Hey SuperG
Is it pathetic to be in love with someone who really can't return the feeling? Or as you say, should I not be making this guy my priority when I'm just an option...? You know who I'm talking about
love you much
~Steph
I guess I'm going to try to give you a different spin on this one because there are 2 types of advice that people can give you. 1) They can tell you what you want to hear, 2) They can tell you what's realistically going to happen. To answer your first question "is it pathetic to be in love with someone who can't return the feeling?" NO! It definitely is not. It's called unrequited "like"-why do you think there are so many songs on the radio about that. People everywhere experience this feeling-i guess what i mean to say is that there are a lotta of people out there feeling like you. Now whether or not you make this guy a priority relies in your hands. Only you can put yourself in situation to become someone's option. So i guess the question is when do you get sick of being an option? Wellp i can tell you its not gonna be until your ready. So take your own sweet time-but when you move on, move on for good and shut the door on it. Because believe it or not, there is a guy out there for you who is waiting to make you his priority and i can honestly tell you-you deserve every last bit of his love, respect, and attention. Hope this helps.
xoxoxoxo
supergirl21
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Whats up everybody! I smoke weed and love it. But i want to quit. They say weed is not addicting, but if it isnt, then how come i can not quit? I love it so much. But know it will get me nowhere. So how can i quit? Or should i not quit?
Thought it is true that weed is not physically addictive, it can become addictive because of a mental dependency you develop for it-in other words you like the way you feel when you are on this drug therefore you think you can't live without it. If you truly want to quit i have no doubts that you have the strength to however it must be something you are committed to doing-find other things to occupy your time, sports, friends, activities. Otherwise you will just keep doing it and i guess when you finally get sick of it you will be able to give it up. best of luck and stay strong
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This kid in my school, Danny, he knows I had an eating disorder problem, so I lost a really lot of weight; but everytime he sees me he makes some sort of rude comment. They all tend to be toward my weight. For instance at lunch I asked my friend if they had any money I could borrow because I left mine at home, and he said something rude like "What for lunch? Looks like you've eaten enough". Which totaly goes over my head because I've lost about 60lbs since the begining of last summer. So, how should I confront him, or should I not even bother I know theres got to be a way to shut him up without having to bring the principal into it or anything like that. Or should I just resort to that?
First of all congratulations on losing 60 lbs! That is quite an accomplishment and you should be very proud of yourself. It's good to hear that you let it just go over your head. What he says shouldn't matter to you at all...EVER! What's important is how you feel about yourself. In terms of talking to him you could surely try it. Ask him why he thinks it's necessary to talk to you and that if he doesn't have anything important to say he should just keep his mouth shut. If i were you i would honestly just let it slide though. He will get what's coming to him. Who knows in a few years he might mature and actually start acting like a human being. ya never know. once again congratulations and best of luck! xoxoxo
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hi, next month i have my first appointment for the gnyo, becuase im 15 and have had my period irregular since i starting getting it 4 years ago,so my mom made me an appt...so anyway my concern is that, a couple months ago my boyfirend and I of 9 months decided to take are relationship a little farther and he fingered me, quite intensly and has done it a couple times..(but I have never had sex, and dont plan on it anytime soon)I am worried that the gyno will tell my mom,(becuase i know the gyno will be able to tell,becuase i am quite stretched out from it) and i really dont think that my mom wants to hear "oh by the way your daughter has been fingered" and she will be quite dissapointed in me. If i ask should the gyno keep my information confidential?
"selectopaque"-you are wrong about the fact that the doctor will not share information with the girls parents. Know your privacy laws. If you are under the age of 18 your doctor can and might share any information with your guardian/parent. On a completely seperate note-your gyn will have NO WAY of knowing that you have been fingered-yes tampons do the same thing. If you intend on engaging in sexual activities you might want to talk to you gyn about safety and precautions but know that she might inform your parent/guardian. I would expect taht the doc will also tell your mom about the cause of your period irregularity-anyways i hope this helped. Good luck and just relax.
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this is mostly.. to people.. 18+ just because i believe yall may have more experience with things like this but all opinions are welcome.. okay i've been on birth control for about.. a month and a half.. and well me and my b/f recently started having sex.. with a condom as well.. we had sex tonight and the condom broke he had already ejaculated and was "pulling out".. and realized it was broken.. do u think i could possibly get preg... my BC pills say to use a back up method of birth control for the first 7 days but i've been on it like i said a month and a half.. so give me ur opinions.. should i be worried????
i am pretty sure you will be okay. Birth control is noted to be 99% protective against pregnancy-it is just not protective against STDs-you shouldn't be too worried but if you are, there is no harm in going to visit your doctor or take a pregnancy test yourself. Good luck and i hope everything works out for you.
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is it just plain wrong for a 15 year old straight male to babysit?
no.
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I use Mary Kay indigo eyeliner (it looks like black. There was no black when I got it). When I use it, I put it on the bottom of my eye, on like the inside part (it's hard to explain). Well when I get to school or wherever I am going, the eyeliner has already worn off! Is it because I use it on the inside and it's kind of wet near my eye? Or is it the brand of eyeliner? If it's the brand, could you give me some suggestions of really good eyeliners? Thanks
make up applied close to the inside of your eye has a tendency to run and eventually disappear-it's your eye's way of cleaning itself. I use mac eyeliner and it seems to stay pretty well however i suggest a product made by mac called "fix" spray. What it does is that it keeps ur make up from running and you spray it on after you've applied your make up. Another option for you would be to bring your eyeliner in a make up case to school and reapply it when you go to the bathroom. Hope that helps
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okay, the guy i really like just asked me out. yay. but the down side is hes punk. and im prep. i kno i kno it shouldnt matter. but if i go out with him i kno pplz are gonna look at me different, think im different and treat me different. i cant stand it. i really like this guy help me, should i or shouldnt i go out with him???
alrite well the question is do you like him more? or are you more worried about your image? In the long run i think you'll find that your image isn't as important as its cracked up to be. I know its important in high school but just really think, if you didn't date a guy just because of a label people put on him are you gonna end up regretting it? and having to live with the "what if". He could be your special guy and you'd miss out on a great experience because of other people who's opinions really shouldn't mater all that much to you. Best of luck and let me know what you decide!
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All my friends do all this oral sex crap with all the guys... im waiting till im married to do all that stuff. I think they are total sluts for doing it with just a radom guy they know, when they dont even have feelings for them at all, just friendly ones. I really think its gross i mean were only in 8th grade and were 14... i mean makeing out and that is ok but yeah ... am i wrong?
you are entitled to your own opinion and props to you for having the will power and the mentality to abstain from these activities until marriage. However everyone is different and you can't expect people to value the same things you do. Just because they fool around and have oral sex does not make them sluts-i will admit 14 is a little young to be engaging in such activities. If they know the consequences and are willing to put themselves at risk and if they feel that they are ready to have oral sex then that should be their decision. Doesn't mean you have to agree with it. Personally i think you are smart for waiting until you are ready so you aren't wrong, but you aren't right to think of them poorly for the decisions they make in their lives.
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Hello guys, long time reader but first time writer here. I really need some advice.
I've had this best friend for about ten years now (ever since the second grade) and he knows all my secrets. He has been the friend I've been able to go to for all my problems for over half my life. He's always been a great guy, but lately he seems a little different.
He came up to me the other day and told me that he needed to talk to me after school, and of course I told him it was no big deal. Well, when I got to his house after school he called me back to his room. When I got back there he was completely naked and said that if I didn't suck him off then he would tell everyone about my issuses with my sexuality that I had confided in him. I didn't have any other choice, I can't let everyone now that I have impure thoughts about other men since I'm in a private Christian school, but I'm not attracted to him at all. He's really overweight and he has hair everywhere.
Now he's saying that I have to give him head everyday or he will tell everone about my secret desires, even my parents. I don't know what to do, he tastes horrible. I can't keep doing this.
what you just described can be constituted as black mail and RAPE. You need to get help immediately. Your well being and your health should not be compromised because of secrets that you harbor. Whatever your secrets are-i bet it won't be as bad as having to give this guy head everyday for the next few years of your life. Anytime anyone forces you to do something sexual that you DO NOT want to do it is considered RAPE. You need to tell an adult ASAP if one isn't available then contact the cops-im sorry if im making this sound like its a big deal but IT IS and for your sake i really hope you get some help. He has to know that what he's doing is wrong.
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Okay!Well since christmas is coming up I really want to get my best friend a really good gift for christmas. He is an amazing guy and we have been best friends for well over a year now. We have gotten really close and I have fallin in love with him. I dont want to just get him something cheap and ugly. I want to get him something that he will remember and really like.I have never really gotten a guy a gift for xmas. I honestly have no clue what to get him. I want him to really love his gift. What should I get him?
hey sweetie! well this is my idea of a perfect gift! Go to build-a-bear hopefully you have on around you area and build him a bear that remind you of him! if that doesn't appeal to you, you could get a picture of the 2 of your together and buy a nice frame for it and burn him a cd of your favorite songs-then write him a note saying how you've really liked getting close to him and you really appreciate having him as a friend. maybe that'll drop the hint lol anyways best of luck let me know how it works out!!! xoxoxo
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hey um.....i tried to use a tampon b4 and it hurt....BAD. I need help am i doing it right??? HELP!!
that depends-i swear it took me 4-5 tries to get a tampon in right but that's probably because i started using them really early. It hurt somewhat the first few times only cuz sticking a wad of cotton is bound to hurt. But it gets easier with more experience. if it continues to hurt really badly you should see a doctor about how to properly insert a tampon and use pads in the mean time
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ahh i bite my nails!!! its a really bad habit! i do it when im not paying attention anyone have any tips for stopping?
they make stuff for biting your nails its like nail polish but it tastes like crap so when u stick your fingers in your mouth its so gross you take em right out! hope it breaks your habit!
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Can you get pregnant from pre-cum?
yes maam you can get pregnant from precum. ALWAYS! ALWAYS! ALWAYS! use protection!
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This is a question to all advicenators: What makes you want to give advice to other people?
for me, it's knowing that the pain and experience i've gone through can somehow benefit another person. there is so much going on in my life as it is i can't even begin to imagine what goes on in other people's lives. if i can help just one person by sharing my experience with them, then that to me feels rewarding. also with all the crap going on in my life sometimes i remember looking to the internet and trying to find answers to questions ive been struggling with-when there's no one else in my immediate life who can help me, its reassuring to know that theres a whole community of people online and at least one of them has had similar experiences to mine. plus it also helps to get different people's ideas, views, and opinions on things. so in short-i enjoy helping other people and recieving help.
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i am being forced to move from my home in texas, to the cold and mean streets of chicago. my mother got a new job, and she is carting me up there in february. however, my father lives here in tecas. i have the oppurtunity to live with him, but i never have, and we arent very compatible. should i go with my mom, or stay with my dad?
hey hey hey now chicago isn't all that bad-our weather may not be as nice as texas but before you call our streets cold and mean u should live here first. Anyways it is ultimately your decision-personally i'd probably go with my mom but thats just cuz of the relationship i have with my parents. Think about which parent would be best able to provide for you and your lifestyle. Anyways best of luck i hope you do end up in chicago just so you can see its not that bad.
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HEY! this guy likes me and i like him. My friend talked to him and told him i liked him and stuff. He said he is gonna ask me out tomorrow. I'm happy and all but now all my friend is saying is(let's just say my name is E and his name is B)
E + B = love forever! it's really annoying...how do i get her to stop??
Thank you for the help!
wellp tell her you appreciate her being so enthusiastic about the fact that you are getting a new bf! Part of friendship is communication and letting the other person know when something is bothering you. It doesn't seem like a big deal but i can understand how it can get annoying. I hope it all works out lemme know how it goes!
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i really like this guy and he likes me but i don`t want a boyfriend at the moment cuz of all this drama thats been going on and im just not sure..whats huld i do?
so don't date him-just hang out with him and get to know him...aka friends with benefits. And hopefully when you are ready he'll still be around :)
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what's the best way to whiten teeth?
my pearly whites could use a little lightening and i'd like to know what you all find to be the best way so that i can have my teeth in ship-shape in no time, thanks!
hey! use a whitening toothpaste so you get it everyday! but i also used Crest White Strips and they worked amazingly. If you need a fast but more expensive way to do it, go to your dentist who can clean your teeth with a sodium spray which blasts stains off your teeth, works great i've had it done twice! a little pricey but very worth it! good luck
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I went through a break up a couple months ago and haven't seen this guy until last weekend. i was trying to be strong and not hook up with him again cuz it took me so long to get over him the first time around, but i just went for it because i missed him. all my feelings for him came back but he lives across the country (im in cali, he moved from cali to jersey) so i only get to see him during holidays and stuff. i have this feeling we were meant to be together and i can't let it go-at the same time its torture for me.
how the hell am i supposed to get over him again im in so much pain. a little help guys how do you get over an ex?
wow-does this sound familiar or what?!!? ive been in a situation sorta similar....im sure everyone at some point or another has been in your situation before and im guessing you are feeling really hurt and angry and just frustrated as heck. if you have a feeling you were meant to be together then have faith in that-you never know what will happen in the future or what could potentially bring you 2 together again. But in the meantime don't make yourself suffer, go out and find some GUYS!!! While it's difficult to let go of someone at first, the faster you are able to put it behind you and open yourself to new experiences, the faster you will get over him-this doenst change the fact that you still care about your exbf, it just means you have grown as a person. Anyways best of luck hope i was of some help.
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