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my parents dont understand
hello. ok so i have been dating this kid for a little bit and we dont go to the same school but we see each other and talk enough to have a good relationship. but my mom & dad dont like me hanging out with him without them there ; they are scared im gonna like have sex with him (im only 13) or something and its really annoying. if i go somewhere like a school thing or play basketball with him they are like "what happened? we dont like you all over eachother.." i dont know what i can do to let me do things like go to his house just to hang out or go to the movies or something. i just want their trust.. i mean ive never done anything that would make them not trsut me. i feel like im doing something wrong! am i ?please any advice on what i can do, will really help me. thanks in advance!
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Your parents are just being parents. They're afraid that your boyfriend will take advantage of you and hurt you. But once they get to know him and his parents, they won't be as over-protective. You should arrange them to meet. Trust me, it works =D.
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this is the same with me my dad says im not aloud to date till i marryed..well you have to tell your parents be like"im 13 what do you think im ganna do with him.I havent done anything for you to lose trust in me.im not ganna do anything!!!"
wiht you be a only child they must really care about you.It may seem so un-fair now.But when you have kids you will be protective just tell them i wnat you to trust me.and mostm of ethe time its not you they dont trust its the boy.your a only child the only child they have..
they care for you.Just undertstand that.
i really hope i helped.
<3333333katie ps im nto an only child but im the only girl out of 2 other brothers and the youngest so i kinda understand...
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Okay well let me start off by telling you I understand the down side of being an only child (I'm one too) and I know the attentions always on you, and its hard sometimes. Try to talk with them. Reassure them that you have no intrest in betraying their trust, and that you do not want to have sex or anything. Point out that you have done nothing wrong for them to not trust you. Invite him over for dinner or just to hang out at your house. If your parents get to know him they will see what a great guy he is (I'm sure hes a great guy, since you're dating him)and the better they know him, the more they will be able to trust him. Maybe even have your parents meet his parents, that way they will trust his family, and it will be easier for them to let you go over to his house. Plus, don't fight with them about it, you have to show them you are responsible and mature enough to have a boyfriend. You don't want to prove them right by acting like a little kid and throwing a temper tantrum! I hope my advice helped you some! Good Luck!
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I see why your parents worry that you guys will be doing things like that.
For one, teenagers are having sex younger and younger now, and they don't even stop to think about STD's/AIDS/ and pregnancy.
Also, you have to remember that you're they're little girl, and they're only kid, so of course they're gonna be way protective and that's normal. I'm not an only child, and my parents still watch me like a hawk.
Girls at this age tend to get attached to their boyfriends because they think they're "in love." Half the kids these days don't know what love is, and it's not love, it's an obsession.
You're not doing anything wrong, they're just worried because they don't want you to have kids at 14, or whatever. You have to understand why your parents are worried, and to put yourself in their shoes.
At least you have a boyfriend, I wasn't supposed to have a boyfriend until I was 16.
Talk to them about how you feel. Tell them you understand where they're coming from, but also tell them that you'd like some privacy with your boyfriend, and they should trust you and know you won't do anything they wouldn't want you to. I hope I helped you.
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You aren't doing anything wrong. Its natural that you want alone time with your boyfriend.
The thing is that parents have to struggle with what they think is best for you. 13 is really a bit young for dating, so they at least allow you to have a boyfriend.
Have you read some of the questions we get on here? Sometimes even 13 year old kids get all wrapped up in sex.
I know you think you wouldn't but your parents aren't so sure. It isn't that they don't trust you, but peer pressure is there and your parents have to take it into consideration.
So try and understand their reasons. The day will come when they feel they can let you date a boy without them being so strict about it. How you behave with the restrictions you have now will probably determine when. :)
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