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My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.

I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.

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Back in May (last month I guess you can say), I applied and had an interview with this job. I really would love working there, but I was not chosen as a candidate for the position, since of course they found better candidates.

Well I just saw they posted an ad on the internet about looking for more employees for the same position and company. I have much interest in working there (since having experience in the field), and I love their work environment.. so is it possible I could contact them again and see if they can give me a second chance?

Thanks for the time into reading this, and your response(s)!

I say go for it!

You only live once and if you really want the job, then go for the job.

Just make sure that if they have a question or a box to check asking if you have applied before, that you answer with "Yes, but was not chosen as a candidate. But I still have much interest in working for the company." or something like that.

Good luck :)

-Laura (17-f)

Okay guys will be uys i understand that.
Why do guys always say they love a girl but really there just playing her. i dont understand any of that.

guys your advice would help me..

13/f

Not all guys are "players". Though, at your age of 13, they are immature. I'm a girl, so I don't know what runs through their mind (or why for that matter), but like I said, not all guys are bad.

It gets better as you get older, I can tell you that much. I know a number of guys my age who aren't only looking to get in a girl's pants. As they get older, they (Well, most of them anyways. But there are exceptions to every rule...) will start looking for a real connection, an actual relationship and not just some random hook-up. But at 13, I don't think you should worry so much about it.

Spend time with friends and family. Focus on school and stuff. You're young and have PLENTY of time for guys.

-Laura (17-f)

My boyfriend and i broke up.
we broke up on sunday and it was really weird how he explained it. We broke up because his mom thought we were geting to close. He said that we could still be friends, hang out., adn go on dates. He said that we could still do everything we were doing whenever we were dating but we aren't going to be dating. He still tells me he loves me and calls me babe. BUT! he hasn't called me in 2 days nothing at all. idk what to do. he broke my heart but i still want to be his friend but not with benifits im not a slut..

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=564711

From there:

I have found, firsthand, that the best way to get over a guy is to do the following:

Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...

Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.

Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.

Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.

Honestly, it's going to take time, and it's going to be hard, but once you get over him you will feel SO much better. I promise you that this guy is NOT worth wasting all of your time on, and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Go out and find a new guy that treats you right and is WORTH your time. Forget about this guy ASAP. You're young and have plenty of time for guys. And, as one of my favorite books puts it: The first boy is always the hardest.

Honestly:

Friends with benefits doesn't work, especially after a break-up. It just complicates things further, and causes you to get re-attached to your ex. This will make things even worse when THAT ends.

Your best bet is moving on and getting over him, this guy is NOT worth it.

-Laura (17-f)

I am so scared! My mom just was diagnosed with anemia which is loss of red blood cells or something like that and she is going to get more blood tests done. I was reading some causes of anemia and one of them listed on a website was cancer. Do you think my mom has cancer if she has anemia? I mean, is it a rare thing that anemia comes from cancer or is it very, very common to be anemic because you have cancer? Confused.

I'm anemic and I don't have cancer.

The reason I became anemic was because I was a vegetarian. Not eating meat + being a super picky eater = disaster.

Your mom will most likely be fine. She should get some vitamins fortified with extra iron to help with the fatigue and weakness, etc. That's what I did and I feel much better :)

-Laura (17-f)

ok so i am basically getting bored of the songs on my mp4 player and i cant find any other good ones so what are some good songs that i can listen to while walking my dog or walking home
thanks
btw i dont really like rap songs so preferably not them and my favourite types of songs are rock, metal and stuff like that
thanks again haha

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=545691

From there:

A Wolf in Sheep's Clothing: This Providence.
*Boom Boom Pow: Black Eyed Peas.
BoysBoysBoys: Lady Gaga.
Circus: Britney Spears.
Control: Metro Station.
Devastation and Reform: Relient k.
Discotech: Young Love.
*Don't Trust Me: 3Oh!3.
Find a New Way: Young Love.
Gives You Hell: All-American Rejects.
Hey Italy: Halifax.
I'm So Sick: Flyleaf.
Is It Any Wonder?: Keane.
*I Do Not Hook Up: Kelly Clarkson.
Jamie All Over: Mayday Parade.
Just Dance: Lady Gaga.
*Lucky: Lucky Twice.
*Lovegame: Lady Gaga.
Miss You, Love You: Maroon 5.
Now You're Gone: Basshunter.
Poker Face: Lady Gaga.
*Ricochet!: Shiny Toy Guns.
Say it Ain't So: Weezer.
Say This Sooner: The Almost.
Single Ladies: Beyonce.
So What: Pink.
Take it Home: The White Tie Affair.
That's Not my Name: The Ting Tings.
This Is War: Flight 409.
Weightless: All Time Low.
Welcome to the World: Kevin Rudolf.
*When I Grow Up: Mayday Parade.

-Laura (17-f)

What's an ideal outfit for a girl to wear to hang out with a guy?

I just asked my best guy friend this question, because I was curious myself after reading your question, and his exact response was:

"Guys don't care too much about fashion. If he really likes you, he'll like what you're wearing."

So basically, I'd say go with wearing whatever you want. I'm not a guy, but I trust my friend with his answer, so I think you're fine wearing whatever you want.

-Laura (17-f)

I've been hanging out with this guy. Do guys think it's wrong for girls to make a move.. like a kiss.. first? If I know he likes me.

Why would it be wrong?

It's totally fine. It shows you're confident, and obviously that you're into the guy. Why NOT go for it!?

-Laura (17-f)

I have been having dreams about my exboyfriend a lot recently, and I really do miss him.

We dated last may until november, and it may not seem that long, but we were with each other day and night. We did everything together. I loved him with all of my heart and I know he did love me also. His exgirlfriends broke us up, they were insane about breaking us up.

After our relationship failed in November he started dating a new girl, and she they have been together since then. i haven't tried breaking them up because all I want for him is to be happy. I wish he knew this. He doesn't want anything to do with me at all, he won't even add me on myspace. I miss him so much and words can't explain how much I want him back now. I don't know what I can do. It seems like all I can do is wait for them to break up and STILL I'd have to wish that he would ever come back to me.

I love him, and I lost him, what do I do

I think you should move on. It's not healthy to dwell on the past :(

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=564711

From there:

I have found, firsthand, that the best way to get over a gut is to do the following:

Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...

Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.

Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.

Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.

Honestly, it's going to take time, and it's going to be hard, but once you get over him you will feel SO much better. I promise you that this guy is NOT worth wasting all of your time on, and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Go out and find a new guy that treats you right and is WORTH your time. Forget about this guy ASAP. You're young and have plenty of time for guys. And, as one of my favorite books puts it: The first boy is always the hardest.

Best of luck & feel better soon! :)

-Laura (17-f)

Smell is important in my book. But what scent do you guys love a girl to wear.. vanilla? fruity? perfumy? anything else? Lots of different responses would be great.

I use Garnier Fructis shampoo/conditioner, and I get compliments from guys all the time on the way my hair smells. And it makes it look nice.

I also wear the Nollie perfume from Pac Sun, and my best guy friend told me it is "the best smell in the entire world". I've also been complimented by other guys, too.

Well, those are my best suggestions. Good luck!

-Laura (17-f)

I always wear skinny jeans now. I have no idea what guys think of them. What do you guys think?

It really depends on the guy.

I've heard some guys say they think skinny jeans are hot. Then I've heard some guys say they think they're the dumbest thing ever invented. So, it really varies from person to person.

-Laura (17-f)

Where is your favorite place to put your hands, and body, while you're making out?

I don't have much experience but from the experience I DO have- I agree with Sima. His hair is my favorite, running them through it and messing with it ;)

-Laura (17-f)

I really want to have a special song with my boyfriend and he thinks it's a neat idea too. We both tried to think of neat songs to "have" together but we're not coming up with much, really.

We've thought about:

"The dance" by Garth Brooks
"You're still the one" by Shania Twain
"Remember when" by Alan Jackson
"Holding you holds me together" by Gretchen Wilson
"I'll Look After You" by The Fray
"Truly Madly Deeply" by Savage Garden
"Lovesong" by The Cure

...but nothing is really sticking as a great song to have together. :\

Does anyone have a good suggestion for our song together?

1,2,3,4: Plain White T's.
Alive with the Glory of Love: Say Anything.
*Amazing: Josh Kelley.
*At Least We Made It This Far: Relient k.
Baby, It's Fact: Hellogoodbye.
Best of Me: The Starting Line.
The Best Thing: Relient k.
California: Metro Station.
*Can't Stop: Maroon 5.
Check Yes Juliet: We The Kings.
*Die Alone: Ingrid Michaelson.
Getting Into You: Relient k.
Gravity: Sara Bareilles.
Hands Down: Dashboard Confessional.
Hanging by a Moment: Lifehouse.
Her Eyes: Pat Monahan.
Here in Your Arms: Hellogoodbye.
Hey Jealousy: Hit the Lights.
*I'm Yours: Jason Mraz.
I Caught Fire: The Used.
I Wanna: All-American Rejects.
It Had to be You: Motion City Soundtrack.
Leave the Light on: A Kidnap in Color.
*Love Story: Taylor Swift.
Lucky: Jason Mraz & Colbie Calliat.
Maps: Yeah Yeah Yeahs.
Must've Done Something Right: Relient k.
*My Beautiful Rescue: This Providence.
No Air: Jordin Sparks and Chris Brown.
No One Can Touch Us: Sing It Loud.
Only One: Yellowcard.
Oxygen: Colbie Calliat.
Realize: School Boy Humor.
Red Balloon: Backseat Goodbye.
Say it Again: Marie Digby.
She Will be Loved: Maroon 5.
So Much Love: The Rocket Summer.
Stolen: Dashboard Confessional.
That's So You: The Rocket Summer.
Thunder: Boys Like Girls.
Undeniable: Mat Kearney.
*Up and Up: Relient k.
*The Way I Am: Ingrid Michaelson.
We're Going to be Friends: The White Stripes.
With You: Chris Brown.
Who Needs Air: the Classic Crime.
Why Can't I?: Liz Phair.
You Be The Anchor...: Mayday Parade.
You Belong With Me: Taylor Swift.
You Found Me: The Fray.
Your Guardian Angel: The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.
Young Love: Gavin Degraw.

-Laura (17-f)

My boyfriend and I are having our six month anniversary on Friday and I want to make him a mixed CD of songs to share with him. I don't really know what KIND of songs to put on the CD, let alone which specific songs.

Should I make a mix CD of love songs? My favorite songs? His favorite songs? What?!?! And...are there any SPECIFIC songs I should really add to the CD before I give it to him? Ugh, how in the world do I make the perfect mix CD? :\

Mix it up! I think you should put love songs and his favorite songs.

Here are some suggestions, too:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=545691

From there:

1,2,3,4: Plain White T's.
Alive with the Glory of Love: Say Anything.
*Amazing: Josh Kelley.
*At Least We Made It This Far: Relient k.
Baby, It's Fact: Hellogoodbye.
Best of Me: The Starting Line.
The Best Thing: Relient k.
California: Metro Station.
*Can't Stop: Maroon 5.
Check Yes Juliet: We The Kings.
*Die Alone: Ingrid Michaelson.
Getting Into You: Relient k.
Gravity: Sara Bareilles.
Hands Down: Dashboard Confessional.
Hanging by a Moment: Lifehouse.
Her Eyes: Pat Monahan.
Here in Your Arms: Hellogoodbye.
Hey Jealousy: Hit the Lights.
*I'm Yours: Jason Mraz.
I Caught Fire: The Used.
I Wanna: All-American Rejects.
It Had to be You: Motion City Soundtrack.
Leave the Light on: A Kidnap in Color.
*Love Story: Taylor Swift.
Lucky: Jason Mraz & Colbie Calliat.
Maps: Yeah Yeah Yeahs.
Must've Done Something Right: Relient k.
*My Beautiful Rescue: This Providence.
No Air: Jordin Sparks and Chris Brown.
No One Can Touch Us: Sing It Loud.
Only One: Yellowcard.
Oxygen: Colbie Calliat.
Realize: School Boy Humor.
Red Balloon: Backseat Goodbye.
Say it Again: Marie Digby.
She Will be Loved: Maroon 5.
So Much Love: The Rocket Summer.
Stolen: Dashboard Confessional.
That's So You: The Rocket Summer.
Thunder: Boys Like Girls.
Undeniable: Mat Kearney.
*Up and Up: Relient k.
*The Way I Am: Ingrid Michaelson.
We're Going to be Friends: The White Stripes.
With You: Chris Brown.
Who Needs Air: the Classic Crime.
Why Can't I?: Liz Phair.
You Be The Anchor...: Mayday Parade.
You Belong With Me: Taylor Swift.
You Found Me: The Fray.
Your Guardian Angel: The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.
Young Love: Gavin Degraw.

-Laura (17-f)

will there be any boys there?
no mom its a nun club.

i always hear it but i have no idea where its from

Buffy the Vampire Slayer, apparently:

-Laura (17-f)

Once started how do I stop my period for a weekend away with my man...

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=545173

From there:

There is no way that you can make your period come any sooner or any later. Sometimes, exercise/diet changes will affect when you get your period, but I definitely do NOT recommend changing them just so you can change your period.

-Laura (17-f)

im 14/f almost 15 and im going to be a freshman in highschool in the fall. so lately ive had a lot of boys over just hanging out as friends. but i feel like my house is boring and i need some ideas on things to do with boys that they will enjoy as well as me and my friends who are girls too. if you have some ideas please help me out!! thanks

See a movie.
Have a movie marathon.
Go play laser tag.
Have a water gun fight.
Go roller skating.
Play mini golf.
Go for a bike ride.
Take a walk.
Hang out at a local park.
Tie dye shirts.
Walk your dogs.
Go out for lunch/dinner/ice cream.
Make ice cream sundaes at home.

:)

-Laura (17-f)

well i was going out with this boy and we were off and on agian for about a coupel of months. This last time i think it was the 4th or 5th time we are goin out. but, a few weeks ago, he broke up eith me because he belived some other girl. She hates me because he likes well liked me and not her. so anyway, its been at least 2 weeks and i cant stop thinking about him, and i cant help but to like him. my freinds and his friends tell me that he still likes me and wants anthore chance. I dint no what to say. i want to say yes because i do like him but.. i dont want to get hurt anymore. we still talk kinda it took about 12 days to start talking again. its so hard to because most of my friends hang out with him and so im there too. When im with my other friends they all get mad at me because im not with them. so then i try to hang out with more cause we've been friends longer but he's always with them. so then his friend tells me that he still likes me. i do to but i dont wanna. How do i get over him for good? This isnt my 1st bouyfreind but it's still hard. im in 8th grade and about to enter High School.

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=564711

From there:

I have found, firsthand, that the best way to get over a gut is to do the following:

Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...

Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.

Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.

Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.

Honestly, it's going to take time, and it's going to be hard, but once you get over him you will feel SO much better. I promise you that this guy is NOT worth wasting all of your time on, and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Go out and find a new guy that treats you right and is WORTH your time. Forget about this guy ASAP. You're young and have plenty of time for guys. And, as one of my favorite books puts it: The first boy is always the hardest.

You're way young, you shouldn't even be this focused on guys, for real. Stop dating for a little bit and just take some time to do fun things with friends.

-Laura (17-f)

Im sure this is in the wrong category, but Im positive it dosnt fall into any other category. Well, summer 09 is finally here, & I want it to be the most amazing summer ever. I just finished freshmen year and im 15.
Im hooking up with a 16 year old that just finished his sophmore year. Just in case that would help a little. Ohh, and im a girl and live in miami. I know, what cant you do here. So anything I could do to make this summer AMAZING?! Thanks in advance(:
Ohh, and I wanna do things with my friends.

Make a summer bucket list with a ton of cool things on it! I did it last summer and had a blast. Here are some ideas:

Sleep in a tent.
Make a new friend.
Watch the stars.
Go roller skating.
Have a water balloon fight.
Have a picnic.
Go to the 24 hr grocery at 1 a.m.
Have a water gun fight.
Fly a kite.
Clean out your entire room.
Go fishing.
Dance crazy to loud music.
Go to the mall and pretend to speak another language.
Find a dessert cook book and make the most sugary cake or most chocolaty cookie.
Go to the beach!
Make a ton of Youtube videos.
But one movie ticket, and sneak into others all day.
Stay up all night.
Have fun sleepovers.
Take pictures in a photo booth.
Catch fireflies!
Spend an entire day at the mall, buy nothing.
Wake up early and go for a jog.
Get a job.
Have an awesome party.
Watch a foreign film.
Travel someplace.
Go to a concert!
Enjoy time with family.
Buy something for yourself that you really really want.
Take too many pictures.
Write a song.
Cut or change my hair.
Get a tan.

Have fun!

-Laura (17-f)

do teens do it will i be able to stop is this wrong

Yes. Yes. No.

You should stop worrying, because you're perfectly normal and have nothing to worry about.

-Laura (17-f)

i honestly dont know what to do. he's the first guy i've let myself fully trust since my ex. and i've like him for a while. i wasnt sure if he was into me or not, until a couple days ago when he kissed me. but today we started talking bout not starting anything, because it would cause too many problems when he moves 1000miles away in less than a month. i feel like my heart is breaking again. i dont want him to go. but he has to, to get things right for him, & for him to be happy. i want him to be happy. i just feel so broken knowing he's not gona be there. help! :(

I'm sorry =/

Maybe this will help?:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=564711

From there:

I have found, firsthand, that the best way to get over a gut is to do the following:

Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...

Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.

Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.

Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.

Honestly, it's going to take time, and it's going to be hard, but once you get over him you will feel SO much better. I promise you that this guy is NOT worth wasting all of your time on, and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Go out and find a new guy that treats you right and is WORTH your time. Forget about this guy ASAP. You're young and have plenty of time for guys. And, as one of my favorite books puts it: The first boy is always the hardest.

If you need any more help, let me know.

-Laura (17-f)

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