ok, so i just found out that the boy i like likes me. we danced at a dance awhile back, but we really never got to know eachother. and my friends like "ohh, tomarrow you'll see!" and i think he wants to ask me out..? im wicked nervous for a couple things.
1. i only know him some-what
2. if he does get to know me,im afriad he wont like me.
3. if he asks me out i'll probably ruin it,or be a bad girlfriend.
i'm wicked nervous,as you can see, i haven't had a boyfriend in awhile, i just dont know what to do! should i go for it? help? :D
Sure, by all means go for it. :D
1) The best thing to do is either go out with him and get to know him or just say you'd like ot go out with him but you want to get to know him first so if you can both just hang out for a bit first till you know more about him. Either way even if you do go out with him andhe's not what you expected then you can always break things off. Just because you're going out it doesn't mean you have to do anything with him. Just get to know him first.
2) Aww, why would you say that? Why wouldn't he like you if he got to know you? You're just being paranoid and it's nothing to worry about. At the end of the day you do want him to like you for who you are right? :D So be yourself and if he likes you for you then it's all good. If he doesn't then to hell with him; you'll easily find another guy - there's plenty out there on the horizon.
3) Again, you're just being paranoid. Don't worry about it. Just be yourself and you'll do fine. I think the only way anyone can ruin a relationship is by lying or cheating. As long as you're honest and such you'll make an awesome girlfriend. :]
As I said though, it's up to you if you want to say yes or no to him but either way just get to know him before you decide to go further than just dating and such because as you said yourself you don't know all that much about him and at the end of the day to get into a relationship you do need to know if you like him for who he is and not just for what he looks like on the outside (and what people say he's like).
Good luck and remember, no worryin about things or puttin yourself down. You'll be awesome. :D
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Ok so below is a MySpace bulletin I saw. I didn't take any of the stuff out because I didn't know if it was important or not. Does anyone know what's wrong with it? I know it's weird, but I just can't find the error. Thanks =]
WHATS WRONG HERE ? ? ? ?
Body: Find the error. It's impossible!
AAA
BBB
CCC
DDD
EEE
FFF
GGG
HHH
III
JJJ
KKK
LLL
MMM
NNN
OOO
PPP
QQQ
RRR
SSS
TTT
UUU
VVV
WWW
XXX
YYY
ZZZ
Did you know that 80% of UCSD students could not find the error above? Repost this with the title "Whats wrong here," and when you click "post bulletin," the answer will be really obvious
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The reason 80% of them couldn't find the error is probably because there is no error. :]
Apart from the obvious grammer error at the title (WHATS > WHAT'S) there's no error there at all. :O
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I have alot of music questions.
First off, I want to be a singer or an actress.
Think I'd have a better shot at singing since I've written like 15 songs.
Questions:
Is it true that when you start out, bands do better than just a singer?
Should I get a band together?
If I did start a band, would I have to play an instrument, 'cause I wouldn't know which one to play; I can't move my left hand a different way than my right.
So I couldn't do piano unless it was one-handed, but most picano has the left hand doing something more background-ish while the right hand plays the key parts.
I can't do that.
Is bass hard to do?
And can you sing while playing bass?
I didn't think so...
okay, and also I need to know would the songs I sing HAVE to ALWAYS be mine, or can I use other people's songs?
Like, could I take a song by Superchic[k[ and sing it?
Couldn't use their song on a CD, right?
I'm just so confused, but I really want to sing...
ANY information you could give me would be great!!!!!!
even if you can't answer my questions, anything you know about music would ROCK!!!
PLEASE HELP
thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi.
I can't answer all your questions in great detail as the experts (my cousin as well as one of my uncles would be asleep at this time and they are all heavily into music - uncle had his own band and my cousin is a producer).
I'm not sure about bands vs solo singer though but I can say that no, to put a song from another band and such onto your own CD/album would probably not be allowed since they are under copyrights. If you plan to be a cover band I'm not sure about the implications of singing other artists songs to put them onto a CD but I know you can sing the songs (like at a night club or some venue as such).
Also no, you don't have to play an instrument just to be an artist. Some have bands as well as a lead singer who does nothing but sing. So if you're a singer you can just do that. It's not hard I would think to play an instrument as well as sing though as I've seen many bands who do this.
If you have a load of song already that you want to do I would suggest your next step being to put music to them (if you haven't done this already) and see how a few of them go from there. It's a long long process from where you are to actually putting out a CD but it will require dedication (oneof the reasons some companies are weary of bands with a lead singer is because of how an argument can rip the band apart thus the company loosing money they invested in that band).
If I manage to speak to my uncle and my cousin tomorrow for you (as well as a friend who does a lot of band promoting) I'll try and get back to you with more information but I'm afraid I can't make any promises.
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there is this boy named nick he broke up with me. a mouth later he had a nother girl named abby what did i care but untill my friend came over and said you know abby he really wasn't going out with her. my friend said that he was tring to make me jealous. which was oveis.
what should i do
(i'm 17 and female) (he is 18 and male)
Typical guy. :/ I think you should just ignore him. If he wants to play games like these then leave them to him.
If he broke up with you then he may want you back but doesn't want to look the fool and is trying to make you jealous so you go after him. It seems just a typical guy thing to do really. If you really do want him back then by all means say something to him but if you're over him then let him carry on doing what he's doing and make a fool of himself.
Personally if this was his idea of trying to tell you he wants you back then I think you can do a lot better than this guy. :]
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15/f im 5'3 and i weigh around 125pds i need to lose weight but its really hard for me im really depressed, so its hard to just start exersing, im on medicane but it hasnt helped yet,i dont eat alot but when i do eat its not healthy or i eat to much and throwup.i also have a really bad matabolism.i have the hardest time sticking to diets - i need tips on lossing weight and staying motavied.
thanks
Hello.
First of all don't feel depressed. I know you probably hear this allll the time but I can safely say from how you describe you sound just fine to me. :]
The thing with diets is that it can be very hard to stick to them but once you get into the routine it becomes second nature. I don't want to recommend a whole routine for you because my routine works for me but it may not be good for you. I think the best thing you can do is try to join a gym (if they will allow you to join since most are awkward about allowing minors to join). If they do though you should ask them for advice on what kind of exercise to do as well as a good diet routine you can stick to.
For starters, one way to go about it is to eat 3 meals a day. This is important. Not eating is not good for you at all and will have a worse effect on your body. Generally it's not about eating less it's about eating healthy. So for example, in the morning have a nutricious breakfast. A cerial that's high in fibre is always a very good option (I have 2 weetabix every morning). Use low fat milk instead of full fat milk if you want (but you don't have to) and insteadof using sweetener cut up a banana into the cerial and a few strawberries. As a drink have whatever you want but avoid something fizzy - even better have a fruity instead (a mixed fruit shake).
Have 3 meals but try make them as healthy as you can and during the course of the day avoid chocolate and fizzy drinks and all that junk. If you need something sweet havesome fruit (keep a bag of sweet grapes in your room to nibble on whenever you feel the urge for a snack). If you really must have chocolate then get some jaffa cakes (they are chocolate but are also very low in fat). Avoid fizzy drinks that contain caffine so stick tothings like lemonade and such. All these little things will make a big difference. Limit yourself but doit within reason and don't go too far too quickly. Diets take time and patience. If you rush yourself you'll get ahead of youerself and just end up getting yourself depressed. It's hard at this kind of time too because of the summer when everyone is out showing off their figures but don't let how you look stop you. Show off how you look - it'll be the last time they see you that way. :] I hate how I am which is why I'm on a diet (lots of personal reasons why but I won't get into them here) but I take things in my stride and don't let it get to me. I know I'll eventually make it and so can you. Just believe in yourself. As for your motabolism, there are herbal tablets you can take which help with motabolism BUT before you even consider taking these please MAKE SURE you speak to your family doctor first to make sure you can take them safely. That is VERY important because as I said before, last thing you want to do while trying to look better is to end up causing your body more harm.
Good luck though. You can do it just believe in yourself. If you need any more advice at all on this just give me a shout. We're both pretty much on the same track. :]
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is their a way to track who has been to a page on a site from an outside source dont say o thats illegal no its not the internet is an open resource you can do it completly legally but i dont know how
There is a way to a certain degree but it usually depends on the site in question.
I can use an assignment I had a good number of years back now where I was asked to trace someone who was leaving malicious messages on a message board.
Leaving out the technique I used I can safely say that that after about an hour or so I was able totrace the person to his company (where he was using the work computer to leave malicious messages). The web site in question was logging all individuals who were posting messages on the forums viatheir IP addresses. I was able to use this to backtrack all the way to the company.
Generally when dealing with a home computer owner you can trace it to the ISP of the user and report them to the ISP who investigate further and, if need be, determine any kind of fine, banning or warnings. In my case since it was a specific company (a toy companies head office to be exact) I was able to contact the human resources department directly and speak to the manager. After convincing the manager I had traced it to their company (with proof since they were unwilling to accept this since they connect via a proxy server it's not possible for them to be traced) I can safely say the person in question was harshly disciplined.
In short - yes it is possible.
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17f,
ok heres the dealo i did stuff with these 2 guys that i work with and they all and were with somebody i didnt fuck them but i did on the other hand give them a hand job and one of them fingered me and felt up my boobs and i felt really sluty and bad one of the guys i use to care for and the other one i really care for still and the one that i use to like i only done a hand job once!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! but i knew what i was doing so my question is why do i only do stuff with people who are with other people when i myself doesnt want it get hurt and thinks its wrong to cheat on other pple but i allow them to cheat on there gurlfriends with little virgin me why im not in a relationship because when asked i just cant bring myself to say yes and well im really not all that confidence and im jeleous and i hide that pretty well so why do i fall for the people who i know cant offer me nothing and than i feel sluty and alone and i pray that nobody does it to me i know im not a slut cause im still a virgin but help me please what is wrong with me thanks advice highly needed
I'm not sure why you do it - only you can really know the reason behind that but at a guess I would think it's the whole knowing that they have someone else but that you can also have them and make them cheat on their girlfriends (the whole jealousy thing). This is only a guess but as I said, only you yourself know the true reasons behind it.
I will say this though -either of these guys are NOT guys you want to be getting involved with even if they say they will dump who their with for you because like you said about someone doing the same to you, they will ore than likely do the exact same to you. No matter how much a guy says they will change - there's a big chance they they just won't.
First thing you need to do is put a stop to this stuff with these two guys - they don't deserve someone like you at all. They don't even deserve the girlfriends they are with now let alone you.
As for you, I don't think that you're a bad person at heart. You know what you're doing is wrong but you're letting this jealousy and envy get the better of you. This will be the first thing you need to control and stop. In my opinion there's nothing wrong with someone who is shy (lack of confidence usually implies the person is shy) and to be honest I find it kind of sweet.
Don't think that you'll be alone either. You are obviously a really nice person deep down and someone who obviously knows what she is doing is wrong. You just need to lay your jealousy to rest so you can let what you're really like out. Guys will come along too. Some may be jerks but there will be that special one that will be deserving of you and vice-versa but it's just a matter of being patient.
Being attracted to guys who are taken is not a sin because that happens to everyone but you DO need to know where to draw the line and leave it at that crushing and nothing more. You just need to be able to say no to them. More so that they are with someone. If they want to dump who they are with just to be with you then youll need to ask yourself how long will it be before another girl comes along and he does the same with you. That's why guys like that are just best avoided (unreliable guys who have no clue what they want or who they like). We all feel alone though (I've been single just over 2 years now so imagine how I must feel) but just be patient - that special guy will come along.:] Like I said, you are obviously a really niceperson so you've a lot going for you, it's just a matter of being patient and not letting jealousy run your life and ruin who you really are.
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ahh ok where to start.. 16/f and 17/m.. well ive been with him about 10 months. and i love him i really do, but i cant freaking breath anymore! ive felt this way for awhile. i just need some space man. but its like hes soo dependent on me.. like im his oxygen or something. we go to diff. schools, so i talk to him in the mornin, after school if were not workin, and at night. we used to talk for hours and hours, but now, i just want some chill time ya kno. so now i might talk to him for 30-45 minutes, and then be like ill call you back later or somethin, and he'll give me the whole "you dont wanna talk to me anymore" guilt trip deal.. or else he'll be like where are you going?? [another thing.. i HATE being soo invaded.. its always "what are you doing, where are you going, who are you talking to".. and he doesnt give up until i answer.. i mean honestly, privacy anyone? but then if im like "i dont have to tell you everything" then hes like "i didnt say you had to" but when you keep pushin me like that.. then uh hellooo]. also, sometimes when i say ill call him back, a few hours will roll around and he'll call me back and be like im sorry but i was going crazy i had to talk to you. AHH. or if he does actually wait till i call him then hes all moody and bitter bc "i didnt wanna talk to him" or wtfe. or else he`ll answer and in stead of hello its "...finally". this isnt a once in a blue moon things its ALL the dang time. i feel so suffocated! and talking to him really does a whole lotta nothing.. ughh wut can i do before i go crazy?
btw.. no breakin up.. i dont want that.
Hi. :)
Well, to be honest I don't think you need any advice from anyone on here, hehe. I think the only thing I need to say is, "Talk to him about it and tell him what you told me." :]
I totally understand where you're coming from though because one of my ex's was just like this and after a while I felt like I was being suffocated and eventually it caused me to start pushing her away more and more because of it. I mean I like it when someones clingy, it doesn't bother me because it's sweet in some ways (shows they really want me etc) but overdoing it can be very off-putting.
I think you should talk to him about it and tell him how you feel and NOT let him guilt trip you anymore. To some extent the whole questions about where you're going etc, etc, etc is almost an indication of paranoia. To what ends though; your guess would be as good as mine. Just talking to him may solve the problem.
As for you wanting some space - everyone needs time away from things and people. It happens. Doesn't mean you don't love them anymore it just means you need some space to yourself. So explain this to him and tell him you need some space just for you to be able to get on with things without having him there constantly over your shoulders (so to speak). It doesn'tmean you're both breaking up or that your on a break (at least not the kind of break where people seem to think it's an open invitation to go out and do whatever they want because they 'on a break'). I'm sure you know what I mean though. :P Obviously if he understands the whole being smothered thing then you may not even need to resort to taking a break anyway, but it's an idea that's there incase you feel you need it. :)
Hope everything works out. :)
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My razor's [ phone ] screen completley went blank and now it doesn't work. I can recive calls and call people but I can't use the screen at all.
The problem is that NONE of my numbers are saved to my SIM card, they're all saved to my phone.
So my question is to anyone who has a razor, can you please explain to me how to fix this. I know why my screen is messed up and I want to try to save my numbers to my SIM card before I get a new phone.
Any help, please?
Hi.
Since I don't actually have this phone I can't try what I would normally have tried which was to give you directions on what to press to try save all the numbers from your phone to your sim.
There's a few things I can suggest though. If you're in the UK it might be worthwhilepopping into the phone shop of the company you're with (Vodafone, T-Mobile, O2 etc) and have a word with them and ask them to try get your numbers saved to your sim. They should be able to help you on this.
Another thing to try is if you have the book to go with the phone (or you can try find it online) and then in the book it should give you directions on how to save your phone book to your sim. You'll be working blind because you can't see the screen but if you follow the directions carefully you should be able to manage it but still, I would save this as a last resort incase you end up deleting them instead.
Last but not least there's the data/usb cable that you may have with it. If you had a cable with it to allow you to plug it into a PC you should be able to have it up and running on the PC screen and, using the PC, access your phone book and either manually write down all the numbers which you can then save to your SIM afterwards or export the list to your PC (which you'll be able to then later import back onto your new phone/sim.
Hope one of these ideas works.
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my urine isn't really yellow, it's like realllyyy light yellow whiteish.. what could be some reasons for this?
Yes, there is a reason for this. It's actually quite strange you ask this after I was looking into this and managed to find a clip on you tube about urine and it's colour.
Instead of me trying to explain it all to you I think the best thing will be for you to pop over and have a look. :]
The link you need is as follows:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=54x4Rk7ss88
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the clitorus is the little bump like the first thing you feel and its not in the accual opening where the guys dick goes right????
and is that little bump the same place where yuou pee.... im really comfused about where all this stuff is?!!!
please help
The clit is just above the viginal opening (where the guys dick goes). It might be hidden under what it known as the 'hood' which is basicaly there to protect the clit.
And no the clit is not where you will urinate from. The clit is a collection of nerve endings which is why it is very sensitive and thus is protected by the hood or the skin covering it.
I think the best thing to do so you can understand your body a little better is to look up in a medical book of some sort (or even look up on the net) a site where they will show you all the parts as well as explain themall in greated detail. Surprises me though that your school has not provided you with this information.
Hope I was helpful. :]
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I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months now, but I've been unhappy because he gets mad at me for the stupidest reasons and expects me to drop all of my guy friends, even though 98% of them are guys. He has this one best friend, and it's a girl. She has a boyfriend who is also my boyfriends best friend. My boyfriend always hangs out with the girl and whenever I;m with the two of them, I feel like the third wheel because he always ignores me or is insanely mean to me. He constantly tells me he loves me and tells me he has no interest in her and if he did, he would've wentfor her a couple of years ago. Her and her boyfriend have been dating over a year but I still think they have a thing for eachother considering I asked him to stop hanging out with her for awhile because I was starting to get really uncomfortable with it. Me and him hangout everyday, but the two days we can't he goes and hangsout with her. It's gotten to the point to where I don't trust him at all and everytime they hangout I get really worried and end up crying to him on the phone while he sits there and flips out on me for it. I just need advice on this :(
♥`*Genn
Hello Genn.
I know exactly how you feel because I've been thorugh something very similar.
First and foremost though why does he want you to stop hanging out with all your friends who are guys? I'll try make this as clear as I can but two people going out, to me, are just two people going out. Even if they love each other (which is a lovely thing) but they are still two people going out. That doesn't mean that one owns the other or vice-versa. That doesn't mean you HAVE to do what the other says just because they said so. You're a person in a relationship you're not a slave!
I think you should ask why he wants you to drop all your male friends. Whatever excuse he has for it if he wants you to do that then I think it's only fair he does the same with ALL of his female friends too. Another thing you need to consider is that by alienating all your friends you will only have him left and if sometime down the line you both broke up you need to remember that you already got rid of all your friends so you'll have no one else there as a friend to turn to. I know its morbid to think that you may break up somewhere down the line but to be honest if anyone actually thinks their relationship is perfect and can never break up I believe they are living in a fantasy. Relationships just don't work that way. They either will work out or they wont - the chances are 50:50, there's no exceptions.
You need to sit him down and have a chat with him about how you feel and your insecurity. I can't really say if there might be something going on or not because to be honest I just don't know. But if he's going to be insulting you infront of her when your out I see noreason you should put up with it so go out with your real friends instead. You shouldn't have to put up with this crap from your bf. No one should have to.
Bottom line is that trust is the bondin a relationship. When you start questuioning that or when you lose trust altogether the relationship just leads to being doomed. You need to talk to him to try resolve this and tell him you both need to TALK not have him shouting at you. That'snot going to solve anything for starters but it's also something you DONT need to put up with. I'm sorry that I can't really advice much else but for starters I think you and him need to sit down and have a serious chat about things starting with how he wants you to stop talking to your friends (I see no reason why you should have to) and about the insults. They need to stop. See how things go from there and if you need more advice or if theres more I can help with (regatding what I said here) just send me a message.
Good luck and I hope you'll be okay. :(
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my boyfriends three years older than me. hes eighteen and im fifteen. hes way more expirienced then i am. he always asks me when im on my period cause he wants to suck me down there it makes me uncomfortable. but he tells me its what every girl does when shes on her period. so i did it once and it was verrrrryyyy uncomvortable and grose but he seemed to like it. he keeps asking me now how do i telll him no without him wanting to break up with me? thanks.
I'll be extremely blunt... nope it's not what every girl does or likes and if you feel uncomfortable about doing it you should just say no.
Also, another thing I'll be very blunt on... if he breaks up with you just because you say no to something he wants to do (even if its no to sex or whatever it might be) then you can be assured he's only with you for that and nothing else. Any guy that would break up with a gf over something so stupid is a guy that's only using her no matter how much he says otherwise.
I would suggest you tell him no for doing it again because you don't like it and then see from there how it goes. If he says all the other girls like it... well, you're not other girls are you? And if he threatens to break it off with you then do it yourself instead and find yourself a guy who at least likes you for who you are instead of just what he can do and get out of you.
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First let me start off by saying i have been with my boyfriend since October 23rd 2005. I'm 15 yrs old , and he just turned 18. My parents let him move in the 3rd month we were together, so we have been living with each other for awhile. I cheated on him a couple of times when we first got together and everytime we get in arguments he brings it up. I'm really in love with him , when im not around him for one second i have this feeling of lonelyness. We fight all the time , he always says i start them but sometimes i dont. Ive been trying really hard not to start an argument but it doesnt seem like hes putting in any effort. He always calls me names even if we just get into a disagreement. And theres been a couple times hes hurt me physically. He's choked me a couple of times and pushed me down. I know deep down hes not really a bad guy but im scared hes going to really hurt me. He always leaves me when he gets mad and im the one that always has to call him to come back. Hes hurt me mentally to where sometimes i think im not all there. Im young and my mom and dad are really concerned , i shouldnt be going through this. I was wondering if anyone could give some advice on mabe to make this relationship better , because i really dont want to have to leave him. Theres alot more to my story but im not going to write anymore.
- kaylaa
Hi Kaylaa.
My first instinct is to tell you to get rid of him because of he is able to physically abuse you then that's something you shouldn't have to put up with, no matter what age you are.
He may have said repeatedly that it was because he was angry but if he's not able to control his temper when angry all the better reason to do something about it because that clearly shows when he is angry he is very capable of seriously hurting you without being able to control himself or what he is doing.
However, you've made it clear you don't want to break up with him so I fear no matter how much I tell you it'll be for the best will probably not make a difference. I will however say that it may be time you both took a break from each other. You have both been around each other so long and it's now starting to fall apart because of that very reason (I've seen it happen all too often). By going ona break I don't mean breaking up or being free to sleep with everyone else and all that crap. I just mean allow yourselves to have some space between each other. Take time away so you're not both under each others feet 24/7. Takea couple of weeks or so and it should help.
I am curious though, why have your parents not stepped in with all this abuse going on. Or are they not aware of any of that which happened?
Tobe honest my first instinct is still to say to get rid of this guy for the way he has been treating you. Fair enough you had cheated on him but things like that do happen but it's no excuseto physically attack you. Something like that is totally uncalled for and unjustified. I think the next time that he does something like that you call the local authorities so he can explain his excuses to them. He won't stop until he sees that there are reprocussions to what he is doing, that much I am almost certain of. I'd be more specific but it's details I prefer not to mention here (but for the recordno, I've never struck a girl before in my life and never will do if I have it my way).
I think taking this break between yourselves is the best way to go about it to try and fix the air between you both, it might be something that is worth talking to him about. You'll just need to be clear it's not a break up nor does it mean you both can do whatever you want with whoever you want. You still love him and only him but you need some time to yourself without him there around you all the time in the hopes it will improve things. Agree to a time frame but I suggest no less than a week. Then see how it goes from there.
Also, although it's your choice, I suggest you make it very clear you will not tolerate any more physical abuse from him. You're his gf not his punch bag - you need to make sureyou understand that. I know you love himbut that doesn't give him ANY right to strike you, at all.
If you want to talk more then by all means feel free to message me and such and letme know how things go with you both. I hope things do work out but no more putting up with abuse please. You don't need that - I don't care how much heloves you or vice-versa, no one is worth getting physocally/mentally abused for.
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Does anyone know if there's an online version of Bejewled 2 for Mac computers?
I use a Mac G4 powerbook, if that matter. I love that game but it won't work from msn games...
Thanks.
Not sure if you are looking for a free version or a version you can use with another person over the net but I did a quick look around for you...
You can download a trial version here for the mac but I believe you have to buy the full version:
http://www.bigfishgames.com/mac/bejeweled2/index.html?src=bfg12y09engsmbj2&gclid=CMK-_ZC77YsCFRROQwodtzN9Uw
Another site but again you seem to have to pay for the full version:
http://www.popcap.com/launchpage.php?theGame=bejeweled2&os=mac
And another:
http://www.macgamestore.com/detail.php?ProductID=463
I think best thing to do is tosee which is the best priced and such. If you are looking to get a free version then I suggest looking at torrent sites and such because it seems it's not available unless you are willing to pay for it. :[
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Okay, so lately I have been feeling very apathetic about things like; school, relationships, friendships, and my family. I used to be such a 'nice' person according to my friends and family. But then suddenly my personality's changing, and I really don't know why. It's not an existential kind of problem, but more of 'I don't know who I am as a person' kind of problem. It's been really bothering my lately, and it has been deteriorating the relationships I have made around the people that I really care about. I didn't think that I needed help for this, but it's really bugging me. How can I know who I really am as a person?
You're not alone in feeling this way because almost everyone goes through this at one point or another. We all at some point stop and look at ourselves and ask ourselves who we are. I've been asking myself that question for years now and I still haven't found my answer.
You're growing up and changing just like things around you are changing and you're starting to question things but don't think of it as a bad thing at all. Just give yourself time to find the answers and they will come to you in time. I've found with something like this there (about who you really are) it's nothing somoene can tell you - it's something you have to explore for yourself to find the answers.
As for your relationships around you the best you can really do is ask them to try and bare with you while you go through this phase but give yourself time to discover who you really are. It's really all you can do but don't let it get to the point that you are starting to worry you're loosing yourself. Worrying about it will only make you stress about it more but I think with something like this it does take time and patience.
Don't worry, you'll find yourself and who you are.
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is it absolutely necessary to give my boyfriend head before we can have sex? i just hate the whole idea of it and really would rather skip it.. we've done everything else, but does anyone have any experience with just skipping that? or do i just have to suck it up? (i feel like once i do it, then im required to do it again)
any opinions would be nice
I'll be very honest with you... I hate it too (obviously not giving but recieving I mean). I just find it does nothing for me and I've had a perfectly fine sex life (when I was in a relationship) without it.
If it's something you don't want to do then by all means don't feel you have to. Tell your bf you don't like doing it so you don't want to do it - I'm sure he will understand. At the end of the day it's a privledge not a necessity. With me it made no difference in skipping that so I see no reason why you can't either.
If he does want foreplay though before sex then there are a lot of other things that can be done without having to engage in a bj. You just have to let your bf know though that it's something you don't want to do because you don't like it.
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hey i just started watching heroes this season, so i've only seen 2 episodes so far. im really confused, so can someone explain what's been going on in the seasons before and who everyone is and explain this season also? if you dont feel like explaining the seasons before, at least explain who everyone is and what's going on in this season, becasue im realy confused! =]
The only series I know as Heroes is the one that's currently on TV about the people who have special powers (a bit like x-men but the series is more down to earth and believable).
If this is the series you refer to then you should know that this is still in its first season. In the USA there was a pause between episode 18 and 19 (about 2 months break I think) whereas here in the UK the series has been ongoing but is well behind from the airing in the USA. We're on episode 12 here and the USA are now on episode 20, both of which would have been shown last night.
If you haven't see the previous episodes I strongly suggest you do otherwise the story does get very confusing. I have been downloading episodes since I can't wait a whole week (and the US are soooo far ahead on episodes, lol) so am up to date on what's been going on but it's hard to know all of this because my brother and sister who also watch it are only keeping up with the UK showings.
The following site should be able to give you information about the episodes you've missed as well as insight into the people and I *think* you're able to watch the episodes on that site but I am not sure as I have not tried.
http://www.tv.com/heroes/show/17552/episode_listings.html
It's an awesome series though so I do hope you manage to watch the previous parts. I'm sorry I can't try explain the story so far or the people involved simply because there is so much going on (if I was you I'd be very confused too) that it's really hard for me to even try and explain it.
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Is it true that most girls like sex and thinking about it as much as guys do, like they love doing sexual things as much as guys do so if you just ask them they will most likely say yes??
This varies from person to person. They say guys always think about sex but I think I can honestly say I don't have sex on the mind all the time. However, yes, girls do (some NOT all) do enjoy sex just as much as guys do. As I said though, everyone is different.
Also, if you mean by, "if you ask them they will most likely say yes" that you can just go up to a girl and ask her for sex she will just say yes becuase she likes sex then you need a wake up call. Some girls THINK about sex as much as guys do - they don't make it a job to be sluts for just whatever guy comes along. If this is how low you think girls are then you have a lot to learn. :|
EDIT: A 1? Aww, guess I hurt your feelings?
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I'll try and make a long story ,short.
Theres this boy, we kinda hooked up and other stuff [if ya know what i mean] over the summer and he knew i liked him and i think he liked me.
Well,people found out about our hookup and we kinda stopped talking and just didnt act the same around eachother ,i still like him but he has a girlfriend.Now at my school,alot of the guys act like they dont like me because im never mean to them and i let them say whatever they want and so alot of people make alot of jokes about me.
His best friend told me that Josh[the boy i like]
really used to like me and says he doesnt like me anymore but he still talks about me all the time and his best friend thinks he still likes me but just says he doesnt because he has a girlfriend.[his bestfriends name is Jimmy]
Jimmy told me also that he just doesnt talk to me because all the others dont and he just wants to fit it and try to be cool,so he only messes with me if he gets the chance,or he'll make a little remark here and there but Jimmy said thats his way of saying he likes me.
I guess Jimmy wasnt supposed to tell me that or he was lying because Josh came up to me and said something about how Jimmy told me all that stuff and he said " did jimmy tell you that i liked you and stuff?" and i acted dumb [because he has a girlfriend] and i said " um no?" and then Josh said "good ,because that would be gross"
then that ended that and usually Josh would make a remark to me about something or say something to me and the last few days ,he hasn't.
Now I dont know whether to trust his best friend or to believe Josh himself, but Josh tends to be a liar and he's always trying to act cool and be like everyone else and Jimmy isnt like that ,and thats his best best friend and Jimmy is one guy who doesnt make fun of me,and he's not known to lie and on top of that ,Jimmy didnt know I used to like Josh until I told him , so he couldnt have been making that up to see if I admitted something.And Jimmy would tell me stuff that I told Josh, like how we used to hangout and stuff.
So I need help, I dont know what to believe and I'm really scared to talk to Josh because I don't know how he'll react to it and he'll think im really weird.
And I know your going to say "forget josh,hes immature" but i really like him and all the guys are like that and i know he'll mature.
What should i do?
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Personally I think you should forget about the pair of them. One is talking behind his friends back (or is telling you stuff his friend is telling him to tell you or whichever it might be) and the other is only interested in what he can get out of you! That's not immature that's scum! You can do a hell of a lot better than someone like that. For all you know, all you was to this guy was someone he can go to over the summer. Was he and you fooling around during the summer behind his gf? If you were then that only makes what I said even more true about this guy - all he's doing is using you.
I know you really like him but I really like tigers but I wouldn't hug one. :/ There's liking and their's being played and to be honest it just seems like this guy was playing you. Even if he wasn't to treat you like dirt just to fit in and seem 'cool' is a pretty lame and pathetic excuse. I won't say forget him because that's not easy to do but you DO need to get over him. You need to and you can find someone a hell of a lot better than this guy (no matter how much you try and convince me or yourself that you can't).
I wouldn't be surprised that on your next big break/holidays from school he'll be right back at your door to 'hang' out with you and 'stuff'. It would just go to priove my point about this guy. Get yourself a guy who deserves someone as nice as you are. :]
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