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i need your help! i cant get over my ex
well i was going out with this boy and we were off and on agian for about a coupel of months. This last time i think it was the 4th or 5th time we are goin out. but, a few weeks ago, he broke up eith me because he belived some other girl. She hates me because he likes well liked me and not her. so anyway, its been at least 2 weeks and i cant stop thinking about him, and i cant help but to like him. my freinds and his friends tell me that he still likes me and wants anthore chance. I dint no what to say. i want to say yes because i do like him but.. i dont want to get hurt anymore. we still talk kinda it took about 12 days to start talking again. its so hard to because most of my friends hang out with him and so im there too. When im with my other friends they all get mad at me because im not with them. so then i try to hang out with more cause we've been friends longer but he's always with them. so then his friend tells me that he still likes me. i do to but i dont wanna. How do i get over him for good? This isnt my 1st bouyfreind but it's still hard. im in 8th grade and about to enter High School.
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I have found, firsthand, that the best way to get over a gut is to do the following:
Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...
Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.
Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.
Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.
Honestly, it's going to take time, and it's going to be hard, but once you get over him you will feel SO much better. I promise you that this guy is NOT worth wasting all of your time on, and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Go out and find a new guy that treats you right and is WORTH your time. Forget about this guy ASAP. You're young and have plenty of time for guys. And, as one of my favorite books puts it: The first boy is always the hardest.
You're way young, you shouldn't even be this focused on guys, for real. Stop dating for a little bit and just take some time to do fun things with friends.
-Laura (17-f)
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if you guys have broken up so many times why still go out with him ? youre about to go into highschool meanin there are gonna be plenty of other guys for you to talk to. obviously hes immature because he cant even tell you himself that he wants to get back with him.
just start gettin active: bike ridin, work out, hang out with the girls, try to find some hobbies if you dont have some already.
make yourself happy before any guy, and if youre worryin about him at such a young age and hes makin you this upset then you need to let him go.
good luck !
x sweeethoney
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look, im gonna be straight forward and honest with you.
deal with it hun.
youre not even in highschool yet.. you are going to go to highschool, meet an older boy, get new friends, and forget about all of this bullshit drama. you are going to have MUCH bigger problems and issues to worry about. so just do me the favor. take the load off your shoulders and let it goooooooo!.
god, you sound just like i did in middle school..
my eighth grade year i met a boy, who i thought i loved. got pretty serious.. in the freaking EIGHTH GRADE.. and all the same drama happened to me. my best friend told him i liked someone else when i didnt.. he broke up with me.. started dating her. and i was in such a big mess.
then, i got to highschool, met another guy.. and got myself in even bigger messes..
i know you think all this drama and stuff matters SO much right now. but i assure you it means nothing and i assure you by the time you reach 10th grade you'll laugh about it and you will ask yourself why you wasted time on it.
just let it blow over you like you dont even care. i know its hard to do, but just look whats waiting for you in the future. :)
hope you dont hate me, just trying to give you a little heads up cus i was just like you, so i basically know your future.. and you just need to NOT WORRY. everything will be okay..
hakunamatata!(: hahaaa
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Time and distant really level out feelings for one person. it is almost summer so hang out with other friends but don't push the ones that hang around him away. also putting yourself out there again and dating someone else can take your mind off him and make you feel better and it will also make it easier to hang out with him and your other friends. If that don't work you should really try to search inside yourself and sort out your feelings for him. sorting out your feelings can help someone remember but it can also make it easier for someone to forget.
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