about

I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

1.)heey. im 13, my name is aubrey. well i have horrible period cramps, is there any way to get rid of them?

2.)what are some tips to help me stop bitting my nails?

3.)does anal sex hert, my bf wants to have it with me (16) and idk if it herts or not...


13, not a virgen... please dont call me a slut or tell me anything about his k thx!

♥`AUbREY`* ViNtAGExBARbiE_

1* Don't eat chocolate, don't drink sodas. Use midol, take naps, take hot baths, & use a heating pad.

2* Whenever you feel like biting your nails, put gum in your mouth. It helps a lot, and it works. That's how my mom stopped. Or, there's a nail polish that tastes horrible, but my mom said she tried it, and she eventually got used to the taste, so I think gum works better.

3* My friend tried, and she said she was in tears. So, I'm taking that answer as it does hurt. If you want to try it, go ahead. But relax when you do it.

&TiNA;

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hey my boyfriend and i have been talking about making out lately. i gave him this website to show him all the tips that someone posted. he says he doesnt just like to make out. and he says he uses tongue. i dont think im mature enough to use tongue yet...i think,...its gross.. no offence for all u people who french kiss. but i dont want to french kiss just yet. hes made out with a ton of girls before. ive never made out before. any help? thanks!

If you don't use your tounge, it doesn't count as making out.

&TiNA;

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i am 15, 5'8 and i weigh 125-130. i feel so fat. can you tell me if i am over reacting or what i could do to lose 10-15 pounds..

You're overreacting. You're skinny! =] I wish I could weigh that much!

♥TiNA

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i was wondering if a boy had precum on his finger then fingered you could you be pregnant? thanks! i rate 5s!

Nope. Once sperm meets air, it dies.

&TiNA;

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MY boyfriend and I have been going out for over a year, but for the last couple months we've been going out in secret while he rebuilds the friendships he lost. Innocent right? Not really.

Now, all he does is joke around about liking these other girls and then will be like "jk, i love you". He hurts me all the time. His myspace doesnt have one mention of me, his 'girlfriend' and 'best friend' but at least 5 things for this other girl. He wrote this poem to my other friend and now he's entering into a contest. He's always in a bad mood around me but act likes the perfect guy around everyone else. I understand he's trying to get his friends back, but I really want to be treated like I mean something to him. Online, he hardly talks to me! Sometimes 10 minutes will elapse before he'll say "ok" or "cool". I don't know what to do! The only time he acts like a real boyfriend is when we're hanging out just the two of us. He always sends me parts of conversations with other girls that I don't want to see and I tell him not to send it but he does anyways.
Am i just overreacting, or reading too much into it? I'm pretty sure he loves me, but all his 'jokes' about liking other girls is starting to make me question our relationship. I feel forgotten and talking to him about it makes everything worse. He just says I complain too much or im 'abusive'. I love him so much and I'm so confused! All the stuff he used to do to me he does for other people while i just stand on the sidelines being jealous.
Help!!

Reading this over i sound ridiculous but I'm really hurt and this whole this is both emotionally and physically draining.

Okay, your boyfriend is a jerk.

Dating "secretly" is stupid. It's like saying that you're ashamed to be with the person. So, that secretly thing needs to go.

And to tell you about all the girls he likes and the "Just kidding! I love you." No. Don't fall for it.

If someone who doesn't act the same around his friends as you, he's not real. If he can't act the same around his friends and you, whether he's with them or not, he's a prick.

Stop trying to talk to him online. It's obvious he doesn't want to if it takes him 10 or more minutes to even say something to you.

Don't try to talk to him about it, if his response is that you're abusive. When really, he is. Emotionally. He's emotionally abusing you by making you feel this way. No one deserves to feel this way, or be treated this way.

I would just try to find someone else who makes you feel good, because obviously, he's not it. I realize you guys have been together for over a year, but this is major. Dump him & find a new guy.

You deserve love, and the love he's giving just isn't the kind you need.

&TiNA;

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i need some contriversal (spelling?) topics that are school apropriate. 5's to anyone that can name a few. thanks so much (:

Gay Marriage/Rights.
Abortion.
Cell Phones In School.
School Uniforms.
Doctor Assisted Suicide.
War On Iraq.
Evolution.
Racism.
Cloning.
Animal Testing.
Self Mutilation.
Abuse.
Animal Cruelty.

&TiNA;

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hello. ok so i have been dating this kid for a little bit and we dont go to the same school but we see each other and talk enough to have a good relationship. but my mom & dad dont like me hanging out with him without them there ; they are scared im gonna like have sex with him (im only 13) or something and its really annoying. if i go somewhere like a school thing or play basketball with him they are like "what happened? we dont like you all over eachother.." i dont know what i can do to let me do things like go to his house just to hang out or go to the movies or something. i just want their trust.. i mean ive never done anything that would make them not trsut me. i feel like im doing something wrong! am i ?please any advice on what i can do, will really help me. thanks in advance!

I see why your parents worry that you guys will be doing things like that.

For one, teenagers are having sex younger and younger now, and they don't even stop to think about STD's/AIDS/ and pregnancy.

Also, you have to remember that you're they're little girl, and they're only kid, so of course they're gonna be way protective and that's normal. I'm not an only child, and my parents still watch me like a hawk.

Girls at this age tend to get attached to their boyfriends because they think they're "in love." Half the kids these days don't know what love is, and it's not love, it's an obsession.

You're not doing anything wrong, they're just worried because they don't want you to have kids at 14, or whatever. You have to understand why your parents are worried, and to put yourself in their shoes.

At least you have a boyfriend, I wasn't supposed to have a boyfriend until I was 16.

Talk to them about how you feel. Tell them you understand where they're coming from, but also tell them that you'd like some privacy with your boyfriend, and they should trust you and know you won't do anything they wouldn't want you to. I hope I helped you.

&TiNA;

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I used to cut frequently, but then I stopped for a long time. I was doing really well and learning to deal with my feelings in other ways, but just the other day I was in the drug store and I bought a package of blades and went home and cut myself several times. I have been doing ever since. I have been feeling pretty depressed lately. There has been a lot of stuff going on in my life and I don't know how to deal with it. I know that I shouldn't cut myself, but I feel so much better. It really helps me deal. Where can I go for help with stopping cutting. I cannot tell my parents and I am so afraid of telling my friends. Please help. I really don't know what to do.

Cutting is not the way to go, and obviously, you know that. It's highly addicting, and it's super annoying to explain to people.

Cutting always seems to feel like it's helping, but actually, it's not.

The problems in life are never permanant [unless you allow them to be], but the scars, unfortunately are.

You don't have to tell your parents, or your friends, but if you tell someone you trust, such as a teacher, they can get you help. If you feel depressed, go see a counsellor at school. They can probably help you.

All I can suggest to you, is to see a counsellor, or write in a journal. It's helpful, and I advise you to find different ways like you were.

I advise you to also use this site. It's very helpful.[http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/feeling_sad/cutting.html]

Cutting is such a bad thing, and it's so unhealthy & addicting. =[ Don't cut anymore.

&TiNA;

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Okay, well i dont have a bad home and im not severely depressed but i get upset easily and sometimes i do feel depressed. Last night i cut myself 4 the first time...do i need help..am i crazy...i cant tell my parents....what should i do?

plz help

You do need help. Cutting is a very addicting thing, and only doing it once may make you wanna do it again. People who cut aren't necessarily crazy, although some people think they are because they wonder why someone may wanna hurt themselves. I used to cut, so I know how you feel, but I do it for many reasons. Fighting, depression, that stuff. Go to this site for help.

http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/cutting.html

It can tell you how to get help, and how to stop. Don't cut anymore, it's addicting and it's so hard to stop. And it's not healthy for you at all. And it only hurts the people you love.

&TiNA;

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When someone tells you that a guy likes you when he doesn't and the person is just trying to embarass you, what should you say in response? I seem to always be a victim of that prank, but luckily I've never fallen for it. I would never do anything to embarass myself.

If it happened to me, [which it has before, and I fell for it], just say "Really? That's nice." If you don't care, they're not going to either.

&TiNA;

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what does dyke mean? because on mean girls in the burn book they said janice was a dyke? whats that?.... rate high for good answers!

It's a lesbian. But don't use it when you talk. It's kind of a mean why to say it.

&TiNA;

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my ex boyfriend, well we were extremely inlove and then we broke up. 4 days later, he gets the hottest girlfriend and treats me like shit - literally. at school, he spread rumors about me and everything.. what should i do? i hate him so much, but i love him too. he hates me, by the way. anyway, the problem is: how do i get him off my back and get rid of the rumors??

please help.. yours truly.

If someone comes up to you and asks if the rumors are true. Set the record straight, and let them know it's not. And if he treats you like shit, then think, do you honestly need someone like him in your life? In order to get him off your back, just completely ignore him no matter how much of what he says bothers you. Ignore it. He'll get tired of talking to himself after a while. But if it's to a point where you can't handle it anymore. File verbal assault against him. He can get in a lot of trouble.

&TiNA;

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13/f. Every day, I feel so lonely. It's like I'm an inanimate object. Nobody ever even seems to realize I'm alive. Nobody cares about me at all. I have no friends except my parents---that doesn't count. I try to make friends, but nobody ever gives me a second thought. In fact, I haven't had a single person at my house since I was 9. Nobody ever considers my feelings; if anyone has seen "Chicago," I feel exactly like the person singing "Cellophane." I cry like crazy every single evening at bedtime. It makes me want to do something outrageous just to see if someone would notice. Sometimes I wonder whether anyone would notice if I died. 5's to anyone who seems to emphathize...

Aww, I know how you feel. I used to feel the same way, and whenever I get depressed, I still do. Although, I just tell myself that people do care, wether they wanna show it or not.

Making friends is tough for some. I know. But, people are mean also, so they don't even look at certain people as a friend. This is probably what's happening. Some people are so judgemental. Making friends can be easy if you go join a club of some sort, or a sport.

I think it's good to have parents as friends. Don't get me wrong, it sounds kinda dorky, but it's a good thing. That way, fights are rare, you get what you want, and you'll always have a good relationship with them. Unless your outlook on them changes as you get older, but I still see it as a good thing. I wish me & my parents had a good relationship.

I used to cry at night because I'd think the exact same thing. I told a friend how I was feeling, and after we talked for hours, I came to realize how much people did care, and how much I was loved.

It kinda was a slap in the face..A wake up call.
Things will get better hun, don't worry.

&TiNA;

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hey im 15/f. Im tired of everybody walking all over me. Im not sure how to stop it. Like i tell them to stop and u know they sometimes do but i hate it when people mess with me. My friends say i need to stop letting people walk all over me but i dont know how to do that. She says im a push-over. Im also a cheerleader and im not really bad looking according to my friends so i dont see why this is happening so if anybody could tell me how to stop getting walked on it would be greatly appreciated! I'll rate high!

~Ashley~

Well, do not take this offensively, but everyone has this stereotype for cheerleaders. That they're either total airheads, or that they're sluts. Now, you're not a slut, nor are you an airhead, but they think that you're so dumb, you won't notice it. However, you have. Just, next time if they ask you for something or if they tend to do it. Don't let them. Tell them NO. No is the magic word.

&TiNA;

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Can anyone give me a list of romantic songs? They can be new or old. thanks!

I'll Make Love To You - Boyz 2 Men
Gots To Be - B2K
Can You Stand The Rain - Boyz 2 Men
Back To 1 - Brian McKnight
Ordinary People - John Legend
Don't Wanna Miss A Thing - Aerosmith
Angel - Amanda Perez
I Just Called To Say I Love You - Stevie Wonder
I Love You - Faith Evans
Be Without You - Mary J Blige
True Love - Faith Evans
It's Not Unsual - Tom Jones

&TiNA;

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Okay, a week ago, this guy who I barely even know (I don't even know his last name) sent me an e-mail declaring that he loves me and wants to be with me. I sent him a very polite decline, because I just do not feel that way about him at all, and now he keeps on e-mailing me with guilt trips about how he thinks he's going to be alone for the rest of his life, and he keeps telling me that he loves me. I suspect that he thinks that if he keeps doing this that I'll change my mind...I don't quite know how to deal with this. So far, I've treated him like I would want to be treated were I in his position, but he's starting to make me feel really uncomforatble. What can I do??

Thanks!

E-mail him & tell him that he's making you feel uncomfortable with these messages, and what he's saying, and tell him to stop. It's simple.

&TiNA;

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I am in desperate need of some advice. My girlfriend, I am so worried about her. She is always saying how fat she is, and she is not. But I know every girl says that, but she is going to the extrememe and it is stressing her out so much. She is trying to become anorexic again, and I just don't know what to do to help her realize that she is the most beautiful girl to walk this planet, and that she is not fat...I tell her that every single day...and she still is like this...I am so worried, please some advice on something I can do to help her understand that she is beautiful..

Oh and I forgot a lot of this came from her dad calling her fat when she was little...

I'm like this too. All my life, I've been called fat, and ugly, but I know now that neither is true. Not from help, but from finding someone who loved me.

Now, I'm not saying that's the case here, because she really does need help. Anorexia is nothing to play around with.

I think you should tell her mother, and even though she might get mad at you; at least she'd be getting the help she deserves & needs.

In the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend, he used to tell me "You're so beautiful." and I'd laugh and tell him that he was a crackhead for thinking that, but now I love it when he tells me that, because I finally realized it's true. I mean yeah, sometimes I have bad hair days and stuff, and somedays I wear no makeup, but, I'm still beautiful, and if people don't think so, that's too bad. But I still have the mindset that if someone is to call me skinny, it's not true. It's hard to explain. It's like when I hear it, something in my head triggers and tells me "No, you're fat, it's not true." So I just think I'm fat. But I'm sure this will go away over time.

But as for your girlfriend, get her help hun, that's all you can do. And still call her beautiful, because all girls love to hear it. =]

&TiNA;

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I saw a picture of some girl online with a shirt that said Andrew Is My Homeboy on it with a picture of Andrew.(Andrew Mcmahon for anyone that doesnt know.hes the lead singer/pianist for something corporate and jacks mannequin.awsome bands if you dont know them.check them out.)Iwas wondering if anyone knows where i could get that shirt.A website or something.if so id love you forever and ever.thanks guys.

They probably have it at either Hot Topic, or on the Jack's Mannequin Band Site.

=] I hope I helped.

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how does someone get raped/kidnapped over myspacve? i dont reallt get it? is it even true?

Yeah, it's unfortunately true. Some kids are so naive that they actually believe the person they're talking to is nice, but then they meet them and POW! PSYCHOTIC BABY SHOOTER ON YOU! Kidding, but no, the people are psychotic. Not all, but some. That's why I don't take adds from anyone over 18. Unless it's like, a band er something. Or a friend who made their age older as a joke. But yeah, they banned the page from school systems too.

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Ive never really told anyone this but here goes... I am 13/f and I like hollister, abercrombie, etc., I have alot of friends, I have a boyfriend, all the usual. Anyways I dont know how to explain this but I feel like a boy. I wear girl clothes, and I like boys and stuff(im not lesbian) but inside I just feel like a boy. I think its really weird. I used to wear guy clothes and stuff but that was when I was younger. Do you guys think this is weird or what? Is there like anything I can do to fix this annoying problem? Or at least I hope im not bi...

You probably just miss dressing like a guy. There's nothing wrong with dressing like a guy, or being bisexual or homosexual. I'm bi, and I dress like a girl, although sometimes I dress like a guy. But from what you said, you don't sound bi or gay. If you're not thinking about girls as "Man, she's hot. I'd bang." then you're not bi nor are you gay. I don't think it's weird. I was a tomboy as a kid, and I still have that side to me depending on how I feel. Some days I feel like being comfortable so I dress guyish. And there's nothing wrong with it. Don't let it bug you.

&TiNA;

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