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theres this guy in like almost all of my classes. He flirts with me a lot and teases me, (lol i seriousely just noticed that today) but you see he has a girlfriend. So why would he be flirting with me and giving me all of this attention?? I would just like to know why? Or a better question is why do guys do that even when they know they have someone already?
It's human nature to tease and to flirt and it's not just guys that do it. It's a personality trait. If you are a "flirty" person, you flirt. If you were in a relationship with someone, you'd still interact with other people. Being in a relationship doesn't change who you are. Don't look very far into this. It really doesn't mean anything. It's not like he's trying to kiss you. Maybe he would enjoy being with you, maybe not, but in any case, he doesn't want to. He wants to be with his current girlfriend right now or he wouldn't be. He's just having fun with you because he likes you. As a friend. It means absolutely nothing.
im sleeping over my friend who's metabolism is the opposite of mine. she eats a ton but is super short & skinny. I'm tall & am skinny cause i watch what i eat. You see i'm sleeping over her house sunday. I'm 13 & no one i know who is my age diets like i do, or diets at all. My life is full of super skinny, great metabolized, eat-a-ton girls. At her house, they order from a restaurant usually. My friend always gets a burger & last time i was there i wasnt dieting so i got chicken fingers/fries. But now my problem is i dont want to be rude but i dont know what to order. i think salads are usually expensive & ill be embarassing telling her family i really watch what i eat. my friend has a jacuzzi also & we usually put on our bikinis & Jump on in after dinner. my friend loves deserts so she'll ask if i want a milkshake from the restaurant. for breakfast on sundays, they make eggs, bacon, sausage & pancakes. what should i do? i dont want to seem rude but i need to keep my diet. help!! please do so ASAP
~EAS
Alright first, you're 13. It sounds like your body is maturing sooner than your friends'. Their poor eating habits will most likely catch up to them in the next few years. They're not going to stay skinny like that forever. How many really really skinny adults do you know? Maybe one or two right? As girl's bodies go through puberty they develop an extra layer of fat and obviously get curvier and stuff. It's okay to be self conscious about it, that's normal, but not to the point where you should be embarassed about how you look. Why do you want to be so skinny? Really skinny girls that pig out aren't attractive! Normal sized people that eat normal portions of food are. You probably look like a woman, while if you cut their hair off it would most likely be really hard to tell if they were guys or girls. It shows a lot about you as a person that you care about your body too. There's really no reason for you to want to be skinny like them. I know you probably hear this crap all the time, but be happy with who you are. I'll bet you're really pretty. You sound like you're quite intelligent too. You have a lot going for you. I'm not saying stop dieting because that's silly. Eating healthy is good for you. Just make sure that you're not taking it too far. In some situations it's impossible or very inconvenient to stick with a diet. Like one of the columnists before me pointed out, breaking your diet every once in awhile is okay. In the sleepover situation, it's okay to have chicken fingers and fries. Chicken fingers and fries aren't terribly healthy, but they're not terribly unhealthy either. That would be a good choice. If you really want to get a salad though, get it. It sounds like your friend's parents are pretty well off if they order from a restaurant for everyone instead of just getting a pizza. I wouldn't worry about them spending a few extra dollars. It's not like the salad would be more than $5 more if that. If anybody picks on your for getting a salad, stick up for yourself. You should be proud that you are taking care of yourself so well. They're going to be coming to you for advice about how to diet because they won't have a clue. Either that or they'll just get fat. Anyway, have fun at the sleepover and don't worry so much about your body. It is what it is and worrying about it is absolutely pointless. All this worry and self-consciousness isn't going to get you anywhere or change anything. All you should be worrrying about is making sure you have fun! Good luck. :)
What could be the maximum amount to win on a financial need scholarship?
It depends on a lot of things. Contact the Fiancial Aid office of the college that you are planning on attending and they should be able to give you a rough estimate or direct you to someone that can. Good luck! :)
13/f
5'1
118.8 lbs.
about how much am i over weight? and what are good excersices to lose weight???
THANK YOU!!!! :]
You are NOT overweight. There is no reason for you to lose any weight. You are right where you are supposed to be. If you're not in shape and would like to become so, just exercise. Nothing in particular. Just get out and do something. Good luck! :)
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Please!!!!! help. I am a 13 year old girl. I am pretty small (5 ft, 87 pounds). I want to know if I am getting my period period. I have had pubic and armpit hair for like a couple years and I have had discharge for probably a year. OKAY HERE IS THE STORY! On Sunday, I noticed some blood when I was going to the bathroom, I decided I would worry about it if it happened again, then when I went to the bathroom yesterday there was a little bit of blood, and that happened again today. It is not that much blood though so I am not sure if it is my period or not, or is it a sign my period is coming? PLEASE HELP OR IF YOU DO NOT KNOW JUST TELL ME YOUR IDEAS! PLEASE, THANKS!
It's your period. Most girls have a really light period the first time (that means not a lot of blood). It might get heavier within the next few days and it might not. Be prepared for it to though just in case. Good luck! :)
Okay i have a banquet to attend on thursday. It wll be catered but i am starting the 2468 diet tomorrow so i can only have 400 calories. how can i nicely say that i do not want to eat/
thanks
CODY
This diet is NOT effective. Please don't do it. It really isn't going to work. Just eat at the banquet. If you are concerned about your weight or metabolism, exercise. Exercise is the healthiest, most effective way to lose weight. Dieting, unless you have the help of a professional dietician, won't work! Even if you do have the help of a professional, dieting without the help of exercise probably won't work anyway. I'm sure you're not large enough that your weight is a serious issue. All you really need to do is eat healthy food. Not more or less, just healthier. These days, people are so obsessed with losing weight, but they are also obsessed with finding quick easy solutions for everything. The two things just don't mix. There is no quick, easy solution for losing weight. Losing weight and keeping it off takes a lot of work and willpower, not a stupid diet. I don't mean to offend you, but you need to just get off your butt and exercise. Otherwise, you're just wasting your time. Don't be obsessed with calories, metabolism, and weight. Be obsessed about how you look and how you feel. No number can describe what you actually look like. Everyone is different. My guess is that you already look great. Forget dieting and start exercising to feel good. Make healthy eating a habit instead of a constant struggle with a ineffective diet. Start feeling good about yourself and this will be so much easier for you. If you don't like my answer and want the advice of a professional on this ask MikeCFT. Good luck.
okay, if me and my boyfriend started going out on march 17, 2007, then when is our 1 month anniversery? is it april 17th, or is it before? can you count the days, because everytime i try i get a different number.
I found this question very interesting. It's not about counting the days, it's about the date itself. The other columnists are correct in that your 1 month anniversary would occur on the 17th of each month, but what about those poor people that happened to have started dating on the 31st of a month? I would imagine that their anniversary would therefore always occur on the last day of the month, the 30th or 31st, depending on the month. Any dates larger than 28 may have some troubles with February, but again, I would say just celebrate it on the last day of February.
I didn't know they have topic of it but i know there home decorating. i was wondering they be like hobbies idea or crafts ideas? I know not big adive topic but i thought i had it in mind today.
Whenever you come up with an idea, send it here instead of posting it as a question. :)
http://www.advicenators.com/question.php?u=4
okay. I want to try find aways find not intress be on here.. please help how i start habit where i want get one only twice week, like I get one once where i just check emails and messages. other day i chat with my family and freinds. only twice week of a moonth. please give me good reasons.
Just set a limit for yourself. Say "I'm only going to go on the computer 2 times this week." Once you've been on 2 times (even if it was on the same day) you're not allowed to go back on again until the next week. It will probaby be hard in the beginning, but once you get going with it, it will be much easier for you to budget your time and make the right choices about when you should be on the computer and when you shouldn't. Limiting the number of times you can be on will make it so that sometimes you can't be on and will have to find other things to do. All you need in order to do this is a strong will, which anybody can have if they believe they can. Good luck! :)
I have A LOT of spit! When I go to the dentist and they tell me to open my mouth, less then five second like huge amount of spit or drool pours out.
I tried spitting as much as I could in a garbage can before I went again next tiem and didn't work at all.
Sometimes when I sing I'll have like a spit bubble or drool! gross! I know this is thinking ahead but if I ever kiss a guy..not gonan be pretty
Trust me, it won't be a problem. When my fiance was younger he got hit in the face with a baseball and a whole bunch of his teeth fell out. They got them all back in just fine, but he had to have 4 or 5 root canals in 2 days. Since then, he's had problems like yours. None of this affects the way that he kisses. He's great at it and it's not sloppy at all. It doesn't matter if you drool all over the place at the dentist and it doesn't matter if something slips out because to tell you the truth, everybody blows a spit bubble every once in awhile. Plus, some people like their kisses a little sloppy anyway. Don't worry about this! :)
my husband and i have a respectful marriage or so i think. my marriage is weird i think, because he tells me you can talk to me about anything and when i do or i sound like i'm upset, he tells me i have an adtitude so don't bring it him. why do men say things they don't really mean? some times i have so much going on i don't really want him to feel or think funny about me, i really do love my husband but we're on 2 differment wave lengh, so now he makes me feel like i hsve to pretend i'm happy or everything is fine so we don't aruge. i feel stress at time because i feel as if i'm alone and i'm married i shouldn't feel that way, because i don't do it towords him anything he brings to me i'm always there or him. now what should i do about this situation. can any one help me?
I think that you should go to counseling with him. It doesn't sound like you'll be able to solve these problems without the help of someone else. If he won't go, go by yourself. Marriage counselors know what they're talking about and will be able to give you the best advice on what to do in your situation. Good luck. :)
On AIM, you can make hearts on the font Symbol. What keys do you press? I know you hold down the ALT key but i forgot what keys you press...?
Help!
It's a capital Y in the font Webdings. :)
first off, dont bitch at me about this saying im stupid or anything.
14/f.
i had sex with my boyfriend for the first time on the 13th of april. and since then i have been having stomach aches.
yes, we used a condom. and no, im not on the pill.
can anyone tell me if stomach aches come with pregnancy? can you also tell me what other signs i should look for?
im really scared to tell my mom. she likes my boyfriend. and shes for abortion and i am not. i know for a fact she will make me get one.
and one last question... how much are abortions?
please, help is needed.
If you used a condom you are most likely fine. There is always a chance though even when you're on the pill. Keep that in mind the next time you have sex. It is ALWAYS a risk. Let me assure you that the stomach aches have nothing to do with pregnancy. Your stomach probably aches because you are worrying. Stomach aches related to pregnancy won't happen until a few weeks after you had sex. They don't start right away. If you are still worried about it, just get a home pregnancy test to put your mind at ease. Thinking about all the signs of pregnancy will just make you more stressed out. Every woman will have different signs. Some are more common than others, but just get the pregnancy test. It's the only way to know for sure. Lastly, your mom can't make you get an abortion. It's your choice. If you were to get one it should cost anywhere from $200 to $600 depending on where you went and how far along you were. Good luck. :)
Well me and my fiance have been together for 2 years. When we first dated we went through some hard times. Well he cheated on me twice and since then we got back together and have been together for a year and a half since those incidents. But now that we took the relationship to the next level and are getting married, I am having the hardest time letting go of the past and what he did. I constantly bring it up and cry about it almost everyday. And it has been over a year! It is affecting our relationship alot, emotionally and sexually. Please help! What can I do to get over this?
You are not ready to be married to him until you can get over this. It's okay to be engaged, but if you have plans for a wedding cancel them right away no matter what. People these days are getting married much too quickly. That is why the divorce rate is so high. There is no reason to get married to him right now. Wait and get your relationship under control. If you jump the gun and get married the chances that it won't work out are much higher than if you were to wait and do it at a later time. I also suggest that if you want to stay with him that you get some type of counseling to help you through these problems. It could help you a lot. So, just tell him that you're not having doubts about the relationship and you'd like to remain engaged, but you're just not ready to be married just yet. The longer you wait to tell him this, the worse it's going to be. He may get disappointed and that's okay, but if he gets angry with you or gives you a hard time about it, you should seriously consider breaking up with him. As a man he needs to be able to respect your choices and not push you into doing something you are not ready for. If he can't do that, I'm sorry to say, but you really don't want anything to do with him. Good luck.
Hi all, this is yg. I consider this a question, I am also kind of looking for opinions. I am asking here instead of the mod forum because I'd like answers from those who are mods, and those who may not be yet. There is no right or wrong answer, so please, honest opinions only.
In the last month and a half this question, or a version of this question has come up and it bothers me. 'How can I hide that I have been on advicenators?' I assume it was meant from parents.
I would like to know if others have this problem.
Do you have to hide that you use the site?
If so why?
What do you think would make it acceptable to your parents?
Would you be embarrassed for your parents to see the site?
If so is it because of questions asked?
Questions you've asked? Or just the questions in general?
Answers given?
YOUR answers given, or just everyones answers?
Has anyone, besides myself, (who talked to both my kids about it), Talked to their parents about BECOMING an advicenator?
I think it is a great way to initiate conversation
about topics you may be embarrassed to discuss with a parent about yourself. I wonder if anyone has done that?
I think I have plagued you with enough questions for now. Thank you! :)yg
For me, I don't tell anybody that I am active on Advicenators so my advice doesn't get scrutinized. Even though I feel that it is good advice, I'd rather not have to deal with people checking up on me. Advicenators is my happy place where I feel like my thoughts are heard and my opinions matter. I can say what I want and be myself because nobody knows about it. It's easy to be open about things when you know nobody's watching. Occasionally I will delete my history, not to hide what I do out of embarrassment, I do take a lot of pride in it, but to keep it to myself as my own special thing. I myself, love to check up on people and everything they write on the Internet. People interest the crap out of me. I don't want people doing the same to me with this particular website. I only know one other person on here in real life and they're not active anymore. I think that this type of thing should be personal. What you post on myspace or anything of the like is meant for other people to see. What you post on here is just meant for that one person that you don't even know. I think that it's important for someone to have something like that in their life. Something that they can have just for themselves and be able to take some kind of ownership of. Even though I don't let on my level of involvement as an advice-giver, I do bring up the site all the time in conversation and love to advertise its existence to anybody that I believe will enjoy or benefit from it. It's not like I lie about it or hoard it for myself.
Speaking from how I would have felt if I had used Advicenators as a teen, I think that younger teenagers that have parents looking over their shoulders all the time would want to hide the site because of all of the sexual stuff it introduces. Some may not want their parents to know what they're asking, but I would imagine that they figure their parents aren't computer literate enough and don't know their password so they wouldn't be able to find it anyway. I know the world is quickly changing, but when I was a young teenager I had no idea what a blow job was or anything like that. Those questions come up all the time here. When I joined the site when I was 18 or 19 I still had things to learn. Now, a lot of 13 year olds know everything. Parents, and myself, grew up in an age where this kind of information wasn't so mainstream in teenage life, where even though people may have been having sex, they didn't talk about it. Advicenators lets people talk about it, which is a good thing, but unless it's you, it introduces you to a plethora of information that might make you think that you should become sexually active if you're not. Being sexually active is obviously not the best choice for teenagers. Teens know this and even though most are smart enough to make decisions for themselves, they are afraid that their parents won't want them looking at the site and learning so much about sex since they didn't when they were kids. Kids don't think their parents trust them. As much as it's not supposed to be, this site is largely a teen sex/relationship advice site. It would have been so embarrassing for me if I had used Advicenators and my parents found out. I would never hear the end of it and would be ridiculed by my entire family about it forever. Not from what I put on it, but from the content of the site. I don't think the parents themselves would be overly opposed to it unless they were really strict and traditional, it's just that the teens are afraid that they will be and don't want the site being taken away from them or have their every move monitored. Like me, I think everyone wants a personal connection to this to some extent. I think that if the questions relating to sex weren't displayed on the main page that those strict parents might be a little more open to their kids being on here if they were to find out. I would actually compare this to the debate over "abstinence only" and comprehensive sex education. Most parents are in favor of a comprehensive curriculum, but there are always a few that will be opposed. Kids will most likely just assume that their parents are opposed even if they aren't. Lastly, I believe that the site should have a message displayed somewhere easy to see and get to on the main page. What is Advicenators all about? How is it a positive thing? Something kind of like what's in the FAQ - "My kid is on advicenators and I'm mad". Just an explanation for the whole thing that is easy to find and clearly defines what the site is here for and how much it can help people. That might put parents at ease a little more. If they knew that the majority of the people here were genuine and kind and not out to fill their kids minds with filth (which could be the impression they get from glancing at the site really quickly) even the parents that found out about it would be happy that their kids were getting information from here rather than somewhere else.
I've tried ear plugs but i still can hear some sounds made by the passing cars, slamming gates and all in front of my house. I'm so afraid of hearing sounds at night that I actually keep my ears open for sounds and I don't dare go to sleep for fear that I'd be woken up by sounds later on at night.
Sometimes, I'm so exhausted that I tell myself to just sleep but I can't. THe moment I lie on my bed, I have that sickening exhausting yet unable to sleep experience. Don't tell me to use radio, ear plugs, white noise, etc. It ALL DON"T WORK. I'm going crazy. Every single sound is keeping me up and I can't stop anticipating the next sound. Everytime I get woken up by a sound I start to cry because I'm so angry with myself for transforming from a heavy to a light sleeper. Someone pls help me sleep. I NEED IT!! I'm going crazy.
If you just lie there trying to fall asleep you never will. The more you think about it, the more you'll drive yourself absolutely crazy. Try to find something to occupy your mind. If music doesn't work, try reading for awhile. When I was younger I would read until I got really tired or just fell asleep on my book. If you read right before bed, your mind will be filled with everything you just read. You'll be thinking about the story and what happened or trying to guess what's going to hapen next next. Sleep should come really easily. If you're not that into reading, try to find something else to occupy your mind. Organized daydreaming usually works pretty good. As I got older, I didn't want to sit up for a long time reading, so I skipped the reading and got straight to the thinking part. I became an author and I basically wrote a novel in my head until I fell asleep. This was easy for me after so many years of reading. Even if you haven't done that much reading it should still come naturally. If you want to try this, it's easiest if you make yourself the main character. If you're Christian, praying can be a good way to wind down too. Lie there in bed and pray for anything and everything you can think of. There's a lot of stuff and you can go on for a long time thinking of things to pray about. You should fall asleep in no time. If you still can't seem to find anything that works, don't be afraid to see a doctor or counselor. Good luck! :)
me-16/f him-17/ okay so here's the thing, there's this guy i've liked for quite some time, he has a really good relationship going, they're perfect for eachother so i try really hard not to flirt with him. but he does just the opposite, he's always flirting with me (he's a really big flirt, his girlfriend doesn't mind) and when we hang out outside of school he's always pushing or rubbing me in some way that really REALLY turns me on... and he bites me alot too... which i think is just soooo hot!!! well anyway, my question is, do you think he knows how much all of this turns me on? and also what can i do to not be turned on... because i really don't want to mess up his reationship. and we're kind of drinking buddies and i get even more sesitive and horney when i drink... and the will power i have when i'm drunk isn't soo great... thank you sooo much in advance!!!
If his relationship gets screwed up it would have nothing to do with you. If he wants to end it, he wants to end it. If he wants to do anything with you, it's his choice just as much as it is yours so it's not like it would be your fault in any way. That said, you shouldn't let him do those things to you anymore that are turning you on. I mean, it's one thing if he leaves his girlfriend for you or leaves and then you make a move. It's quite another if you encourage him now, while his relationship is going strong (as far as you know). By letting him do and say so much to you, you're telling him that it's okay, when it's not because of the way that it is making you feel. You could be and are encouraging him probably without even realizing it. What you need to do is tell him to stop. If he keeps bugging you about why or refuses to stop, tell him what's up. Just be totally honest. If you're honest, you can do no wrong. It wouldn't be encouraging him to be honest. It may encourage him, but that would be his own fault not yours. This is a tough situation to be in so I wish you lots of luck in getting through it. :)
This is wierd but is it normal to have a lot of secretion and then get fingered?!?!? Does it grose guys out?!? BEcause im very concious.. or is this very normal. Is there a way to minimize this "wetness" a little bit?
Any guy that thinks it's weird is immature and you probably don't want him near your vagina anyway. I'm sure at some point in your life you thought it was absolutely disgusting when guys got boners. Sure, it still can be, but in the right circumstances it's probably a turn on for you. Same thing with your wetness. It's a natural process and should be a turn on for him. There really isn't a way to minimize it. Most people actually want to maximize it. :)
can you get pregnant if you have sex in a pool??
Yes, absolutely. The chances may be slightly less than if you weren't in water, but yeah, you definitely can. Remember too, sex in water isn't always the best idea anyway. Pool chemicals and things in ocean water or lake water isn't anything you really want in your vagina.
random question. i was home alone and really bored so i was just taking pictures of random things and i took a picture with eyeliner and when i edited it, it acually turned out really good and so i was wondering is there a quote or anything that goes with eyeliner?
I'm not sure this is what you're looking for, but I love the line "black tears are falling down her face". It's in the song "Losing Lisa" by Ben Folds. :)