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i like this girl at my church but im not sure if she likes me she has called me clingy before but idk. and if we ever broke up then it would probably seem alittle wierd seeing each other at church and i would still want to be her friend even if we did break up. i kissed her on the cheek on this trip with my church and everyone was around because it was true or dare and i think she got alittle mad even though she said that i could.. so im not sure what to do. oh and did i mention that she lives 30 to 45 minutes away from me.. should i go out with her? or what could i do to get her to like me alittle bit more? thanks ill rate 5's for good stuff. (link)
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Hmmm... with the distance, and the fact that she doesn't seem to be very open to the idea of dating you, I think you'd be better off trying to get over your crush and just pursue a friendship with this girl.
Be her friend, and maybe with time, it will develop into more- you ever know, love works in mysterious ways. For now, just focus on getting to know her better, show interest in her hobbies/interests, grow in God together (I assume since you know her from church, you're both Christian, if not, I apologize for my assumption).
To get her to like you more- just be yourself. That means instead of concentrating on trying to woo her, you just have fun and concentrate instead on getting to know her as a person, instead of as a potential girlfriend. The girlfriend thing will either happen or it won't- there is such a thing as trying too hard.
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Heyy.. is that you in the picture? Oh by the way.. you were the one who helped me with the sally jow situation and really helped! Thanks a lot! Would you mind if I started asking you more questios? Cuz it really seems likeyou know just what to say! (link)
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Of course! I'd be flattered if you asked me more questions :)
And no, that isn't me in the picture. My column pictures is Galinda from the Broadway musical Wicked. (great show! one of my favorites- even though I haven't seen it, of course)
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OK, I have a friend... we do this play after school. There are only like 5 guys in it. There is this really cute guy.. let's call him Joe. Well my freind.. call her Sally.. always flirts with him. Sally already has a b/f! Now she is flirtin with this joe guy.. usually it wouldn't phase me, but I like JOe! Now sally has joe and a b/f! She ALWAYS flirts with him and is like wait for me and hugs him and is like: hold this and write me a letter and Joe your my best Friend! It's sooooo annoying! I don't know what to do! Should I talk to her? Member, I like Joe! PLease help! (link)
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Hmmm... sounds like Sally's a natural flirt. Some girls are like that- it doesn't necessarily mean they're cheating whores, but it does get annoying for those other girls who'd like a chance with a guy now and then.
Now, how good of friends are you with Sally? Do you trust her enough to tell her about your crush on Joe? Or will she just embarrass you about it if she knows? If you do trust her, then probably the best way to make this situation better is to talk to Sally about your crush. Most good friends would be willing to help you get Joe's attention in this situation, or at least step out of the way and give you a chance to flirt instead.
Now, I don't know Joe, so I don't know what he likes. But the best way to get a guy's attention is to be genuine. Don't try to change who you are just to impress him- because most guys are turned off by phony girls.
Strike up a conversation with him. Compliment him on his acting, ask about his hobbies, what kind of music he listens to, etc. Most people love to talk about themselves (especially in the theater business! I should know, I was in drama all through jr.high/high school), so it shouldn't be too hard to get Joe to talk if you show genuine interest in him and his interests. If all goes well, he should turn around and continue the conversation by asking about you.
Or you could just arrange to share Joe's dressing room ;) (no really- in one play, my friend Aly used the guy's dressing room practically the whole play- I dunno how she worked it, but she did!)
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OK. I usually have a really heavy flow. Today, blood soaked all the way through my pad, through my underwear, and through my pants!!!! I was so embarassed! Second, i feel like i smell bad during my period. What can i do to control the smell other than changing the pad frequently, because i do. Should i wear perfume?
I could use some help. (link)
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Wearing perfume will only mask the scent, not actually help get rid of it.
You're on the right track by changing your pads frequently. If you're soaking through sooner than 4 hours, then change it more often if possible. Also, make sure you buy bigger pads, like the long or overnight ones, for your heavy flow days.
The best way to get rid of the smell is to shower often. Make sure that you shower every day while you've got your period, and when you shower wash yourself really well down there.
You might be ready to try tampons. Talk to your mom or another woman in your life about it. Tampons smell less and are less messy than pads. You can get tampons in varying sizes, just like pads.
Tampax makes tampons called "Teen Satin" that are really good for younger users. Or anything with a plastic applicator (like Playtex Gentle Glide or Tampax Pearl) is usually pretty easy to use.
Chances are, you're the only person who notices that you smell. As long as you keep your legs crossed and keep changing your pads (or tampons), you'll probably be fine.
Just remember- every woman goes through this. Just looking at statistics- chances are 1 in 4 women everywhere you go also have their period. :)
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I have acrush on this boy and he doesn't know it! My friend is supposed to tell him tommorow... but i dunno if he will!!! Im worried cause i dont really wanna know his reaction... i really dont think he likes me and i dunno wat to do!!!!!!! (link)
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Ummm... call up your friend and tell them not to tell this boy you like him.
Crushes come and go... I know it probably seems like this one will be the end of all things, but someday you might look back and laugh and think, "OMG, was I really like that?"
For now, just try to love life. Have fun with your friends, laugh a lot, be silly and spontaneous every once in a while, explore hobbies/interests that you love...
And eventually, the right boy will come along. The boy who likes you and you like him back. The boy that you'll be able to have fun with, walk along the beach or in the park holding hands with, the boy you can snuggle with watching movies or gazing at stars.
This boy might not be him... but I promise, eventually you'll find the right boy for you.
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I like this guy and we are already friends. I don't have many classes with him but I sit right behind him in the one class we do have. He always turns aroud at me and tries to make me laugh. I told one of my friends who hasn't told anyone. He's really cute but i don't want to tell him. It might ruin our friendship and i don't want anything like that to happen. I just really like him. Help, i'll rate low if you tell me to tell him because that won't get me anywhere (link)
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Okay, so talking in class is a good start... but a real friendship (or any sort of relationship) isn't going to happen until you take it beyond school. Do you ever see him in the halls? Do you know where his locker is? Do you have the same lunch? Try to make a point of talking to him (or at least smiling and saying hi to start) outside of class.
You could also ask for his phone number or sn as a way to talk to him outside of school.
Do you know any of his friends? Getting to know them might be a good idea- being friends with his friends is a great way to get closer to him.
Now I know most of this is the same sort of tips you might expect for just forming a friendship... and they are. I'm a big believer in the "friends first" theory- in my opinion, pursuing a relationship the same way you would a friendship, instead of just jumping in with the awkward "I like you, will you be my boyfriend/girlfriend?" is much more likely to work. Good luck!
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i'm going on a trip to a law center this week
theres no dress code, but you should look presentable..we're part of a mock jury..any ideas? (link)
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Black pants or khakis is probably your best bet. A skirt (not a short one! knee length at least) would also be good.
On top, any nice shirt, polo, or sweater would work. Be sure it's not too low-cut, and without words is more dressy.
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I am 15 and 5'3 and 142 pounds..I used to be 112 when I was 12..I had gained 30 pounds :-x..I can't do sit ups for some reason or anything like that, I need to use my elbow to help me up. I have a breathing problem and I can't really run w/o having to stop and catch my breath every few yards. Is there anyways I can get to about 120 by summer? (link)
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22 pounds is a pretty big weight loss goal, especially at such a young age. You'd be much better off just focusing on eating right and exercising than focusing merely on the pounds.
Eating right can be a challenge if you're not used to it. Cut out extra snacks and junk food, and try to eat lots of vegetables, fruits, and whole grains. Ask your parents to help by buying healthy snacks from the grocery store for you instead of junk food snacks, and offer to help make some healthy recipes.
Exercising sounds like something that will be a challenge for you... but you don't have to start out huge! If running is too hard, try walking. Swimming, biking, and rollerblading are also great cardio activities. Dancing is good too. You could try something low-intensity like yoga or pilates. Anything is better than nothing- so find some sort of active activity that you like and can do without hurting yourself, and make it part of your routine. You should be getting some sort of cardio activity every day- about 30 minutes 5-6 days a week.
Maybe you should consider talking to your doctor. See if she thinks you're overweight for your age and height, and she'll also be able to give you tips as to how to lose weight the healthy way.
Also, it IS normal to gain weight as you go through puberty. I'm 19 and one of my "skinny" friends is 135 pounds. So don't expect that you'd be 112 pounds forever- it's just not going to happen for most people.
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I have very dry skin and I was wondering if anyone knew of a really good body scrub that is fragrance free?? I have very sensitive skin and I can't use anything that has ANY kind of fragrance!! Thanks!! :) (link)
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Have you tried a home-made scrub? Almond oil (or any vegetable oil) and sugar makes a good scrub.
EDIT: here's a recipe for a sugar scrub that was posted a few months ago on the spacefem forums (not by me)
http://spacefem.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=19491
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hi im 15 and i have long hair, like every other guy at school. but it looks really bad, like its always messed up when i wake up. it looks good with a hat on, but without nething..*twitch* ne ideas to what i can do to make it look good in like 5-10 minutes? thx (link)
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combs work wonders. So do trips to the barber.
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What do you do if you find yourself more and more each day, liking a guy who does not believe in God? I am a christian and I have my morals, standards and beliefs and he doesn't meet my number one standard which is believeing in God and having a relationship with him but, on the other hand, I am so drawn to him I can't help it.He's a really great guy but should we just stay friends and nothing more? (link)
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Don't compromise your standards. Guys come and go... God is forever.
That being said, my advice for you is pray. Pray hard, Pray often. Ask God to take the reins and steer you on the right path. Talk to someone about this- a friend, youth pastor, etc.- talk to another Christian who can give you advice, support you through this, and pray with you.
I guess everything I've read (like in Brio magazine, teen devotionals, etc.) has said that while yes, it's important to be friends with non-Christians and share Jesus' love with them, it's not a good idea to date a non-Christian. The Bible says (sorry I don't know the verse number here) "Don't be yoked with un-believers." Pray for a Godly man to come into this guy's life, a Christian guy who can disciple this guy into the light. Pray that he finds Jesus. Continue to be his friend.
Having a crush is okay. But make sure that you don't lower yourself to worldly expectations. Be God's girl first, and some guy's girlfriend second.
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I'm going to a car show tomorrow with my boyfriend. It's suppose to be 72 degrees. I don't know what to wear, or how I should wear my hair(it's right below shoulder length)
Please help.
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Hmmm... car show. Think outdoors and dusty. At least, that's what every car show I've been to has been like. So wear jeans or capris, and comfy shoes (think tennis shoes, not flip-flops). Wear a cute springy shirt, something flirty, since this is a date. Hair- down is sexy, but if it looks like it'll be windy or even just breezy, you're much better off wearing it up.
Is it an old cars show? If so, then it might be fun to go with a more retro look- now don't go over the top or anything, but capris and a twinset with cat's-eye sunglasses from the 50's would be fun. Or a retro t-shirt with a bowling or music logo.
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my girlfriends bday is coming up and im clueless on what to get her i already got her a bracelet a necklace and i dont know what to get now we have been going out 1 year and 2 months (link)
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Gifts don't have to be expensive or romantic... jewelry isn't the only option for a guy to buy his girlfriend.
Get her something that she'll like and that she'll use.
What's she into? Hobbies, favorites, what does she like?
A few cute ideas I've seen:
- dvd of the first movie you saw together
- scrapbook of pictures of you two, or frame with a favorite picture
- mix cd of romantic songs
- teddy bear or fleece blanket for cuddling
Pay attention to her the next couple weeks... does she ever mention something she'd like, something she thinks is cool, etc. Maybe she only mentions it once, but the fact that you remember and get it- she'll find it unexpected and your thoughtfullness sweet.
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ok there's this guy at my skool whos been there since the begining of skool, but he started out as one of "the big guys on campus" like kinda cocky and stuff. but like now that its gettin close to summer, it seems like when i see him or hear about him, he's changed. Like from really preppy to skater guy and cocky to nice and he stands up for christ and i respect that alot from a guy! but me, im just like, people know me, im kinda popular, but not like a mean girl u know wat i mean? im not the one all the guys go crazy for. the guy im talkin bout doesnt really pay much attention to me, but i think he's really sweet. wat shood i do? (i rate 5s!) :-) thanks yall (link)
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Wow. that's a pretty big change...
Do you know what church he goes to? You could consider inviting him to a youth group event with you- like if your youth group ever has field trips, bands, game nights- stuff like that.
You said he doesn't pay much attention to you- well, pay more attention to him. Start a conversation with him. Show interest in his hobbies/interests. Get your friends to talk to him.
Don't get discouraged if he doesn't automatically start to like you- or that when you start talking to him, you find he's not all that you think he is. Image isn't always everything.
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Can someone help me, anyone who's read The Odyssey. Book IX (9) :
1. What does Odysseus compare the Cyclops to?
2. Why does odysseus refuse his men's reguest?
3. What is the Cyclop's attitude toward the gods?
4. Why do you think Odysseus lies about the ship?
5. Why doesn't Odysseus kill the Cyclops at the time?
6. What does Odysseus plan to do to the cyclops? (link)
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this is not www.domyhomework.com
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I am 19 and haven't dated in a year becuase i am tired of going out with people i know will not really mean anything. I recently started hanging out with an old friend, in which we get along great. One night a group of four people were debating and me and her agreed on everything. She is a very sweet girl and we share a strong passion for God. After my last breakup i kinda started to go away from god somewhat, and recently I have been coming back to him, and she really makes me want to countinue strengthening my walk with god. The only probly is, she is 14. (link)
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And you're question is....? Are you asking if it'd be okay to date this girl? Are you looking for encouragement in your walk with God? Are you trying to get advice on how to re-enter the dating world? Because I'm not quite sure what you're looking for in your question.
But on the issue of kissing this 14 year old- Don't. She's 5 years younger than you, which might not be such a big deal when you're 30, but right now it is a very big deal. She's a minor. You're an adult. You're not at the same stage in your lives.
Being friends is great. Especially if she's encouraging to you as a Christian friend and mentor.
Keep praying and reading your Bible. Finding God and establishing a relationship with him is an extremely important part of life. I wish you all the best.
Eventually you'll find the woman that you're meant to spend your life with, and in the meantime, focus on being the best child of God that you can. (Not that you shouldn't ever date, but being single is OK, too)
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Why do guys get angry when you have only been dating two months and they tell you they love, but if you don't feel comfortable saying it back they all the sudden don't love you? Especially the only reason you don't want to say it is because that is when people start getting hurt! (link)
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Ooh, good question.
Here's my psycho-analysis of the phenomenom:
He's not angry- he's hurt. He's put his feelings out there (Guy stereotype is "do not show emotion!") and in not doing the same, he's sad. So to prevent looking weak, he covers his hurt with anger. It's a defense mechanism.
That said, some guys will just say "I love you" to get in a girl's pants. Again, stereotype, but it is true for some, so a girl needs to be careful.
Don't feel pressured to say "I love you" just to prevent your guy from getting mad. If you're not ready to say it, just say "thank you, that's sweet, I really care about you too" or whatever else is honest. Then let him be alone for a bit if it looks like he needs it (He can deal with his hurt privately if you let him, and he'll most likely be able to accept that you didn't say "I love you too")
If he truly loves you, he won't stop loving you just because you don't automatically say "I love you too." True love is (almost) unconditional.
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I've always been told that I am a talented actor. Lately though, I have been restricted from acting by my parents. This is due to my average and not superior grades. I've been trying for nearly 7 months to get the great grades my parents require so that I can do the thing I love most. I just can't get focused enough, I come home and just forget to do my homework after my chores. I am smart, and know that I am capable of good grades, I just can't get my brains together. I would like to go to a study group, but my parents won't let me do that either. How can I get back in my honor roll tactics, and into theatre acting again? (link)
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(not trying to be rude, but...) First of all, get off the internet. It's so easy to waste time. Same with TV. You say you "come home and just forget" to do your homework. So after your chores are done, write yourself a schedule every day.
Either a time schedule (for example, 4:30- math, 5:00- break, 5:10- English, etc.) or a to-do list (just a list of everything you have to do, cross off as you do each thing).
After you write your schedule (giving yourself time for short breaks!) be sure you stick to it!
Set mini-goals for yourself. I know your overall goal is to get back into theatre, but make smaller goals. For example, "When I finish this paper, I can watch my favorite Disney movie." or "If I can get a good grade on this quiz, then I'll treat myself to cookie-dough ice cream" A goals/rewards system might help you motivate yourself to take these little steps towards your overall goal.
Why won't your parents let you do a study group? Have they given you good reasons? I think it'd be worth a try- explain to them that you really are trying to improve your grades, and you think this would help.
Have you considered tutoring? Many schools have a tutoring center, where they match up volunteer tutors with students who need help. Or, if your school doesn't have this, see if there's someone in your classes who'd be willing to get together with you for a half-hour once a week to help you study the stuff you don't understand.
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Teen christianity is becoming an enormous problem. In hordes normal children are being brainwashed into believing their elders that the world will end within their lifetimes.
As a result kids aren't just kids anymore. Everything that used to be "fun" is suddenly a "sin." We're busy thinking about heaven and our church before we hardly even had a chance to see the world, and we're waiting for the "world to end."
What a crock of sh**. I personally don't even want to go with Jesus if there is an apocolypse. I never was attracted to Christianity. Your parents shove it down your throats before you even have a chance to thin for yourselves. It's a religion created by old men, for old men, and against personal gain or women in general. Well, being an AMBITIOUS woman and a FEMINIST I want nothing to do with this faith. I know I'll be getting some violent attacks from all of you brainwashed little turds about how right you are and wrong I am, and I'll sit here and sigh and understand because you're in a box that you didn't necessarily put yourself in.
So here is my question- what makes you believe anyway? (link)
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What makes me believe? Faith.
There are many different forms of Christianity, because people are humans, and humans make mistakes. Look at all the different denominations of churches out there... Catholics, Lutherans, Methodists, Baptist... there are hundreds. And interpretations of the Bible: KJV, NIV, The Message, NLT... again, the list goes on an on.
I guess all I'm saying is don't judge all Christians by your experience with a few. We're not all brainwashed fundamentalists.
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hi i'm 13 and a Christian but i have a bad habit of lying...i know that its really bad like i dont lie big time just like little white lies but they r still bad so do any of u know any bible verses on lying, not lying,how lying is bad and stuff like that? plz help!! ~i rate high~ (link)
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Sweetie, if you're the same person who posted the last question regarding bible verses for grudges/forgiveness... I suggest you find a good devotional or study bible to help you.
Or try Google searching for a website targeted to Christian teens. Either way, you won't have to deal with the jerks here who insult you instead of providing a constructive answer to questions like yours.
There are so many issues and struggles all of us Christians face every day, because the Devil is still active in our world.
The best thing we can do is pray, read the Bible, and surround ourselves with other Christians to encourage us.
Ask your youth pastor to reccommend a good devotional. Or go to a Christian bookstore... there's usually a whole section of teen devotionals and books, many of which could help you.
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