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I would like to thank y'all in advance before you read this. It's probably rather long just because I think you need a little backround information about me... Good luck and thanks if you give me advice... I'll rate you high for this one (That sounds like a bribe)... ANYWAY... I'm having kind of a friend/idenity crisis. First off.. I use to NEVER hang out with girls. I was always one of the guys until 8th grade (I am not going into 10) When I grew boobs, had a NICE body, and was the captian of the competition cheerleading sqaud of my middle school. I had everything I wanted... I was beautiful, and popular (Shalow.. I know) Then, I didn't even make the high school cheerleading sqaud and I was kind of at an all time low. It was one of the most depressing time periods ever for me. That summer I gained 30 pounds and had no friends except my boyfriend. Luckily, I had my boyfriend there for me, which is still with me. At the begining of my freshman year I told my boyfriend how I was kind of nervous about going back to school because of my drastic change. So he told me I should hang out with girls. And so I did. I found a group of girls to hang out with. Turns out the year before I had bad thoughts about them but once I got to know them they werent what I really thought... (big lesson you all... don't jugde) Anyway, So that year was okay. I had girlfriends and stuff.. But I was kinda over weight and feeling really crummy about myself. But I wasn't gunna let that get me down... So I decided to get in something to take the place of my lifetime love, cheerleading. I became an active member in student council. There I became class president, And now I am student body president. I kinda prefer this position over cheerleading. ANYWAY... back to my friends... This summer was kind of weird with my girl friends position. I was happy i had girls to talk to about girl stuff and do girl things with. My boyfriend was happy too. So this summer I started big with TONS of partys and tons of drinking. Me and my girlfriends had a riot. But then I went to 3 leadership camps and decided that I wanted to be a role modle. So i stoped smoking, and drinking, and the parties. Well after I didn't want to do that my girl friends kind of left me behind even though we were really close. We barely talk anymore... And if we do its because they don't have anything else better to do and they wanna chill because they're bored. I know my possibilities.... I know my position.... I know what I can do... But what do y'all think about my position? About me? And what I should do.. Thanks
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do whatever make u comfy.lucky u. u have a b/f and he was alwayz there for u..So dont care what any1 say.dont let no one bring u down.keep doing what u doing.and alwayz follow ur heart.
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ok i know what u mean u can be a good person or be a bad person n u want to help out the ppl around u n if u do bad things then its liek a waste of time on helping ppl if u anit even helping ur self but anyway u can make more new friends at student council n all taht stuff u can hang out wit those girls n u can hang out wit other good ppl that want to be role models i mean its ok to hang out wit guys im a guy n i like to hang out wit gurls to c what they like but its liek if u want to be a good person u have to hang out wit good ppl n like ur friends there just kinda using u if they talk to u when they so u sould talk to them when u feel like t n its like n ur postion is good a role model is a good thing but what kind of role model n u seem like a good person n ur b/f lucky to have u he stuck wit u threw things n u should also chill wit ppl in ur council or body n u can still party once in a while but thats what i think
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hey girl,..Don't worry bout them girls..if they were really your friends they wouldn't of done that to you in the first place...i think that you should go out there and get some real friends..:-)..you deserve them..Being a role model is very important..im very proud of you for choosing that over drinking & smoking..i know i sound like a mother..but you did a very good thing.. if i was in your shoes, i'd prolly tell my friends how i feel..maybe they will lighten up...also, you don't have to drink or smoke everytime your somewhere..or anytime..but i know that leads to peer pressure..but enough with that..i just wanted to tell you that i'm very proud of you...and if i was in your shoes..i'd try to make friends with another group of girls..that way you have more...so you can lean on them for some things when you need someone to talk to..:-)..i'm here if you need me
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I think its GREAT that you didn't get pressured into smoking and drinking after you realized what you REALLY wanted. I'm impressed. I'm also going into 10th grade and a lot of 15/16 year old girls wont admit what you just did. You know it IS possible to hang out and go to parties and not drink or smoke, that's not what makes the parties fun, it's being with friends and just having a good time, you could drink soda instead of alcohol, and everybody else is so drunk they wouldnt even realize. Your "friends" should wanna hang out with you because of you, not because you drink and party. Maybe they weren't true friends in the first place. I'm also having a hard time finding where I fit in, because I moved here 2 years ago, and let me tell you.. I've been through about every group there is.. cheerleaders, punks, preppies, goths, just search around and find where you fit in most, it'll all work out, i promise babe
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well, first of all there NOT true frieds if the only reason they hang out with you is becasue you drink and smoke...it sounds lyk they could be using you to "look cool" or something...i dont kno...but anyways people lyk that arnt worth your time...find other friends that are true...friends shouldnt drink and smoke WITH you...they should be trying to get you to stop!find other friends that are girls...maybe ask one of the other over-sized girls to start a diet with you ....if you want to lose weight. just be friendly , kind and welcoming to others and you will make friends! and remember people who wanna change you or dont lyk you because you stop doing something "cool" are def. not worht your time!
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hey whatever makes u happy no dinkin no smokin any of that stuff thats cool that ur doin what u want to do and not what others want u to do but i dont suggest being a fall back for ur "friends" they shouldnt wanna hang out wit u only when there board cause thats not right id say u should start by find a person to hang out wit so u still have sum1 to talk to when there not around and i think u sound super cool and it sounds like u got a great b/f
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oo wow ok lots 2 deal w. here haha! ok about the being over weight, you had motivation for gaining it [depression], so get motivation for losing it![getting your friends back!] when ur ready 2 lose it, excersize 3-4 times a week for 30mins-1hr, n eat healthy! ok about the losing ur friends, its good th u didnt let them change u 4 good! i mean if they rly cared about you, they wouldnt stop tlkn 2 u as much just bc u dont party anymore! be proud of urself for tryina make urself somethin more than a drunk!! wahoo! haha. try hangin out w. new ppl, try 2 get close 2 the ppl tht r on ur student counsil. mayb the other friendships didnt wrk bc u didnt have enough in common. i think tht u have a great position, i can tell ya i respect u alot frm wut u wrote bc u realized u had a problem, n u fixed it. you should just do w.e ur comfy with, but i think ur a rly strong girl who has alot 2 live up 2! gl hun!! x0x0x
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I'm kind of having the same thing right now. I've been involved in softcore drugs now for almost 3 years, alchohol, weed, dusters, shrooms, those are softcore drugs, hardcore would be like coke and heroine. Anyways, now im trying to turn my life around, but every time i get close, I lose a lot of my friends. You can try hanging with people that are more concerened about their future, but you have to consider the other option, I mean, having fun now might mean your not as healthy later on, but how much fun does a 60 year old have anyways? I say have fun while you can, but remember to keep school in check.
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okay well if your friends cant admire you for the fact that you want to eb a good role model then they are assholes. what you are deciding to do is a good thing. you shouldnt have to drink nad smoke to have friends. but you can still go to parties, just do the right thing. dont worry about how your friends are acting, cuz they are acting wrong. im sure you will make better friends who feel the same way you do when you go to school.
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I mean just cause your not hanging with those girls ne more doesnt mean that thers not more out there and everything i think that what you have done in the past year or so im proud of you for even if i dont know you that well and i give ups to the bf for sticking by you all this time...but i mean girlfriends can do that shit to you and i mean you can either take it or try and talk to them but i mean they have to understand you and what you want to do in you life...i hope i help im always here
Cass
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