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16/f, please read, I WILL RATE!
I've been in this group of kids (a clique, in other words) for like 2 years now.This senior girl, Leslie, is the leader of the pack. Me and Leslie have been like best friends the past two years. Right when we met we clicked instantly and had so much in common. (Our goofy, carefree attitudes/behavior, and our all-around silliness.) I should make it clear that although she is a year older than me, we have the same experience level on subjects like drugs and sex-- NOTHING! Neither of us have ever even had like a serious boyfriend, and neither of us have ever even gotten close to drugs. We were SO far away from any of this permiscuous behavior. We were just bopping along not caring what anyone thought of us.
Well, around last spring, when some of our friends were getting ready to graduate, she started like not inviting me to things. If it was like a entire group get-together, somehow the info would never get to me and I wouldnt show up. But I am a member of the group- why is this happening (?)- I didnt know. Why was I missing the info that the whole group had gone to the movies, or that the whole group had hung out at whoever's house? I started missing more and more events with this group- It was getting to the point that I was missing concerts, parties, I mean, I was obviously being deliberately kept in the dark. It was obvious that an effort was being made to make sure I didn't get the word that there was a group event. Why would they do this to me? I was a main member of this clique! Im not like one of those "fringe" members that comes somtimes but not others, I had been a regular and great friends with each member of the group. Well, naturally, as I hung out with this group less and less, I had less and less to talk about with them at school, which caused me to miss even more events. We used to be so tight!
Well, I think I know what the problem is- Leslie started being all concerned about her image. She used to be genuinely laid back and cool- now she upholds an image of a cool, laid back drifter. She cares so much about what other people think- a thing that she used to not care about at all! Who she hung out with started becoming important to her. Now I have found out that she went to a hookah bar last weeked with some kids who have now graduated. Now, she is the type that loves to tell everone about how she hangs out with college kids and how shes done hookah. I feel like she dosn't invite me to hang out anymore because I'm too "immature" for her. No, I havn't had sex or done any drugs. But now she thinks she's all that because she hangs out with a little rougher croud once and a while and has done hookah. Hookah is illegal if you're underage but seriously, it dosn't make you a total badass!
The reason I am posting my problem is because the carnival is in town this weeked, its like the biggest event of the year and all the teenagers go to it- but they havn't invited me. Even when the're not planning on doing anything bad- they dont invite me! So my main problem is that I have lost my social life, and my best friend Leslie is too "mature" (she thinks) to hang out with me anymore! (link)
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Groups tend to put alot of pressure on people yet alone peer pressure. The leader of the group always seem to feel powerful, popular, almost god like. "Leslie" was your best friend but like some say friends come and go. You mentioned you have hung out with the group less and less and had less to talk about. Maybe the group felt like you were slowly drifting away from interest? Anyway about Leslie, Sometimes groups can put pressure on people and not just them but their self image like you said. Peer Pressure tends to change people and the way they think sometimes. However, I think it might be time for you to move on and make some new friends. You could also try talking to Leslie and let her know that you still care about her and think of her as a close friend and it really hurts you that you have been outsided lately and see how she responds. However, People shouldn't care what others think. They should just be themselves, I'm not saying this is the case at all but why should someone act and be what they are not? Listen Girl, There are so many folks out there that I'm sure would love to hang out with you and go to movies, partys, and fairs etc. Don't let people bring you don't and make you feel left out. Just be strong. ;)
BahaiMa22
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16/f
i really want this one really cute coach purse, its on sale and its only 223 dollars. i really want my mom to buy it for me.. but i just got a 400 dollar coach purse a few months ago. but i need a winter purse.
what can i do to convince my mom to buy it for me?
what have you done to get your mom or dad to buy you something? (link)
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Save your money and buy it, If you just got a 400 dollar purse a few months ago. Why do you need another one so soon? Maybe put some money aside and save up till you have enough?
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I'm so scared right now! after me and my boyfriend had sex. he couldn't find the condom! we looked everywhere! i asked him if he took it off! he said yes but that he didn't remember where he put it! this morning i found it when i was peeing! it was inside me! now i don't know what to think! if I'm prego or not! when will i be able to know for real! i need to know as soon as possible! (link)
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The only way to know for sure is to take a pregnancy test, usually best to wait about 2 weeks before taking it after sex for a more effective answer.
Bahaima22
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Well, my friend has a past of making up illnesses to get attention and I have finally decided to catch her in the act..
Is there any way you can get Pneumonia from a busted lip? (link)
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No, Phenumonia is caused by infections, passed on by other people, Germs etc. It can not be caused by a "busted lip".
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my hair gets soo frizzy in hot weather. does anyone know a product that can help against frizzy hair? (link)
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Straighten irons help however don't over use them they cause major dead ends and if used too much they can cause hair to start falling out. I have frizzy hair too trust me when I tell ya ;) I use water on my hair, Clips, and I also use hair gell which really helps. Try to keep your hair up, Use hair spray, gells, and Dove shampoo really seems to helps. You could also try and shampoo product to help unfrizz the hair. ;)
Best of luck!
BahaiMa22
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20/ f:
i think im losing my hair. well i know i am. not a lot yet, but enough for me to notice. what should i do? how do i make my hair grow faster and stronger. this summer has been the worst summer of my life, and i know stress is a huge factor. i dont eat. and when i do eat its very unhealthy food. i straighten my hair almost everyday so as you can see ive been really doing some major damage. does anyone have any natural and very effective suggestions? i am really very worried. (link)
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Okay first of all,
You don't eat and when you do it's unhealthy foods, and you also mentioned you use a hair straightener almost everyday..
1. Hair straighters will damange your hair, They do work yes. However they dry up the hair and cause major dead ends. They are okay to use but only once in awhile.
2. Eatting healthy is important not only for the body health wise but because you need the vitimins. Milk is healthy for the teeth and bones..certain foods are good for certain things. You need to start eatting more fruits and vegetables.
the first step is too lay down the straighting iron and turn to more healthy foods. If the problem doesn't stop then it's time to see a doctor.
Sorry I couldn't be much more of help :(
BahaiMa22
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I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now, but in the beginning of our relationship he checked my phone bill somehow and now I feel like I cant have any friends or even use the phone. I stopped calling everyone and stopped answering the phone. He has a house and I live in a 1 bedroom apartment. he never invites me to his house. I was there only 3 times. He says its because we cant smoke in his house, but I know this is bullshit. I'v never met any of his friends or family. Hes met some of my friends when I had them and hes met most of my family. He always goes on trips for days at a time. Recently he said he wanted to have a baby and I just cant see how I could raise a baby in a 1 bedroom apartment and him just come and visit us. I dont know what to do. Im totally isolated. I never go out unless I go to do laundry or food shopping. I dont know who he talks to, but I know he always has people at his house. It seems odd that everyone can go over his house but I cant. I dont know what to do. I ask him all the time if I can come over and he says no because we cant smoke. I feel like Im going to explode or kill myself soon. Please help. (link)
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Honestly,
It doesn't sound like much of a relationship, A relationship should be 50-50 with honesty and trust. If he doesn't invite you to his house and goes away days at a time...don't you think that sounds a little suspisious? Ask yourself, Are you happy? Does he make you happy? Would you rather give up having fun with friends all for a guy who really doesn't seem to want to bother with you? Yes, I think you are also right raising a baby in a one bedroom apartment would be extremely tough. Babies are tough work yet alone when the baby gets older where would he/she sleep or play? Would he make a good father? Husband? Would he support you and the child? He doesn't seem to be really supporting you now if he's isolating you from having a life of your own.
Best of Luck..
BahaiMa22
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okay so me and my friend are sort of sharing this dog.
and like she gave it to me,
and like i really cant buy dog food right now and i dont know why the heck i didnt think about asking her to bring me dog food (dumb i know).
but like u know those frozen vegetables?
well i cooked them and let them cool.and hes eating it, i mean it looks like it likes it but is it healthy for it??.
and what time of dog food do i get.
hes like almost 1. and a weiner dog.
what are you supposed to feed those
THANKS SO MUCH (link)
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Don't worry so much, As you and I know dogs don't always eat dog food anyway some eat table scraps. If it is a little weiner dog try feeding it small portions maybe some chopped up hotdogs (Nuke warm in a microvewave but not too hot) Peices of chicken, ham, any meat is okay. Just don't over feed it and avoid dairy products they tend to give dogs diarreah.
Hope I helped some.
Bahaima22
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i have a perfect figure and body etc and I'm happy with it, the only problem is that, i have this like fate or something on the sides of my belly button. its like a lower belly fat thing, i don't know how to work it out and lose it. and help would really help. :) thanks. (link)
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Well,
Walking always helps, Also try laying down on you're back and putt you're hands behind your head and lift your knees to your chest do that 10-15 times a day you will see a difference.
BahaiMa22
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Is Eminem's name really Marshall Mathers or has he changed it to be Eminem or Slim Shady? If so, when did he change it legally/officially?
Also, was he actually born as Marshall Mathers, was that a nickname, or did he somehow get it changed to that at some point? What does Eminem prefer to be called anyway?
I know some of his CDs are labelled as such names: The Eminem Show, The Marshall Mathers LP, The Slim Shady LP, and Eminem Is Back. So, I was wondering what his real name happens to be!
Thank you! (link)
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Marshall Mathers
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i want to become better friends with some people that are nice to me. they classify me as shy, and sometimes they talk for me because they think im shy. but i just have social anxiety, and i told them that. i didnt really talk to people that much the last couple years, so im kind of socially retarded. i know most things said have some common sense in it, but i get nervous sometimes because my anxiety and end up saying something wrong or something stupid. i take prozackk now, which helps alot and gave me confidence, but i still dont know how to communicate. i think i have a pretty good personality, but i rate my conversation skills about a 3 on a scale 1-10. i can talk and like joke around and stuff, and sometimes when people joke around with me, they think i take it seriously when i know theyre just joking. i dont know. you know what im talking about if you been in my kind of situation. help me please :] (link)
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I had almost the exact same problem, I would shut myself out and avoid any sort of social event/conversation I thought would make me feel like the odd one out. However, I took time to realize that I had a problem. Try telling yourself you are no longer going to let that anxiety control you. You are the power, You are in control of your own feelings. Get involved in conversations more often because it makes you feel uncomfortable and gradually overtime you will gain confidence and you won't feel like you are in a shell. Tell yourself you can do it, Don't judge yourself too much if you do, It will only increase the anxiety and will lower your self esteem. You are who you are, You need to except that and if others don't except that it's nobody problem but theirs. Take control of yourself you can do it. ;)
Best wishes.
BahaiMa22
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my boyfriend now is still friends with his ex girlfriend he dated for a little over a year. he does small little errins for her, and texts her alot. he has her name tattooed on his arm...
i dont know what to do, i want someone else to give me some sort of idea. (link)
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Question him, Ask him if he still has feelings for his ex. Tell him it bothers you that he still has contact with her. Ask him if he would be willing to remove the tattoo on his arm because it's a constant reminder of her. Try sitting down and talking to him about how it makes you feel.
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I have an Australian Shepherd. Female/almost 3 years old/no history of illnesses.
I got home today and found yellowish dried vomit in three separate sections on the house. An hour later she threw up two more times. She's moping around. Her nose is cold and wet, which is good, but the inside of her ears are cold.
Please don't answer this with "Ask a vet" or "look up advice online." That doesn't help. If you have a link to a website with advice though, that will help.
Please help! (link)
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Could be a substance called bile. It a digestive fluid produced by the gall bladder and the stomach can collect excessive amounts of it causing vomiting, upset stomach and stomach ulcers. The color of it can range from deep yellow to the color of mountain dew.
I advice you too see the vet, Sorry you didn't want to hear it but please I don't want your dog to get worse...
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I am 24 years old and am currently at a point in my life where I don't think I can be friends with my life-long friend of 19 years.
I have stood by him, even though it was hard, despite all the terrible decisions he's made with his life. He has 2 DWI's, lost his car, lost his band because of his drinking, lost many friends, slept with a friends girlfriend whom he is currently still with. He faces jail time, and could quite possibly lose his job. Needless to say, he's almost lost everything.
The other night my girlfriend and I went out with them, trying to put things behind us. Well, he decided to just disappear and abandon his girlfriend there. She was understandably upset and we took her to his house, where her car was. In the end, he was extremely angry that we helped her, and accused me of telling her lies and badmouthing him. Also saying I'm trying to "get between them."
In a nutshell, 3 people have one account of the evening, and he has his. It's completely wrong. He's desperate, possessive, and not fun to be around anymore. He doesn't want help, and gets defensive claiming people should mind their own business, etc, despite being his best friend.
It only got worse... He actually blindsided me for helping her, punching me in the nose from behind me. It became a physical confrontation and was obviously a act of complete desperation since he claimed we were making the situation worse and were trying to "make him look bad."
I've tried helping but he isn't receptive. I'm not perfect either, and make plenty of mistakes, but every time we hang out it feels like a gamble. I'm tired of it. Is it selfish of me to move on with my life? (link)
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As you probably know, People change all the time. His stubborness has cost him almost everything. You have tried to help him, but he keeps turning you away and putting all his problems on you. A person can only take so much before they just give up. Honestly, I don't think it's selfish at all too move on. Why should you be put in the middle of his problems? Why waist your time too help someone who won't let you help them yet alone won't help themselves? I know you probably care very much about your friend but I think maybe it is time to focus on yourself.
Best Wishes
BahaiMa22
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hello! didn't you freakin read what I wrote and I know I'm too young and I said it in my question. don't you understand anything!? (link)
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Please respect the time people put into answering and reading questions. It is not polite to tell someone they didn't read you're question because they didn't give you the answer you wanted too hear.
Thank you
Bahaima22
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what are good foods to eat if you want to stay healthy and take fat off your body? (link)
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Fruit and Veggies, Low Carbs, Low sodium type of things. Read the lables
BahaiMa22
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okay so me and my boyfriend had been dating for three years and he asked me to marry him!I'm only 14! and he's 16. we're sooo young! I didn't give him my answer yet but I just don't know what to say. I mean I love him with all my heart and when he cry then I cry. when he's hurt or injured then I injure myself to be injured with him. we do everything together besides go to school. I do plan to get married some day but not this soon. he said we'll be engaged until I'm 17 or 18 and that's when we'll get married. but should I wait till I'm that age or should I just tell him no?what should I do? (link)
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Fourteen is a bit young to even be thinking about the possibility of becoming engaged. Engagement isn't just something you do, It's the big step to a commitment of a lifetime. Although, you two have been together for three years why don't you keep it just as a boyfriend, girlfriend type of thing? Hun, I think you are way to young. Most adults don't become engaged until they hit around 22 or 23 years old.
Rethink it and be smart.
Bahaima22
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how do i delete all my itunes songs at once? (link)
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Go to your music, Click the first song press "Shift" hold down the mouse and highlight all the songs right click and delete.
BahaiMa22
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ew ok so my hair is gross with split ends and i want them to go away with out having to cut all of my hair so is there a really good product or house hold w.e to really get my hair back to health ? (link)
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Well, I'm not sure of any products but what you could do is try getting a trim to get rid of the dead ends, Also, If you do, don't use a flat iron too much it will dry out you're hair and cause the dead ends
BahaiMa22
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Im 16 and my boyfriend is 18. I had a babyboy 2 months ago and i feel like im ready to live on my own. My boyfriend works and so do i, so we have everything figured out. the on ly problem is, my mom doesnt think i can handle it....is she right??? what do i do (link)
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A baby is a huge responsibility, Moving out is also a big step also. Once you move out you have bills to pay. Gas, Eletric, Food, Cable, Heat etc. I think Mom might be right, Maybe you should wait and rethink about moving out. If you have the money saved up and a good paying job and you work a good chunk of hours and I'm talking about 35+ hours a week then maybe you really are ready to move out. However, Moving out is not something you can just put yourself into and then a week later say "I wanna move back home" You sign a lease and you are stuck paying rent for as long as the rent is good for.
Rethink it.
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