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Responding to Compliments
21/f
Sometimes people tell me I am pretty/gorgeous/beautiful and I don't know what I'm expected to say. I just say "Thank you" now but it feels so awkward. I feel like they're just trying to build up my confidence because I am very fat. It kind of insults me because I don't want somebody to lie to me to try to make me feel better. What should I say? How should I get over being upset about it?
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I totally understand what you're saying. Like, you feel like everyone is just trying to make you feel better because they feel bad for you? or something along those lines, I can't really describe it.. I mean the compliments just make you feel worse because you don't know if they really mean it or not, and you don't want to be lied to. Sometimes when someone is like, "your eyes are so pretty..!" I'm like thanks and smile, but like I feel like I have bug-eyes, so it's like.. uhhh... why are they lying to me, i know I look bad. [something like that haha this is so hard to say in words.] but uhm, hmm.. how to say this, sometimes when a person gives me a compliment i'll be like, "ohh.. don't lie to me, I wouldn't lie to you." and then they'll be like, "no, no im being serious.." and i'll be like, "finee, but just know that i'd tell you the truthhh." and then we laugh and agree on doing that. It kind of escapes the awkwardness. but the flaw in saying that is that they might repeat the compliment and be like, "no, no, i really do think your eyes or gorgeous!" and then you just have to accept the compliment you know :]
I got over this a few years ago, i mean, many people are genuine, especially your friends and trust me, people won't give you a compliment if they didn't mean it. No one really does that anymore, unless you're in elementary school and trying to make friends with everybody so you compliment them even though you don't even mean it. hahaa. maybe that's where I got taht compliment insecurity from because I did that too. ;] but anyways, back to the point.. over time, you just get over it. you have to BELIEVE again that people actually mean it, and ryou have to be compfortable with your image to accomplish this. If you don't like how you look or feel, than you're not going to want to believe the beauty people see in you.. and that's what is making you feel like all compliments given to you are fake and insencere. [sp?] seriously though, that is the ONLY way you can get over it. look yourself in the mirror everyday and tell yourself that you are gorgeous, no matter what. because everyone is pretty, there is NO SUCH THING as ugly because who is to say what pretty is, yuh know? You're not alone though, many people feel as you do, but you just have to keep telling yourself, and convincing yourself that what everyone is saying to you is the truth, wethere you like it or not :]]
hope I helped ! and i hope that all made sense to you, I just wanted you to know that I felt that way once too, and still do sometimes, but i've gotten better, and you can too, trust me :] but it's gonna take some time, but it'll happen. just be happy and be yourself. xxo good luck, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me anytime!!
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hey pretty! =D
i totally feel your pain! definatly accept the compliment =) there meant to make you feel good!
some people may be trying to boost confidence but i can assure you most compliment are genuine =)
hmm im not sure how to not get upset over... but id just accept the compliment and create a new subject maybe or point out something pretty on them.. or say something like "aww thanks im tryin out *something new.. could be make up, diet, excersize, clothes range*
but at the end of the day as long as YOU think your purdy and YOU have confidence in YOURSELF then that al that matters =)
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