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is it absolutely necessary to give my boyfriend head before we can have sex? i just hate the whole idea of it and really would rather skip it.. we've done everything else, but does anyone have any experience with just skipping that? or do i just have to suck it up? (i feel like once i do it, then im required to do it again)
any opinions would be nice
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don't do anything that you don't want to do. it's not necessary, it's more like a part of foreplay before having actual intercourse. if you don't want to, don't. it's not like he can force you to do something like that. and if he tries to, just tell him why you don't want to and that it would make you feel uncomfortable. and he will probably want you to do it again if you do it once. so don't get yourself into something you don't want to be involved in ;).
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You don't have to do it if you don't want to. Nobody has to ever do anything sexual that they don't want to, and they can't be forced into it. Since you don't want to do it, and you just want to go straight to sex, there's nothing wrong with that. My boyfriend's friend did that too. A lot of people do it first because it's just a step closer to sex, because they're not quite ready to go that far yet.
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Heres the deal. If you want to have sex oaky. But if you dont like giving a blow job then thats fine to. Personally I hate that crap to. Ive skipped it too. I mean there are other kinds of fur play to do. And if he doesnt respect your decision then mabye you should let him know how you fell. Stannd up for what you want to do.
Hope I helped
Bianca
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Not doing it is not wrong, but it isnt such a big deal either. If I were you I would talk to him and tell him it makes you uncomfortable.
(But it never hurts to try. I always said I would never try it either, because just the thought disgusted me. But after trying it, I found it wasn't what I had pictured. So maybe give it a try, just once, and see. Just tell him it is just a try and if you don't like it you won't do it anymore, that way there is no pressure on you to try it again.)
Now I don't know which part of it makes you grossed out, but I was always thinking the taste. So if you want to try it once, make it a little kinky. Try edible things, chocolate syrup or an edible body creams made just for that. It will help set the mood, and make everything a whole lot more fun for the both of you. Now if you try this it will get messy so keep a washcloth and warm water in a bowl near you to clean him off. You can also use that and get his chest and back wet and give him a massage too. If you are worried about your skills when giving a bj, then the edible creams and the massage will help with that. Just the fact that you are getting so kinky and creative with all this will turn him on so much, Im pretty sure he won't be focusing on you giving him head, but rather what comes after that. So no worries :) Best of luck hun. Need anything else, message me back.
~Sherah
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If you really just hate the idea completely, tell him so. If he really loves you, he'll respect that decision.
You could also tell him that you're willing to do it once, and that if you don't like it, you'll never do it again -- that's what I told my boyfriend, and I ended up enjoying it more than I thought I did.
You don't HAVE to suck it up. No matter what. And if he has any respect for you, he'll understand that. =]
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if you really dont want to.. then no you dont have to. its not necessary. just tell him you dont want to. if hes not okay with that then hes not a very good boyfriend.
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Alot of people don't like doing it. Of course he'd like you to, but if you don't feel comfortable, despite what the previous advicenator said, he WILL respect the decisions you make. Oral sex isn't a necessity and you should never ever feel pressured into doing it if you don't want to.
You could givie it a try if you WANT to and make it clear to him if you don't like it, you won't be doing it again.
It's all your choice :)
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I didn't and I told him I never would.
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if you hate the idea of it, you don't have to do it.
you don't have to have sex, either.
if your boyfriend demands sex or whatever, then it could be that he's only in a relationship with you to have sex.
I'm sorry, but that's the way A LOT of guys are.
love is sacrificing what you want for someone else. love is not sex.
I think you should just skip the whole thing.
abstinence rocks
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giving your man a bj is normal. if you dont do it hes not gna respect you. itll put him off if you dont do it coz hell think u dont lyk him or his penis.
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I'll be very honest with you... I hate it too (obviously not giving but recieving I mean). I just find it does nothing for me and I've had a perfectly fine sex life (when I was in a relationship) without it.
If it's something you don't want to do then by all means don't feel you have to. Tell your bf you don't like doing it so you don't want to do it - I'm sure he will understand. At the end of the day it's a privledge not a necessity. With me it made no difference in skipping that so I see no reason why you can't either.
If he does want foreplay though before sex then there are a lot of other things that can be done without having to engage in a bj. You just have to let your bf know though that it's something you don't want to do because you don't like it.
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