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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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i want to wear eyeliner this year. not alot, but kind of noticeable. except when i put it on, i always manage to mess it up. does anyone have any tips??

use the water proof kind. and just put it on like lightly so it doesnt smear or anything.

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ok well ive liked this one guy for awhile. i did tell him i liked him and he said he likes me too. but i dont know if i should go out with him, bcuz everyone says hes a player. should i or shouldnt i? thx

who cares what other people say, take a chance.

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Is masturbating bad?

no... its your body. touch it if you want to.

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how many times should u poop a week? (should u go every day?)

im jw cuz i think im unhealthy

you should try to go atleast once a day

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ok im a 14 year old boy and liked by alot of peeps. (girls 2) but everytime i try 2 get close to a girl i mess up and say stupid things and they think im a jerk wat should i do??????

you probably say stupid things because you are nervous and you are trying to hard. just relax and be yourself.

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Hi im a 16 yr old girl and im really shy n innocent as in not evn ever kissed a guy before so i have a hard time having a b/f cuz i dump them right away n lose interest very fast...But then i started talking to this kid down the street named Zack...and hes really cute and adorable n i can make him laugh n all...n he would always come over to me or turn around n ignore his girlfriend to talk to me...Even one time his girlfriend was leaving for a week and one her last day before leaving he came ovr n talked to me and didnt even say bye to his girlfriend...I really like him now and before school let out my friend asked him if he liked me n hes said " i do have some feelings for her but idk" and i dont know wut that means...does he like me or not? he also said " shes the kinda girl that it would be hard to be more than friends with " n my friend told him it was worth a shot n he said " yeah maybe it is" and when ever i call him we talk for like an hour n a half...n i wanna know if im getting my hopes up or if he really likes me cuz im mortified of rejection...and it would be so easy if we went out..he lives within walking distance...sometimes me n my friends go to his window in the middle of the night n wake him up n talk to him...And when i think about it..i wouldnt be be so shy around him...i wanna kiss him!!! but i dont want to get hurt n confront him about it cuz then id feel dumb...so should i take a chance on this kid??

well the guy is single and it seems like he likes you... why dont you tell him how you feel... you're not gonan get anywhere by having your friends talk to him. plus that tends to turn a guy off when a girl cant do something for her self...so just go for it.

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i know this sounds stupid, but i need some basics...
1. how does anal sex work
2. how does a hand job work
3. how do you give a guy a lap dance
4. what's a g-spot?

i think i know most of this stuff, but i jsut wnat to make sure that i'm sure, u know? thanks.

1. fucking in the ass, guy sticks his thingy in your butt, probably painful
2. it when you use your hand to stimulate a guys thingy, by moving it like up and down until he gets hard or until he nuts, whatever floats your boat.
3.you just dance on his lap... i dont know that one is hard to explain
4.its a spot that when touched or stimulated, gets you all hot and horny

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Ok.. I feel really guilty and awful about this but my mind was on a blank and I really really like this kid but he has a girlfriend.. we kissed once before I even knew he had a girlfriend.. but then I found out and i got wicked upset, and I guess he really likes me too. Then one night when we both slept over my friends house.. something happened and now I feel so bad, because all I was thinking was he has a gf wtf am I doing? In his eyes I saw he seemed alittle.. nervous, and teary at the same time.. we made out. His gf and him got into a little fight and weren't speaking when this happened, but still.. i duno.. I told him I was going to wait for him until he broke up with her, if they ever did.. but i got a bf and now I'm stuck on him.. but it's over.. and I tried hanging out with other guys but I was with this guy I like and we just did.. well.. i duno wut to do..

Signed- Confused

well if you have a boy friend you should should definitly leave this other guy alone. and just the fact that he has a girl friend is a reason why you should leave him alone. it okay for people to make mistakes. but you have to stop making the same mistake over and over because its gonna become a habit and someone will get hurt. if i were you i would just stay with my boyfriend. i mean think about it, if that other guy kissed another girl while he already had a girl friend, what makes you think he wont do the same to you when you are his girl friend. theres really no trust there. i dont think you should wait for him. stay with the guy you have.

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Well you see me and my boyfriend have been going out for a little over a month now and we weren't aloud to kiss. I finally found out I was aloud to kiss and I told him. He keeps talking about making-out next time I see him but I don't want to rush into things. I have a feeling its because his brother keeps telling him to kiss me and things like that and he wants to be like his brother and make-out with his girlfriend all the time. I don't know what to do, please write, I'll rate!

-Nerveous

if you're not ready to make out then just let your boy friend know that. if he cares he will understand and not try to rush you.

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so basically i lost about 45 pounds since april and ive worked really hard and stuff so i am proud of myself because i am FINALLY comfortable with myself and my body..... but ive always had a ton of guy friends and now that im in the 125 lbs catagory (im 5'8 btw) a lot of my girl friends have been making me borrow their clothes cuz nothing i have fits anymore and im waiting to go back to school shopping, so my friends are letting me borrow their clothes... Well about a week ago my friends decide to make me actually dress up.. so they have me wear all their little abercrombie stuff and i kinda knew i looked like a slut but i was sorta happy because atleast i looked like a pretty slut... We ended up meeting with all our guy friends and they were shocked because i hadn't seen them since late may. They were just like oh my god you look hott... and really i am not used to that kind of attention... like im always the person to crack the jokes or do the crazy stunts but not the one all the guys are like heyyyy... Everyones been telling me I should keep this look up and i do feel good in the clothes just the response isn't exactly what i want...

well if you are uncomfortable with all the attention you are getting, the just let your friends know that its great that they think you look great but you just want then to treat you like you're the same person, because you are the same person inside. and you should feel good about the fact that you are happy with yourself. thats a good thing.

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hi. my name is nicole n im 14. ok so heres the thing. i am like in lve with this kid named robert. like in love in love n ok i dont think i will ever have a chance with this kid cuz likehe is in love with this girl even tho he seys he isnt. so like i think i kinda gave up on him n started lik in this kid chris. which is horrible cuz like my best fuckin friend likes him. i have no idea wat to do cuz like i dont have a chance with either of them n i dont wna get my heart broken again.... (cough lke alan n ian)
HELP lol

well 1st of all you need to get some confidence. why is it that all i see you saying is that you dont have a chance with this guy, and you dont have a chance with the other. how do you expect to keep a guy when you dont eevn think you can. i tell you one thing no guys wants agirl who lacks self confidence. its a turn off. a guy likes a girl who is sure of herself and knows what she wants. as for these guys. now if you really think liking this chris guy will upset your best friend then leave him alone. why dont you go for the guy you say your so in love in love with. let him know how you feel.

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ok ive been getting all these achs in my neck and legs all the time, and i dont know how, i do play sports but they arent from that. can anyone tell me whats wrong? thanks
*marielle*

it might be the way you are sleeping. try sleeping a different posistion. and using more pillows.

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Okay..I just broke up w/ my ex like 2 days ago and we were together for about 4 months.I went to a party last night and i met this guy and hes a 16 (im 13) and we like kidna hooked up and now i feel really bad since i just broke up w/ my ex..But I like the guy i met and me and him like eachother and everything but like my ex still likes me a lot and I dono if i should just worry about my feelings or be nice and worry about me ex's!Cuz i like this new guy a lot and he wants to go out and stuff.i dono..PLEASE HELP!

unless you still have feelings about your ex then why would it matter to you how he feels. he has to move on and so do you. if this new guy likes you and you like him then you should give him a try.

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How old do u have to be to have sex?

old enough to know what you are doing and will be able to get yourself out of a jam if something were to happen

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hey .. i have a makeup question. i have red hair and really light eyebrows an eyelashes (pretty much blonde) but i wanna wear mascara this year. im afraid that if i wear dark mascara - it would look bad against my eyebrows since they are so light and then my red hair. so have any suggestions about what I can do so it doesnt look too drastic?

use the lightest brown one you can find or use a clear one

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im 13 and i really like this kid and he is 15 i told him how i feel and he said he likes me to but we live a hour away we could neva go out [ so he said ], but sometimes he seems like he really likes me then other times it seems like he is to busy that he has no time for me but then i know he has alot of girls as friends and i don't know if he likes them and i know is jealously but it tru and i don't know wat to do u think i should just try to get him off my mined[ it would be so hard if i did but i could try ].. or wat ? .. PLEASE HELP !

yeah you should probably get over him. if hes not so sure about his feelings the chances are slim of it working out.

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okay... i've been pondering this for a very long time now... say that you've been going out with a guy for a while and he's a year older than you... say when you met you were 16 and he was 17... when he turns 18 and you're 17 and you have sex... why would it be illegal? i mean it's not like he's 32 and you're 17... i really don't see anything wrong with that... also if you've had sex with the guy before like while you were 16 and he was 17 it would seem really stupid to not have sex for a year until the other person becomes legal... i'm sorry if this is confusing but i've always wondered

well in most states there is a 4 year difference after you are 16. So like a 16 year old could be with someone up to age 20, 17 yr old w/ a 21 yr old. you get the pattern. its only illegal if one person is under 16 and the other 18 or over.

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I want white skin not like totally white but just white skin...I maen my skins dark and thats because of the sun and all but I hear you can use stuff to make it whiter and I was wondering if any of you guys knew wat I could use to make it whiter I mean I wash my face and all but nething else and I dont wanna use makeup because I dunno I guess I just think that it doesnt help that much so if anyone knows nething I can use or do please tel me thanks!

why would you wanto to be whiter? i just dont get that? maybe you have some personal issues. haven't you ever heard of that movie powder. dude got teased man. i mean if your that pressed about being white throw some bleech on your face.

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Boyfriend/ Parents problems.. :/
Posted Sunday August 01 2004, 2:02 am
Hey, i've been going out with my boyfriend for about 8 months now and we both are 17. I don't really know his parents that well and i always just see them past and go. Like when we go to church and stuff. That's about the only time i ever see his parents and he's all the time hangin out with my family and going out to dinner and all. I've never once hung out with him and his family together sense we've been going out. The deal is.. when we started going out his parents said that he was changing like acting diff, his attitude *in a bad way* :/ and he didn't want to do anything around the house anymore. Well, his parents are really.. strict okay. So they called my parents up not even knowing me or my parents! And said there son was changing and all and they didn't want him to have a gf until he was 18! :-/ Well, this was like at the beginning of the year well everying has been fine sense then but just this past month they have been saying it again and they are telling him to break up with me.. :/? Is it me or what!? They don't even know me. We Love each other so much and we both are old enough to date and all.. but his parents are so freakin weird! I don't know what to do anymore. I've delt with so much sense i've been with him. I feel like an old married couple fighting with his parents about stupid stuff! :/ Maybe i should just be friends with him and see how things go on later.. i don't know. Can some one help me please! :(

why should you have to break up with him because his parents are stupid. they need to lighten the fuck up. maybe you need to talk to your bf about meeting them already so they can see how you really are. and if they are complaining that he doesnt do stuff, tell him to do what he has to do, and then come see, its not like a couple of moments away from you world. you both love eachother.

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ever since june two of my friends told me they didnt want to hang out with me anymore and wouldnt tell me why....now they tell everyone else not to talk to me for no reason and make up all these lies and tell people them....they tell me i wont let it go yet they're the ones who tell me to committ suicide and spread lies...they wont let it go...what should i do?

well dont go commitiing suicide. if i was you i would beat my so called friends asses and tell them to stop talking shit about me.

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