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Okay, I'm 14 and I have a boyfriend that I've only been with for like around a month. But when I'm around him I don't really feel comfortable with him anymore and a few days ago he tried to get me to smoke with him by saying if you loved me you would... and i was really mad cuz im not big on drugs. I don't really want to be with him anymore, But he likes me alot. If you were me what would u do?

I would break up with him. You can do so much better. Even though he likes you a lot, he's hurting you by saying "If you love me, you'll do this" thats pressuring you to do something. If he loves you, he wouldn't do that. Just break it off to him easy. Just be like "I think we would be better off as friends, I just don't think this is working out" You don't even feel comfortable around him, try looking for a guy who wouldn't pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. I hope this helps!! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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I think i like this one guy who got into a lot of trouble at our school what should i do?

Well you can't help who you like. Try to get to know him, he may be a good person deep down. So get his number or his screen name or something and get to know him alittle bit better. And if you still like him then tell him you like him!! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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heyy! first of all i wanna say you are so pretty! aaannyway i really need to know how to make out with someone bc i am goin to hook up with a kid at my camp and i really dont know how please dont say idk or ul get it i really need help!!!! thanx (F 15)

Hey!! Aww thank you!! =D Oh gosh I was so scared to makeout for the first time because he was so experienced! And I wasn't, but when we did he thought I had madeout tons of times. It really comes natural. You probably will be like "yea right no it doesn't" because I didn't believe it, but it does. He'll lean in and you just close your eyes and you touch each others mouths and you just follow his lead. Like, if he goes slow, you go slow, if he goes fast, you go fast, if he sticks his tongue in your mouth, you stick his tounge in his and so on. Did I explain the well enough? lol. I hope I did!! Good luck and remember practice makes perfect!

P.S. You move your tounge around. Like if he keeps just moving it around, you move it around also, and if he just sticks in it and right out do the same thing. You just follow his lead! =P

xoxo Kourtney

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Hey, i have a problem, theres this guy that i really really like..and i always have, and at once tyme he said he liked me and he wanted to do stuff with me, and it was the happiest tyme of my life..but then all of a sudden everything stoped, like he stoped IM'ing me...and smiling at me...everytning, and i found out he liked his x-g/f again..i was crushed..i was never so sad in my life...and to make matters wrose, after this once again he said he liked me and i feel fer it again and i ended up getting hurt again. :-( and i think i know what ur gunna say, that hes not worth it if he does this to me and stuff..but he is worth it, id go threw it all again jsut for him, b/c thats how much i care about him...i dont wanna move on, and i..ugh, idk, *please help me*

Aww I'm sorry =( I know how that feels! But, I won't tell you to just give up because you seem like you really like him and you would do anything for him. And that is really sweet. You should tell him that. Try writting him a letter exactly how you feel for him. Just tell him something like "When me and you were talking and you liked me, I couldn't stop smiling, but now that I don't know if you like me or not, I can't smile anymore" Just something like that. Just tell him how much you like him and that you want to know if he likes you back. Ask him anything you want to know and tell him everything you want him to know. Good luck on it. Tell me how it goes. And if you need help on writting the letter, tell me! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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I've messed up a lot...and I'm only 15. I'm not going to go into detail about all the mistakes I've made, I just need a way to deal with them. It's like their haunting my mind. I don't know how to deal with it, and I'm always putting myself down about them too. I'm only 15 what do I do? I know its in the past and I can't do anything about it....

The past is the past. Don't let things bother you so much and don't put yourself down so much, thats not good for you. You learn from your mistakes and thats good! To get things off your mind, try going out and having fun. Hang out with your friends alot. And when you do mess up, try talking to a close friend about it, it always feels good to get it off your chest.

xoxo Kourtney

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okay my friend is like my bffffeaeaeaeaeea but like she is kinda slutty like she has soo many peircings and like she flirts with all my x bf! and im scared that the next boy i care about she will try to make a move on him. wut should i do? i mean she is my best friend for ever and i love her to death! but she tells me that she would never hook up with one of my xes or wit someone i like alot so please help me out her asap

Since you guys are best friends, you should trust her on her word. That she won't hook up with your ex boyfriend or someone you care about. But, she does flirt alot, so that may lead your ex boyfriend or someone you care about to like her. And that wouldn't be good. Maybe she doesn't realize she flirts with everyone. Try talking to her about it and saying "I don't know if you notice this or not, but you flirt with a lot of guys, which doesn't bother me, but I just don't want you to flirt with a guy that I care about a lot because then they might start to like you instead because you are flirting, do you think you can watch who you flirt with?" Say something like that and just how you feel about this situation. She should understand since you are being nice about it and you guys are friends. Hope this helps! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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there is this girl whos is really really really nice but some of my friends make fun of her b/c she can't afford new clothes i want to make her have really cool clothes but the problem is i don't have any money to get her new clothes how can i make her look stylish w/ out usin alot of money??

People shouldn't make fun of your friend just because she doesn't have a lot of clothes. You should try sticking up for her and compliment her on her clothes so she feels better. Try going to her house and putting different clothes together for her. Or you can always try making clothes also. Or if you want, you guys can share clothes. Or try having a garage sale, a car wash in your neighborhood, things like that. That'll make her feel so much better. And you seem like a great friend for trying to help her out! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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I did not know what category to put this under...
Ok it seems that I'm always at least half way depressed. I just stay stressed out. School, friends, family...and mainly this guy. But also, little things happen. I spill my drinks all the time...cut myself shaving all the time...trip and fall...stuff like that. What are some things I can do to take my mind off this guy? B/c he's what makes me so stressed out. So what can I do just not to worry so much and to be in a better mood? And not let little things get to me?

Depressing isn't fun, huh? Guys can be dumb huh!? ERR. But, try going out and having fun and try not to think about things so much, like the things that will get you mad. Try going to other peoples houses, partys, the mall, an amusement park, anything that is fun to you. Because once you're busy, that gets things off your mind. And when something is bothering you, try talking to someone that you trust. So then, that'll atleast be off your chest also! Hope this helps!

xoxo Kourtney

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15-f...I'm not happy at all, and I don't know how to change that. Me and my boyfriend broke up a while ago but I'm okay with it now its just that I don't really have anyone now. I have a few friends, I'm just a shy person. It just seems like once I think I'm happy something comes and ruins it. My mom and I get along, but she just makes me so mad. I know all parents are like that. But then it all builds up and I don't know how to handle it all. One time I cute myself and I know it was stupid, but now everytime I get upset thats what I think about...I don't know how to handle my emotions...I just want to be happy....

I know how that feels. But when I get upset I go and listen to music and just sit there and think. But since you did cut yourself, try putting a rubberband on your wrist and whenever you feel like you want to cut, just snap it (I have friends who have cut). And don't build up all your emotions and anger, I do that lol don't do that, go talk to someone, like a close friend, a best friend, or one of us advice columnists =D Just tell them whats going on and why you're not happy. It always makes you feel better once its off your chest. I hope this helps and I'm here for you if you need anything =D

xoxo Kourtney

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i've been friends with this girl since 6th grade. she used to live across the road from me, but then she moved away. Not far, only about 30 minutes. We used to talk on AIM but then we ran out of things to talk about. I mean, we don't have the same group of friends and we don't know who each of us is talking about. Now, I don't talk to her at all and I feel horrible. What am I supposed to do?? I want to be friends with her again but it's like we're complete strangers.

Try calling her up or tell her this on AIM and say you want to hang out and then catch up on some good times. Tell her to bring pictures along of her friends and you'll do the same because then you guys will know who you two are talking about. But I would hang out with her so you two still can be friends. Hope this helps!!

xoxo Kourtney

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okay i really really really really still love my x but hes a major playa we went out twice and both times it didn't work out but we still talk alot online and stuff but its not the same. i still like him alot but i try to make it sound like i don't care everytime his name comes up in a convo wit me and my friends but i really do care and i really do have feelings for him still! and i knoe that i can have almost n e guy i want i mean a lot of guys like me so y do i want him soo much???

please help me out asap!!

I know how that feels. But look at this quote:

For once I wannna be the girl who got him to quit his game, retire his jersey, n draw hearts around my name...

I know how hard it must be and how much it must hurt, I've been there (actually going through it lol) But, all you can do is hope he gets through his playing times lol. You can either write him a note telling him how you feel about him or when you talk to him on the internet. Basically just telling him how you still love him and you wish he would just stop being a player because its hurting you. I think maybe you should try to move on until he's over being a player or something. And tell him that, be like "Although I love you, I'm gunna move on, there's no point for me to wait around when all you're going to do is be a player, so until you can get over being a player, then tell me" Say something like that and just how you feel about him. But, since you can get a lot of guys, just try to go out with another guy, there is no point in waiting for him when all he's going to do is be a player. It'll only hurt you more. And I know how that feels, when someone mentions there name all you can do is smile and look away. Its hard, but just try doing what I just told you. I hope this helps, and tell me how it goes too! And if you need help writting or coming up on what to say. Just ask me, I'll be glad to help =D

xoxo Kourtney

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wut does love really mean?!?!?!?!

The question of love! lol. You can't really explain what love is, not until you experience it. You'll find it sooner or later. Some find it young, some find it when they get older. But its just basically when you tell someone you love them (and you actually mean it) you get like butterflys in your stomach, even thinking about them sometimes too! But, there's no way of explaining what love is, you'll just know what love is once you fall in love! =P

xoxo Kourtney

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how do u fix jealousy? i dont want to be jealous. but i dont think i am that much.

Hmm, well are you jealous when it comes down to guys, when they're talking to other girls or whatever? You can't really fix jealousy. But, just try not to get so jealous when it starts to bother you (great advice huh lol). No, but just when you feel like you're going to get mad or jealous or whatever just smile and walk away. Try not to let it bother you so much. Don't think about it all, it'll only leave you with anger and jealousy. All you can do is SMILE! And if this is about you being jealous that guys (that you like) talk to other girls, you're going to have to understand they have friends that are girls, so you're going to have to accept it, just like they're going to have to accept it that you talk to guys. Hope this helps!!

xoxo Kourtney

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my friend always lies to me and im so sick of it! what should i do?

Sit your friend down and just confront her. Just be like "Why do you always lie to me, can you just please tell me the truth?" And just tell her you don't like it when she lies to you. Just basically tell her how you feel about her lieing to you. Hope this helps and good luck with talking to her!! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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i really like this guy. but he lives in another state. i dont get to see him very often, but i can talk to him online or on the phone. should i ask him out?

The problem with the guy in the other state, you don't get to see them very often. Long distance relationships can be tough to handle, my sister held one for almost a year, but the guy broke up with her!! You don't want to get hurt in this situation and plus you don't get to see him very often, its okay to be friends or even best friends on the internet/phone. You can still talk to him, but if I was you, I would look around for a guy that lives in the same state as mine.

xoxo Kourtney

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this kidd wants me to have sex with him what do i do i mean i like him but i keep thinking about the ocnsequences...

Thats good that you think of all the consequences! You don't have to do anything you don't want to do because this kid may be using you. So watch out.

xoxo Kourtney

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okay...me and my friend are addicted to stealing. when ever we go somewhere like to the gas station or clothes we steal. we always steal candy and we steal undies. we try to stop and we just cant it is hard. and it is uncontrolable! what should we do?

theives

First try to think of all the things that can happen to you if you get caught, you could get into a lot of trouble. So think of all those and then when you do go out try not to think "Oh I want to steal that and this" try to just look around or something and not think about stealing. And you could also try bringing someone who wouldn't steal and when you and your friend want to steal, your friend (who doesn't steal) can stop you guys, and bring that friend when ever you guys go and then you guys will get the drift not to steal and you'll eventually stop. But, you have to try really hard not to steal, you have to think about things before you actually do something. Hope you guys stop stealing =D Good luck. Hope I helped!!

xoxo Kourtney

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hey folks... i need a little help here. i weigh 200lbs and am 5"7... (i'm 14, female) i really need to lose some weight. i don't need to lose it real fast... just like, 10 or 15lbs in the next month and a half... any tips?

Hey!
1.) Running
2.) Lifting weights
3.) Walking
4.) Crunches
5.) Swimming
6.) Drinking water not so much soda
7.) Eat healthier
8.) Biking
*Hope those help!!! =P

xoxo Kourtney

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Ok well i am good at giveing other ppl advice, i take my time n think bout it, but when it comes 2 me getting advice no1 seems ta care or take the time, so mayb sum will here...N i already kinda asked a ? like this b4 but never really got tha answer i wanted so ima try 2 put it in a different way...
Im 13/girl n im realllyyy confused. I liked this lets call him * ahah ok well * n me were really good friends n then we both started to have 'more than friends' feelings bout eachother, but we never went out cuz i messd things up. So newayz we like barley ever even talk nemore. N im really trying to move on, im pretty much over him, cuz i dun see him 2 much cuz its summer n hes goin to the high school n ill be in 8th. Ok well like i moved on.. its just i cant find ne1. N i kno tha whole 'o ull find sum1' wateva stuff but that doesnt help me? i think ppl think im still stuck over * which im not n i jus wanna move on. How shud i do this? Sry its a lil confuseing but its jus hard 2 explain.

I'll try my best to help you out on this one and if I don't, you can just tell me and I'll try to help again =D But since you're trying to move on, try going to the mall, party, friends house, fun things to do in your neighborhood. You can always have your friend(s) try to hook you up with someone they think is your type. I'm not going to say "Oh you'll find him sooner or later" because what kind of advice would that be? NONE at all lol. So just go out and live your life and have fun and you'll meet a guy. You just have to put yourself out there and introduce yourself to guys. Because you know guys, they're stubborn sometimes and now-a-days you have to like totally put yourself out there by saying "Hey I like you" lol. So just be positive about things, get yourself out there, have fun, introduce yourself to guys, and there you go you'll have a guy in no time! Hope this helps! Good luck!!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok i think im fat but my friends think that im like really skinny. and so does my friends mom. she always says "god look how skinny she is" and i cnat stand it. its not like i wanna be fat but i dont like to be considered like a tooth pick whne i think im fat. wut do i do?

I get the samething!! It gets annoying sometimes though. But, they're not considering you as a toothpick, they're just saying you're skinny, they think you have a cute figure. But, when people say that, just ignore them and talk it off (like changing the subject). And for your mom, just be like "Mom, I hate when you say that you make me feel like a toothpick, can you please stop saying that." She should understand since she is afterall your mom. Hope this helps!

xoxo Kourtney

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