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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo."i refuse to sink."
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21/f
Sometimes people tell me I am pretty/gorgeous/beautiful and I don't know what I'm expected to say. I just say "Thank you" now but it feels so awkward. I feel like they're just trying to build up my confidence because I am very fat. It kind of insults me because I don't want somebody to lie to me to try to make me feel better. What should I say? How should I get over being upset about it?
I totally understand what you're saying. Like, you feel like everyone is just trying to make you feel better because they feel bad for you? or something along those lines, I can't really describe it.. I mean the compliments just make you feel worse because you don't know if they really mean it or not, and you don't want to be lied to. Sometimes when someone is like, "your eyes are so pretty..!" I'm like thanks and smile, but like I feel like I have bug-eyes, so it's like.. uhhh... why are they lying to me, i know I look bad. [something like that haha this is so hard to say in words.] but uhm, hmm.. how to say this, sometimes when a person gives me a compliment i'll be like, "ohh.. don't lie to me, I wouldn't lie to you." and then they'll be like, "no, no im being serious.." and i'll be like, "finee, but just know that i'd tell you the truthhh." and then we laugh and agree on doing that. It kind of escapes the awkwardness. but the flaw in saying that is that they might repeat the compliment and be like, "no, no, i really do think your eyes or gorgeous!" and then you just have to accept the compliment you know :]
I got over this a few years ago, i mean, many people are genuine, especially your friends and trust me, people won't give you a compliment if they didn't mean it. No one really does that anymore, unless you're in elementary school and trying to make friends with everybody so you compliment them even though you don't even mean it. hahaa. maybe that's where I got taht compliment insecurity from because I did that too. ;] but anyways, back to the point.. over time, you just get over it. you have to BELIEVE again that people actually mean it, and ryou have to be compfortable with your image to accomplish this. If you don't like how you look or feel, than you're not going to want to believe the beauty people see in you.. and that's what is making you feel like all compliments given to you are fake and insencere. [sp?] seriously though, that is the ONLY way you can get over it. look yourself in the mirror everyday and tell yourself that you are gorgeous, no matter what. because everyone is pretty, there is NO SUCH THING as ugly because who is to say what pretty is, yuh know? You're not alone though, many people feel as you do, but you just have to keep telling yourself, and convincing yourself that what everyone is saying to you is the truth, wethere you like it or not :]]
hope I helped ! and i hope that all made sense to you, I just wanted you to know that I felt that way once too, and still do sometimes, but i've gotten better, and you can too, trust me :] but it's gonna take some time, but it'll happen. just be happy and be yourself. xxo good luck, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me anytime!!
16/f.
i recently went to the mall to go shopping, and i could not find anything. anybody know any stores with really cute stuff in it?
PLEASE do not say
American eagle
forever 21
abercrombie
hollister
delias
victorias secret
express
old navy
dillards
macys
jcpenny.
i looked, found hardly anything. anybody know of anywhere else? (price really doesn't matter.) as long as its not over like 500 for a shirt..
these are some stores i reccomend..
-the limited
-lucky brand
-nordstrom
-charlotte russe
-american apparel
-free people
-garage
-Max Rave
-Roxy
-urban outfitters
-Pacific Sunwear
-Wet Seal
-H&M
-Fossil
hope I helped! good luck and have funn. xxo :]
Hey everyone,
So I'm writing a paper on suicide and depression and I just am curious and want opinions to this question: "Would you kill a loved one if they asked you to?" Put yourself in a situation where someone you really love like your boyfriend/girlfriend, mom/dad, brother/sister etc. was so depressed and they werent getting better and they wanted to die and they came to you and asked you to pull the trigger or kill them. think of it as there is no way they will get better because nothing has helped and if you say no they will still go through with the suicide. if they seriously ask you to pull the trigger for them would you do it for your loved one because they are in more pain now then they would be after?
hope that makes sense! thanks to anyone who helps me out with this :)
i would NEVER pull the trigger. i couldn't EVER live with myself if i did that, i mean, even if they are FULLY convinced that they are never going to get better, there is still hope, still chances. and if i killed them, i'd probably have to same from the MASSIVE guilt trip i'd be on for the rest of my life. that's just not human.
final answer [just to make it clear]: no.
hope i helped! xxo.
16/f
Right, so i really like this guy(who is 16), but the problem is he has a girlfriend, but liek two weeks before he started dating her he asked me to be his girlfriend and i said no cause i didn't think i lieked him liek that, anyway now i do. Would it be so dreadful for me to flirt with him a little and try n win him back? Any tips are useful, ty.
:3
sameeeee exact thing happened to me, and the 2 of them have been together for 5 months now. great, right? yeah, i know. *sarcasm* well. i still talk and flirt with him. like, i dont think that's bad, considering that his girlfriend also does that to his friends.. but anyways. if you still like him, i say why not? you're not stealing anything from anyone, so I'm going to have to disagree with the previous advice you were given. the guy you like isn't a piece of property, she hasn't claimed him, and they aren't married, so trying to get him back isn't going to give you abad reputation, you're not doing anything wrong. Maybe some people will side with his girfriend, but come on, you're only 16, i mean i wish i would have tried harder to get the guy i [still] like back. but do what YOU feel is right, just follow your heart. [i know that sounds corny, but still.. it's so true.] keep talking to him flirt with him, try to hang out as FRIENDS first, i mean, she can't keep him on a short leash.. so just go for it :] but don't make it so obvious, yuh know?
kayk, hope i helped! good luck and have funn. xxo :] if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me anytime.
alright, well me and my boyfriend brokre up because of alot of random things. But he says that i am his bestfriend still? Yet the inly time he talks to me is when he either is bored orr needsd somethiing. its never "hey ____, how're you". ughh i dont know anymore
just because he says that you're still his best friend, does NOT under any circumstances mean that he actually means it. sometimes boys just tell you what you want to hear so they can get stuff from you, whatever that may be. yuh know? Just don't pay any attention to this guy, he doesn't seem like a very cool person, and I know you deserve better. and you already KNOW and have told yourself that he basically just uses you for entertainment and when in need of something. My ex did the same with me. He always gets bored and randomly texts me saying, "im bored." like okay, what would you like me to do about it? I stopped talking to him, and i feel so much better. it's like im not dragging his weight around for him anymore yuh know? I know it will be hard, but ignore it until he actually does something about it and tries to see how you're doing, and tries to be there for you also. not just using and abusing your emotions.
trust me, you deserve 1738496 times better. like that's not a best friend, thats not even a friend if it doesnt go both ways.
hope i helped! good luck and don't sweat it :] xxo if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me.
Hi everyone! Okay, this is a really dumb question, but is it normal to hear your heart beat? Like, I was sitting abnormally close to this guy I like, and he joke-flirts with me a lot because of the looks I give. These horrified looks. Well, he took my hand, and suddenly I could feel my heart beat in my neck, and it was really loud, and was going like, a hundred miles an hour. Is this normal? Sorry for the burden, I know this question is stupid. Thanks!
awwwww :] thats actually really cute and bringing me back memories of when this happened to mee not that long agoo :]
whenever you're around someone you are attracted to or really like, you'll feel your heart beat quicken or "race" and it will get stronger so you'll feel it in other places besides your chest, like your neck for instance. it's totally normal, and you are totally fine, don't worry girl !
hope i helped :] xxo good luckk
okay im back i mean we are so in love ( i think) but things are kinda changing i mean dont get me wrong im so in love with this guy and he loves me to i knw he does but the thing is im so feed up with him telln me to make promises tht i wont start seeing anybody else and that im not havng intercourse with anybody else but its like he is breking a promise he made to me by talkn to other gurls but his is what he always say to me " baby dont get mad if u see me talkn to another girl cause you my baby and you my #1 gurl" at the time it be sweet but when i really think about it i be on some moe type stuff but i love him and im kinda feed up so what should i do please tell me
This guy sounds like he wants you on a VERY short leash and that is not okay. he is bossing you around, but you can't do the same to him? I mean, he makes you PROMISE all of that stuff, and you don't break any promise you've made, but he can break yours and go around talking with other girls and making up for it by telling you that you're his only one?
no way.
If he loves you like you love him, then talk to him. tell him that you dont want him talking to those girls, and that if he keeps doing it, then it's not going to work out, because the cold, hard truth is that it probably won't end up working out if he keeps acting like this. You need to trust him and be able to know that he will respect your feelings and not be so controlling. the only way to work this out is to talk to him, sit him down, face to face, and SERIOUSLY tell him what you just told all of us advicenators on here. and trust me, if he lies or keeps acting the way he's acting now AFTER you've talked to him, then you should just let him go and find someone ten times better who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. yuh know?
good luck! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] dont worry, just talk to him and see how it goes. hope i helped! xxo
does spray tanning make you orange by
any chance? because, i was thinking about
getting a spray tan for my birthday party.
& i do not want to look orange &+ ive already
went in tanning beds and i don't like it because
i always came out with a realllyy red area that
was ichy under my rish area, or behide my legs.
stayyy far away from spray tanning. I haven't done it, but one of my best friends has and she turned out orange. or orange-ish. most people can tell when it is a fake tan.. and plus, it makes your hands orange like bright orange actually. mostly in between your fingers and stuff, spray tans dont ware off for a while either, if yuh know what i meann. ;] i suggest using jergens tanning lotion. you can get it at pretty much any local store, like harmin or cvs or something along those lines. but even i dont use that. i just tan naturally :] if you want to quciken tanning outside, take some olive oil and put it on your skin, it's like a tanning oil, except much more natural ! my friend did that and the results came out spectacularr.
hope i helped! good luck and tannn onnn ;] xxo
hello :]
im 17 and a latina...
i resemble an interesting mixture between Vanesses Hudgens and cassie [me & u singer] although i look a lil bit more like cassie.. prom is 2 weeks away and i have my dress
http://www.davidsprom.com/dresses_detail.jsp?i=2113&g=0&p=2&s=7031
its a deep purple color and somewhat of a haltertop.
i just dont know how to do my hair. im debating on whether to leave it down and curl its or something... or do an updo.... i have waist length jet black hair and side swept bangs that hang to my lips... any help please?
I votee that you should just leave it down and curl it or make it wavy, because i think that would look great with your dress, which is REALLY spectacular. i love itt, no joke. however, if you were thinking of some up-do ideas, i'd defiently go with the more simple ones because you dont want to have too much going on to take away fromy uor dress yuh know? if ound some pictures for you that you might like to consider or spark some of your inspiration..
http://www.imageandstylenews.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/05/prom-hairstyles.jpg
-simple, yet really cute :]
http://www2.beautyriot.com/stuff/images/articles/approve/2884_3450_Hilton-Paris-05-4x.jpg
-this is really cute too. especially since you have side bangs
http://www.hairstyleslog.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/12/joanna-krupa.jpg
-i like th epoof and the pony tail :]
http://celebhairstyle.files.wordpress.com/2008/10/gisele-long-wavy.jpg
-i like this centered, but parted to the side would be pretty too!
hope i helped, ahve agreat time, and whatever you choose to do, im sure it will look great! xxo good luck :]]
I need some songs for a sister, best friend. I also have three nieces. Is there any songs out there that I could dedicate to them?
Please help!
I really want to show them how much I care with a song.
Thank you!
here are a few i reccomend :] ...
aly and aj: on the ride
mariah carey: anytime you need a friend
mariah carey: i'll be there
Brandy: best friend
Dave matthews band: back you up
christina aguliera: i turn to you
hanson: i will come to you
hanson: ever lonely
bon jovi: blood on blood
toy story: you've got a friend in me
hope i helped ! good luck and have fun ! xxo :]
if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me.
hey my friend is very upset over this boy.. what are some ways to help her feel better about it?
thank you
hihi :]
well, what did this boy do exactly? I mean, every situation is different, but just be there for her. Tell her the honest truth [bad or good] because if you hide what you really feel about the situation, it wouldn't help her, it would just hurt her. It also depends on her personality and what she would appreciate. some people like it when you just listen to them vent, and some just want to sit there quietly with you, not saying anything, because it makes them feel safe and comfortable. you could also distract her with doing fun things, such as:
-going to a park
-doing something she loves
-go see a comedy [no romance] haha
-go see a horror movie lol
-get a tub of ben and jerry's [her fave flavor], 2 spoons, a couch, a horror or comedy movie, and dig in.
-try to make her laugh as much as possible
-don't bring him up unless she does.
-maybe bitch him out, or say how you want to because when your friends say how they want to kick his butt, it makes them feel better, even if they wouldn't really do it. [i would. haha]
-take her mind off of it by keeping her busy with other things.
-if she wants to cry, or you think she wants to or is going to, let her. tell her its okay. don't tell her not to cry, she should let it out.
see, im going through a VERRRRRRRRRY hard time with a boy right now, and i know that i only have like a couple friends i can cry infront of because they would be awkward haha. but if she does cry, dont say anything but, "it'll be okay." and then hug her. knowing she has your shoulder to cry on will make her happy.
hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo good luck and do what you feel is right !
So my best friend goes to a different school than me, but she doesnt have a date to prom and shes soo distraught about it :/ like she basically hates life just because of this. i do have a date so im afraid of saying something that will make her mad at me or somewhat resentful.
What can i say to her to make her feel better? Or what can i do for her? like bring her ben & jerry's with a note or something haha.
i dont know, i just feel bad because shes so miserable and i feel like i cant help her :(
I disagree with the previous advice from sia.
It does suck if you don't have a date for the prom because it lowers your self esteem, alot. I mean, almost everyone around you was asked to prom and you have no one to go with or have a romantic evening with, it's gonna be hard. so just be there for her, show that you care. Tell her she won't be alone and that she's not the only one.
If you want, that ben and jerry's thing is a nice idea. get 2 spoons, and dig in :]
Yes, it's not the end of the world, [as sia put it] but it BLOWS and might feel liek it.
All you can really do is be there for her and support her :] you're doing great as it is, showing you care and being a great friend is really going to help her through this :] just make her smile and laugh.
good luck, have fun at prom :] and keep being the great friend that you are ! xxo hope i helped.
I've known this boy for a couple years now & I started developing feelings for September of 2008. I thought it was just going to be another one of those little crushes.
It's been eight months now and I still can't get over him. When I liked this boy, he told me he liked me too, a whole lot. We never got into a relationship because we lived too far away to be able to see each other as much as we'd like to. In the middle of October, he told me he also developed feelings for another girl at his school and of course I was crushed for I was even more in love with this kid by then.
They went out until the end of December-ish & he recently told me that he does not like that girl anymore.
My problem is that I can't get over him & it's been eight months. I've never completely fallen head over heels for anyone this bad before.
The only two options I'm letting myself have are
1) let him go - if this is your answer for me, I'd like to know how to get over this kid. Whenever he talks to me, my heart lights up. I fix MY schedule to have time to talk to him.
2) fight for him - if this is your answer for me, what am I supposed to do?
3) if there's anything better than the two, please please tell me. I'm killing myself over this kid & I'm just ready to stop.
Thanks so much in advance for whoever answers this.
15/f if it helps.
wow. I am going through like the same situation right now. and it's been going on for 4 months, but technically, 6. I can totally relate because this guy I am basically in love with told me he liked me, I told him I liked him, we never got in a relationship though because I rejected him once, and I think he was scared I'd do that again, and then after we told eachother we liked eachother... he got with his ex girlfriend and they have been together for almost 4 months now. and for 4 months, I have been fighting for him, although he DID play me. He was my best friend. He helped me get over my ex [who I was off and on with for 5 years] it was perfect, until ... it wasn't. I'm gonna tell you right now that you shouldn't waste your time on him, I wish I hadn't, if I could go back and have moved on when I had the chance, I would change that in a heartbeat. Don't fight for him, let him go. I know how it feels to have your head messed with, and it's not fun. they seem like they like you then they are total jerks. It BLOWS.
I know it's going to be hard to let him go, but you have to because he doesn't treat you right. It seems like he thinks of you more as that friend that's always going to be his back up plan rather than the friend who's going to be more than that. You deserve so much better, and okay, let him go, but don't forget about him. You shouldn't base your life off of him, there are so many other guys who would most likely LOVE to date you, and you should keep your options open. Like, you can like him, but don't let it show, look for other guys, get to know other people, and you'll find that he is NOT the only "perfect guy" for you. I mean, the guy you liek also found another girl and had kept his options open, so why don't you? fight fire with fire. If it doesn't feel right, then you could always go back to that guy, don't cut him out of your life completly, but the only way to let him go is to start broadening your horizons.
-don't fix your shcedule for him anymore.
-talk to him, but not as frequently.
-get to know other guys in your school, and start talking to them.
-hang out with other guys...
-get your mind off of him by hanging with your friends and doing fun stuff.
OR. you could talk to the guy you like,a nd STRAIGHT UP [no beating around the bush] tell him how you feel and how you felt. whatever he says, it can't be amaybe answer, it has to be a yes or a no or a definite answer. like if you said to him, "i like you alot, and I have liked you for a while, but I can't just wait around forever for you, I want to know if you have any feelings for me at all." if he replies with, "well, I don't know if I have feelings for you.." or "I have feelings for you but I just don't know what to do since we live far away from eachother.." then be like, "well, what should I do, because I need a definite answer."
You have to make it clear to him that this is bothering you, or you'll get no where with him, and your relationship will just stay the same. get your feelings out there, and let him know what's bothering you. If you get your point across, I guarentee a good outcome. :] trust me, I've been and am going through this.
tell me how it goes ! and if you have any other questions, feel free to inbox me, it'll be okay hunni, i promise :] xxo hope I helped and good luck!
okay i need advice to give to my best guy friend.
He likes this girl A and loves this girl B. well A likes him back and B loves him to. Me and Him are so confused because he doesnt know what to do. Weather to be with A or B. B told him that shes loved him and would b there when he was done with A. I told him if B really meant what she said then go with A. But then he said that he really loved B and then i said it sounded like hed rather b with B. then he said he didnt know because he really like A too. so i dont know what to do im stuck, hes stuck. Hes is also wanting to lose his virginity to one of these girls. please help and im sorry if its long. thanks
Well the best advice I can give you and your best guy friend is this:
If he really loved B he wouldn't be even thinking about being with A. My guess is that he's just realy confused right now and needs to think things over for himself. He can't have both girls haha so eventually he's going to have to pick one. I can't tell you what to tell him to decide [does that even make sense laughingoutloud] but I would say his best bet is to go with A. I mean, he likes her and she is in getting in the way of him fully loving B [if he even truly loves her because he might not] I know it's going to be very hard for him to let one of these girls down and break one of their hearts, but in the end, the decision is his. Ask him these questions..
1. who does he think about when he first wakes up in the morning?
2. who does he think about before he goes to sleep?
3. who makes him smile the most?
4. who is he more at ease with and comfortable around, enough to be himself?
5. who is more fun to be around?
6. who does he trust more?
Make him answer this honeslty and the whole virginity thing, well. that's something that he can worry about AFTER he chooses wihich girl he wants. I mean, losing your virginity is a huge deal, but it's not like he should base his decision on "who he would rather sleep with" yuh know? haha. If you ask him those questions, and he says "idk" then make him answer A or B. it has to be one. and these answers will most liekly give you the answer to whom he should choose :]
oh and he should also talk to both girls about all of this, it will also help.
good luckk, i hope i helped and i wish you and your friend the best of luck :] xxo !
I don't want to use store bought shampoos and conditioners anymore. I've tried so many in the past years, even some recommended by doctors & people from salons and they make my hair look worse. I don't have itchy scalp/dandruff. My hair just looks greasy.
What can I use every day to make my hair shiny and soft?
And is there something that I could do like once a week as well?
I don't want to use eggs. I was considering some tea but I'm not quite sure.
My friend has the same exact problem as you. she has dark brown hair, and it is contantly greasy and flat and dull. so she went to the doctors and hair salons, but nothing worked except... these remedies. I found it online for you, because I want to be specific :] ill link you the websites also, if you want other ideas, but this is what my friends guarentees...
1. mix a tablespoon of malt vinegar in a glass of water and add a pinch of salt. Then put two tablespoons on your scalp and massage it with your fingertips. Repeat this two times a week will help reduce the oil on your scalp.
- http://www.articlesbase.com/alternative-medicine-articles/treating-oily-hair-404727.html
2. A shampoo you can create yourself includes using some of your regular shampoo (try and use one as mild as possible), and simply add a teaspoon of Aloe Vera gel, and 1 tablespoon of lemon juice. It is best to use of a cup of your normal shampoo and blend all the ingredients together. After you have blended it all, wash your hair with it and then rinse thoroughly.
All fresh recipes should be stored in the fridge to enhance their shelf life. Usually they last for around one week and you should use it every day.
- http://www.disabled-world.com/medical/alternative/homeremedies/oily-hair.php
oh yeah, and my friend says to most defiently NOT use egss. at all. what-so-ever. it doesn't help at all. it's liek one of those myths. or flukes. and trust me this girl knows her stuff, she has tried everything and those 2 methods work. she also said that if you decide not to wash your hair for a day, and it gets greasy [because you didn't have time to wash it] just put some baby powder in it and brish it through. it's a quick fix.
hope I helped, if you have any other questions, inbox me and i'll ask my friend :] good luck ! have fun and I hope this works [which i'm pretty sure it will, although everyone's hair reacts differently to different things] xxo
Okay well ive been dating this guy for about 2 months now and every thing is perfect but ther is one thing that is bugging me he is still really cool with his ex and she still likes him i mean he tells me everything like what she tries to do and stuff like that she knows he is with me and she does not like me at all (i really dont cre about all that) but she texts him all the time tries to come see him and asked him to come over her house im kinda stunned i really dont knw what i should do i mean ive been done so wrong in the past and i dnt wnna put all my troubles on him but i just need help
It's good that he tells you everything, because then he is less likely to hide anything from you.
She is obviously really pissed that he is with you, and that must eat her up inside knowing she can't have him. Many people want what they can't have. It's like a natural instinct, some are just better at controlling it. But put your mind at ease. You have nothing to worry about until you suspect that there's something going on. always go with your gut instinct, if you think that he's bieng sketchy, go figure it out and ask him about it or her.
If something is bothering you, and obviously this is, talk to him. you are both in this relationship and if you want to be re-assured then put your troubles on him, if it affects your relationship, then you need to re-evaluate everything. I honestly think you have nothing to worry about unless they are constantly hanging out and he is also trying very hard to see her also. and if he starts hanging out with you less just to try to be with her, that is also a HUGE warning sign. But as the other advicenator said, you will know he cheated, unless he has done it before sneakily. like over text or something.
But communication is key. the only way you can solve everything, is to talk to him :] talk. talk. talk.
Hope I helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me [i've been a similar situation to this, so i can relate :)] good luck hunni! xxo
okay so you know the book crank?
by ellen something or other? it's about like how some girl gets addicted to like crack or something and how she loses herself to it. and how she like gets herself back right?
well they even have it at my school library, and everyone at my school is reading it.
i go to a public school, and my older sister goes to a private lutheran school.
she claims that one of her classmates got like 5 detentions just for having that book at school.
their school is a little different though...
and she does have a history of making things up.
and right before she told my mom this, i wouldn't let her use my shampoo & conditioner. i think this was some type of revenge?
anyways, my mom took it away from me after that and was like "i wonder if i should send you to a religious school before you go over the deep end."
and i'm like WHAT?! because i've never done drugs or even come close to them. i make good grades, and good decisions, and i don't see why she'd even say that.
just because of a few books i read.
and i've read like burned, by that same author and she didn't have a problem with that.
so she took the book away, and won't let me read it.
of course i'm just gonna read it somewhere else, because i should be able to decide what i read.
what do you guys think?
i'm 14/f if that has a difference.
Mature or not, you should be able to read that book. you are a teenager and should be learning about what's out there, yuh know? I love to read, and I have read that book, I'm 16/f and I have never ever done drugs or anything in my life and that book didn't influence me to do anything. it taught me a lesson, a very good lesson, that I should stick t my morals and not try any drugs because it's not worth it.
That book isn't bad at all and it was made for teenagers to read and educate themselves in making right decisions. It wasn't meant to be banned from you by your parents and teachers. I completly agree with you, and it's just silly. I mean, it's in a PUBLIC SCHOOL for crying out loud, public schools don't just put bad books in their libraries. seriously haha.
But just so you know, it's a good book. you should read it :] oh andd. you're so right. and I'm happy that you are a good kidd on the right side of the tracks :] !
xxo. have fun and good luck :] read onnnn.
I broke up with my boyfriend two nights ago. We had been together for 5 months. He told me he was beginning to fall in love with me. He is the Perfect boyfriend. I felt completely comfortable when i was around him, he made me laugh, smile-at my worst, he was the best listener, we could talk about everything and anything, he got along Perfectly with my family and sibilings, there is Nothing wrong wit him. and yet. after 5 months, i didnt feel emotionally attached to him. i want to so badly. i wish i could with everything in me. and realizing that he was falling in love and i wasnt close to it at all made me feel miserable.i know it was the right thing to do. iknow i was hurting him so much more by being with him and not feeling emotionally attached. but i feel miserable! ive felt so crappy every since we broke up. i feel this constant tightness in my chest. and i keep having him in my dreams all night long. all of my friends kept telling me over and over to do it and that i needed to have the guts to do it. and now that i have i feel terrible. and i miss him. well i dont miss Him but i miss talking to him, and constantly having him around. what can i do??? all of my dreams are about giving it more time. is 5 months enou???. please help. i cant stand this miserable feeling any longer!
5 months is a long time for a relationship, and breaking it off after that point in time is only going to make the situation 5 times harder, but you can get through this. Think about this, and ask youself these questions:
1. did you break up with him because everyone told you to do so?
2. were you pressured into breaking up with him?
3. are you sure there were no more feelings left?
4. do you feel crappy because you know he loved you and you broke his heart?
5. do you feel crappy because you weren't in love with him?
6. were you afraid of fallig for him?
7. do you miss who you were when you were with him?
Think about those questions and answer them HONESTLY. and sometimes, your dreams have meaning. Try this website..
http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/
I highly reccomend it to figure out your dreams. I believe in fate, and maybe your dreams are trying to tell you something, like maybe you do love him, but in a different way, or you should have waited a little longer until you broke up with him. but either way, if you truly did not love him, then you have nothing to feel bad about. you did the right thing by being true to yourself. it's normal to feel sad because you were together for such a long time, but if you have no feelings for him, then in a few weeks or months, these feelings will pass. It's hard getting over things, and he must be feeling just as confused and torn as you are right now. maybe you should try talking to him to figure things out, and thst constant tightness in your chest: I've been there. this guy I like has a girlfriend, and I can't stand it. I always see them and i get this tightness feeling in my chest and my heart stops. It blows. I know how you feel.
Maybe you guys can stay friends, although it might be hard if there are any raw or bitter feelings, or if you both still have feelings for one another. with all of that said, i think you need to figure out BY YOURSELF, no friends involved, not even your ex,and think about everything. cry if you want to, scream, think, write. just figure it out and everything will be ok :] I promise.
hope I helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me anytime hunni. xxo good luck !
i am about 5'1", 100 pounds, started my period a few weeks ago, and am and totally desgusted with my body because i have no boobs. i don't even have buds yet, there's nothing there. i'm so concerned about it, and i'm the only person i know with this problem. i know i'm slightly on the small side, but i have a friend who's even smaller than me and she has boobs- EVERY SINGLE person in the high school does other than me. i feel so alone and and i want them so badly. i already wear padded bras and i don't think anyone notices, but i can't even go swimming with my friends because i know they'll be able to tell. people keep telling me to wait but i'm so afraid i'll never get them.
please help,
thanks.
I have been flat-chestedd all of my life. It's like a curse. I'm a triplet, and even my sister has boobs and I don't. It's horrible haha. I hate comparing myself to other people, but it's hard when everyone has something that you don't... and then you don't feel normal. But okay, im a sophomore in highschool, this year I finally got "buds" you could say. I'm still not like a full A cup or anything haha, but I'm close. I've had my period for a couple years now too. and I know it sucks to wait and see what happens, but it's what you have to do. I thought no guys would like me because of this, but if you have confidence and go out there like nothings wrong, that's great! I was also made fun of in middles school, because of my non-existent boobs. but really, why does it matter? as long as you are comfortable with yourself and hold your head high with confidence, nobody will even notice. Take my word for it, I've been through this.
I never wore padded bras por anything because it didn't feel real to me. I didn't feel like I was being true to myslef. I LIVE by the motto, "what you see is what you get." I never wanted anyone to think I was being fake, but it's what makes you feel comfortable, so if you're wearing padded bras, that's totally fine. But don't not go swimming with your friends just because you are boob-less. That's not being fair to yourself. Just go out there and have fun, and look at it this way, one day you will ge boobs. they might not be huge like everyone elses, but when you're 50 and you have nice perky boobs, everyone else is going to have sagging ones :] i think perky would be more attrcative than saggy hahaa. and if anybody makes fun of you, just laugh with them, if you don't care, they won't either. don't let this get you down. Just keep eating right and do your daily things, your boobs will come :] just be patient. [I know that's not what you wanna hear, but it's the truth]
good luck ! I know how you feel... don't sweat it hunni, you'll be fine. I promise it will all work out in the end. xxo :]
My prom is coming up soon and i don't know what to do.
I have medium-long blonde hair. it's very thick. I'll do anything up down half up.. but i want something loose.. that doesnt look so "put together" i guess... i've searched the internet and just haven't found anything.. please help!
I have some ideas for you, because I also have thick blonde hair and this is how I did loose up-dos. it's pretty much the only kinda I like and that actually work :] !
http://media.onsugar.com/files/ons1/281/2817629/07_2009/bd/prom-hairstyles2008.jpg
-this comes out sooo pretty if you do it right, I went to a hairdresser for this.
http://celebhairstyle.files.wordpress.com/2008/06/prom-hairstyle-amanda_bynes.jpg
-this is also really simple but looks great when your dancing and is comfortable :] !
http://www.celebrity-hair-styles-magazine.com/images/celebrity-updo-hairstyles-08.jpg
-the one on the left is the one that turns out so pretty and looks great if you have side bangs!
http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_NO2UOMMYKZ0/SJmD_kFKi4I/AAAAAAAAAp8/dMs2K0dl3w0/s400/Ashley+Tisdale+Blonde+Hairstyle.jpg
-this is also another one of my favorites ! i love the pony tail idea, and its great because if it gets too hot, you dont have to wreck your hair to put it up :]
hope I helped ! and I also hope that i sparked some inspirtaion. have fun and party it upp :] good luckk, xxo.