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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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well im 13 n my bro has a friend thats 16 n when ever like we r around eachother he smiles at me n i blush rele easly n well i kinda like him but he wouyld never go out w. me.. but like my bro invited him to worlds of fun n well he kept walkin by me n siting w. me on rides.. n well he came to our new house to help us move n i came in n he just smiled at me again n its rele confusing cuz idk if he likes me or what....

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maybe he likes you or maybe he just thinks you are a cute kid. who knows? maybe you should ask him and see.

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ok im 13, 5'4, and 97 lbs and a high matabalizm. my friends say im skinny, and i agree but sometimes i think im too skinny.. when im at school people make fun of me bcuz they think im anorexic but im not. i try to gain a few pounds but the more i try to gain, the more i lose. can you help me please! thx *Marielle*

you need to increase you eating habits and stop doing so many activities where you are very active. basically, sit around and be a couch potatoe and just chow down for a while. i bet if you do that, and then step on that scale you will have gained weight. you can also talk to your doctor about a specific vitamin you can take that will help you gain muscular growth.

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I want to ask this guy to prom for next year!! I know it's ealry but I want him to go and I even i don't go with him i just want to dance with him!! What should I do?? A lot of ppl think that he is gay but i think he's metrosexual like ryan seacrest!! A lot of other girls are gonna ask him if i don't ask in advance!!
HELP ME!!

*4evainLuv

go ahead and ask him. if you dont someone else might. and if he says maybe, its still early, atleast you know he is keeping you in mind.

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hey ya'll ..i just turned 15 and i was just wonderin..when does your chest usually become fully developed?..like i'm a 34B & iduno i think that's small..but i'm already 15..is that guna b my chest size? or am i yound enough that i'm still developing?..=/..thanx xOx

you will continue to develope until you are about 18. if you have sex, it could slow down or eevn stop your developement, so keep that in mind. but no one knows for sure if you will stay a 34B for the rest of your life or not. only your dna knows that. but i will tell you that when you get older if you have a child, your breast will change. but that doesnt mean i am saying to go have a baby so you can have big titties, lol, because i am not. notice i said when you are older, i'm just preparing you for the future.

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Should i have sex wid my bf for like our 1 year anniversary i mean it would be a nice present!! and i dunno ppl say im to young (i will be 14) but i kno pplz who r younger than me and have already done it i mean its not like he iz juss some guy he iz the love of my life and he means the world to me and i feel that im comfortable to have sex wid him but should i wait till im like 16 or juss do wat i feel iz right?!?!? thanx

-x- unknown -x-

okay well you should definitely wait. you are only 14. you're hormones, emotions and impulses will be raging for the next couple of years. do you know how many "loves of your life" you will probably have? i mean you probably think i am being a total bitch. but i am being honest, and telling you from experience. wait! i know you think you are comfortable with this guy now, but he may not be around forever so just wait. and if he cares about you he will understand.

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okay...i was with this guy for a month and then we had sex but the next day an old guy friend called me and we talked for a while even tho i was still at his house. then he got really upset and started yelling at me and i yelled at him saying how he cant talk to me like that and he slapped me across the face. i broke up wit him right then and there and called my sister to come pick me up and the next day he called me saying how hes so sorry he was just going through a lot and has so much stress on his back (which i knew he did) and he called me and asked me to take him back..this was today and i know that i shouldnt but i love him and i have all these feelings for him..what should i do because there is always a chance that he could do it again????

yeah but there is also a chance that he wont do it again. its not fair to say that. Whos to say that one day he wont piss you off and you might smack him on impulse. i say if you love the guy you should trust the guy and forgive him. but if him hitting you became a habit or something then leave him. but atleast give him a chnace.

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im a 14 year old male teen soi use tthe comp alot.my mom and dad r always tryin 2 c wat i do on the comp. they almost neva give me ne privacy on it. in fact rite now im on a crumy laptop in my bed and every1s alseep. 2day they say me talkin 2 som1 on AIM that they didnt no. they kept bitchen bout how i broke their trust or somethin and now my dad is gonna take aim away 4ever off all our comps!!! som1 plz help me and tell me wat i shud do!!!

how did you break their trust? do they think you are a fuckin idiot? or a 4 yr old? Tell them they need to chill out. Well actually explain to them that need to trust you. That you are not stupid and there is nothing wrong with talking to people on the internet. They need to calm down and know that you wont do anything stupid.

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hey i am just curious, the new song "I Miss You" by Blink-182 always gets to me when ever i hear it..i like just start crying!!! what does that song mean? or like what does it talk about?? i cant understand what the message it is sending is but it chokes me up! thanks!

how the hell can you be crying over a song you dont even understand? RETARD!

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hey im 12 and like 5'2 or 5'3.. :not sure: and im 107.. bvut i think i lost a lil weight.. wuts the normal weight for this hieght?
xox CraZyBBie

shut the fuck up and go eat a cheese burger. you are too skinny.

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Ok, I'm sorry, I really don't need advice but...

Is it just me, or is every1 else sick of these kids in their early teens talking about having sex?

It is fully YOUR decision about whether or not u are ready 4 sex but if u r having any doubts about it that u prolly aren't ready. Even better, u should prolly wait until ur older (or even married) cuz then u know that u truely love the person cuz u shouldn't b doing anything that u might regret.

Ok... I think that about does it w/ my tyraid...

i agree. i dont get why these 13,14, and 15 year olds think it is okay to have sex. they are just horny and cant control themselves. they have no idea what real sex even is.

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ok well my so called best friends all hate me now and i feel like tha world has turned its bak and everythang and cant trust en1 cept my bf and he has really helped me alot wit all thi sand he trusly is tha only 1 i can talk to enmore and my bff r gettin more mad bekuz im alwayz talkin 2 him or with him but thats only kuz hes really tha only 1 there 4 me enmore wut should i do?? kuz ive tried talkin and ive ever sed i wuld sacfice luv 2 save our friendship they wont let me and everythang but nuttin is workin wut should i do??????
-Lost..Confused..Sad-

fuck them. hwy should you have to kiss thier asses and beg for thier friendship? dont you see what you are doing to yourself? they are porbably laughing at you behind your back. they dont care about you if they are putting you through this shit. stick with your bf and find some new friends. ones that dont make you beat yourself up and make you feel like you are doing something wrong when you're not. fuck them! i repeat FUCK THEM!

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Ok well i was thinkin bout u kno havin sex widd my bf of ova 9 months but im only 13 almost 14 so i think have decided to wait for that big step u kno!! but ne wayz i wanna be able to do otha stuff wid him like give him a bj and like have him do stuff to me so should i??? and like wat kinda stuff???? thanx


* a curious george *

okay well good. dont have sex yet, you're way too young. wait like 2 or 3 years. but yeah if you want to do other stuff thats not sex, thats cool. so yeah go ahead give eachother oral, play with yourselves, i dont know.

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Alright. I'm fourteen-years-old and I'm a Freshman, this year, in High School; just to give you an idea of where I am, as far as maturing goes.

No one has ever really spoken to me about health and growing. And I suppose I'll end up learning about this in Sex Ed. but I figured I would get advice, now, anyways.

This afternoon, I started noticing a soreness on the sides and tops of my breasts. I'm not entirely sure what this soreness means or whether or not it's a good thing so that's where I need help.

Is it normal to have sore breasts? Do you get 'growing pains' as you mature, on your chest?

Thank you, in advance, for your help.

yes there is a such thing as growing pains. some girls get pains when their chest ia developing. this is normal. as long as you dont feel any lumps you are fine. if it really bothers you try laying in a hot tub and relaxing. i am pregnant, so my breast are growing too, the same way yours are, and when my breast get sore thats what i do, it helps alot. hope you feel better.

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ok i dont have much information but i want to find out who sings this one song.

i'm pretty sure its call "shorty" or it has shorty in the title, but i'm not sure. also, its a hip-hop song. i'm pretty sure this phrase is is the song: shorty get up on the dance floor.

sorry i dont know any more about the song but if anyone can figure out what song it is please tell me who sings it

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yeah that was really informative. do you know how many songs probbaly say that? this is an advice website not a place where you ask about the titles of songs and stuff. sheesh!

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I've always been one of those people who got along with almost everyone. LAst year there was a girl that really didn't like me and I didn't know why. I still don't. Everyone thought she felt threatened by me, they said I had more friends or I was more punk, i dunno anyway. She's been starting rumors about me like I'm a satan worshipper???? Weird huh? What do you think I should do about her or say to her?

well are you a satan worshipper? if not then who gives a fuck what she has to say. she probably is threatened by you. but hey that can be a good thing, because that obviously means that you are so much on her mind that she has to talk about you all fuckin day long. as long as your friends know the truth and you know the truth that is all that matters. but if the rumors really bother you, tell the bitch to cut it the fuck short before you have to kick her ass.

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Kay im almost 15 female...i met this guy bout 3 1/2 years ago...we went out a four times (in tha 3 year period)n he played me 2 times...n tha other time i broke up with him..n tha last time...about 10 months ago he broke up with me bc things were two complicated...well tha whole school year we were on n off friends...he was tha first guy who ever told me that they loved me. And sumhow i noe in his own way he does...well now im not sure were we r at...we have been talking online ALOT flirting n stuff n we talk on tha fone alot two! well he lately we have been really close...n online we were talking and he had said that he really missed me n wanted us ta kick it soon n stuff n he had told me he was sorry bout everything in tha past n that he wants to be with me...well b4 earlier in tha year he would NEVA come ova to my house bc him n my mom dont exactly get along to good...well two nights ago him n his step brother came ova just so he could see me..they stayed fer about two hours or so...we kissed...n then later we made out just a lil bit..n we flirted infront of everyone n we have sooo many inside jokes but yeah...n he would keep tickeling me bc he noes all my tickleish spots n then he had his arms around me n was playin round n kept hittin my ass...it was all in fun n i had alot of fun! then they got picked up by one of there friends...he called me later that night at like midnight n we talked fer an hour or so...he use to neva call me...him n his step brother are 15 and 17...they went up to their grandparents cabin this weekand unsupervised so that kinda sux fer me but he called me twice y-day which he usually doesnt do...i really think he has changed butttttt....my friend stephanie thinks they r guna hook up..she is like obsessivly crazy for him and it is so irratating..im not sure what to do tho?!!?should i trust him n try to be with him or should i try to just forget it... Plllz help XoXo

well why does your friend think she is gonna hook up with him? does he flirt with her too? or make her think that? if so then leave the guy alone because he is just playing with your head again. but if you honestly think he is not interested in her, then tell your friend to leave him alone. tell her you still like him and plus it is gross for her to be with someone who you have been with. why does she want your seconds? but as for you and the guy. it seems like he does still like you. maybe he has changed his ways. talk to him about giving things another try.

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Hey does anyone know something I can download like Kazaa or Piolet, so I can download music for free?

i dont know many, but i will advice you not to download kazaa, that shit fucks up your computer, trust me.

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is it okie to like an 18 year old if in 13 its only 5 years n i mess w. him i tell him i will call him when im 18 n he just laughs is it okie that i like him!?!?!

its okay that you like him. but i wouldnt mess around with him until i was legal. too much of an age gap.

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what is a hymen on a girl?

okay 1st off only a girls have hymens. there is no hymen on a boy lol. its basically a skin that if penetarted, normally by sex, will break. and that is what is considered loosing your virginity.

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is there good way i can lose some weight.. im not fat at all but i got some pudge in the middl of my stoamach... please help me

if you are not fat,and you just have some pudge on in the middle of your stomach, then you dont need to lose weight. just do crunches. 100 in the morning and 100 at night. you have to stick with them though to see progress.

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