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get back together?
okay...i was with this guy for a month and then we had sex but the next day an old guy friend called me and we talked for a while even tho i was still at his house. then he got really upset and started yelling at me and i yelled at him saying how he cant talk to me like that and he slapped me across the face. i broke up wit him right then and there and called my sister to come pick me up and the next day he called me saying how hes so sorry he was just going through a lot and has so much stress on his back (which i knew he did) and he called me and asked me to take him back..this was today and i know that i shouldnt but i love him and i have all these feelings for him..what should i do because there is always a chance that he could do it again????
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First of all, it would be a good idea if you talked to him face to face. See exactly what kind of things have been bothering him. Tell him that his stress problems shouldn't be released on you in any form of abuse!!! That includes excessive slapping, hitting, name calling, etc. If you really love him than try to work things out. However, make it very clear that if he has any sort of stress to talk to you about it freely, rather than bottle it up untill he explodes in your face! If it is true love than you should both be willing to work at fixing the problems.
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Well if you want him back you better talk about things... I (personally) wouldn't. But I'm not here to telll you what I would do. People get abusive for many personal reasons... Maybe he was abused? But you need to tell him if you want to get back with him... That it WILL NOT happen again. And ask him why he did it. If anything is emotional wrong with him. Hope all goes well :) -Britty-
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Don't take him back. He might have stress in his life and on his back but that doesn't give him the right to physically abuse you. No one has that right. I think you deserve better than that and can get better than that. He might be sorry because he realized that you left him. I personally think, if he hit you this early in the relationship I'm sure he will again when feelings get stronger. Hope I helped! If you need anything else let me know ok?
*Laci
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IDK sweetie ive heard things like this happend before and all but no guy i mean no guy should ever hit you he might have done that to other girls and all but thats an abusive relationship it could be that more will happen far down the road...Use your heart
-cass-
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yeah but there is also a chance that he wont do it again. its not fair to say that. Whos to say that one day he wont piss you off and you might smack him on impulse. i say if you love the guy you should trust the guy and forgive him. but if him hitting you became a habit or something then leave him. but atleast give him a chnace.
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No! No! No! No! No! He dosen't love you! When you get to in a relationship, they bf should ALWAYS respect you! ALWAYS! I dun care what the situation was. They hit you now, they'll hit you later, I promise you that. He dosen't love you cause if he did he would have never laid his hand on you to begin with! I say no, no, no! Yeah you already did the right thing but you forgot something else, to kick him in the ballz cause he honestly deserves that. I would have hurt a person.... but no don't take him back, he'll hurt you again, and i am sure you can find someone better!..... I hope this helps! God Bless! And Good Luck! Beebyes! ~1ne~
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I think you should follow your heart.But be careful on what you do with him.If he is stressed out right now, try and take some time away from him to let him relax.
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i think that if u love him like that give him one more chance.. but if he does it again it should be OVER.. so if u feel hes the rite one then u take him back..
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nooo noo way ne guy that raises his hand to u .. evn once..ius not worth it..move on u can find lotsss of new ppl it mite b hard but u can do it..ne guy that lays a hand on u is fken a horribleeeee person and dun deserve u AT ALL!
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there is two choices.n i will tell u what it leads too.#1:dunt forgive him never talk to him n ull evantullay find someone lese."(dude i bet this "i love him"thing is a teen fling
#2:forgive him evantulay get married he will betray u n come back asking for forgiveness like u did years ago aand history will repaet itself
Witch ever future u want...go with it...and rember _best advice comes the heart
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Hey! Okay, do NOT go back out with that guy! He is abusive, dont listen to how sorry he is, its not right to slap someone across the face, if he really cared about yew he wouldnt have done it in the first place, and yew never kno what might happen again, and plus yew just had sex with some other guy so i dont think thats okay if yew just leik totally ditch him, obviously yew guys had some sort of connection going on between yew two. Just remember, no girl deserves a kinda guy liek him. xox*
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DON'T GO BACK!!! If anything, YOU should've slapped HIM.
If you let him get away with it once, you pretty much let him get away with it for a lifetime. Stress may be an issue, but I doubt it. You were right saying he shouldn't talk to you that way. Don't go back--you'd be trapping yourself.
IF you're going to take him back, don't do it right away. Give it time...a couple of months perhaps to let him know FOR SURE that he was DEFINITELY in the wrong to hit you.
Don't take shit from anyone, you don't deserve it.
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dont go back...a guy who thinks he can lay even a HAND on you doesnt deserve you...you may think you love him and what not but you deserve sooo much better..hes a douche for hitting you. dont go back.. hope u get thru it ok =D
*jesikuh
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It's almost a positive that he would do it again. I would not take him back. There is no excuse for him hitting you, even if he was under so much stress. Tell your parents, friends, and whoever else that really cares about you. Tell them to make sure that you don't go back to him. Whenever you think about any kind of good feelings that you had for him, remember how much of an asshole he was when he slapped you.
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He had not 1 right to slapp u even though u love him i wouldnt go back cuz there are thoughs chances that he could get mad at u again and slap u or even worse. so think about it b4 u make a decision!
Hope i helped
.*.>> Caitlin <<.*.
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