My favourite quote is 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you'.
Life really is a roller-coaster with it's ups and downs and varying speeds. Yet no matter how hard you try to stay on an even keel, something always comes along to kick you in the teeth and remind you just how fragile life is. We are all trying to live the best we know how and to get along together. So take time to appreciate those around you and tell them how much you love them occasionally. A smile and a kind word speaks volumes.
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Whenever I drink soda, (I only drink diet), when I swallow it after the first few sips, it burns my stomach really bad. What's wrong?? (link)
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The best thing to do would be to go and see your doctor and discuss the problem with them. I can only suggest that there is too much acid in the drink for your stomach. If you put a dirty coin into a little soda for a few minutes then take it out the coin will be cleaner. This is what the soda is probably doing to your stomach lining. I wish you well.
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I'm 17 and my ex is 22. We went out when i was 15 and he was 20. My friends all told me this was gross and weird, but i didn't think so
What are your opinions?
Also, is it illegal to go out with someone at that age?.....(in Canada) (link)
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There are only 5 years difference, so no I don't personally think it is gross. Sex at 15 is illegal, but I don't know whether it is illegal in Canada to go out with someone at that age. People can mature at different ages - girls tend to mature earlier than boys - so emotionally you may have been about the same 'age'. I think that if there had been a greater age difference of maybe 10 years, that would be a little more gross. I hope that this has helped a little.
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okay so my bf..is amazing! but all my friends.(boys and girls) are going 2 the movies this friday..my friends have told me that he was gona put his arm around me and give me a hug(possibly kiss) after..so i was wondering on some good adviice..thanks soo mucH!
Xxxxxx Ooooooo (link)
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Relax and enjoy watching the movie in his arms and if he goes to kiss you - enjoy that too. Sounds like this may be your first boyfriend so just take things slowly. You will natural melt into his arms when the time comes. All the best.
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Hey, may 29, this kid Mark asked me out. I love him so much, and a week later he dumped me. I loved this kid alot.
July 15, this kid Felix asked me out. I said yes, he was cute. I forgot all about Mark. I seemed to love him. I just spoke to Mark, and he seemed to like me again. Gosh, now i like BOTH of them.
The problem is, Felix really likes me, and i feel so bad if i would dump him for Mark. Mark on the other hand dumps every girl after a week or two.
Felix said, he would commit succide if i broke up with him. I know he ment it. Last night he said he had a pocket knife to his throat, because he had no one to live for. But then he relized he loved me. So, he put it down.
HELP! I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO I CRY ALL THE TIME (link)
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You are being blackmailed into staying with this Felix and that is not good. Threatening to commit suicide because he doesn't want to be without someone is pathetic. If you really want to stay with Felix then that is fine - but he will probably threaten you every time you want to leave him and how many times will you go back?
Mark sounds immature and lacking in self-confidence. Do you want to be with him? If he continually dumps girls after two weeks he obviously doesn't want to be in a long term relationship - would that suit you? If it would then why not have a casual friendship in which you both see other people.
What I suggest is that you take time out from both these boys and work out what suits you. Don't give in to threats because your life will just be too complicated.
If Felix continues to threaten to kill himself you have to walk away - hard I know because I've been there. He is crying out for your attention at the moment but next month he will most likely be threatening someone else.
It is not easy to find an answer for you because you are faced with two muddled up guys. Think of yourself first. I wish you all the best.
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is there any easy way to peel packing tape off of a poster, without wrecking the poster? (link)
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Try ironing over the back of the poster - but only on a low heat. If you are careful you can then peel the packing tape off. Good luck.
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last minute i decided to have a birthday party. everyone i love is getting together to go to this cool club sort of place. My friend, lets call her Orchid, and her boyfriend Tom (now ex) were invited. They broke up bitterly. I think Orchid blamed me, even though i had nothing to do with it. Orchid's friend Bee was also invited. The invite and RSVP was after the breakup. Tom said of course he'll come. Orchid said ok, and so did Bee over the phone. Tom and Orchids parents varified they could come. Bee convieniently said she was out right now and that her mother was working. Then that her mother was sleeping, all of which she said online. Bee kept saying that she was worried that Orchid and Tom would fight. I said that both had a choice to say no. She kept going on about how she doesnt want them to fight and stuff. I said it doesnt have to do with her. Bee was typing unusually slow, so I think she was either with Orchid and were thinking together of what to write or that she was copy/pasteing the whole conforsation.
Now the night before, when I went over orchids house for her to sign something about the party, she didnt let me in. she opened the door a half inch and didnt even smile at me. Bee was there as well, but seemed nicer. I called Orchid to ask her why she was acting "all weird" andgoing on, that if shes mad she doesnt have to come. She said it was just bad chinese food.
Then today rolled around. Finally my mom got fed up (because we need to know how many r definitely going for transportation reasons) and called Bee's mom. She was home, and awake unlike Bee said. Bee's mom said it was fine, that her daughter can go and that her daughter was out with a "friend"
Orchid hasnt called me. When I called her she said, "we can hang out tomorrow. tomorrows tomorrow so i'll call u then" Tomorrows here and she didnt call me. she said that shes worried that I will feel uncomfortable that herself and Tom wont be talking. I said i dont care, to just keep their mouths shut and enjoy the music. She was like "sure Tori (my now fake name) nothing will happen". she said 'sure' like she was writing me off or something. I cant explain it, but it just didnt sound right.
Orchid also said "for my party when Bee was mad at Lea (another one of my friends) I didn't invite lea cause I didnt want to start trouble." I said that their wont be any trouble to start.
My thoughts: i think Bee and Orchid are going to pull out the last second and r just looking at my party as a game. OR that they r using me to see the band and for the free entry ticket (my mom is paying for everyone to enter).
btw, another one of my friends... lets call him Rob, said no to the invite. I found out later that he, Orchid and Bee were pranking one of my friends all night. Now Rob decided that he wanted to go. I lied and said I couldnt get him a ticket because throughout this drama he has been mean to me. Orchid at one point screamed at me (over the boyfriend thing that was about 4 days ago) so loud i couldnt make out what she was saying. Bee called me bad names. I had nothing to do with Orchids and Toms breakup (as Tom knows) Orchid agreed this was a 'misunderstanding' but didnt sound sincere. I think Orchid just wants to blame someone so she decided to blame me.
Question: if orchid and bee do show up, i think they'll cause trouble and team off. I want to just uninvite them at this point, but I dont want to be mean. I dont know what to do. And believe me, I may have writen alot but I just skimmed the topping of the drama thats been going on for the past week.
i'm turning 15 and i'm a girl. i wrote alot so u can get a clear understanding of whats going on.
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If it is going to make you feel uncomfortable about the whole thing then I suggest that you tell all those people involved that they will not be able to come. Stick to those friends that you know will be able to help you enjoy your birthday. Ask your parents to come up with a second list with you and if you cannot say anything then ask your Mum to call for you. Whether or not they feel hurt or sidelined is not for you to care about - just as they haven't cared that you are trying to organise a nice evening out together to celebrate your birthday. Your parents are there to support you so ask for their help. Have a lovely 15th birthday. All the best.
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Sorry if this is in the wrong category... it seemed to be the best fit.
Anyway, for the past few days my left eye has been really itchy. I don't wear contacts or anything like that. It feels like there is an eye lash that fell into my eye... it's that exact same feeling, but there is nothing in it. The feeling is not there 24/7 either... it probably feels that way every 4 hours or so, and I can't stop rubbing it when it happens which makes it itch and bother me even more!
What's wrong, and how can I fix it? Any ideas? Thanks so much in advance! :) (link)
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If it is also red and with a bit of pus around it,it may be conjunctivitis. Otherwise just bath it in cool boiled water or Optrex. If that doesn't work then you may need to pop to the chemist and ask them to recommend a cream or something similar. Hope that helps.
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Well i like this girl and I know she doesn't like me because I asked her out and she said no. I really think that no one likes me. Do you have any advise of things i could change about myself and .... kind of help her try to like me lol? (link)
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I'm sorry to say but you can't make her like you. It sounds as though you don't have much confidence in yourself and perhaps this girl is picking up on it. If you have self-assurance then the persona you give out will attract friends. Don't muddle self-assurance with smugness though because girls don't like smug boys. Stand up tall and tell yourself you are a worthy person. Look people in the eye when you talk and ask interesting questions. Adopt a confident air about you that says you are approachable and friendly. It will take some effort if you are not used to standing proud but it will be worth. Good luck.
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if you give a bi guy head can you get dieses i think he cumed in my mouth and i think he has anal with guys.
so yeah
haha thanks (link)
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The definitive answer to this is yes. I suggest that you go to a GMU clinic and have yourself checked out. All the best.
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On December 16th, my cousin was raped by her neighbor/exboyfriend. She has been in deep depression ever since, she just told me two days ago that she was raped and thats why she's had depression. She promised me she would tell her parents, as long as I kept my mouth shut. Now she refuses to tell, and she told me she has though several times as to ending her life over it. I got scared and told my older brother, he hasn't told my parents yet, but I don't know what to do. I`m scared for her [ she lives across the country so theres nothing I can do about that] I swore to her I wouldn't tell, but I did. I just don't know what to do. (link)
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Your poor cousin sounds so mixed up and it's hardly surprising she really doesn't know whether she is coming or going. She needs urgent support from a professional. If she won't tell her parents you need to tell your parents so that they can. Yes she will be angry and will curse you for it but could you live with yourself if she goes through with the threat of suicide? Her parents need to know what is going on, otherwise they will just be left wondering why she has killed herself. You cannot keep this burden to yourself and I know that you told your brother, has he taken it further?
This is a very tough thing to do and you need to be brave. The only way to help her now is to be pro-active. I wish you all the very best and I hope your cousin gets the support she needs to get through this.
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Do you guys think it's weird that my parents grounded my brother who's 21(I actually think it's funny)?
He's staying with us for a few weeks and he got a $300 citation for punching a guy on the beach yesterday. My dad didn't actually say the words "you are grounded" but he won't let him do anything. I mean he is an adult and everything haha.
My dad and brother have been arguing all morning because of it and I don't think my dad is right because my brother would have paid for it on his own. I want to say something but I just wanted a few opinions before I do so. (link)
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Who did you want to say something to? If it's your Dad - "hey Dad he's a big boy now who's acted like a jerk!". Or your brother - "you stupid idiot".
Seriously though, there's not a lot that can be said. Your brother got a fine, he has to pay up and your dad is mad at him. Your brother can obviously stand up for himself as proven on the beach and perhaps your dad just wants him to think about the consequences of his actions. It is not a really good role model for you is it? As long as the person he punched was not seriously hurt then I think it should all be put down to experience. I would be pretty mad at my 21-year-old son if he got a fine for punching someone and although I wouldn't (couldn't!) ground him I would be very angry.
In my personal opinion it would be best to say nothing at all.
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Dear Elcee, I obviously have a problem because I'm asking for advise. I have three friends who are my best friends. But the problem is that one of my friend is hanging out with another group of people, (no offence to the other group of friends, but they can be mean and the make fun of all the "dorks, geeks, emos, skaters, freaks," you knoe that kind of stuff)and now we haven't hung out this whole summer with her b/c she is always with the other group of her "friends". we don't know what to do though. we never talked about her behind her back about this and she thinks that we are mad at her! but we never talked about her of anything. She acts different around us and calls us names b/c she thinks we acts stupid (calls us weirdos, stupid, retarded, etc...) to make the group she hangs out with now laugh and when we try to hang out with her, we feel like we don't fit in and we are the outcasts.. do you have any advise on what i should do, say, anything? i rate 5's even if its good, bad, short, long, anykind of answer. (link)
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It seems to me that she no longer wants to be friends with any of you. Everyone is different and they are entitled to be friends with anyone they like. Carry on being friendly with her and continue to not talk about her behind her back. I think it would be a good idea to just give her some space and maybe she will realise that she would be better of with you than with her other friends. Perhaps she has decided that she has other interests than you and wants to explore that side of herself. There is not a lot you can do about it but if you continue to be nice she may come back. Good luck.
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i got a t-shirt from my middle school for the end of the year and i want to know how to make it more fun. all my friends like cut it up and do all these cool things to their t-shirts. does anyone know any thing i could do to mine thats easy? (link)
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You could everyone to sign it then embroider over the top in different colours. You could tie-dye it or add different patterns. You could decorate it will different buttons or motifs. You could cut the bottom into little strips and get everyone to sign a strip. (Obviously don't cut them off just have them dangling). Hope this helps some.
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okay me and my boyfriend has been dating for 3 months now. but we spend everyday together baicually we see each other at least 2 days or more.. so it feel like from both of our point of veiws we have been going out for at least 6
but we havent and we have kinda been you know moving fast in the sexual area i have liked him for 3 years and..and we kissed b.c we went out not make out kiss. but pecks and he went on some dates b4 we went out and now that we go out.. we have been going fast..... we are to the point that we are thinking bout ORAL!??!!
so is that bad can and relationship have too much lust me and him has talked about it he gets kinda annoyed everytime i bring it up because he says at least 3 times a day i love you more than anything/with all my heart... and.. i dont know
its the the oral that bugs me its the time period we have been dating. i mean its been 3 months it feel like forever....
is that good or bad?
and too much lust ruin out relationship
he says i can stop it if i want to.....
ILL RATE HIGH!
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You are still at the 'honeymoon' period of your relationship and it is normal to be all over each other. In time your sex life will settle down to be less frantic.
Oral sex can be wonderful to give and to receive but personal hygiene is absolute. You both need to feel as comfortable as possible with each other so that you can let go and enjoy giving and receiving oral sex.
You will probably need to experiment a bit to begin with and that is also part of the fun. Don't get too hung up on what you both look like down there either. We are all different and we all like different things. Have fun.
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ok i havent seen my boyfriend for a while but to night his best friend started making moves on me and told me not to tell anyone about what he is doing and i gess i shouldent call it sex because i didnt want it but we did it and i dont like him he does drugs and just got out of jail for rape but i feel sick my stumic hurts and i feel like im gonna throw up he did put a condom on. What should i do should i tell my boyfriend or what.
And when me and my boyfriend are near his friend i start to cry and i hold on to my boyfriend tight. (link)
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Did you consent to having sex? If you didn't then it will be classed as rape. Regardless of the fact that he used a condom, you are feeling abused right now. Would you be able to tell someone in authority? Are your parents approachable, if not a teacher or someone else in your family? It might also be a good idea to have yourself checked out at a clinic. He should not have had sex with you and you have the right to say no. What if he raped someone else?
As for your boyfriend, that is a call only you can make. You have to judge for yourself how well he would take the news. It is always a bad idea to keep secrets of this magnitude to yourself and if you don't want to tell your boyfriend will his so called 'best friend' tell him? You need to stay away from this boy because he is bad news and your boyfriend needs to know a reason why you dislike him so much. You need to be strong and face this crisis - the chances of you being pregnant are low but it is always a possibility. The condom is not 100% safe. I hope for your sake that you are not and I wish you all the best - it will be hard but you need to do something about it for your own peace of mind. Good luck.
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for like a month, i have been getting headaches and stomach pains, not aches. also it hurts on my ribs too. its on and off. like for an hour i have a little headache and for another hour it hurts on my ribs or anywhere on my stomach. my doctor says im making myself get this by worrying. so im going to a counselor so we can figure out whats causing this to happen. can worrying or thinking about it really bring on stomache pains and headaches? also can this just be my period, remember it has gone on for a little over a month. do you think my doctor is wrong and i have a disease i can die from or will last forever? whats up? (link)
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Your doctor sounds as if he knows what he is doing. Listen to him and try to relax because getting uptight can bring on all the symptoms you describe. If you wind yourself up about things it will end up in a vicious circle and it will exacerbate the symptoms. Speaking to a counsellor is a very good idea because they will explore with you the reasons why you are feeling like you are. The chances are of it being a fatal disease are practically nil. I hope it all works out for you.
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My ex girlfriend and I, of about 2 years, broke up back in Feb. It ended because I cheated and she didn't talk to me for like 3 months after it happened.
We've finally started talking towards the end of May. I know she doesn't want to get back together with me so I at least want to be friends.
So, now, when we hang out everything will be going fine until something reminds her of our break up and what I did to her. She then picks a fight with me and tries to get me to argue back with her.
How can I get her over this phase so we can actually hang out without her freaking out on me? Please don't tell me to give her time. I already gave her 3 months. 18/m
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She obviously still feels a bit raw over the break up and the fact that you cheated on her. She may still care a great deal about you and perhaps still feels that there is a connection there. It is very difficult to put a betrayal behind some people and she probably needs to let you know exactly what it did to her. Give her the chance to talk everything over with you without interrupting her or picking a fight with her. Suggest that if she feels unable to tell you face-to-face, get her to write down every question she has. You could then read it and answer her verbally. You might have to take quite a bit of bitching but if it helps to clear the air and get back to a good friendship it just might be worth. I hope that helps.
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Hallo!
O.K. so here's the deal. My brother takes me to school each morning in his car. Usually we would just leave at the last second, and get there in time. Now, we're leaving 30 minutes earlier to pick up his friend. I was o.k. with it, but now they're starting to smoke in the car and I get to school with my clothes smelling like smoke. Normally, I would just ask him to stop, but during last summer him and his ex-girlfriend had a baby when he was sixteen, and now I just feel bad for him a lot and I would feel guilty for asking him, because it's probably his way of dealing with the baby (Not that it's the right way.) What should I do?
P.S. not only do I need advice, I give advice,too. So if you need me..uh then yeah :) (link)
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You need to point out that your health is at risk and would they please wait until you have left the car before they smoke. If he is smoking around the baby, then the increase of health problems for the baby is very large too. If he is under pressure because of the baby he needs to find another outlet for his frustrations. Could you suggest that you go swimming or learn a martial art together? You obviously care a great deal for your brother and I hope that he cares enough about you to see this problem from your point of view. I wish you all the best.
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Okay so im friends with these 3 gerls that are friends with this kid.and this kid "raped" my friend and i dont know if i really believe her only cause this kid is wicked nice and like i dont think that he can hurt anyone cuz he is soo sweet. I hung out with him last friday and i like him as a friend and i think he increadibly niice. and i dont knoe if i should keep hanging out with him or if i shouldnt.. i dont want to loose my friend cuz she will find out sooner or later that i hung out with him and then she'll be even more mad and i dont want to tell her that i hung out with him..What should i do..
Should i tell her or should i keep it a secret and should i be firends with him or not/? (link)
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Does she often lie about things? I ask because you must have a reason not to believe her. If she was raped then she needs your support and she needs to report it to the police. Suggest that the two of you go to the police station and report it. See what her reaction is to that and then ask her again if she really was raped. It is a very serious allegation and it is not one that should be made as a joke. If you find out that she made it up I suggest that you tell her she is not worthy of your friendship or that of your friend. He will then need your support to work out what he wants to do about it. He does not need a slur like that against his name and she needs to retract her allegations.
If it is found to be true that he has raped, don't have anything more to do with this boy because he will probably do it again and you don't want to be one of his victims.
It is a tough call to make - I wish you the best of luck.
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First off im 15 and my boyfriend is 16.I havnt had my period since end of April. I took a pregnancy test early this morning. It showed up positive. I asked my father to make me a doctor apt. and i have one tomarrow morning. (he knows it was positive) My boyfriend and i no the kind of responsibility it is going to take. We also know we are going to have to work hard for money. My family and his family both knows. Im looking for more advice. Please Help and Thank You (link)
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First of all congratulations on your forthcoming happy event. It is going to be very hard for everyone concerned, but it is great that you can talk to your families. You will definitely need all the support that you can get, especially if you intend to continue with your education. There isn't a lot of advice that I can give you because you seem to have thought about the most important things - telling your families and going to the doctors. You will be told the obvious things like eating properly, resting, keeping in shape etc., when you go to your first antenatal appointment. It would also be wise to look at any financial support you may be entitled to. Most importantly of all is to talk to each other and really listen to their advice. However, this is your baby and you must make the final decisions along with your partner. I wish you and your families all the very best for the future.
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