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Depression
im 13/f
i keep getting signs of deppression i used to be a cheerleader until i quit and iv just seemed to give up on everything im smokeing weed now i enjoy just getting drunk and stoned and iv lost all interest in boys and girls (im bi) and even sex at times i dont know what to do iv even cut my leg a couple times please help
*sleepiesheep*
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ok, first i'd like to congratulate you on recognizing that you have a problem. that is the first step to getting better. if you feel suicidal in anyway please go to my myspace www.myspace.com/dripping_with_sin it gives facts and treatment for people who are suicidal. how you can help is ask a parent to take you to a psychologist or psychiatrist. medicine helps but only if its prescribed by a doctor. or if your not comfortable with that or don't know of any you can go to your schools social worker or psychologist and discuss how you are feeling with them. but if you go to a doctor and they prescribed you medicine you really need to not take drugs or drink alcohol becuase it can end your medicine. you are still so young and it would be something very precious to lose. im 14/f and i get depressed all the time. i never drank or did drugs and i think those elements are adding to your problems and depression. u need to gradually wean yourself off of them because they are not good for you or your future. and don't look to sex to make you happy, because next thing you know you'r going to end up pregnant or with an STD. so please. do yourself a fovar, stop having sex, drinking, and doing drugs and go see a professional who can help. if you need someone to talk to IM me at xcrimsonxsinsx6 i don't want you to hurt yourself and i care a lot about the teenagers of our generation. every 18 minutes someone in this country takes thier life, please dont let that be you!
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The fact that you are smoking weed and drinking alcohol tells me that you are self medicating. You are making an attempt @ disassociating yourself from your pain. Most women go through this @ your age. It comes before and at the onset of your menstrual cycle. You've got all kinds of burgeoning chemicals surging through your body and you've not been given instructions on what to do when you get to this stage in life. Most women experience this because that is simply how it has been handled throughout the ages. In ancient times women were allocated to a place called "the Red Tent", when they were going through their cycle. There's a great book entitled, The Red Tent, that explains all of this.
I'm going to give you some suggestions that you will start to feel immensely better if you do them. Start yourself off slowly and make those changes gradually so that you won't feel deprived. The first things you have to give up is drinking and smoking. I think that is pretty evident. But if you can only pick one right now then I would suggest it be the drinking.
Also, one of the biggest culprits to depression is white sugar. It depletes your body of vitamin C among other water soluble vitamins and is more addicting than heroine. Try going into a grocery store and finding something w/o added processed sugar to it. This includes corn syrup and anything that ends w/tose. Artificial sweeteners, such as Splenda and Nutrasweet are not a viable substitute. As a matter of fact if you are ingesting a lot of products that have these chemicals in them it could explain your depression. I've included some sites for you to go to. You can read here about the health effects of these products.
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Well, now that I told you what you should stay away from I can now give you some great sweeteners. There are two sweeteners that I keep in my house and they are Agave and Sucanat sugar. Agave is the juice of a cactus which is 30 Xs sweeter than sugar and has a caramel type flavor. I buy the raw so that it still has the vitamins and enzymes. Sucanat sugar is actually dehydrated cane sugar and is rich in many vitamins, enzymes and minerals. It tastes excellent as well. In the summer I go the farmers market and purchase cane juice. I add it to smoothies and different recipes. Excellent in taste and good for you! You will feel much better if you can stay away, as much as possible, from any kind of processed sugar.
Something else that will help you lift your mood is to take a vigorous 20-40 minute walk everyday. This will help to raise your serotonin level (which is a mood enhancer) in a more natural way. You will also cause your lymphatic system to work more properly. Your lymphatic system doesn't have it's own pumping system like your heart and needs activity to move it about. This will help in quickening your metabolism and could even cause you to loose some weight. It doesn't take long and the benefits far out weigh the effort put into it.
When you first start some of these methods you could experience some moodiness @ first because your body will be detoxing. But if you stick w/it you will come out @ the end of the tunnel.
If you feel you also need some mental work to help you develop a more healthy thought process then I have a couple of books that you should read, "Using Your Brain for a Change", by Richard Bandler, and "The Power of Now, A Guide To Spiritual Enlightenment" by Eckhart Tolle. The first book gives you actual mental exercises to help you develop the thought processes you wish to develop. I don't want to give you any of the exercises here because I might not translate it well and if it isn't done properly you can make things worse. When you read this book you will find that it will help you understand how to be in control of your brain. You can find this book on Amazon and it's not expensive. The other book, Power of NOW, is not about religion, really. IT's about you developing the person you are meant to be. It also goes into description about the difficulties you are experiencing right now and explains what is happening on the mental front. This book is not that expensive either and you can purchase it on Amazon as well as bookstores. One mental exercise I can give you now to work on is to find yourself a quiet corner and sit. Notice how you are feeling at that moment. Then try to identify w/that which is within yourself that is in observation. Observe the feeling that you are experiencing. Let the feeling be but maintain observation. The goal here is to learn to observe feelings when they come up rather than taking them on. It doesn't really matter what is causing the feelings. Feelings are actually a manifestation of the mind and the mind is actually an illusion. It can only think in the past and the future. IT can not exist in the present. Your mind creates a body of hurt, which feelings belong to, and keeps you held in the mind created illusion. If you can learn to observe them as they pass by you will be in control of your feelings rather than your feelings be in control of you. Below are two sites that explain what the power of now is about.
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Lots of stuff to look at, but you can do it. Once you accomplish some of these things, if you want more guidance you are welcome to contact me. You want to make changes slowly rather than radically because you will be more likely to stick to the changes rather than fall back into the mind created illusion. Then, again, these changes I mentioned might be all you need. Everyone has their own path.
I wish you the best of luck!
Namaste!!
LULABELLE
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first off, every teenager goes through a stage of depression, even after the teenage years.
yes, you sound depressed, but do you eve know why? is it because without something productive with cheerleading, you try and find something else to do, like smoke weed? smoking weed can set you off into mood swings if you've done it awhile.
i would try setting up with a therapist. write down your thoughts in a journal, i know that sounds stupid, but it helps.
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Everyone has signs of depression throughout their life. You might not even have it. You could be convinced that you do when you really don't. The only who can diagnose you with depression is a doctor. So go see one.
Why did you quit cheerleading? If it made you happy, you should've stuck with it. I'd tell you to join again, but it's probably too late now, so I don't know what to tell you about that. Find another sport that makes you happy, or try something new. You might actually like something such as field hockey or volleyball. Something like that.
Smoking weed/drink alcohol are unhealthy. Especially at your age. At any age, really. I suggest you see someone about that so you can stop. Because you're gonna be come a drunken stoner & you're gonna ruin your life. And you've lost interest in sex? You shouldn't even be having sex. You're 13 years old. What the hell? This could be your mistake, or your parents. Stop cutting. Once you start, it's hard to stop. See a counselor so you can get your life back on track.
What the hell is the world coming to?
♥T!NA
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A couple things, everyone has signs of depression at one point in thier life, and honestly, you should've quit the cheerleading, doing stuff you love and have fun doin is one of the ways to BEAT depression, stop smokin, drugs and drinking makes depression WORSE, and hoesntly, you shouldn't be having sex...stop cutting your legs, if someone sees that, there is going to be trouble, you could be put in a mental hospital for doing that..I think, look, talk to some friends or someone from your family! And if you really want to see if you have depression, go ask your mom or dad if you can go see someone who can say if you have depression or if you're just sad alot...which can lead up to depression. I hoped I helped and I wish you the best of luck
~Vera
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my dear,you must start thinking of what is it that made you be like this is in the first place....what is it that started all of this??Why would you quit being a healthy cheerleader to have sex and go on drugs??Do you know if you have sex now,by the time you are 20,you will have a baaad reputation among the guys,you will have gotten pregnant,you will have STD's and you might even have brain damage because of the drugs you do!!And you might even get this disease that comes from cutting yourself!!i just dont remember what the disease is called haha.Cutting yourself wont make anything better,you can kill yourself and imagine this...if you kill yourself did you ever think of where youll end up after???definetly NOT in heaven!!!you will have lost your beautiful life thats ahead of you AND your afterlife!!imagine that!!You much be closer to God because mabey the reason you ended up like this was because you werent close to god and did alot of sins.What do you want to be when your older?A movie star?a doctor?Imagine what a beautiful career youll have and all the new freinds youll make and the life youll have if you pass school and go to college and have a great diploma!everyone will luv you and respect you but if you have sex and do drugs now,noone will respect you,you 13 and you do this?!what will you do when your older?Im 16 and i never did that.You must think of the consenquences of your actions.Ok heres what you do...the reason that got you depressed,end it now...go confront whoever is bothering you and dont tell me they wont understand..noones that retarted.And i want you to write down on a paper what are the things you are planning to change about yourself...start now!You have nothing to lose!GO BACK TO BEING A CHEERLEADER!!your so lucky you can be one!!i wish i could!!(grrr haha)STop having it with guys or girl or whatever change the way you see things,change your group of freinds,beilive in god and do everything that you wrote on your list that you said you will change.And about drugs...you have to stop.Stop it all in one day,it might be hard but one day of pain and anger is better than a lifetime of having a disease you wont be able to cure.On the day you stop drugs,make sure you do a lottt of things to get your mind off of it.Good luck oh and cutting yourself will not only bruise your skin it will bruise your life because when your older and you look at that scar...youll get depressed and remember all the rough times you were through!!
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Dear *sleepiesheep*,
I read your problem and that seems really tough, i guess. But what grabbed my attention the most, is that your still so young to be throwing your whole entire life that way. I mean.. we all have our moments when we are so depressed, melancholic and we have complete nervous breakdowns,but then this moment usually passes and things fall into place again.
But here, your acting so wrong and your not even thinking of what your doing.
Why did you quit as a cheerleader? That was the first wrong action. I am sure that cheerleading was one of the most favorable things that you enjoyed doing. so why give it up? I mean.. if its possible, the first thing you should do to fix this mess up is to try to go back to cheerleading.
Then, try giving up smoking weed and stuff gradually , by reducing the quantity you smoke everyday. I know its gonnna be hard and that you enjoy it and stuff, but you have to control yourself and work so hard to get your life back. And if things don't work out, then you should tell your parents or someone with an upper hand, so that you could be admitted to rihab, which is not a really good place to be in. Thats why, i am trying to make you give up smoking weed and drugs and stuff with your own will.
Then, speaking about the whole sexual thing, why don't you try to hook up with someone. I am sure.. that there is someone that your into or that you like, so why don't you try to take a step further and go out with this person and have some fun, maybe then you would realize how good it feels again to be with someone, and you'd feel interested and excited again.
ON the other hand, if you think that all i've been saying since the beginning is nothing but crap, then i have another suggestion, why don't you consult a freind, someone close to you, or your parents or anyone that you feel you could trust. Talk to someone heart to heart, and he'll understand, sympathize and make you feel better by listening and comforting you. Thats exactly what you need. Because you are just bottling everything up inside you and your refusing to have someone there beside you. Or you could talk to a physichiatrist, i am not saying that your crazy here. but they sometimes help to make the depression go away.
But away from all this, i need you to ask yourself, what do you honestly win or gain from seeing your leg bruised and swollen from the cutting your doing in it? If it was me, these bruises would just tell me what a depressed lunatic i am. I don't know what they tell you. But i am sure they don't make you feel any better or great. Look inside you, and go over all the drugs and smoking and nervous breakdowns, and depression periods, and the cutting you've been doing, and finally, at the good person you were before that, and at the awesome cheerleader you were, and at all the sex you had and enjoyed big time, and at simply the good life you had. Then after you think about all that, contact me if i was right or if i even made the least bit of sense to you. You can either send a private message or an email and i promise to help you all the way to giving up drugs and smoking weed and cutting and i can make you go back to the life you once had. You know why, cause i am about the same age as you, and i went through everything you went through, but i quit it all, and now i can make you do that too. Trust me.
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