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I'm nobody
13/f. Every day, I feel so lonely. It's like I'm an inanimate object. Nobody ever even seems to realize I'm alive. Nobody cares about me at all. I have no friends except my parents---that doesn't count. I try to make friends, but nobody ever gives me a second thought. In fact, I haven't had a single person at my house since I was 9. Nobody ever considers my feelings; if anyone has seen "Chicago," I feel exactly like the person singing "Cellophane." I cry like crazy every single evening at bedtime. It makes me want to do something outrageous just to see if someone would notice. Sometimes I wonder whether anyone would notice if I died. 5's to anyone who seems to emphathize...
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School is a great place to make friends as there are so many others the same/similar age.
Other than that after school clubs (sports?), may not sound cool but will help you build confidence.
Find something you enjoy and notice when other people seem to like the same things.
Its not going to be easy but if people percieve you as being a loner then they are less likely to approach, so that means you may need to approach them.
Find smaller groups of people to begin with and build on that.
Self confidence can be hard to build but helps a lot in everything. A bit of humour helps too.
I also noticed you amazing writing skills for a 13 year old, maybe poetry or something similar?
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You poor thing, I went through the same thing at school, it was hell at the time. You will come through, stay strong and talk to your parents. They would be devastated if anything happened to you and they do count, parents can be great allies in times of trouble. It sounds like you have very low self worth, so it may be good for you to volunteer for a charity etc. It will help others and give yourself a high at the same time.
When you start to rate yourself others will start to notice you too, and you could find you make friends with similar interests and experiences. I went out and volunteered for a couple of charities and it really helped, I started to feel good about myself and made friends there too. Give it try and please don't do anything drastic, life will get better as you get older. You sound like a really nice, sensitive person and the world needs people like you. Good luck honey.
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I noticed right away that you, at 13 years old, have some excellent writing skills!
Wow, I remember feeling so lonely at certain times in my life too! I know you want to feel better, and if you died, you'd never know what that feels like! Of course people would miss you.
I finally found some hobbies that I liked that caused me to meet others. I also had pets that I enjoyed very much. That's what brought me out of my lonliness.
Join a club, a church group or volunteer at a nursing home, hospital or day care. Since you have excellent writing skills you could write stories to read to others! If you make friends (young or old) it will fill up your time and your life will get better.
Sometimes people treat us the way we percieve our selves. If you build your self confidence, and see yourself getting better...others will too.
P.S. Have you watched the movie Because of Winn Dixie? It seems to me that you would like that movie.
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Well, I've got 10 years on you, and sometimes I'm still in that exact same place.
I was a loner during my teen years. Mostly because I felt so misunderstood. Teenage angst, you might call it. In some ways, I still am a loner. I have as many real genuine friends as how many fingers I have on one hand. And I don't even need to use all of them. Real friendships are hard to come by.
It's hard to make friends, what's even harder is keeping them, even when you're older. Common interests are what usually bonds two people together as friends. Are you involved in any after school activities or clubs? People are everywhere..So are potential friendships. Already having something in common kinda breaks the ice. Get out as much as possible. Take on all sorts of hobbies. Not only will it take the focus off of this horrible feeling you have, but the opportunities for friendships may present themselves.
I know you don't really count your parents...But they can be an EXCELLENT source of support if you let them be. They might even make some suggestions about some activities you can take up(and sport the funds if need be)
Take care
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Aww, I know how you feel. I used to feel the same way, and whenever I get depressed, I still do. Although, I just tell myself that people do care, wether they wanna show it or not.
Making friends is tough for some. I know. But, people are mean also, so they don't even look at certain people as a friend. This is probably what's happening. Some people are so judgemental. Making friends can be easy if you go join a club of some sort, or a sport.
I think it's good to have parents as friends. Don't get me wrong, it sounds kinda dorky, but it's a good thing. That way, fights are rare, you get what you want, and you'll always have a good relationship with them. Unless your outlook on them changes as you get older, but I still see it as a good thing. I wish me & my parents had a good relationship.
I used to cry at night because I'd think the exact same thing. I told a friend how I was feeling, and after we talked for hours, I came to realize how much people did care, and how much I was loved.
It kinda was a slap in the face..A wake up call.
Things will get better hun, don't worry.
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hey sweetie! let me start out with this! see if you follow me...we all grow and change right? well thik of this...just as we grown and change physically...we do it mentally and just as we go through puberty...and menopause...we have mental stages to. at your age(which im not to far from) is an age where are hormones are raging and things are starting to happen! your first year as a teenager will probally be one of the most stressful because the smaller things are getting to you. the most popular girl at school with the most boyfriends goes through the same thing that your going through. it happens! you feel like you want to act out because its like your this one girl in the whole wide world and no one notices you! its like standing in a crowded room and screaming at the top of your lungs and no one can hear you! i promise you will get through this and eventually people will notice you. dont do anything drastic or rebellious. people care about you. the best thing to do is to see a therapist. they can pinpoint problems and help you deal with them. it does help! you have my word! keep me posted...i care about u!!! = ]
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Ok, I am 15 now and I have been through that before or at least a similar situation. Really there are people out there who do care about you, but you probably just don't even notice.
About making friends, ya people can be pretty mean sometimes, but it is hard getting along in life without friends. Trust me on that I know. But you probably have just decided for yourself that no one will ever like you so you have given up trying, and that will get you nowhere.
You probably think what I am saying is stupid and what everyone else will say, but it is true. By saying that you will never have any friends you have basically decided that you never will so you won't even attempt anymore to try and have any friends.
Now I am telling you right now that doing something "outrageous" will not help you at all. It will just attract negative attention to you, and you do not want that. I have done a lot of stuff, and trust me it is not worth it at all.
So I hope everything works out for you, and you make the right decisions, if you ever need anything just drop it in my inbox.
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Hey Hun
well hey im 13/f to i know how you feel thats how iw as until then i stood up for my self i told the etacher if i could talk tot eh class and she said yes and i told every one how i felt and i hated it people actually noticed me adn i haev so proud of what i ddi ever since know i haev friends coming in and out of my house you need to belive in your self adn tsand up for self otherwise theres no point in getting upset if your not gonna do anything about it and if you want to talk to a counciller and if you dont stand for something you will fall for eevrything so get up tehre and try i hope i helped take care mwa mwa
plz tell me what happens take care love:hilda
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First of all you need to stop putting yourself down. If your always complaining to people about how your life sucks and you want to try something just to see who would care . Well thats why you don't have friends, try to feel good about yourself and giving yourself compliments. If this is to hard then just start out by making a list of things you are good at or that you like about yourself. Become more outgoing and introduce yourself o people. Well let me know how everything goes.
♥ jackie
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