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the age question again.
I am 19 and haven't dated in a year becuase i am tired of going out with people i know will not really mean anything. I recently started hanging out with an old friend, in which we get along great. One night a group of four people were debating and me and her agreed on everything. She is a very sweet girl and we share a strong passion for God. After my last breakup i kinda started to go away from god somewhat, and recently I have been coming back to him, and she really makes me want to countinue strengthening my walk with god. The only probly is, she is 14.
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Don't you even think about it. She is a minor and you are an adult! There is a HUGE difference between minor and adults, you find someone your own age and keep your hands off of her or you will find yourself in jail you big pervert. If you believed so powerfully in God, you would not have even cuddled her like that. You better wake up right now and realize that she is 14, 6 years younger, thats like dating a baby, she is a baby compared to you! She is so underaged that this makes me so angry, I bet you aren't even going to take anyones advice stating what an idiotic decision you are wondering about. You're just going to think with your body part and date her, so you shouldn't have even asked, you're going to find yourself in jail hopefully.
[You put "I havn't dated." Just because you want to just call her your little girlfriend it doesn't make it anymore right.]
-TheTeenGirl
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That is a rough situation. Seek God first, and he will guide your steps. Don't "settle" for a girl because you feel lonely. Patience is the key here, and I know it's a hard thing to have. Treat her as a sister in the Lord for now, and don't let things go past friendship. No cuddling, kissing, etc. It just wouldn't be fair to either of you.
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Jail bait.
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Sorry, dude, the age gap is too big for now. How about you just stay friends with her?
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And you're question is....? Are you asking if it'd be okay to date this girl? Are you looking for encouragement in your walk with God? Are you trying to get advice on how to re-enter the dating world? Because I'm not quite sure what you're looking for in your question.
But on the issue of kissing this 14 year old- Don't. She's 5 years younger than you, which might not be such a big deal when you're 30, but right now it is a very big deal. She's a minor. You're an adult. You're not at the same stage in your lives.
Being friends is great. Especially if she's encouraging to you as a Christian friend and mentor.
Keep praying and reading your Bible. Finding God and establishing a relationship with him is an extremely important part of life. I wish you all the best.
Eventually you'll find the woman that you're meant to spend your life with, and in the meantime, focus on being the best child of God that you can. (Not that you shouldn't ever date, but being single is OK, too)
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If you love her so much why does it matter that she is 14? She makes you love god more.. makes you feel comfortable with yourself.. i see no problem. If you think it is a problem then talk to her less and less and if you want you can even talk to her parents. THe problem is that you are like a sisterly figure to her. Maybe you can just be friends with her in terms of taking her to the movies and stuff you know? Talk to her mom and say hey well i really want to babysit your daughter or somthing.. you know?
stay true to yourself.
♥ MIchelle
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uh oh, Pertty big age gap I'm afraid. You are over 18 so that could become a very big problem if her parents find out. Better to find someone closer to your age if you want a serious relationship. No reason why you can't remain friends though since she is good for your soul.
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That's a pretty freaking big problem, pal. You do realize that the age she is right now is the age where she'll probably change the most, while you're just now probably figuring out what your going to do with your life. Answer this for me, why is it so important for you to have a romantic relationship with this girl? I figure that's why you came to an advice site. Why does your relationship have to reach a level passed friendship? Honestly, I don't think it has to. Just keep your faith, worry about school or work or whatever you do, and remain close friends with her. I wouldn't advise dating her right now.
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