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Okay, so there's this guy in my class who totally hot but he was going out with another girl and pretending to like one of my best friends(he's a playa). I like him but so do a lot of other girls. I don't even think he looks at me unless he's calling me byu the nickname that I hate. What should I do? (link)
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Since he's a player, you really do not want to get involved with this guy. Trust me, I've been there and I learned from my mistake. If you already know he's a player and he's not making any effore to change (which he obviously isn't since he's "pretending" to like your bff), then he isn't going to be any different with you, unfortunately.
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I have spoken to me and has told me i am his world and reason for breathing. I told him that i just need him to text or call me every now and then, so i feel thought about not just a mom or girlfriend. Yes we gone thru very difficult time i had big operations and it has destroyed my life. i can't work as i firefighter anymore and i lost my confidence andsense of who i am and he feels awful that he can't help me and is upset that he can't help me. Things have changed for him too he got promoted and is under more stress but he manages to havehis time yet i dont and guess resent it a bit but i just wanthim to be romantic again! I do ask and listen and give and we loveeach other dearly but he no longer shows it? (link)
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You could try planning a really romantic evening for the two of you and see if you can rekindle some romance. If that doesn't work, try talking to him about, more in depth. Letting him know exactly how it makes you feel, etc. I'm sure that he will understand (he probably doesn't realize how this is making you feel), and things will get better from here.
However, what disturbs me more than that is that you say you've lost your confidence. We as humans, go through so many different things, some even traumatic. That doesn't mean that our lives are over or that we are no longer beautiful people - you are still a beautiful person, the same person you were before you had these operations, and things can and will get better for you.
Try doing little things that make you happy and feel confident. =]
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my cousin is really popular. im a guy and she is a girl. we go to different schools and i feel like such a loser. she is very pretty and has a boyfriend. i just feel like she never wants to hang out with my becasue i am her loser cousin. what do i do to hang out with my family?! (link)
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I think you should talk to her about it, she may not even realize the vibe you're getting from her. You see, a lot of popular people are really nice and don't consider other not-so-popular people to be losers. I'm sure she doesn't feel like you're a loser, she just doesn't understand how she makes you feel.
Try talking to her and letting her know how you're feeling and I'm sure things will work out and you'll spend more time together.
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hi am a 13 year old guy and ve like only made out wit a girl 1 befor and dont want to ambares my self if im bad or anything wit my g/f now whos had expierence. u have any tips or anything thanks (link)
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First off, do not be nervous when you decide to make out with your girlfriend. It will things very awkward and not enjoyable. Do not worry about what you could've done or should've done while you're making out either, another thing to make it awkward. The basic thing is to be confident, take it easy, and if you get to the point where you don't really know what to do, then follow her lead (go with the flow). Since she's had more experience, she will probably take the lead anyhow, so just go with the flow and I'm sure everything will work out just fine for you.
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what should i do...
the guy i like is like 5 inches shorter than me should i go out with him or not??? (link)
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In a realtionship, height (along with weight) should not matter. If you really like a person, those things shouldn't mean a thing to you, or the person you're with. Relationships are so much more than that.
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i heard that ur good at givin good advice so i wonder if u can answer this question for me
ok so there's this boy i really like and he knows i like him. he's a real quiet boy. like he wont talk 2 me unless i say somethin 2 him but he talks my bro and my sis, like if my sis sends him a text message or a message on myspace he answers but when i do it he dont answer back. and im to shy and nervous 2 talk 2 him. we dont really talk so it'll be kinda weird if i call him yeah so im thinking he dont like me but like he do be lookin at me and stuff and if i say somethin he'll pay extra attention or like if i ask somebody a question he'll ask them wat i asked or something like that but then again he'll mess with girls rite infront if me i think 2 make me jealous or something but i dont know, but wat do you think i should do and why do you think he is doing this
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I think that this guy does like you, he's just shy and nervous (as you are) around you because he does like you. Guys are really hard to read sometimes, such as he's not shy or nervous around your brother and sister, but he is around you. Now, this may sound like a bad thing to you, but it actually means that he does like you, wants to talk to you, but finds himself stumbling over his words when he does.
I suggest trying to communicate with him more often, even if it's just a "Hi, how are you?" type of thing. Anything to get the two of you talking, as you talk more, you'll become much more comfortable with one another and therefore, being able to talk to each other without getting nervous or shy.
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I have dated one guys for 5 years now an he has cheated on me 17 times. I moved out from his house an now i live with someone i really get along with. Everytime i try to break up with the other guy he begs me not to do it that he will change. Please i need so advice on how to tell him i dnt want him no more (link)
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Tell him that you're tired of being cheated on and no matter what he says, he doesn a completely different thing. If he says he's going to change, tell him about the 17 times he's told you that, and the 17 times he's screwed you over.
Believe you, you deserve much better than this. Tell him it's over, it's done - he is done! Don't worry about his feelings or how sorry he acts, think of all the times, seventeen to be exact, that he's hurt your feelings repeatedely. Obviously, he doesn't care about your feelings, so you shouldn't care about his either.
Bottom line: My friend, trust me on this one, kick him to the curb - you'll be A WHOLE LOT better off!
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its my future sisters birthday and i desperatley need gift ideas! shes 25, easy going, and has a lot of stuff already.
it has to be good though because she got me lots of nice things for my birthday.
any answer would be appreciated please.
thanks xxx (link)
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This should help you out. Some other ideas would be a gift card to her favorite store, a new purse or outfit, or you could make her something nice, as well.
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=518322
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Ok, this girl who's in my class is really sweet, and she's been with her boyfriend for about 19 months.
They've had sex a couple of times and she's ok about it.
At a party I saw her boyfriend go off with another girl (my friend was grounded then).
I didn't think much of it until my boyfriend told me 'Why did Sean f*ck Lily??Isn't he with Bella(my friend)??''
A week ago my boyfriend told me that Sean had got Lily pregnant..and the worst thing is that Lily is Bella's cousin!
Should someone tell Bella, since we all know that Sean won't tell her.
I'm worried... (link)
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Just to be sure, I would talk to Sean personally, and let him know that if he doesn't tell Bella, you'll have to - because ultimately, you are her friend and your job is to look out for her, and help her as much as you can. If he doesn't tell her, you definitely should. I know, it's not an easy position to be in, it's quite a bad one, in fact, but your friend needs to know. I can nearly guarantee that she would tell you if she knew something had happened with your boyfriend and another girl, to look out for you.
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on tyra banks -
"She is somewhere in her 30s (I think its 34 but I'm not sure) and models retire at a young age (about 25). She is too old to model now."
a girl said that is it true that they do retire?
how come i see other old models like 40s or maybe they just look old
is it possible to be 40 and be a model (link)
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Oh absolutely, there are models in their forties and over that, too. You tell your friend if all the good models retire at 25, then why is there a wonderful and gorgeous woman named, Christie Brinkley still around? There are many others as well, Christy just happens to be one of the most common and popular.
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how do u make hair grow faster? besides waiting and cutting it... (link)
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In order for your hair to grow faster, it must have the proper vitamins and nutrients. Garnier Fructis Fortifying Shampoo & Conditioner is perfect for growing your hair quickly, it has all the essential vitamins and nutrients, plus it smells lovely!
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I would like to know if you would date someone online and then eventually meet them? As for me, There's a couple different issues to this matter. Here in my area, there aren't a lot of nice girls around here, but when I'm online, I find someone who is nice and hot, but they live too far away. It's probabily someone I wouldn't meet either way. What are your opinions on this matter? (link)
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I personally, would never meet someone online. I'm not into online dating, so that would be my personal choice. However, generally, a person would have to take in account their age, and what exactly their looking for or expecting of the relationship, if they did choose to meet. If you're a minor, I say "No way!" There are way too many predators out there, luring in young teens. If you're not a minor, looking for a good, solid person and you really want to do the online dating - I would suggest signing up with a legitimate site where they do background checks, and if you feel as though you do like someone, I don't see anything wrong with meeting them. You still may want to bring someone with you and/or meet in a public place, just for safety purposes incase the person happens to be a creep or a crazy psycho.
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Are there any kids health and fitness sites like this one http://www.getyourmoveon.com/# or kidnetics.com? Any help would be much apreciated. (link)
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Here's a great one...
www.kidshealth.org
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do emo kids get made fun of a lot? (link)
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Unfortunately, they do tend to get picked on and made fun of often. You see, these days, just about any sign of emotion, self expression or creativity is looked down upon by many people. It's definitely not right to discriminate against them, I have many friends who are considered "emo," however, I only know them as "friend."
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My best friend is a guy. He is amazing. I'm confused though because he wants to go to the next step in our "relationship". Sex. I think I want to, but I'm not sure. i've never done that before. What shouldI do. I'm scared. But I REALLY REALLY REALLY want to. (link)
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It's understandable to be scared, nervous and not sure - in these times, no matter how bad you want to do something, it's best not to. You see, once you have sex with someone, that's it, you're virginity is gone forever. If you aren't sure about having sex, you shouldn't do it. You need to wait as long as it takes to know that you're completely sure and won't have any regrets about it.
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If you had the name Glessy, what nicknames would you give her? [i also prefer funny ones but its okay]
GLESSY is is the name. It can also be Glessida. (link)
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*Aunt Bessy or Bessy
*Glesada
*Glesaranda
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so for prom this year i'm wearing a knee length buttercup-yellow dress. i'm a little stuck on what to do with my makeup (i always do really natural, barely-there makeup, so i want to do something a little more extreme. the problem is, i'm bad with makeup colors). does anyone have any good ideas for what will go with a yellow dress, green eyes, and dark blondish/light brownish hair?
here is my dress if it helps: http://www.cache.com/cache/control/product/~category_id=0110/~product_id=05044A70224170
thanks so much!! (link)
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"Eye Shadow:
You'll look best in salmon, pinkish brown, mauve and medium purple shades of eye shadow. Choose one shade only to use at a time and apply it all over eyes, from lash-line to brows.
Mascara:
Apply one coat of black mascara.
Lip Color:
Your best lip look is clear gloss or a very sheer gloss in bronze, brick or raisin red.
Special Occasions:
A glittery purple or brownish pink eye shadow all over lids will make you shine. Pair it with one to two coats of black mascara. Keep lips sheer and pretty with a shiny bronzed or brown-red gloss."
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Our school needs cute t-shirt ideas.
One we have right now is a picture of a cake on the front and then the back would say: SMHS takes the cake. But I need better ones. Any advice? (link)
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*SMHS rocks our socks
*SMHS are the unstoppable
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Is that you in that picture (on your profile)?
Can you give me a little guide to getting my hair like that? It's so pretty, BTW! :]
Thanks so much! (link)
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No, actually it's Ashlee Simpson.
You can get this hairstyle by using a spiral curling iron. You'll want to curl all of your hair with it , but instead of curling clear up to the roots - you want to only curl to the midsection of your hair. Once you're finished, pull back some of your hair into a clip and pull a couple of strings on each side of your face (you could also curl these pieces, if you'd like).
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ok so im a freshman and i babysit this 9 year old and her older brother is 13 and one of her brothers friends are kinda cute and hes extremely tall (taller than me and can pass for a sophmore or junior in high school) and he is 13 too and im going to be 15 in a few months but is that totally weird to kinda like him ? (hes in 7th grade and im in 9th) (link)
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I don't think so, I'm not a big fan of "age matters." Of course, under certain circumstances - it does. However, in this case, it really doesn't. If you really like him and want to date him or see where the relationship could go, I say, Go for it. =)
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