thing??? what should i have done if i didnt??? what do i do now???

-__- you don't go making out with a girl, if you dont like her anymore. She was obviously really hurt. She probaly thought you still liked her. She probaly still likes you. & then in the middle of it, you dont go, "we're still friends,okay?" i mean really, lets just crush her right in the middle of it =P. Do you still like her? If you do.. get her back, i think its pretty obvious she still likes you. If you dont, then apologize for making out with you, & maybe giving her the wrong impression. hope i helped! kbye

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15/f

Okay so Idk what is wrong with me. Like Im convinced bad things are going to happen to me.
like when I'm 16 I cant get my license but i think to the future and picture myself getting into a car accident and like i actualy believe that this is going to happen to me.
And i read a story in seventeen magazine about a women getting murdered in her house and i think to myself oh that will prob. happen to me. like im convinced that something bad is going to happen. Like every bad situation I hear I make myself think its going to happen. Idk why but I dont think its healthy, and i freak myself out. Like I seriously think im going to prob. die in a car accident when i can drive.
please help!

Thats like a disorder. I forget the name. I do that too, only its when people get sick or something, I'll be like omg, i probaly have that! or whatever, I forget the name. So, I can't help you too much. I've been growing out of it though. Just tell yourself, that theres like a 1 in a million chance, that will happen to you. & tell your mom & stuff.

i hope that help just a little. kbye =)

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I saw people's answers to somebody's questions about teeth whitening with baking soda, I would like to try that. Do I just put the powder on my toothbrush, or put it on my toothpaste. How often can I do think without harming my teeth?

No no no. You brush your teeth first, with the baking soda. (just put some on the brush)
Then, to lose the taste of the baking soda, I then brush my teeth with regular toothpaste.
Then, use mouthwash to make your breath smell good =)
I do it every other day. But, I started it off, like every 3 days or something. It depends how your teeth are. Every 3 days works good. But,I'm always going somewhere, so that why I do it like every other day though. But 3 days is fine.

I've been doing it for like what a year now.. & my teeth are just fine. So I dont think it harms them.

hope I helped kbye=)

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I was wondering what some of ya'll think is the best method for teeth whitening. I have heard of baking soda but how would you use that like applying and preparing it, etc.? Or any other brands that have worked the best?
Thanks!

Baking soda rocks =)
i just like dip my toothbrush, into the thing of baking soda & start brushing my teeth, (try not to let it touch your tongue, its a gross bitter taste) then, i suggest brushing your teeth with regular tooth paste. to get the taste out, then mouth wash. so ur breath smells good.
thats what i do.

those crest white strips, i hear are good too. but you gotta be like 15? because your gums arnt fully developed.

baking soda is good though.
its easy. i do it like every other day.

yepp, mmk hope i helped_;* byeee

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ok last night i woke up at about 3:30 because i heard a creaky noise and i flung up and went OMGSH!! i went to say you scared me to who i thought was my moms girlfriend and my dog but the person just turned around and looked at me like i was insane i stared at them as the faded into my door without opening it am i insane.. do i have some special power? this happened when i was like three.. i was in the bathroom potty training [ bear with me here ] && the door was open and all of the sudden a clown came out of the wall [ im not afraid of them ] and i screamed he looked at me and walked out the door and my uncle came running and looked at him or so i thought.. but i dont think he saw him .. whats wrong with me? am i just seeing this stuff and its not there do i have some power i dont know about im only 13 so it could get stronger

You saw a clown when you were 3? Are you sure, that it was that age? & that really happened? You can't remember things when you're that little. I think you have an overactive imagination. & next time you see one, why dont you tell them, to like right something down on a piece of paper. & then the next moring.. look and see if anythings on the piece of paper. If there is, you're not insane, & you actually are seeing something. If nothings there, you're either insane, or you just have in over active imagination. Which is probaly it. I doubt you have some power. Lol, thats not likely. Maybe its possible, but I doubt it. So I'd tell them to write something down. I mean talk to them. & ask them why their bothering you.

Hope it gets better! kbye =)

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if i exsersize and dont eat for 12 hours will i lose weight and should i drink water

NO. EAT. omggg, it slows down your metablism not eating! duhh.
-you should drink ATLEAST 6-8 glasses of water per day.
-make sure you eat breakfast
- & take a walk dont run, walking you lose more weight
-dancing burns up to 300 calories an hour.
-having full sleep, makes you less hungry
-don't over exercise, & dont skip meals.. bc youll end up just eating it all back trust me.

mk, i hope i helped bye

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im trying to loose weight
and i have ddr
and i was wondering if i do that would it help me loose weight?
and if it does how long should i do it for??

thats a great idea =)
dance for an hour, & you lose 300 calories.
i love ddr

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Im going school clothes shopping next week and i dont know what i should really look for. I dress kind of plane jane but this year i want to look more stylish and look more grown up. I want to look completely different but not like goth more like preppy. Also, I have no idea what to wear on the first day...we cant wear spagetti straps or skirts above the knee. Thanks in advance :]

I suggest Abercrombie & Fitch all the way.
There not plane jane, but they don't over do it. I love their clothings with a huge passion. Since everyone wears it, you'll defently look more stylish. & its also very grown up looking the shirts are sometimes lower cut, but it's just an all around older look. Its a very preppy store. Abercrombie is kinda expensive there. I only get stuff there, when my mom buys it for me.I would never spend my own money there. If you shop smart there, you can get good deals. All their clearance stuff.. is like cheap. Well, not cheap.. but affordable. If you can fit into Abercrombie kids...then its even cheaper. I can fit into it, but i like abercrombie & fitch better. But, its like a whole lot cheaper.. you can get shirts for like 10 dollars. there sizes only go to like XL which is like a 16. If you've ever been to LTD2, there sizes are the same. [well now ltd2 has plus sizes] but whateverr..hollister, is cheaper then abercrombie. but i also think there clothing looks cheaper too. Like the mmaterial & stuff.
It depends if you're mom will buy it for you or not. But, if you're mom wont buy you abercrombie.. thenn hollisters your next best thing. Of course you cant see anything in there.

ok im done, i hate hollister =) but whateverr.
for back to school.. i suggest jeans [ripped if you can] & a tshirt from abercrombie or hollister. I go to a catholic school, so i cant be major help there. ohh & to add on to your outfit, wear some accesories =)

hope i helped! kbye

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hey i think i wanna try the peanut butter thing before bed, but i have few questions about it first:
*How long before i sleep do i eat the peanut butter?
*does it matter if the peanut butter is creamy or crunchy?
* i want this question answered by someone who's really tried this: Does the peanut butter thing work??
Thanks...and i will rate your advice.

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just to let you know..
those people that say, it will turn to fat, thats not true. I clearly read in Teen People that said, it doesn't matter how late you eat.. it does not turn to fat. That is a myth. You actually burn up calories while you sleep.

I highly doubt the peanut butter thing works though. You won't gain weight.. but I don't think you're going to lose any either.

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ive been dating this amazing guy for about a month now and we met online. i know him through a friend but we met online. the only thing that sucks it that he lives 40 mins away so i wont get to see him much. hes an amazing guy and i never want to lose him. should i keep working at it?

No. Internet relationships never workout. & how do you know hes not cheating on you? I mean its not like you'd ever find out. To me, in my opinion internet dating is stupid. Half of dating someone is for you to be with them, & hang out. Not sit online or on the phone. Because it should be more then that. So, yeah. Thats my advice.. kbye.

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Ok so I've liked this guy for the past four years (he used to like me in middle school but I hated him back then because he bullied me). I spent all of high school staring at him and he's stare at me and I'd wonder if there was anything to it but he was Mr Popular and I was a geek (but becoming "cooler" over the years) so something like that wouldn't have worked out in the ninth grade.
This all changed when we graduated and I started going to parties. I showed up to a party where he was there. We were all really drunk and he talked to me and my friend for about half an hour after while waiting for a ride and offered to give us a ride but we declined because his friends were drunk.
The next day week our commencement and when I walked in, he looked at me and started walking towards me but I kind of freaked out and ran away.
Last month I went to another party and he was there too. I basically ignored him through the whole party because my friend who was moving away was there but he was still lingering around sometimes and just when we were leaving, he was going inside and he said hi to me and my friend.
So my question is, I've spent about five years hung up on this guy and I'm sick of it. Does it seem like he's interested at all or should I force myself to move on? It's just that everytime I get a chance with him, I panic and I like him -a lot- and I want some kind of closure to high school. I just don't want to still keep chasing him if he doesn't care.

You won't know if he cares.. inless you just ask. If you don't ask you'll never know. & if he doesn't, oh well you can move on to the next best thing. But, if he does.. then sweet. To me it sounds like hes interested, if he walks up to you & everything. My friend she always like ignore her boyfriend, because she doesn't think he likes her. Which is stupid, because then why would he be dating her. But, yeah anyways.. so shes been basically pushing him away because she ignores him. So, just go up & talk to him =)


hope I helped! bye =)

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I know green tea boosts your metabolism, but I also have heard if you eat a tablespoon of peanut butter before bed, it helps boost it too. Is that true or just total BS?

I'm pretty sure thats a myth. Considering no food, can really help you loose weight. or whatever. But, having a healthy diet, & not skippy meals, makes your metablism faster. =)

hope i helped! bye

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hey !
if i run for about an hour a day for maybe 5 or 6 days [[yes-i do stretch and take precautions and make shure i am fully hydrated]] how long do you think until i will lose 5 pounds?

thank you!

Actually, I read in a magazine..walking is better then running. & you loose more weight walking. I take a 2 mile walk every day. Which takes me about an hour. Eat before you go on a walk. It makes your metablism faster. I lose weight really weird though, it only took me like 3 days to loose 10 pounds. But, it will probaly take you like a week. Inless, you're like me. But, I don't know. I'm weird haha

hope it works out! bye

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alright, 15, female, i'm 5'3, and i weigh 180 lbs. I know that's like, extreamly over weight, but i dont look 180 at ALL, i ahvea bit of a tummy, that im' trying to loose, and my tummy is shrinkin, but my weight isnt? well, I have big boobs, like c, almost d. idk if thats normal or not, but I aslo feel like guys are always staring at my boobs and not ME...idk if i'm mental or what oO
1. is there any way to attract attentino to ME, not my boobs
2. how can I loose weight, i'm not having issues with my tummy, but my weight in general

pplleassee help me!! I think i'm crazy oO

First off. Even though you don't think you look 180 pounds. You probaly do. Some people, that have a very high self esteem [it seems like you do] don't see who they really are. When there standing in the mirror. If people don't ever be honest with you like parents, & don't tell you that you're fat. May be one of the reasons why you don't think you are. But, I'm going to tell you something..
You are.
Personally, I don't consider your chest that big, because I'm turning 14, tommorow. & i'm a 40C.
Drawing attention to yourself, that is one of the things, most guys usually look at. That & your face. or your ass. You're face is a good thing for them to look at first. If you're pretty. But, make up can make you attractive easily.
You can loose weight, by dieting. & eating healthy. I don't suggest pills. They can actually make you gain weight. Skipping meals also makes you gain weight. Dancing for an hour makes you lose 300 calories. If you don't get enough sleep, then that may be a reason why you eat alot. If you really wanna go on a diet, I suggest the atkins diet. Check into it.

so yepp, i hope i helped. k byee

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