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Where are good places to meet nice wholesome friendly guys besides school..cuz all the guys at my school like the sluts

You can try going to the pool, the beach, the mall, walking around your neighborhood or something, have your guy friends introduce them to there friends, amusement park (like six flags or whatever you have where you live), places like that, that would be filled with guys! Have fun and good luck! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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i am still very good friends with my ex..but when i talk to him online, he doesnt talk as much when HIS ex, who he still likes..help? oh yeah and im 14

I know how that feels haha! You just keep going sooooo .... anyways. lol. But when it gets like that just be like, "So what did you do today" Or "What are you doing tomorrow" or "How is your summer going" Or you could always bring up a funny time when you two were going up and just be like "HAHA Do you remember when.........." And just say stuff like that. Hope that helps!! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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A week after fathers day my dad punched my brother and my brother socked him back. Eventually the whole family tried to get my fathers fat ass off my brother. I slapped my dad and he hit my bro again, then when his arm came back, it hit me in my head and knocked me out. When i woke up my friend was right there and screaming at me to get up. My bro had run away. I ran outside just in time to see where he was going then i was knocked out again. I felt my moms arms around me and she lifted me up. I wiped my bloody face and ran to my house sreaming :get that son of a bitch the fuck out of my house!" When i saw my dad, his tooth was knocked out and his face was bloody. I told him to get the fuck out of my house and he said he'll leave when he wants too. I started crying again and fell to the floor. My dad didn't give a shit about me. He just fucking stood there.
I found out where my bro went and grabbed car keys. I fired up the engine and my stepdad came out and opened the door. My friend hopped in the back seat and i went in the front. We went and got my brother. He picked me up and started hugging me. We had never hugged before, because we weren't as close as we are now.
I have to get dental stuff and now my dad wants to pay for everything. I know im gonna have to see him cause he has to sign papers. I don't know what to do. Plz help!!!!
signed,
helpless

WOW! I'm really sorry, but I'm sure you don't want to hear that, so... Let your dad pay for it and don't see him at all! He caused you to go to the dentist, so I would let him pay for everything and then not see him at all! Thats what he gets afterall, he hit his own kids and thats horrible! =( Just talk to your mom and be like "I'm going to let dad pay for it, but I don't want to see him at all" And she'll understand and she can do something about it! =D I hope everything works out and keep me posted!

xoxo Kourtney

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"i care bout u and i like u...and if u dont feel the same way bout me then f*** it...we'll be friends" my friend just sed that to me and idk wut to say. cuz remember how i sed that i think i liked guy1 and guy2 well this was guy3. the guy i didnt like. and im scared to say sry i dont like u cuz i know that hell take it personally. i would talk to my other friends about this but they r not on and tomorrow they have a bball tourney. please help and answer asap cuz idk how long i can keep from not saying anything...thanx ..me...:(

Hey. Sorry it took me so long to reply back. My sister was on... err =( Okay, this is what you do, just be like "I care about you too, but I just don't have feelings for you like you do for me and I'm really sorry, I want to be friends with you because you're a great person, but I just don't see us together and I'm sorry, I don't know what else to say" Say something like that so he knows that you're really sorry and that you mean it. And be serious too. I hope this helps, just keep coming back if you still need help!! I've done this before lol.

xoxo Kourtney

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well i have a problem, i think that it is better if i admitt i have a problem. I cut, and i think i know why i cut, i cut to know i am alive and i think its so stupid..but i cant do anything about it. I cut and bleed my problems away. I always wear sweatshirts so people dont really know. But i think it is hurting my friends that know, because one time i cut so deep it was bleeding for like ever. im kind of scared.

I've answered questions like this before. I've never cut before, but I know people who have. Try putting a rubberband around your wrist and whenever you feel like cutting, snap it. Because cutting yourself can lead to a lot of problems and isn't good for youself. Which I'm sure you already know, huh? lol. But, you have a lot to live for and you just have to have fun! You only live life once ... right? But, if you need to talk about this, just leave a message in my inbox, I'll be glad to help you out! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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i still like my ex boyfriend..how can i get over him and move on?

The ex boyfriends... lol, pain in the butts. Well, if you go out and do stuff, that always gets things off your mind. You just have to keep busy and try not to think of him at all. Try going to the mall, partys, friends house, etc. You can always have your friends hook you up with a guy that they think you would like and then your ex boyfriend will be out of your head! You just have to keep busy and introduce yourself to guys and don't compare them to your ex boyfriend because then you'll never move on! So, go places that there will be tons of guys, like go to a pool or the beach or something, something that is filled with TONS of guys, you'll meet a guy that you'll like and then your ex boyfriend will be out of the picture! =P You just have to put yourself out there, be outgoing, introduce yourself, and be positive! Hope this helps and good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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well my problem is i have this guy friend and i dated him b4 but it didnt work out..well recently i found out from him he still has feelings for me but i dont have feelings like that for him..we're like best friends..well the other day he told me bcuz of his feelings for me we couldnt be friends anymore..but i know if i dated him again id be miserable..plz tell me what to do..i dont want to lose a friend.thankz.
xoxo
in need of advice

Tell him "I'm sorry I don't have feelings for you like I do with you, but I don't want to go out with you when I don't have feelings for you, that would be wrong, and that would only leave you with hurt, and I wouldn't want to do that to you because you're like one of my best friends." "And just because I don't have feelings for you doesn't mean we can't be friends, you can just put our relationship down the drain like that just because I don't want to go out with you." Just say something like that and how you feel about this situation and stuff. Just sit him down and be serious too. Hope this helps and good luck =D

xoxo Kourtney

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I have a question that i hope someone can help me with. Is it right to change for a guy? I use to have this one boyfriend that was a punk and I was jusst a normal 13 year old girl. all of his friends were punks to and at that time I was overwhieght and diddn't care about what I looked. Well then all of a sudden my boyfriend just dummped me w/no explanation. And a little while later I started getting into the punk music and cloths and i lost 20 pounds. Now I'm obsessed w/punk music and cloths but i don't know if it's b/c i want him to see what he missed out on or if it's really what i want. About 6 months have passed since my break up w/him. Since our breakup was just b4 the summer no body not even my friends have seen me, so I can't wait till school starts so i can see everyone's reaction esspecially his. But do n-e-of you think this is righ? Pleae someone help me.

Always
Nat

It would of been wrong if you changed while you were going out with him because then people would of thought you changed just for him. But, you didn't because you really got into the music and the clothes, so really you changed for yourself. And, for the breakup part, guys can be so dumb sometimes they just breakup with there girlfriend for no reason and sometimes they don't even know why lol. It may not have been because you weren't punk or anything, I mean afterall he did go out with you and you weren't punk, what would of made him change his mind? And good job on losing weight, 20 pounds, wow thats really good! =D Hope this helps!!

xoxo Kourtney

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How do i lose weight on my legs and not my other body parts? I will rate ya'll!

I'm not just answering this because I want to get rated... I just like helping people out lol.

*Try running and walking (Make you sure you bring water) and go swimming and swim laps, sit on a chair or something and put weights on your legs and lift your legs up, go up against the wall and pretend like your sitting and hold it there, try jump roping, and just stuff like that, that would require leg work. Hope this helps!! And good luck!! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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ok if your a lord of the rings fan you might get this but you might anyway.

into the south

int othe south we go
through danger we do not know
we'll give it our best
to finish our quest
with only a sword and bow

to mordor we must fly
where darkness fills the sky
throught dark shadows and mirk meadows
the end of all comes nigh

--- ok i know thats not that good but how do yall like it?---

I don't watch Lord Of The Rings. But I really liked that poem and I'm blonde and I get the poem lol. Its really good, I really liked it. So keep on writting and posting them, I'll read them =D I love poems haha. Good job on it! And you have to be positive, I think its a great poem and here you are saying its not that good lol. Don't say that because its a great poem =D

xoxo Kourtney

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hey im the one who wrote the poem about the girl who ran away, heres another one:

Your eyes are the color of the sky,after days of rain, hollow and empty, just to cover up the pain.

I want to scream and I want to know, what terrible thing has made you so.....

You hide inside as you let your body take the blame, youre to weak to handle all the shame.

Maybe all could be better , all of this could be through, if youd take the time to listen when I say that I love you.

how was it?

Hey!! WOW! That is a GREAT poem! I really like it. Good job!! Keep writting more because I'll sure read them. You seem like a caring person and I can tell a lot by just the way you write. Keep it up!! You can leave some in my inbox if you ever want me to read them! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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My boyfriend is a punk and i am like a cheerleader and im like a prep and stuff i dont know if i shold break up with him because later on in life i mean we might not work because he is a punk and he told me to choose him or cheerleading i am half hawaiian so like i have been doing hceerleading since i was 5 and surfing since i was 2


please help

Okay, I dress in like Abercrombie and Fitch and all those stores, and I hang out with punks, all my guy friends are in punk bands. And I go to shows and everything, so don't let anyone tell you differently. It doesn't matter how your boyfriend dresses or how you dress or the kind of sport you do, you like him for him and he likes you for you. Don't change because someone doesn't like what you do or anything. If you like cheerleading, surfing, and dressing the way you dress, then dress like that. Be yourself, not what someone wants you to be. You like what you do then do that. If you like your boyfriend a lot then stay with him. But, if he's trying to change you then either talk to him about that or break up with him. But, I would first talk to him and say "You dress like that and I dress like this and I do cheerleading and I like it, just how I like you, if you dont like that, then maybe we shouldn't go out" "But I just want to know what's wrong with me doing cheerleading?" Just ask him questions like that and just ask him whatever you want to know =D Hope this helps!!

xoxo Kourtney

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hey, i heard this song on the radio that i love. but i don't know who wrote/performed it (it was a woman though).
some of the lyrics go..
"i held your hand through all of these years"
Anybody know?
i rate

Hey!! I love that song!!

The song is:
Evanescence - My Immortal

If you ever have that problem again, try going to:

www.songlyrics.com

And typing in the lyrics to it and the song should pop up! If you have problem with it, just tell me I'll explain it =D

xoxo Kourtney

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Hey, l'm 13 and I've liked this boy for 13 months..lol.. and we started going out in april and he broke up with me in june. i was heartbroken but i kind of saw it coming..i dont know he kind of just stopped calling as much. then i found out after he broke up with me that it was because he felt bad because..he still liked me..but he still had feelings for his ex. but i still like him A TON!!!! we have kept talking and hanging out after we broke up. i have noticed that hes starting to act like he likes me...also he usually tells people who he likes..he wont tell any of my friends..i wont dare ask him myself because i dont want him to know that i still like him if he doesnt like me..i dont want him to feel uncomfortable. my friend has also noticed that it seems like he likes me. What should I do? haha i dont even know what im asking you..just tell me what you think about this whole thing and what i should do..please?

Hey! You guys went out for along time for your age... how cute! But, since you don't want to tell him you still like him. Then when you guys are hanging out, just be like "So, do you still like your ex girlfriend or is there someone else in mind?" And just like smile when you say it, like giving him a hint like "I LIKE YOU!!" kind of look. And, it seems like he wouldn't ever want to hurt you because he felt bad that he still liked his ex girlfriend, he could of cheated on you, instead he just broke up with you so, you wouldn't find out the bad way. And you two still hang out, hmmm I think he still likes you, but try doing what I just told you and see if that works, if it doesn't then tell me and I'll think of something else for you =D. Good luck and tell me how it goes!! Hope this works!

xoxo Kourtney

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okay,i wanted 2 get my haircut like ashlee simpson b/c i think its soo cute! but idk if i would look goo din that cut..my hair is really really think i meen thick!! lol ask any one..anyway i am getting it thinned out but i am still unsure about it--plz help me! :/

Doesn't Ashlee Simpson's haircut have like a lot of layers? If it does, that always thins out your hair too! I think it'll look cute, her haircut is adorable! I love it! You can always ask your hairstylist what they think if you got that haircut, just ask them if you would look good in it and if you can poll it off or something! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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HI,
MY MOM JUST RECENTLY LOST HER DAD AND WITHIN 4 YEARS SHE LOST TWO BROTHERS. NOW, SHE WAKES UP AT 11:00 AND THEN GOES BACK TO BED AROUND 1:00. TO ME IT SEEMS LIKE SHE IS ALWAYS SLEEPING. AND I WANT TO DO MORE THINGS WITH HER. CAN YOU HELP ME? PLEASE SUGGEST SOME THINGS I CAN DO TO HELP HER!

SIGNED,
**NEEDS HELP**

Hey! Aww I'm sorry to hear that. Sometimes when someone loses someone, they just need time to sleep or time alone. But, I was the opposite when I lost my grandma's, I had to be out doing something. Maybe, you should try talking to her about it. She may need someone to talk to, to get her feelings out. And I agree with that one person, she may be taking sleeping pills or something, go to another adult for that and tell them, so you guys can help her. But, I would tell your mom you want to go somewhere, like out to eat, or the mall, and sit her down/walk and just talk to her about whats going on. Just be like "Mom, I really miss hangingo out with you, you're always sleeping and I'm really worrying about you, I just want to talk to you and hang out with you" And then when you guys are talking to be like "Do you need to talk about it? Because I'll listen." And just help her through it, because sometimes when people lose someone, they just need to talk about it and get it off there chest to make them feel better. That may be the case, but I don't know. Thats can be you job to find out whats up with her and just guide her through this and listen to her. Good luck. I hope it helps!

xoxo Kourtney

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I am 13 nd 5 foot 1. I weight between 90 and 95 pounds. Am I underweight? I Rate!

You're skinny! Even if you eat all the time, you just don't gain weight, I'm like that! lol. And it seems like you are too. You just might have that low matab. (lol I don't know how to spell it, lol blonde moment, but you know what I'm talking about hopefully). As long as you eat, you're good! lol.

xoxo Kourtney

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ok, sry if this is real long:
last summer, at the pool i belonged to, there was this guy that i liked. he liked me too i thought bc we would always like give each other stares and stuff but we never actually met. we dont go to the same schools so i didnt see him but once the whole schools year and that was at the freaking vet. so now, ive seen him at the pool again this summer, but i dont think he likes me any more bc he never like looks at me or anything like he used too. i just relized how much i do like him and im really mad that he doesnt like me back (bc im pretty sure he doesnt) does he just not want to show hes """affection""" or does he just not like me and i cant stop thinking about him...I NEED HELP

**and i rate!**

Nice way to meet a boy at the pool! I should try that lol jk. Well, you don't even know his name or anything, so I think you should go up to him and get to know him and ask his name. If you're too shy, which I understand lol I'm sure I would be too, take a friend with you or something, and just go up to him and be all flirty and smiling and just say "I always see you here haha, I was just wondering what your name is" And then go from there and just keep talking to him asking him questions, like how old he is, where he goes to school, what grade he's in, etc. Just keep holding a conversation with him and keep flirting and smiling and stuff. That should work! Good luck tell me how it goes!! =P

xoxo Kourtney

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When you bowl a full game , you bowl 30 times , am i right ? ( not counting the second time you bowl if you don't get a strike on your first bowl ) So , a perfect game would be 300 , right ?

My parents bowl ALL the time lol. So, yea a perfect score in bowling would be a 300. The way you can get a 300 is by getting ALL strikes!

xoxo Kourtney

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I need some songs... any song would be good and who its by!!

Depends on what kind of music you listen to....

NB Ridaz - So fly
Juvenile - Slow Motion
Hoobastank - The Reason
The Used - The Taste of Ink
Baby Beesh Frankie J - Sugar Sugar
Christina Millian - Dip It Low
Dashboard Confessional - Hands Down
Petey Pablo - Freak-A-Leak
Twista - Overnight Celebrity
matchbook romance - Your Stories My Alibis
Thrice - Stare At The Sun

**I didnt know what kind of music you like, so I just gave you a variety. If you still want more, just ask =D**

xoxo Kourtney

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