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SO DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!
i know this is really long.. but i really need help.
okay.. me and my boyfriend of like 2 yrs just broke up about 3 weeks ago. we were always the couple that everyone said "are going to get married.. they belong together" and we were SO CLOSE! there was never a day that we didnt talk fool around or just love being with eachother. we broke up and things were a little weird for like a week.. but now its just like were best friends again. and its weird bc sometimes its even like were still a couple. we always talk and laugh and fool around.. and i miss it. sometimes i still want to be with him but other times i just love being single and i think maybe its the best for the both of us.. that maybe its just time to move on- and that doesnt scare me, bc in some cases i just want to move on.
okay- so a little while after we broke up he started fooling around w/ one of my "friends".. this got me really upset. not that it happened just the fact that my friend wud do that to me after that long of a relationship and she totally knew how much he still meant to me.
then i met this guy. hes like amazing. we became close and i got with him a couple times. its not like were BF/GF but.. i think we might be getting there. we both like e/o. my ex knows n all of our friends too. i like both my ex and this new guy.. do u think i should hang on to my ex bc things might go back to how they were before (like they have done before).. or should i just totally move on from my ex and be with my new guy. im so confused i just need help.. i like my new guy.. but i dont wanna leave my old love if there is still something between us.. what should i do?
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give this guy a try and let your ex give other girls a try too... i mean you guys ARE still close frends and all and theres reallie nothing rong with you going out with someone coz your single..giv him a try insted of just waiting for yor ex to want to get back together wid you er sumthin...itd be better fer the both of you...ya noe?
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Okay, very complicated situation ... it can be fixed though. Well, to me, it sounds like your ex has started to move on. If he started fooling around with one of your friends, and just a couple of weeks after the break up of a 2 year relashinship, I wouldn't be giving him another chance. I think it would be best suited if you just remained friends. Also, think of this, if it's meant to be with your ex ... you'll get together again. This new guy seems great though. A great new start. I think moving on with this guy would be awesome. It's time to try new things ... your ex has. I hope it all works out. ttyl.
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Before you do make a choice between them..i think you should talk to your ex and see if there is any chance of getting back together and see if he still feels the same way...and if there is a chance..then i would try and hold on for a little while longer not to much..i'd say no longer then a month tops...and if there is nothing there then try and go for your new guy...moving on from your first love may be very hard at sometimes..because he's the one you shared a lot of stuff with im sure..and about your friend..if she was really your friend she wouldnt step on your past relationships..and if you have a problem with what he is doing then you should say something to her..but i wish you the best of luck..this is a hard position your in!
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if i were you i would just work on moving on. try seeing how things will go with this new guy. it seems like your ex is moving on, if hes messing with another girl, so maybe it is best that you do the same. if your ex is too used to being single, and gets back with you, he might end up hurting you. i think you should give the new guy a chance.
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Hang out with the both of them....But remember stay close to your ex incase this new couple doesn't work out!
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Give the new guy a chance, but because you want to get to know him, not because you want to make your ex come running back to you, or make him jealous.
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i believe that if there was still something there between you and your ex, that he wouldnt have fooled around with another female. maybe he still loves you, only he can tell you that, but if he went out and did stuff with another girl, he obviously didnt care about you at the time. me, personally, me and my ex, we love each other, and even though hes my ex, i love him that much that i wouldnt mess around or talk to any other guy. if i found out that my ex was messing around with another female, that just shows how much he really "loves" me. so i say.. that maybe you should give this new guy a try because your ex was being selfish and he didnt even stop to think about your feelings. honestly, im not trying to say that the spark between you and your ex isnt there.. its just that i dont think its fair that he can do that to you. thats all i can really say, but the decision is for you to make. just do what makes you happy, because only your happiness matters
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i think you should make sure that you and ur old boyfriend are over and then move on with the new one..you need to move on but make sure your not making a hugeee mistake doing that..
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Well.. talk to your ex.. and ask him if he feels nething still.. if he doesnt.. and if he says.. yes like a lot of the old feelings.. then go back with him.. but.. if u really like this other guy as much as your ex.. then maybe he will be just as good.. or even better.. but if not then ehh hes trash =) if your ex respects that you two are goin out then he is one GREAT guy!! and you need to probably give him another chance agian later on =) cuz thats one thing u need in a guy, respect and understanding.. whoops* thats two things.. try communication... or foolin around wit the other guy.. kissing.. flirting.. you kno the works ;) who has the best qualitys? whos a better kisser? whos hotter? who makes u smile 24/7? who would u rather be around? who do yer parents like more? think about it.. follow your <3
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i think that you should talk to your ex ,..also..sometimes if you hangout with other guys,.or even go out with them...it shows you that you can move on..or if you still have strong feelings for him...you guys need to take some time apart and just be free..if its true love it will come back to you...but right not you just need sometime..and you will find out how much you really love eachother:-)!...
" if you love someone set them free, if its true love..they will come back"
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why did you guys break up? and who broke up with who? becuz if he broke up with you then maybe he just felt like being single for a while or something...and if hes already fooling around with other people then who knos maybe its time to move on. And you probably will still like him for a while, wow 2 years thats along time...itll take a while to get over him. but try n get with that new guy and see how it goes, maybe you and your ex will realize after a while that you miss each other and its not the same being with different people.
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Hey..i really think you should move on an be with this new guy. Both of you are going seperate ways..but hey its not "The End" forever,right? Who knows whats in store for the future.Just see new people..and maybe in the future you`ll be back to your ex.
-hope i helped!
melissa
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