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I'm so lost...
15-f...I'm not happy at all, and I don't know how to change that. Me and my boyfriend broke up a while ago but I'm okay with it now its just that I don't really have anyone now. I have a few friends, I'm just a shy person. It just seems like once I think I'm happy something comes and ruins it. My mom and I get along, but she just makes me so mad. I know all parents are like that. But then it all builds up and I don't know how to handle it all. One time I cute myself and I know it was stupid, but now everytime I get upset thats what I think about...I don't know how to handle my emotions...I just want to be happy....
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Give your self some time to think, a moment for yourself, it always makes me feel better inside.
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Feeling unhappy is normal. Embrace it because, at some time, you are going to feel sad or frustrated. Sadness comes and goes. See it as a good thing, though, if for no other reason that when you feel happy again it will be a relief and a remarkable experience. Don't cut yourself. Find something else to do that will occupy your time until happy times arrive: singing, drawing, biking, hiking, reading, volunteering, et cetera can help. What do you have to offer that will help others?
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i know how you feel. and sometimes when you get depressed and mad you cut yourself because i do it too and me and you are like going threw the same thing! i just want to be happy too and theres no real solution to make that happen. you just have to live life one day at a time and eventaully youll be happy. its going to be hard but im sure you can do it. just live life and dont let anyone bring you down or reck your day =)
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Three words, its a phase. Oh wow, we all go through it. I've never heard of anyone who hasn't. It hurts so badly losing sumone like your boyfriend and it hurts even more to know that you dont have anyone who you feel can comfort you. Yeah, I've gone through it. One thing I would do is think really hard of sumone who you can really count on. Maybe you forgot about this person, but think about talking to them about your problems. The problems with your mom, try to talk to her nicely even if she is treating you like crap, I've been there. I'm actually also dealing with it right now. Cutting yourself is definately NOT the way. So try to figure out a way to handle situations better. And Good Luck!
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I know how that feels. But when I get upset I go and listen to music and just sit there and think. But since you did cut yourself, try putting a rubberband on your wrist and whenever you feel like you want to cut, just snap it (I have friends who have cut). And don't build up all your emotions and anger, I do that lol don't do that, go talk to someone, like a close friend, a best friend, or one of us advice columnists =D Just tell them whats going on and why you're not happy. It always makes you feel better once its off your chest. I hope this helps and I'm here for you if you need anything =D
xoxo Kourtney
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hi, well ur being HARSH ON UR SELF THERE...relax n chillax...try not to worry to damn much bout problems...there are lots of stuff u could do n keep ur self entertained...so wut u should do is..hang out wit ur friends as much as u can...give other guys an oppertunity to get to know u n get in ur life :) n may b who knoes u might find dat special someone out there...also talk on da phone...watch TV...go to the pool or i dunno do something...rather than stayin home n thinkin bout ur problems...i mean of course u have to worry bout them n everything but not to get out of control...try to hang out wit ur friends...go to their houses...invite friends over n bla bla bla ..xoxo effy
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I've always loved this quote:"The search for happiness is the key source of unhappiness".Basically what it's saying is if you spend your whole life going in search of happiness,you may miss the happiness that's right there already!!It's hard when you're a shy person to just go out there and make a ton of friends,but the truth is you don't need a whole entourage,you can be just fine with only a few,dear,close friends.Just be yourself,and learn to enjoy and appreciate the everyday things in life that make it amazing.Keep yourself busy with your friends and have fun,there are always new people to meet and new friends to make!As far as your mom goes,you're right that it's not abnormal for you to argue with the rents when you're 15!!Let her know what it is she does that makes you mad or upset and try and work things out together.Nothing is worth hurting yourself over hunnie,NOTHING!!If you can't stop those thoughts,you may need to seek some counseling or professional help of some kind,and there's absolutely NOTHING wrong with that.There are millions of people who see therapists every day and are on some sort of anti-depressant medication,that you would never believe!!!You're not alone at all!Best wishes sweetheart,and remember my motto:SMILE-it's good 4 ya! ;)
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I've been in your exact situation, many times. Just keep in mind that "you have a few friends" When you become depressed, or it least I thnk that's defiantly what you're feeling. You forget who matters most in life. You don't think about all the good things you actually have to hold onto. And I think alot of people go through the stage as to if they want to cut themselves, I've been there a few times, acted on it a few times as well. Cutting yourself won't help... at the time I think you may actually feel better but the same old feelings wont leave you even so. Think about the main reasons you're depressed, what you think the source of it is coming from. And try in any way you can to solve that issue. Just don't forget that you're NOT alone in this. You have freinds and it doesn't matter how many you have, just as long as they're good enough to be there for you when you need someone. I REALLY REALLY hope everything turns out good for you in the end.
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i had something like that a few summers ago and i felt like things would never get better and id never be happy because when its happening, you automatically think its gonna stay that way. the worst thing you can do is to be unsocial and cut yourself... start being with your friends more and maybe youll start to feel more happy and like youre having fun. as for cutting yourself, everytime you feel like cutting just try to tell yourself not to. im not a cutter, so i dont really know how to help you there, but good luck and i hope i helped you out otherwise ;]
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think of happy things..and just try to get along with ppl..cuz life is too short to have it be filled with hate! spend time with your friends! even make new friends! maybe you could go shopping and get some new clothes that you feel more outgoing in! there are just TONS of ways to make u feel better! if u ever need to talk to anybody just im me or email me cuz i no ur going thru a rough time! Devilishd19 or Devilishd99@yahoo.com *hope i helped* <3/Dakota
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Just try to make the best of things, and think positive, dont let silly things bring you down so easily, i know its hard because all of it builds up, but you just gotta make it stop
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