I believe that most answers to pressing questions are already within all of us and are only waiting to be molded into answers; some questions have no answers and will forever remain a mystery. Alas! Sometimes mystery is the answer and the path toward enlightenment is in the quest.
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for american history, my class had to write an essay. we had to be either john kerry or george bush and discuss what issues we are going to change. today we got our papers back. i got 19/18, but i had a see me on my paper. it said the teacher thought i had not written it because it was far better than anything id written this year. we had to get our information from 3 internet articles, so i gave the teacher my articles. i did not plaigerise, and i told the teacher that. i dont know if tomorrow she will say she believes me or not. i feel so insulted and ashamed even though ive done nothing wrong. what do i do? (link)
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Plagiarism is simply the act of copying, word for word, someone else’s writings or to imply that an original idea or opinion in your essay came from you when, in fact, the idea or opinion came from another source. If you didn't do any of those two things, then feel confident in your writing style. If you did, and it was done without malice, then explain it to your teacher. She likely only wants to help you understand the concept of plagiarism. School is a place to learn, and sometimes this is accomplished by making mistakes. Sometimes, teachers make mistakes too.
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I need a really good GPA in order to get the full grant that's offered at a transfer school. The problem is my Art History class sounds really difficult. There's only two tests, and each involves memorizing the name, date, tools used, location, and artist of 25 random slides we view in class.
So my question is, what should I do if I don't get a good grade on the first test? I'm majoring in art, so I'd have to change my whole major if I dropped the class. I'm not really good at anything else. Besides, I'm not sure if I can afford to change my major.
I will not, under any circumstances, rate you. I refuse to give anyone who answers this a 5. (link)
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Memorize the study materials the instructor provides for you, take notes, and brush up on your history. It's a matter of deduction and relating the time period with the piece. For example: if a slide of the painting "The Swing" comes up during the exam, you will remember that it was painted by Fragonard (because it's a funny name), in 1766 (because the painting represents the opulence of the elite, which would soon be truncated by the French Revolution in 1789), it utilized the Rococo style (which is the artistic kin to the opulent baroque architecture of the day and emphasizes gardens, light, and the rule of thirds), and he utilized brush and oil on canvas with a realistic flare (because impressionism hadn't been created yet.) The class, if it is about Western art culture, will most likely begin with Greece Classical (pre 400 BC) and Hellenistic (post 400 BC), then move on to a brief overview of Roman times ( 100 BC - 500 AD) , then it will most likely address the time of the dark ages and religious frescos (500 AD – 1400 AD, then on to the Italian and Dutch masters of Renaissance (1400 AD – 1600 AD), then on to the Rococo style of the 1700s, Impressionism of the 1800s, realism of the early 1900s, Cubanism and Dada of the 1930s, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera… until modern times. Good luck!
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I just got my room re-done in a rustic type style. I live in a log house so half my room is wood and the other half is sheet rock that is a dark orange/yellow color. My bedding is light brown corduroy and the other side is beige with orange the color of my walls, and burnt red stripes, what kinda accesories should i do to just set the them for my rustic room?
XxTBSgirlxX (link)
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First, get some live plants (if you're not alergic to anything, that is). They always make a room feel exotic, take up space, and add freshness to any room. Green also compliments earth tones.
Color scheme and lighting is very important. In your case, you may want to use festive colors to offset the earth tones such as red, white, blue, yellow, et-cetera. Use indirect lighting to offer the room some ambient light. If you use a yellow bulb, for example, it will look like firelight.
Being as it is that you live in a log cabin style home, with earth tone colors, you could do the "Hansel and Gretel" theme...he.he.he, or maybe an "Early American" style would suffice, or you could do the "Pioneer" look. That burnt orange is hard to work with. But have fun with it anyway! Be daring!
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OK got a Terrior Mix puppy about a month ago. We've been training it to go outside the entire time. But it seems like at night he still has problems. When he potties in the floor, we spank him with a newspaper, and then take him straight outside. When hes good and potties outside, we give him a treat. But he still has accidents. Any suggestions on this? ty much. (link)
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Be patient with your new puppy. It's still learning what "can't pee in the house" means. As soon as he/she starts to squat say "NO 'PUDDLES'!" "OUTSIDE!" And then calmly take the pup outside. If he/she pees while no one is watching, and you find the puddle after the fact, then you can remind the puppy by bringing it over to the puddle, and as you are pointing to it, say "No 'Puddles'"! And then bring him/her outside. This has always worked for me while raising puppies. It's a good thing to note, too, that puppies are going to be messy and rambunctious. Just wait till he/she starts to chew on your favorite something or another! Welcome to puppy Dom!
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Ever since i could remember i'v always had low self esteem. I feel weird when i'm around guys like im the uglyist person there so i always shut up and keep quiet unless someone says something to me but i make it breif. I'v made a little progress with the talking in groups of people this year but i still don't like myself. I feel that i hate everything about me,but im not suicidal. What could i do to make myself possibly like me more? (link)
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Start liking yourself! Lighten up a little! Focus on the gifts you've been given and utilize them, take steps to be more active, think of how you can help others, and embrace, or accept, your weaknessess because they often become your greatest strenghts.
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I'm trying to write a final paper but I'm having a helluva time concentrating. Anyone have tips on keeping focused (besides not looking at websites instead of working)? (link)
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When writing a paper, a good rule of thumb is to be interested in your topic. Make it your own and have fun with it. There is no easy way around it—you must simply dedicate your time, efforts, and attention, to the paper. This is the definition of “concentration”. I'm sure you know this. Now get to work and finish your paper (smile)!
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This question is more for the older ppl here, but if u know the answer, let me know whether u are older or not!
When I get older I'm looking in2 becoming like a news anchor person, or something along that lines. When I go 2 college, wut kinda degree would I need 2 get? I assume a certain degree in communications, but does any1 know if there is a certain degree in particular? Plz let me know! (link)
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I recommend that you attend a four year state, or private, university that offers an accredited degree program in journalism. Communications, broadcasting, et-al, are sub categories of the journalism field. Most employers require a four-year degree from potential candidates. You may also start off by attending a two year communications program at your local community college, which should also be accredited. This will give you an opportunity to explore the field of journalism before you commit to a four-year degree. Speak to your career counselor about proper career planning and any personal assessments to be made. Be prepared to work hard to achieve your goal and do your research as it is a very competitive field. And you will have to actually spell words out! Good luck to you!
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I don't know where to begin with so much going through my mind and my heart except to get directly to the point, which I'm sure you would appreciate. How do you stop loving and caring for someone that means so much to you when you don't even know how the relationship ended to begin with? I guess that's a pretty wide open question huh Doctor? Can you even relate to what I'm talking about because to tell you the truth I am so baffled at this point, things in my everyday life aren't even making sense to me anymore. It's like I'm just going through the motions everyday, but at the end of the day not really remembering too much of anything except the constant, nagging pain in my heart, which is really unbearable. I am an adult female who thought she had a pretty good thing going with an adult male. THOUGHT being the key word here. No, everything was not always perfect, but what is? Nothing major that we couldn't handle. We seemed to make each other happy in all kinds of ways that you may not even be able to imagine. I still do believe that the love was mutual and not just one-sided, but maybe I was wrong. He told me he loved me and I believed him. Shouldn't I have believed him? Isn't that what love should be based on, trust? I actually "felt" the love and caring that he had for me so I know that it wasn't one-sided. I totally trusted this man, with my life, literally. We had constant, daily communication that one day just abruptly came to a halt. And I do mean a screeching halt! Not a halt on my part either, but his. With no explanation in any form he just no longer shared any type of communication with me whatsoever. What's that all about? We had a little communication problem the night before everything ended and I was in a position where I could not make him fully understand what all was taking place, no I was not with another man or anything remotely like that, I was just in a position that made it impossible for me to talk at that moment> Let me stop there because I know that's not making sense to you. However I never got the chance to tell him what the whole deal was. And it doesn't look like I ever will. That was the last night that I ever talked to him. I love this man so much more than I ever thought that I possibly could love someone and I know that we would have been so good together and I know that he knows that too. What's the problem then you might ask? As I stated before, he will not answer any of my calls, he no longer calls me, and I don't really know what to think. I do know that he is a very open minded caring person and this just isn't like the man I fell in love with to not let me know what the problem is, so what do I do? Please don't tell me to just simply ask him what happened because like I said, he will not take my calls or contact me. How can anyone be that cold-hearted? He has totally broke my heart, broke my spirit, and yanked my soul right out! The biggest problem that I have is not understanding what happened! Surely you can understand that? He has to know that doesn't he? You can't possibly be in constant contact with someone throughout the entire day, every single day, and then one day just stop all communications and not expect them to question what the hell happened. Obviously he just doesn't want anything to do with me, that's a no-brainer. But until he tells me so and tells me why, how can I ever have any closure with the relationship, or even have any peace for my ever so confused, battered, busted up heart? I miss him terribly. I guess I got that point across pretty well already. On the flip side of this sad, but true story - Right in sync with him just totally ignoring me, this is unreal, but true, all of these men out of my past and some that have been trying to go out with me or come into my life all called in a one-week period. Sad, but true, I'm just not interested. How can I be even remotely interested anyway when nothing has been resolved with him. I will not be interested in anyone in that same way again because I know in my heart that he is the one for me, I know it, and he knows it too. Or maybe not? How do I find out what went wrong when it's impossible to ask anyone a question when they simply won't talk to you? Now how cold is that? Doesn't everyone deserve that much? I know they do, and yes, I know people don't always get an explanation even though there always is one. I don't know how to make you understand that he is just not that "typical" person that just leaves people's hearts hanging without an explanation, or maybe I just have him figured all wrong. Am I a total fool? If so then I'm a fool in love. If that is the case and I am to never get an answer, how do I go on? I can't keep walking around everyday crying, in a freaking daze, with real pains in the pit of my stomach as well as my heart. All of the people who know me know that I smile all the time and am for the most part a happy person always trying to bring a smile to others. But since that day, they all ask me where my smile is, where's that sparkle in my eyes, where's my spunk, where's my love for life? I'm not going to get it back until I know what happened. What do I do? How does one stop loving when they don't even know what went wrong? How do you ever get your mind, heart, and soul "together" again? How do you ever trust again? How do you stop the very real pain? I am a grown woman and this was not a little crush. I took it very seriously as he told me he did too. I did things for him that I had never done for anyone else to try and please him, which ultimately pleased me in doing so. As you can tell my thoughts are all over the place. And like I said I don't see how I can "pull myself together" without answers. This is really, really rough and I don't think he gets that or he would talk with me, right? What to do? How to cope? When does the pain stop? Why did this happen? Why can't I get any answers? How to trust again? When I commit to something or to someone, I really try to give it my all, which is why I get hurt so easily. That, I can answer.
Signed; Desperately Seeking An Answer
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Dear Desperately Seeking An Answer,
Whether you have met him, or not, a loss of any sort can be a painful experience to endure. Yet you need not stop loving and caring but must start focusing on loving and caring for yourself. You undoubtedly possess the characteristics to do so and you will eventually recover from your loss. Your grief will subside overtime. Your interest in other things, and your joy for life, were there before you met him and they will be there once again.
There is hope to keep you going in the meantime, and what you hope for usually comes true. Visualize what you want and make it happen. Time is of the essence. Life is a wellspring of chance, mystery, and faiths, which I believe all work in sync with self actualization and self empowerment, for the ultimate life experience. Trust in the importance of your existence, stay active, and learn how you can be a radiant beacon to others who are seeking enlightenment. This light of yours will be an irresistible attraction to everyone and everything.
First you must face the five stages of recovery from grief, in order they are: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. How quickly acceptance and happiness is achieved is up to you. You possess the power.
XYZ
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my eye has been twitching lately!! ts gotton worse!! like its my eyelid, sometimes my eyebrow, and below my eye...not all @ once but its only in my right eye...u cant see it but i can feel it..i told my mom but she didnt really think nothin of it...wat does this mean?? (link)
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Maybe you have a bug in it and it's trying to get out! No, just kidding. It's normal, don't worry about it..blink..blink..blink..blink.
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I know you can never have too much love for a pet, but after you meet my friend you probably won't want to see another cat again... my friend is always talking about who, what, when, where, why, about her CAT! It's driving me crazy! Whenever she stops talking about guys she's always on to talking about her cat. I need so major advice to help me to avoid her talking about her pets!
Signed, Someone who never wants to see a cat again! (link)
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Just say jokingly: Get over the cat thing already!
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15-f...I'm not happy at all, and I don't know how to change that. Me and my boyfriend broke up a while ago but I'm okay with it now its just that I don't really have anyone now. I have a few friends, I'm just a shy person. It just seems like once I think I'm happy something comes and ruins it. My mom and I get along, but she just makes me so mad. I know all parents are like that. But then it all builds up and I don't know how to handle it all. One time I cute myself and I know it was stupid, but now everytime I get upset thats what I think about...I don't know how to handle my emotions...I just want to be happy.... (link)
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Feeling unhappy is normal. Embrace it because, at some time, you are going to feel sad or frustrated. Sadness comes and goes. See it as a good thing, though, if for no other reason that when you feel happy again it will be a relief and a remarkable experience. Don't cut yourself. Find something else to do that will occupy your time until happy times arrive: singing, drawing, biking, hiking, reading, volunteering, et cetera can help. What do you have to offer that will help others?
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I live in North Carolina and my mom and dad got divorced 3-4 years ago. He doesn't pay for much, and I know he won't pay for college. I'm 16...a Junior in High School and have 2 more years left for college. I really want to go to Boston University or University of Massachusetts because I love those schools and it's my home state. My mom said that I should go to college in North Carolina so it will be cheaper but I don't like many colleges here. The ones I do like (Duke University and Wake Forest University) are private and will still cost more. I told her I'd pay for law school and 4 year college but she wanted to pay for that. She said if I go to college up there then she'll only give me the amount a year that she would pay down here. What should I do? Should I go down here or up there or should I say something? (link)
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If you apply to all the schools that you have mentioned, then you will have more choices in your future and when the time comes you can make your final decision based upon the information you will have gathered. Keep your options open.
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ok well im ok with most of my body but ewww my stomach needs to be flat!! but the thing is im really picky...about like excercising and dieting: i literally dont eat any vegetables and i dont play any sports so what should i do to et a nice stomache?? (link)
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Eat vegetables and exercise!
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You see there's this guy and I think he likes me but I don't know. He tried to put moves on me the other day and it kinda freaked me out. Like he kissed me on the cheek, put his hand on my leg. He did stuff just to get close to me. When a guy does stuff just to get close to you it means he likes you, but I don't really like him. Ohh...help! What should I do??
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If he is your friend and you don't like what he is doing, and you want to tell him that he is making you uncomfortable, then do so with grace and tact. You know, be nice about it. That will work with most people. If it doesn't work, and you still want to be left alone, then you'll have to find a way to tell him sternly, with raised voice if need be, and without a little kidding, so he gets your point. That should do the trick. If not, and especially if he is someone you don't know very well, run for the hills!
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My guy's away this summer and is supposed to call me every other day or something and it's been like ten days. Today's our 8-month mark. Just opinionwise - should I call him? I called him last time we spoke on the phone.
My mom suggested I make him wait - "let him miss you and call you." She put it this way: "If you don't call him and he doesn't call you, you'll be upset that he didn't call. If you DO call him, you'll still be upset that he didn't call."
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So what do you guys think I should do? Thanks! (link)
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A person is most attractive to others when they are busy and active and living out their dreams. It sounds to me as if you miss him and would like him to be missing you as much. But you must carry on and do your thing anyway. When you do, and if he cares, he will call you. Don't sit by the phone. Get out and enjoy the summertime!
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17-F Okay...I've never had a really good relationship before. All my friends and seem to have the perfect boyfriends and I can't even meet someone that I connect with. I feel like I'm never going to meet my special someone. I know that your suppoes to be happy with yourself until you can be completely happy with someone else...so I did that...I fixed everything I don't like about myself and really am happy with my life as it is...except not having my significant other...what can I do?
-Sincerely, hopeless (link)
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First of all, be hopeful! And visualize who you want in your life, and how your life will be with that person. It has been my experience that, in some form or another, we always get what we want. But you must visualize it first. The rest will follow. It will materialize. Be patient, for these things can take a while. But you're happy with yourself in the meantime, so enjoy life to its fullest and keep developing your strengths!
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How cAn I ge my boyfriend totalk to me???
all he dose is egnore me and Its like everytime I go to talk about him around his friends he gets red in the face andsays he dosn't know me.
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How do you feel when this happens? Does it make you feel good? Does it make you feel bad? If it makes you feel bad, then put a stop to it. You do this not by trying to change how he treats you but by putting yourself into a situation where you don't have to face that kind of pain. I know it must be hard, but you have the freedom to make a choice.
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Okay my name is barb(ara)and im despratley in need of help.Last night i kried myself 2 sleep.I ussaly sleep at 11:00.its been one week now im sleepin at 1 a.m.Im soo mad like my mom and dad work even through summer and my dad works on saturdays and sundays soo like im always bymeslef stuck in my house doin nothing but x-box,tv,and computer.And my grandma is very cuatious bcuase she used 2 live in a huge city the 3rd biggest.So she wont even let me in our frontyard.I kno she kares but 2 much!I kant even watch bug juice becuase i hate seeing people hav fun while im not.And my friend kalled from summer camp n shes tottaly having fun i jus hung up on her!Please HELP BEFORE I BECOME TOTTALY SUMMERLESS AND I KRY 2 DEATH! (link)
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Find a hobby. Do you like to draw? Or would you like to play a musical instrument? How about going to a summer camp where you will be supervised by adults (so grandma won't worry)? Are there any youth groups you can join? Maybe you can join a choir if you like to sing. The answer is to be active. Don't just sit around and watch TV or play video games. Get out and meet others, join groups, attend classes, and seize the opportunity to be active and involved! In my opinion, you'll find happiness that way.
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I dont believe in God, or Satan, or heaven and hell. I think its just a story told to us to try and make us act like better people. Please comment. (link)
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I believe that education is paramount to the success of spiritual growth. It is a good thing to live in the question. Keep delving into history and you will become more aware through time that humans have had many different opinions throughout the ages and that these opinions are just opinions, which are no greater or lesser in value than your own. Moreover, dogma is often borne of myth and folklore. No one really knows the truth of the universe. We can only speculate and reason. But please do not discount the power of "goodness". I believe it is an essential ingredient for happiness. A "story" that promotes kindness and benevolence is still a good lesson to follow for your own benefit.
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