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boyfriend problems..
Boyfriend/ Parents problems.. :/
Posted Sunday August 01 2004, 2:02 am
Hey, i've been going out with my boyfriend for about 8 months now and we both are 17. I don't really know his parents that well and i always just see them past and go. Like when we go to church and stuff. That's about the only time i ever see his parents and he's all the time hangin out with my family and going out to dinner and all. I've never once hung out with him and his family together sense we've been going out. The deal is.. when we started going out his parents said that he was changing like acting diff, his attitude *in a bad way* :/ and he didn't want to do anything around the house anymore. Well, his parents are really.. strict okay. So they called my parents up not even knowing me or my parents! And said there son was changing and all and they didn't want him to have a gf until he was 18! :-/ Well, this was like at the beginning of the year well everying has been fine sense then but just this past month they have been saying it again and they are telling him to break up with me.. :/? Is it me or what!? They don't even know me. We Love each other so much and we both are old enough to date and all.. but his parents are so freakin weird! I don't know what to do anymore. I've delt with so much sense i've been with him. I feel like an old married couple fighting with his parents about stupid stuff! :/ Maybe i should just be friends with him and see how things go on later.. i don't know. Can some one help me please! :(
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Oh ick. I hate it when they do that. All I can say is try to be really nice around them. You may not be able to anything about them at all. If possible, I would try to invite them for dinner, and ask them why they feel that way. It may be because they don't know you very well.
Try to get past the parent thing, but you gotta remember if it gets any more serious, you inherit these people as your in-laws.
I remember trying to address the complaint by helping my boyfriend in class (they claimed I was the reason his grades were so bad). I spent way too much time telling him how his parents were wrong. I think I was wrong in trying to put him in the middle. He is already probably feeling bad about it. Talk about something else, and let him make up his mind. Maybe if it falls through you could still be friends.
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well hun i went through the same stuff i dated a guy for 7 months and after like the 5th month they started freakin and was like " we don't think you should be around her shes not your type" they r a big church fam... his grandfather is a pastor at a church.... and i go to church but not all the time...so they wated him to date a lil church goin gurl..... they thought he was gods gift to earth and he was perfect ya know like he never done anything wrong... but he did.... all i can tell ya is talk to him about it tell him to talk to his parents...and maby that ca help... if not then you and him jus stick together if ya'll really love each other then ya can get through it.... it might take some time but ya'll can make it
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why should you have to break up with him because his parents are stupid. they need to lighten the fuck up. maybe you need to talk to your bf about meeting them already so they can see how you really are. and if they are complaining that he doesnt do stuff, tell him to do what he has to do, and then come see, its not like a couple of moments away from you world. you both love eachother.
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hey..well im 14..and i may not been through alot..and not know much..but i was wit this guy for a year...and still that we dont go out..his parents like me..im the only one they like out of ALL his girl friends...and we get along..the thing that was weird to me..was that i was really close wit his family..but he wasnt wit mine...but anyways!...maybe his parents see him change different since u guys gotten 2 gether...who knoes?!...honestly..i cant tell u what is going on in their heads..but have u tried talking 2 ur BF about it?..i hope things get better..and juss stay wit him!
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Its Ok, They cant predict love and set there and control your feelings. But like you said you never like actually set down with them and had a conversations and stuff. So mayb you should like hang out with his parents, like dinner and have yalls parents meet and greet. Hope everythin works out!
best of luck!
-stephanie
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Well this is difficult situation, you are between a rock and a hard place. Clearly, they can't force him to break up with you. And if you love each other as much as you say you do then you'll stay together through thick and thin. If he breaks up with you, because his parents told him to then how strong do you think your bond was? I don't mean to be so harsh, but a lot of people have fantasies about their high school sweet hearts, you're still young, but if and only if you can get through this together, then you have a great gift. Good luck and don't let the parents get to you. Don't break up with him unless you know he's starting to crack under the iron will of his parents. Good luck!
The Knight Owl
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Your choice to break up or stay with him is yours. Sweetie, if his parents don't know you...then they are probably just being very judgemental. They might think that their child deserves only the best girlfriend in the world. And right now you are the best girlfriend in the world to this guy, and you shouldn't worry about his parents...just him. His parent's can't MAKE you break up, they can try...but if you like this guy why lose a good relationship because of his parents? It's not his fault that his parents act the way they do. A good idea might be to go over and meet them. As bad as it sounds it could turn out good and solve this problem. You could show them that you really are a sweet girl and that you are not changing the behavior of their son. Prove them wrong!! Because why should they judge you when they don't know you? Ask them nicely if you could maybe take them to dinner or have dinner over their house because you would like to get to know them better. If his parents are strict them may be a little skeptical but you can try and fix this by showing them who you really are. Good luck! Love Always, Mandee
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That sucks!! I don't think it's you that they don't like. Maybe it's just that he is more occupied with you then with his family, and things around the house...but that's normal being in a relationship. I think his parents probably are jealous. If I were you..I would tell your boyfriend how you feel, and maybe go to his house and have dinner with them. Show them who you REALLY are. =)
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