about

I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

when a guy says that he regrets breaking up with you and that he's sorry....& that he wishes he would have tried to work things out.....well what does it mean. does it usually mean that he wants to be just friends or could it mean that he might want to get back together with you?

i rate...
13/f

Thanks in advanced

He just wants to be friends until he lets you know differently.

♥T!NA

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everybody in my school thinks i am emo or gothic.
so i dress black/red sorta different the others , look on the ground often , don't make eyecontact , mostly am sad (but that's just cause i hate the school and i'm lovesick lately) have naturaly black hair and naturaly white skin. yeah okay and i admit i hate myself , and hate my life blablabla
but does that make me emo?
cause i never thought about it that way

Okay? So you're different. Tell them to fuck themselves and to be concerned with their own labels/lives.

♥T!NA

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17/f

ive known this guy for 5 years and hes always had a crush on me. 6 months ago i broke up with my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years. i am still very much in love with him but hes moved on and is deeply in love with some other girl. i gave the old crusher a chance and we have been together for a little over a month now and everything is perfect but i just cannot get my ex out of my head.

how can i move past my ex and concentrate on the one guy that loves me the most??

and is it fair to my guy to stay with him through the old feelings?

This isn't what you wanna hear, but I don't sugarcoat anything, so here goes: No, it's not fair to him. You should've waited until you were completely over your ex to get into another relationship. I'd come clean to your current boyfriend. Work something out with him so the feelings don't change. I can't tell you not to take too long, but if you take too long to get over him, your current boyfriend might lose interest. But time heals everything. Whether it takes days, weeks, months or even years.

♥T!NA

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I've never had a boyfriend. Currently, almost all of my friends have one so it's making me feel even more lonely. I don't want one just cause they do, but I feel weird. I feel like if I have one, it will be awkward and I'll break up with them. I don't know. I REALLY want to have one, but I feel like I'm not ready. Is this weird? Lol, or is it normal?

It's completely normal. Wait until you're ready & you're positive it's so you're not alone & because you actually like someone.

♥T!NA

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this is totally hypothetical:

wat if a guys friends are all whores (like seriously, they give head at least 2ce a day) and he gets a gf, that makes him wait 6 months to go further than kissing.
and he told her he loved her everday
and he stayed with this girl for 4 months and never got to do it.
and all his friends liked her.
but all her fiends hated him.
then he breaks up with her.
because he "cant handle the pressure"

but then he travels in a cycle, and starts over with her the same way that he did before he asked her out in the first place. flirting and all.
and he tells her he still loves her.
but also says he doesnt want to have a girlfriend.

what does that mean?



He's just in it for some ass.

♥T!NA

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"Umincase" you didn't know, he really is just in it for some ass. He probably doesn't want it from his friends. THANKS.

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Okay, I'm straight edge and have been for a while but all of a sudden I realized that medicine such as Advil or Midol or medicine of that sort is a form of legal drug. But straight edge is no drinking, smoking, casual sex and DRUGS.

Do medicine like that count as drugs or not? [Not using it to a degree where it turns illegal but for purpose like a headache or something]

Straightedge is no drinking, no smoking, no casual sex, and no ILLEGAL drugs. Advil/Tylenol & Midol aren't illegal. If they were, they wouldn't be sold at stores. You can take them & it won't mess up your straightedgeness.

♥T!NA

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What is the difference between anal and oral sex??

Oral is anything you can lick or suck. Anal is having intercourse in your ass.

♥T!NA

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is it true if a boy bugs you in a playful way he likes you? cause this boy always bugs me and make me laugh and when im working with my friend and he just came over and got closer to me and on thursday he just came running and like hug tackled me he just does stuff to me to get my attenion everyday does that mean he likes me

He might like you, he might be friendly, or he might just be really flirty. I'm gonna go with him liking you.

♥T!NA

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There is thios girl that everyone on campus thinks she is a hoe. And, our friends within our circlke of frineds don't even really like her because of her permiscuity. They don't really want to be associated with her. but, she is nice to me and has nice, respectful manners. I feel like if I like someone I am going to treat them and hang out with them the same way I do everyone else. I am not a hoe I am quiet and actually have never had sex before. I feel like anyone who htinks that i am a hoe just because i hang out with her is off their rocker and just plain immature. I feel like we don't have the right to judge people and when the only person a person harms is their selves, because she is not hurting anyone else if it is true, is the person who needs a friend the most. Do you think I should try to avoid being with her in public or do you think i am right? Give me your complete honest advice on this. I want everyones sdvice but especially if you are 18 and up I would really like to know your opinion?

You're right. Even if people don't like her because of her rep, that's stupid. They're judging her too fast & they're not getting to know her. That's their loss. Don't not be seen in public with her just because of her rep. If you really like this girl & think she's nice, then you'll go anywhere with her & not be ashamed of it. If people have something to say, tell them to fuck themselves. =)

♥T!NA

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im having my 14th birthday party on february 10th, and it going to be at my grandmas house because my mom dosnt trust 25 people in my house because my last party got to out of hand. I having in my grandmas basement because its hugee down there, but there ones probably, theres absolutly nothing down there except a drum set. I'm so afraid were going to have nothing to do, my mom said we could hook a tv up down there and watch a movie, so i was going to play that, and then that night were gunna play man hunt be in between i have no idea what do to. Do any of you have any ideas on what to do. There going to be 13, 14 and 15 year olds, pleasee helppp

February 10th is my 16th birthday and I'm having a party too, so I know how you feel right now.

Play Twister or video games. If you have a PS2, get the DDR game, or the GuitarHeroII game. I heard that's pretty good. Have tons of munchies to pig out on, and if there's guys there, play spin the bottle. Or 7 minutes in heaven. Tv is always good, and so are scary movies. =) Or you could watch a comedy. Or you guys could just sit around & talk. If it's not cold where you live, go outside & do something fun. And if it is, have a snowball war. =)

So, happy birthday, & hopefully you have a ton of fun. =)

♥T!NA

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ohkay so its like this. last year
me and my best friend were in all
of the same classes and we were
together 24/7. this year we dont
have 1 class together and never
see each other so we dont talk.
i really miss her and i talk to
her online but we never have anything
to say and shes like a stranger to me
and its weird knowing we used to be
best friends... i really wanna be her bff
again but shes always busy and can never
hang out so we keep growing farther and farther
apart.i wanna be her friend again
help =/

Call each other as much as you can to keep each other updated on what's going on in your lives. That way, you don't slip too far apart from each other. Ask her to hang out. If she says she's busy, ask about next weekend. But if she's repeatedly busy week after week after week, she's probably trying to hint that she doesn't wanna be friends anymore. And if she doesn't, just accept it. I'm sure you have other friends that can potentially be your new best friend. =)

♥T!NA

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Everytime i talk to this boy online I start crying a little. He used to love me very much but then he started playing girls and stuff and then finally found one and has gone out with her ever since. She lives on the other side of the world. They aren't even a good couple, and they only talk about once a week. I talk to this boy every day about, and we have a better relationship. I already know I'm jealous about this girl.

He said he could dump her but he thinks its too cold hearted. I know its hard to dump people and I'm not forcing him but he talks about her alot and I tell him and he ALWAYS promises not to talk about her but he still does. I dont even know what he sees in her--once I talked to her and she was downright rude and mean.

But I am just letting my jealousy get the better of me. I feel like its ruining my life in a way. What should i do?!?!

I would just stop thinking about it. That usually helps me. Yeah, it's hard to dump someone, but if she's rude & mean, then I'm sure she won't get too hurt. Maybe he sees something you don't, which is usually the case. Just stop thinking about it, or tell him how you feel.

♥T!NA

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the dance is coming up in one week, and i dont have anyone to go with!!!
i need advice on how to get a date quick!!

Go with a close friend, or ask the guy you like.

♥T!NA

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i need to tell my boyfriend im sorry but i dont know what to say . i need a very sincere apoligy help!

If the apology is to be sincere, it shouldn't come from other people. It has to come from you & your heart. That is sincere. Not 10 people on an advice site telling you what to say. You're not sorry if you can't be sincere enough on your own to say sorry.

♥T!NA

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Hey... I've been thinking lately. This isn't meant to be inflammatory or argumentative, I'd just like different opinions.

How could heaven be heaven if you know that 4 billion people are roasting in Hell just because they picked the wrong religion? I don't get that... I mean, if I were in heaven and I knew that, it would be Hell for me. And I know you can say, "well they chose wrong", but that doesn't seem to me like a reason for endless pain and suffering. There are perfectly good people down there. Thoughts?

I get where you're coming from, but look at it this way. Say they did something, like murder someone or rape someone. They caused the person's family who they murdered suffering for the rest of their life. They caused that child they raped suffering for the rest of their life. So initially, they go to hell to see what it's like to suffer. They deserve it, no? I can see if someone did something minor, like...a fist fight at school. See then it would suck if they went to hell. But people who cause other people to suffer, deserve to suffer in hell themselves. I see your point, but it all depends on what they did to get themselves there, no?

♥T!NA

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ok im 13/f and in eighth grade

ok this guy i really like likes me back and he asked me and i said no because im scared to be in a commitment like in grade 6 and 7 i used to hate being single and never was and now i cant even be in a short term relationship with the one guy i wanna be in a relationship with

*sleepiesheep*

If you're not ready to be in a relationship, stay single. Don't rush into things because you don't wanna hurt somebody's feelings. Fuck hurting somebody's feelings. Just do what you know is right. If you're not ready, then tell them that. Wait until you are & then if they're still interested, then go out. Being single isn't even that bad. So don't worry about it.

♥T!NA

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im 13/f
i keep getting signs of deppression i used to be a cheerleader until i quit and iv just seemed to give up on everything im smokeing weed now i enjoy just getting drunk and stoned and iv lost all interest in boys and girls (im bi) and even sex at times i dont know what to do iv even cut my leg a couple times please help

*sleepiesheep*

Everyone has signs of depression throughout their life. You might not even have it. You could be convinced that you do when you really don't. The only who can diagnose you with depression is a doctor. So go see one.

Why did you quit cheerleading? If it made you happy, you should've stuck with it. I'd tell you to join again, but it's probably too late now, so I don't know what to tell you about that. Find another sport that makes you happy, or try something new. You might actually like something such as field hockey or volleyball. Something like that.

Smoking weed/drink alcohol are unhealthy. Especially at your age. At any age, really. I suggest you see someone about that so you can stop. Because you're gonna be come a drunken stoner & you're gonna ruin your life. And you've lost interest in sex? You shouldn't even be having sex. You're 13 years old. What the hell? This could be your mistake, or your parents. Stop cutting. Once you start, it's hard to stop. See a counselor so you can get your life back on track.

What the hell is the world coming to?

♥T!NA

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Ok me and my ex boyfriend are talking again,i sent him a text the other day kind of braking upp completely as in not knowing anything more about eachother...He stopped me and he told me that he still loved like the first day he met me and he still wanted to keep talking to me too see if we can get to something again...i ended up accepting to keep on talking to him..But here is the deal he has me confused,if you tell a person you still love them and you want to keep on talking to them you at least call..he hasnt called me for two days its like that conversation didnt happen and im just really confused and want to know what this could mean i mean its not the first time he does it..its he playing hard to get or something???Please help i need advice.

He could be playing hard to get, but honestly, if he keeps doing it, you're just going to forget about him. Playing hard to get too much will often scare the person away, instead of leaving them wanting more like originally intended. Don't wait around for him to call you. You're half of it, so you need to call too. You can't always rely on him. You might not be together, but relationships are two people.

♥T!NA

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what exactly does grimey mean?? like someone will say "shes mad grimey" what does that mean? thanks

It's typically means wrong. Like, "She did you wrong, that's wrong." Same case if someone says "Oh she did you dirty." Pretty much mean she's doing something wrong, or she's just rude.

♥T!NA

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Okay well i have posted questions about this boy before and here they are..."I like this guy and im not sure if he likes me back. We have one class together and lunch, and when we have our study hall instead of the class he always sits next to me and wants me to tell him who i like. He always wants me to go to his matches and he has a girlfriend. I don't know if he likes me please help! Im a 14/f" and, "Well lets call him...Jim lol okay well in my gym class alot of the girls are Jim's girlfriends friends and when we were walking through the gym the other day no one was around and we were talking and then he kept hugging me and walking with his arm around me Is that another sign of him liking me idk please help.!.!.!"
Well since then he started hugging me more and more in gym and he was like walking with his arm around me and coming up behind me and picking me up but it was only when no one was watching... So i decided to tell basically hint around to liking him and he knows and then he would do that stuff even when people were around...now our class has ended.. and he still has his girlfriend and she hates me. I've decided to get over him but he won't let me because when he sees me at lunch he flirts with me and hes always staring at me. He yells at his girlfriend whenever she like pushes me and stuff so I've been trying to ignore him to get over him and it seems like it's driving him crazy like he'll do stuff to get my attention, he gets jealous when i walking with my guy friend and i just wanna know if he likes me or if i just need to get over him, but if i do need to get over him how? so i guess im asking how do i get over him if i need to and does he like me?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?


He likes you, obviously. If you like him back, you'll wait until him & his girlfriend are done. She already pushes you, so I'd leave them alone. But, if she pushes you, you have an excuse to just backhand the shit outta her. Self defense. =)

♥T!NA

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