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Judged by Association
There is thios girl that everyone on campus thinks she is a hoe. And, our friends within our circlke of frineds don't even really like her because of her permiscuity. They don't really want to be associated with her. but, she is nice to me and has nice, respectful manners. I feel like if I like someone I am going to treat them and hang out with them the same way I do everyone else. I am not a hoe I am quiet and actually have never had sex before. I feel like anyone who htinks that i am a hoe just because i hang out with her is off their rocker and just plain immature. I feel like we don't have the right to judge people and when the only person a person harms is their selves, because she is not hurting anyone else if it is true, is the person who needs a friend the most. Do you think I should try to avoid being with her in public or do you think i am right? Give me your complete honest advice on this. I want everyones sdvice but especially if you are 18 and up I would really like to know your opinion?
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if your friends dont like her it doesnt matter if YOU think she is cool then try and get your friends to get to know her
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You're right. Even if people don't like her because of her rep, that's stupid. They're judging her too fast & they're not getting to know her. That's their loss. Don't not be seen in public with her just because of her rep. If you really like this girl & think she's nice, then you'll go anywhere with her & not be ashamed of it. If people have something to say, tell them to fuck themselves. =)
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You are absolutely 100% right. If you were to stop seeing her just because your friends think she's a "ho," you could be missing out on a great friendship. Confront your friends, you don't have to be mean about it, and say they are being very unreasonable. Ask if they would consider meeting her because you know they would change their minds. If they say no, then you are better off without them. Don't worry about what other people think of you. College won't last forever and you probably won't see any of them ever again anyway. So make friends with whoever you want to and have fun.
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You're right. Anyone who automatically passes judgements against you for who you hang out with is pretty immature. Just because "everyone" thinks she's a promiscious, doesn't mean she's not a person. Her morality & self respect may be a little different than yours, but that doesn't make her a bad friend. I can tell you right now, some of my best friends aren't anything like me. But just because people do "bad" things, doesn't make them bad people. For all you know, her reputation could be completely untrue. Get to know her & forget what the public thinks. Other peoples opinions don't matter. You may not realize that now, but when you're out of high school you'll wonder why you ever cared about what other people thought. Give it a shot! You never know, you might come out with a new good friend. :)
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