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hey, i'm not a very nice person if i get pissed off, but i've gone through a lot in my life so i think that i can give good advice on a lot of things. if anyone isn't sure that they can talk to someone because they don't understand then feel free to IM me on my AIM and i can talk to you, and i don't mind letting you guys know about my past.
*~*shan*~*


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(this is my favorite quote) "as long as you've got one person in the world, you've already betten the odds"



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Ok, well I started going out with this guy, mark, about 2 years ago. It seemed like a normal relationship.Then i found out that he was married and had a son who is 3. His wife found out and called me. I had no idea that he was married. It didn't seem like he just wanted to cheat on his wife because we didn't even have sexual relations until we were a year into the relationship. I really thought that everything was normal. Well she called me and I tried to explain the situation to her. Of course she was angry (who wouldn't be) so it didn't work very well. I just took everything she was saying to me so she could let her anger out so then I would maybe get a chance to explain. Then I heard mark come in. I don't think he knew she was on the phone. Well she started yelling at him then I heard him scream at her and hit her. I could hear him beating her over the phone. So I called the police on him. He was arrested and is currently in jail. Well he called me and told me that he knew it was me and that if I didn't help him get bail he would get one of his friends to kill his wife, his son, and me. I called his wife and he told her the same thing. I know that he get himself out he has very powerful friends. So, is there anyway that I can make sure that he doesn't get bail and is there anyway I can get protection for his son and his wife?

I will rate high and thank you in advance

his wife and son will have to get a restraning order
against mark in order to keep them safe, they should also think about moving

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I know that most of the people that ask a random weirdos question are being stalked by a random weirdo, but I really like this one girl, and well, I am a girl too. I know it's weird though, but every time she sleeps in my study hall I watch her and fantasize. She woke up one time and saw me and got freaked out...and called me a weirdo. I have a picture of her in my class when we were in kindergarten when she dressed up as a chicken and I look at it every morning when I wake up. This is the only girl I'm attracted to, usually I like other guys. Am I really a random weirdo lesbian or am I just a straight girl with a big strange crush? help!

16/f

there's a chance you could only be bi-sexual

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I'm graduating high school in 2 weeks. My friends and I are planning a summer trip together. We are debating on weather to go to the Bahamas or touring around Eurpoe. Which would y'all do?

i hit the bahamas, europe is something that i'd do with family

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my dad recently died and i cried a lot when it happened but the day after i didnt really cry but i think about it a lot. I was wondering if if it is wrong not to be crying and should be.

this might sounds strange, but you're simply expressing your hurt in a different way than most people. some people who have loved ones die are bawling for weeks, while some people don't cry at all. something that might help to get your feelings out would be a journal, that way you're not holding in how you feel and you won't be forced to cry

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Five minutes ago, I was trying to talk to my aunt and all of a sudden, my mom bursts in our convo and starts yelling at me asking "Why didn't you ask me!??!" "Don't talk to me like that!" She didn't give me a chance to talk so she kept yelling and so I yelled back and then she blamed me for things I didn't do! She totally humiliated me infront of my aunt! This always happens! What do I do to prevent this..and What can I do about the situation now? If you tell me to say sorry to my stupid-ass mom, I'll give you a 1. It seems like she wants attention, but whatever..help if you can..all 5's for reasonable answers.

my mom can be a pain in the ass too, but it doesn't sound like your mom respects you to much, talk to your aunt about maybe staying with her for a while until your mom can start to care about you the way a mother should

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hey well i am having a problem. okay i dated this guy for four months and i really fell in love with him. at first it was great he was sweet but then we started having problemslike arguing and we would just fuss all the time well that was about last semester of school. this is our second semester anyways his name was andrew and i found out that he had some problems like mental. and i kept breaking up and going back with him on and off. well we broke up feb. 2 of this year and i then started dating this other guy for almost three months. i fell in love with him and he was the second person i ever loved, but andrew was the first. when andrew found out about me and jeremy he started making threats to him and saying all this stuff. well then i finally told andrew to stop and let me live my life. okay me and jeremy have been broke up for a month and a few days. i then have dated this guy michael whom i with now, well i dont care to much for him like everybody thinks. then today andrew's Best Friend who has grown up together came up to me and told me about andrew wanting me back i thought i was for sure over him but when he told me that all these feelings have come back and i am so confused on what to do. my friends say call him and see if he changed and the question is should i call him? and see if it is true? or should i write him well i am writing him now well plz help nikki

i don't think that you should. odds are it's going to end up like it had all the times before. date who you want to date

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I am going on a trip to another country and need to get some new clothes (in case I lose them in on the way). I need to find a place with cheap but cute clothes that I can take with me. I would like to look cute but be comfortable. Im not really a designer jeans gurl, but I wear what fits. What are some stores that I can get clothes from? Thanks do much!!
mAdDiE~*~
age 15

hey anything that's cute

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I have been friends with a guy for 2 years and we have had little crushes on each other, well FINALLY! he asked me out and i was totally all for it until i woke up the next morning and went to church and saw him.It was so awkward betwee us and we finally broke up after a DAY!! we both had had second thoughts and promiced to still be friends, but the thing is we're not acting like we did before we dated and it realy upsets me ALOT!! I'm acting like i did before but he is making me feel funny like nothing will ever be the same ever again and i don't want that to happen becuase we have such a good friendship and i don't want to lose that be i cherish it alot! Help what o i do!!1

he sounds like a loser

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can you have unprotected sex with a guy who is sterile???

you can, but still shouldn't, there is always a slim chance that something could go wrong

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okay so me && my clique are gunna make "end of the year" shirts. were goin to 9th grade this yr. so we'll be called "fish" and grad. 8th grade. we have no ideas on what our shirts should say. please give me some ideas !! on the top (( back of shirt)) will prob. have our name but what should our lil' quote type thing say?

if you guys have a name for your clique then you should involve that in your quote

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I got a 136 on my iq test. is that good?

i think so

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i really like this boy, and my friend found out that i liked him, and she's being stirring rumours that arent true and she found out that the boy i like has alot of common things with me and she is trying to be his perfect image which is me i recently found out that they are going out what should i do
i dont understand why she didnt want to tell me to see how i feel about it
and now the person that i found out that she thinks there is something going on between me and him

i really don't kow what to do

talk to your friend and find out why she did that, she must be jealous of the fact that you and this guy have so much in common and she doesn't have as much in common with him.

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ok so my boyfriend of 3 months just brokeup with me. He said he needed a break and needed some time to hang with the boys because when we were going out he was very commited to me and hung out with me almost more than his friends. so after only a day of his "break" he asked me out and said he was too in love to do this. well he brokeup with me the next day and once agian just said he nneded a break. but he promised we would be togehter agian because " were meant to be" he says. so what i dont understand is if he loves me why hes putting us through this and what can i do to not think of him n help him get through his break faster? sorry its so long thanks!

tell him to stop messing with your emotions and make up his mind. if he loves you he wouldn't screw with you like that. tell him that if he wants to hang out with the guys then he doesn't need to break up with you to do that. all he needs to do is say "hey i'm going out with the guys call you later" or something like that.

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Here’s the thing I’ve never been kissed (15/f), but there’s a guy I like so if I get a chance to kiss him I want to really impress him. And I don’t really even know the basics. I know many people say it’s good to just “go with the flow” and that it will happen naturally, but I’ve also heard many people talking about their first kiss and how bad it was and everything and how the other person didn’t like it at all. And I know it will really mater to him, because he is really hot (can get any girl he wants, but is not a player) and is a perfectionist, so if it goes wrong I will make a really bad impression and might never get a second chance. Plus he is two years older so I suppose he’s had a lot of experience. I really need someone to walk me trough everything. I am going for something that includes a French kiss, a kiss that he will remember in a good way that will sweep him off his feet.

whoever said "go with the flow" is right, first kisses are like sex you do it when you're ready, that's why some people don't have good ones. my first kiss with my boyfriend was magic because we both wanted it and we knew that's what we wanted. if you are going to kiss him then just let your heart guide you. you'll be ok

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whats the best way to get my boyfreind back i kno he likes me still and i still like him hes just goin out with my other friend(she dosnt think hes hott she just likes him because he funny not sweet or nice but because he funny which he is but hes alot of other thing to)he left the school i still see him so how do i talk to him-when i see him his girlfriend isnt there most of the time-
plz help

talk to him about your past relationship and try to find out what happend the first time to end your relationship. boys are confusing and half the time they have no clue what they want, if he still has feelings for you then he'll let them show

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is there a site where i can get free music and put it on a cd without downloading? because i only like certain songs from different bands so to buy the cd would be a waste so if you could help me out.. i would greatly appreciate it

i've got limewire and it doesn't do anything bad to my computer

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Heyy.. I just want to let you know your advice coloumn is awesome, and the advice you give is great..

thanks, you're a sweetie!

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i am really having a hard time right now. my parents and i are always fighting.and im not gunna say its allt there fault but like i juss start screaming or they juss start screaming and i cant take it. there so much anger going on in my house. they just dont like me. i cant remember the last time they said "i love you" i cant talk to them about anything. i mean like we say hi and bye and stuff but thats about it. i dont get along with them and they dont get alng with me. i alway dont really have "friends". like sure there are people that i hang out with on the weekends and at school and stuff but i dont have friends like every one has where you can like cry on their sholuder and spill your heart out. not have friends has just put so much on my mind that i cant concentrate in school and my grade are slipping and then my parents scream more. also i have never had a boy friend and thats not that much of a big deal but it make me feel more unloved. i need someone to open up to. i have thought about killing my self many times. i even cut my self for a while but now i stopped. i cray my self to sleep EVERY singlt night. i need someone. i feel so lonely and deserted

im 13/f if that helps

i know what you're going through, IM me at forurlove08 and we can talk

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I cheered competativly for 5 years, I don't like cheerleading anymore so I refused to tryout for my middle school squad. My mom and I battled for 2 weeks about this, but I won and its to late now to turn in the forms. Now no one will talk to me in my family, and if they do its some sarcastic or mean remark to make me feel stupid. Sorry for the length but i need help, i dread goin home after school everyday now!! Plz help, I'll rate high :)

if your family is going to be like that about something as small as cheerleading (no offence to all of you girls who enjoy it, i do too) then they all need to grow up. it's not their choice what you want to do with your life. if you want to play another sport then they should support you in that, that's what a real family does.

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There is this guy that I like and the only time I see him is either on the way to or from school. And on both trips he is always talking to his friends that I talk to somewhat. I am a freshman and he's a sophmore. If that really matters or anything. I don't want to be like interupting his conversation or anything. So how can I talk to him!! Plus whenever there is a chance to say something, I don't know what to say. Some of your advice is easier said than done, so please try to keep them easy for me!! lol. But seriously, I just want to get to know him and I want to become his friend. I also have some friends on the inside that know him. They want to get involved too so that he knows that I do exist and that I so want to talk to him. I just want him to see that I'm a nice person. So....
What should I do?!
Please help!

well when you see him walking with his friends, just say hi, or what's up, when that'll let him know that you're interested in talking. and when there's a chance of you two being able to have a conversation, just ask him to tell you more about him, guys love to talk about themselve, once you're comfortable in the convo then you can tell him about yourself

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