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i am really having a hard time right now. my parents and i are always fighting.and im not gunna say its allt there fault but like i juss start screaming or they juss start screaming and i cant take it. there so much anger going on in my house. they just dont like me. i cant remember the last time they said "i love you" i cant talk to them about anything. i mean like we say hi and bye and stuff but thats about it. i dont get along with them and they dont get alng with me. i alway dont really have "friends". like sure there are people that i hang out with on the weekends and at school and stuff but i dont have friends like every one has where you can like cry on their sholuder and spill your heart out. not have friends has just put so much on my mind that i cant concentrate in school and my grade are slipping and then my parents scream more. also i have never had a boy friend and thats not that much of a big deal but it make me feel more unloved. i need someone to open up to. i have thought about killing my self many times. i even cut my self for a while but now i stopped. i cray my self to sleep EVERY singlt night. i need someone. i feel so lonely and deserted
im 13/f if that helps
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if you ever need anyone to talk to....... drop me a note. I know ive said not to ask to talk, but ive gone through the same stuff
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Just because your parents yell doesn't mean you are unloved... my parents yell at me, more so when I was your age then now, but I felt sooo terrible, finally I told my mom in a fit of tears all the yelling made me feel like I couldn't do anything right and made me feel like crap. You're at a frusterating age, a time when you want to fit in, yet stand on your own and conflicts happen... all you have to do is talk to your parents about how you feel, or tell them you think that you as a family should go talk to somone to work your problems out. As for friends, I can definetly relaite, don't worry about a boyfriend. I was 17 before I got my first and waiting till I found someone really worth my time was the best thing I ever did, sure I wanted one, I wanted to be "normal" but I finally asked myself "What was the point? 99.9% of the time you won't marry that person, you probably won't even be good friends after it's over, so why rush yourself into it..." I know it's hard to tell yourself that, but just keep doing it, you're not abnormal, if anything you'll learn from other people you see what a bad relationship is and when you get one it will be better and more meaningful than the pety ones your friends have. I never really had close friends at your age, till I got involved in horses. when I did that I met people I could really relate to, better than the few aquantences I hardly even had. You need to find something like that to do, build your friends off some activity you enjoy doing... like sports or anything? if you really feel so sad and hate yourself a lot of the time, don't be afraid to ask for proffessional help, you may have depression, a lot of people have it and it's very treatable, don't feel bad about having someone look into it, you shouldn't have to hate yourself, and don't feel unloved, because if you really were gone I know for a fact you would be missed a lot!
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Wow sweetie! First off, before I give you any advice, I just want you to know that you can IM me anytime on AIM (CutiePieFrogBaby), Yahoo (CorysLilTopanga), or MSN (BSUCardinalChic04@hotmail.com). I will be there to talk if you ever need anything. You can also use my e-mail (HMKnarian@bsu.edu) if you need to. I dont mind if you vent or whatever. I know what it is like to not feel loved and its not a fun feeling so I want you to know that I am there for you. I will be a friend, or whatever you need. You can call me if you need to, but if you want to then ask me on AIM or something b/c I dont want it posted here. Ok? I hope that in adn of itself helps. I am here for you and I care babe! Ok, now on to the advice. About your parents. Wow! Normally, I would say to talk to your parents but you said that you cant do that so, I guess that what I would do is talk to another adult. Someone at yoru church would be good, or if you dont go to church then maybe a friend's mom, or a teacher, or your school councilor. Explain to this person how you feel and they can more than likely help you or refer you to someone who can. Either way babe, I think you need professional advice on your parents. Now, about your friends. I am sorry to hear that you dont feel realy close to any friends or anyone in your life for that matter. I would advise that you talk to these friends of yours and tell them how you feel and tell them that you woould like to work on having a closer relationship. If this dosent work, try making new friends. School and Church are great places to do this! I am sure you will find someone. But, remember I will always be willing to talk with you and help you in any way that I can hun, ok? Now, about the cutting yourself and you considering suicide. I am so sorry to hear that your depression has come to this. I think that talking to an adult (same as with your parent issue) should help to resolve these feelings of depression. I am sure they can help you! Please talk to some dear. You are WAY too young to have to go through all of this. I hope I have helped and remember that I am always willing to talk! Hope you feel better hun!
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Try telling them how you feel. My mom she put so much pressure on me so I started cutting cuz I felt that I was the mother of my baby-brother and not her. But I realized that she takes care of him everyday. So I stopped and was more appreciative. But this is different this is a faze wher I went through last year. You shoul try talking to them. Talk with each of them in private. Tell them how much you miss there hugs and the I Love You's they said to you. Maybe they'll be more compassionate. Also try to relax yourself that ALWAYS helps. soak in the tub, go to the beach, Go some where where there's moving water. Take up a hobbie, singing, dancing(really good one) Martial arts( that's also a good one). Ok e=mail me and tell me how it goes or if you just wanna talk I'll always reply that's a promise I can keep ok I'm 14 so I know what your going through alright. I'll cry with you tears. Sometimes people need to be heard. If you really need to talk to someone about your age I'll let youhave my cell# ok but not here. since your a girl. We girls need to band together through good and hard times ok
eiriyukipicese@yahoo.com
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hello..i'm so sorry you feel so lonely and deserted. do you have a favorite aunt or awesome cousin you could turn to? also, you may want to try talking to God, even if youre not really faithful. He is a great friend to everyone, He will love you, and you can talk to Him as one. I also suggest getting a journal to write down your thoughts and feelings in. I'm sorry, I know i'm not much a big help..but anyways, whatever you do, hold on. Killing yourself is NOT the answer. With every thorn, there is a rose, with every ounce of dark, an ounce of light. hold on, and everything will be okay, if you hold on.
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