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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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i know this is really long.. but i really need help.

okay.. me and my boyfriend of like 2 yrs just broke up about 3 weeks ago. we were always the couple that everyone said "are going to get married.. they belong together" and we were SO CLOSE! there was never a day that we didnt talk fool around or just love being with eachother. we broke up and things were a little weird for like a week.. but now its just like were best friends again. and its weird bc sometimes its even like were still a couple. we always talk and laugh and fool around.. and i miss it. sometimes i still want to be with him but other times i just love being single and i think maybe its the best for the both of us.. that maybe its just time to move on- and that doesnt scare me, bc in some cases i just want to move on.
okay- so a little while after we broke up he started fooling around w/ one of my "friends".. this got me really upset. not that it happened just the fact that my friend wud do that to me after that long of a relationship and she totally knew how much he still meant to me.
then i met this guy. hes like amazing. we became close and i got with him a couple times. its not like were BF/GF but.. i think we might be getting there. we both like e/o. my ex knows n all of our friends too. i like both my ex and this new guy.. do u think i should hang on to my ex bc things might go back to how they were before (like they have done before).. or should i just totally move on from my ex and be with my new guy. im so confused i just need help.. i like my new guy.. but i dont wanna leave my old love if there is still something between us.. what should i do?

if i were you i would just work on moving on. try seeing how things will go with this new guy. it seems like your ex is moving on, if hes messing with another girl, so maybe it is best that you do the same. if your ex is too used to being single, and gets back with you, he might end up hurting you. i think you should give the new guy a chance.

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It seems like the only thing boys like me for is my looks. I mean there's this one really nice guy that likes me for my personality, but most guys don't even TRY to get to know me, they just like my looks. -.-; Anyone else have this problem? o.O;

I rate! ^_^

yeah it sucks... some guys are like that. they only want you for your body or looks and not your mind. but dont be discouraged, not all guys are this way. if you meet a guy who doesnt seem like a jerk then atleast give him a chance.

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I am a 15 yr old who plays sports but i got injured (i fractured a vertebra in my lower back) ne ways i had to sit out for over a month i could not work out... Just a simple yes or no is 5'9" and 140 fat or not ?

nope

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Well me and my friends are going out tommrow in hte woods to drink i drink alot but not so often so that isnt the big deal i guess but see im only in middle school and theyre bring chronic so they can try it and I REEEEELLYYY I WANNA TRY IT TO jsut to see what it is like you know?but trust me i do not think im going to get addicted to it what should i do tho?

dont try it you're too youngyou should be drinking either.

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On saturday me and my b/f were suppose to hang out, but he canceled. So he said we should hang out on sunday, but he never showed up or called or anything. I tried calling but no one answered his house or cell. Should I be worried? Because he's usually on-line all the time, but lately he hasn't been. He never blows me off ever. I know he wouldn't cheat on me either, he's not that kind of guy. What should I do? Should I be worried??? Please help! :(

well if you know that he wouldnt do you wrong, then you have nothing to worry about. he will call. but if he takes too long, then try to go see him or something, and ask what is going on.

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Ok I am really sad for my brother right now :'(, well here is the story please help me on what I should do to help him.

Ok, My brother had a gilfriend when they broke up she said bad things about him to his friends and now he doesn't have any friends, which he had a lot of them. He was also a popular guy and he is about to turn 20, but I need help he is very depressed to have no one as a friend I feel very sorry for him. Please tell me some ways he could get either his friends back or find new friends I have no clue cause I am not 20 I am much younger but please help me so I can help my brtoher I feel like I shouldn't have friends just because he doesn't. thanx for helping me

well its nice that you feel bad for your brother. but i am sure he will get over it he is a grown man. i mean there really isnt much you can do, it not like you can go and call a bunch of grown people and defend him, they will probbaly just laugh at you like you are a little kid. just be there for your brother. get him a card or bake him a cake or do something nice for him to make him feel better. let him know that atleast you care.

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I have this habit of always goin out and its so hard to stay home becasue my sister..well i tried to talk to her and i tried to be soooo nice and injoring her nuthing is working ...and i wanna bbe home alot but i just cant stand her at all..all she does is yell at me an i cant take it ...should i try again or should i just keep wat i do....or if you have anyother ideas..plaease help

signed
Confused

who cares about your sister. if you wanna stay home then stay home. dont let her run you out the house and shit. if she yells at you, yell right the fuck back at her and tell her to shut the fuck up. theres nothing wrong with a bit of sibling rivalry. lol.

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Ok this might sound so waird but....All my friends have done weed that i basically know or wanna try it theyre not pushing me into it but i wanna try it to like REALLY badly but i have second thoughts all the time like what if my parents found out and i dont wanna be llike that i wanna be a good kid well atleast i try to i dont know what to do!!!!

if you wanna smoke then smoke... but dont it just cuz other people are. and if you do do it be prepared to handle things if you get caught.

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im 14 years old i havent had my first kiss yet or a b/f yet and im starting to fell like im to fat and ugly and ill never find anyone what should i do about this?

if you're not confident, you will never find someone. you have to like yourself b4 some can like you, and you have to love yourself b4 someone can love you. and just cuz you're 14 and you havnt kissed a guy or had a bf doesnt mean you are a loser. everything happened at its own time. dont owrry about what other people are doing. when you find someone it will be special.

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What the hell does IDK mean?

i dont know

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i have liked this guy for about a year now and we hung out alot when my best friend and his started to date and i herd that he liked me well now his best friend moved away and i have talked to him all summer and i hed he likes this other girl what should i do im so cofused

you should tell him how you feel b4 he hooks up with that ither girl. but if he likes another girl, there is pretty much nothing you can do.

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okay hey heres how it goes... I'm gunna be movin inna month. ([ to King Of Perssia ]).. Is there anyone that lives down there.. ? [( im gunna be movin 8 miles away from the king of perrisa mall )]?!im going to the highschool in 9th grade..

but heres my question..

I've been going with my boyfriend for 8 months! And i love so much words cant explain how much i love him..and he loves me too [ the same way ] .. as you can see this is a SERIOUS relationship...we've done alot of stuff. [sex] [jerkin off] [and lotzZz more] shitt the sex is good :-)... [ lemme get back to my question ] but we talked about whats gunna happen when i move and everything.. and we decided to stay with eachother. But im still scared! I know im gunna be seein him and talkin to him on the phone and everything, hes gunna be allowed to stay over my house.. but the thing is... there is alot of gurls and guys that is hatin on me and my boyfriend.. and they always be startin shit to get us to break up.. it worked once but as you see we worked it out and are still together..but i know the second i move all these gurls that are hatin on me are gunna be all up on his dick! and tellin him lies and shit so he can break up with me. i already got in fights with these gurls and hes gotten into fights with some guys.. and its just to much drama..but I dont wanna break up with him but from where i live now to where im moving to is like 45mins away. (im 15) But do you think i should break up with him or trust him.. see i know that he wouldnt do anythin to hurt me.And i told him that if he hears something that he doesnt like that he should come to me and see if its true. But he tells me everyday "your not gunna hear and words come out my mouth that were gunna break up / i wanna be with you for the rest of my life / you my heart" - and he wants me to have a baby with him.. but im just confuse what i should do.. should i stay with him.. like i dont even know i just need help on what i should do please help me.. ill rate..

Okay, well its great that your bf cares about you, and wants tostay togther. but you are only 15, so my advice to you is to hold off on that whole "baby" thing. but as for your situation. dont worry about those haters. some people just have nothing better to do then try to make other people lives hell cuz thiers is. but it seems like your bf knows that. so stop stressin, things will work out.

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im starting 8th grade soon and im sooo stressed. i have to get all a's as always...i have to get into this privite school next year which means i have to apply and do well this year. i also have to do ballet..pointe..guitar..the play..and more..how do i take the stress off?

dont stress about anything. do what you want to do, not what you need to do. if all these activities are stresing you out, then you dont NEED to do shit but what makes you happy. and if doing all that doesnt make you happy, then dont.

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My first day of high school is coming up .. what should i wear ??? i wanna look cute n trendy ! for ppl who have already survived there freshman year ... give me a hint on what to wear first day of school =D

wear whatever you are comfortable in. what ever says "hey this me... fuck you if dont like it" it shouldnt matter what other people think. be yourself. i used to go to school in my pajamas lol. i dont care what anyone thinks.

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This started a few years ago. When im in a public bathroom with people I don't know, I have problems urinating. Like my whole body tenses up and I just can't. If it's with my buds or something I don't have a problem, but rest areas and fast food bathrooms are horrible, but lately it's gotten worse, like if theres some kind of weird music, or if the bathrooms really dirty, I don't know, I just know that at school I usually slip into the faculty bathroom or use one on the other side of the school that no one really ever uses. Also I had to start doing things like dehydrating myself before long car trips so that i would only have to go like once or never the whole trip. Is there anything I can do without seeing a doctor, and is this some kind of infection, or do I just get nervous sometimes?

lol. you dont have an infection! you are just nervous. you need to find a way to learn to just relax and go pee. i cant believe a guy could have a problem peeing, guys can usually pee like anywhere lol. but yeah find a way to relax, and dont dehydrate yourself that CAN cause problems.

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I would like to thank y'all in advance before you read this. It's probably rather long just because I think you need a little backround information about me... Good luck and thanks if you give me advice... I'll rate you high for this one (That sounds like a bribe)... ANYWAY... I'm having kind of a friend/idenity crisis. First off.. I use to NEVER hang out with girls. I was always one of the guys until 8th grade (I am not going into 10) When I grew boobs, had a NICE body, and was the captian of the competition cheerleading sqaud of my middle school. I had everything I wanted... I was beautiful, and popular (Shalow.. I know) Then, I didn't even make the high school cheerleading sqaud and I was kind of at an all time low. It was one of the most depressing time periods ever for me. That summer I gained 30 pounds and had no friends except my boyfriend. Luckily, I had my boyfriend there for me, which is still with me. At the begining of my freshman year I told my boyfriend how I was kind of nervous about going back to school because of my drastic change. So he told me I should hang out with girls. And so I did. I found a group of girls to hang out with. Turns out the year before I had bad thoughts about them but once I got to know them they werent what I really thought... (big lesson you all... don't jugde) Anyway, So that year was okay. I had girlfriends and stuff.. But I was kinda over weight and feeling really crummy about myself. But I wasn't gunna let that get me down... So I decided to get in something to take the place of my lifetime love, cheerleading. I became an active member in student council. There I became class president, And now I am student body president. I kinda prefer this position over cheerleading. ANYWAY... back to my friends... This summer was kind of weird with my girl friends position. I was happy i had girls to talk to about girl stuff and do girl things with. My boyfriend was happy too. So this summer I started big with TONS of partys and tons of drinking. Me and my girlfriends had a riot. But then I went to 3 leadership camps and decided that I wanted to be a role modle. So i stoped smoking, and drinking, and the parties. Well after I didn't want to do that my girl friends kind of left me behind even though we were really close. We barely talk anymore... And if we do its because they don't have anything else better to do and they wanna chill because they're bored. I know my possibilities.... I know my position.... I know what I can do... But what do y'all think about my position? About me? And what I should do.. Thanks

okay well if your friends cant admire you for the fact that you want to eb a good role model then they are assholes. what you are deciding to do is a good thing. you shouldnt have to drink nad smoke to have friends. but you can still go to parties, just do the right thing. dont worry about how your friends are acting, cuz they are acting wrong. im sure you will make better friends who feel the same way you do when you go to school.

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hey. well just thought u should know your hot. anyways, my girlfriend and i have just started school. we used to have a lot of time for each other but it seems like we dont anymore. she's busy with other things and never wants to hang. do i break up with her? or occupy my time some other way?

well somtimes a little space is good. but if it is really bothering you tell her about it and see what she wants to do.

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When waz ur first kiss?

when i was 14... but everyone is different. dont just kiss someone to get it over with, make sure its special.

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okay i knoe alot of ppl are havin sex and all and i used to want ta have sex really bad but i was talkin to my friend and she really explained to me that its a really good idea to wait for mariage. so thats me new plan. but c i talked to alot of guys about having sex... and now i dont knoe how to turn them down..?? i mean will they think im dumb if i say i wanna wait till marriage??

okay well if the guy is a horny loser who only cares about his dick getting wet, then yeah he will think your dumb. but if a guy truelly has respect for you, he will understand that you have values. and in my oppinion, you dont have to wait til your married, just until you are old enough to be responible if anything happens like you got pregnant or caught an std. and sex should not just be with anyone, it should be about sharing something special with someone you love, if that means that the only way you will truelly know if you love someone is until you are married, then thats fine, but trust me it doesnt always turn out that way.

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okay i LOVE to cook. whenever i make this dish... it's chicken in a lemon sauce with garlic pasta.. my chicken never comes out tender. but when i make all of my other dishes, like chicken parm. chicken marsala, chicken stir fry and everything else, they always come out tender! how can i get my chicken to be tender?

okay well you can use a meat tenderizer or a sterdy cup and wack the shit out of it lol! and also try marinating it in the lemon juice with a little bit of vinegar. trust me you wont taste the vinegar, it gives off the same taste the lemon does when its mixed with lemon. vinegar is really good for tenderizing all types of meats. good luck!

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