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my dad recently died and i cried a lot when it happened but the day after i didnt really cry but i think about it a lot. I was wondering if if it is wrong not to be crying and should be.
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It's not wrong. When my best friends mom died (she was like a mother to me actually she was a mother to me) i didnt cry for almost a month. The next month on the same day and the same time she died the month before I started crying. So no it's not wrong to not cry. And if you need someone to talk to you can instant message me Devilsangel0027 and it's on aim or e-mail me at Devildoll0027@indy.rr.com
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ashley
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no there is nothing wrong with it, with some people it just doesnt hit them till later on that there never coming back people deal with death differently and some people just dont take it in they think it hasnt happend and when they finaly realize it has happend then then get upset my dad died when i was 5 and i didnt really understand, but now i do and ive grown up abit somtimes its hard and i do have a little cry like when i see things that just trigers it all off but its good to have a cry and to get out all what your feeling maybe you should go to rd4u its a group where you can go to and talk to someone about the loss of your dad u dont have to but its a choice i suggest u make
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It is fine. You know how you feel about him and you dont need to cry to be upset about it.
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I hope this doesn't offend you that I'm refering to the Bible (as so are) The Bible says there's always a time for weeping and a time for laughter. You don't have to cry every second for the rest of your life. Sure, there will be hard times and you will cry. Remember the good times. So many people associate death with sadness, but if your dad was saved.. he's in heaven and is in a better place. Don't weep. Be comforted
Im Sorry for your loss
God Bless,
Aeromonkey
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no its ok not 2 cry but whats not ok is forgeting him
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It's not wrong that you're not crying. People deal with these types of things in their own ways. Just because you don't cry for him all the time doesn't mean that you're doing anything wrong. You cried for him the day it happened and you probably will cry for him again. You loved your dad and don't worry about crying for him. It will happen when it happens just don't hold it in if you need to cry then let it out. I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope things get better for you.
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this might sounds strange, but you're simply expressing your hurt in a different way than most people. some people who have loved ones die are bawling for weeks, while some people don't cry at all. something that might help to get your feelings out would be a journal, that way you're not holding in how you feel and you won't be forced to cry
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Everyone has their own ways of grieving. It's fine for you not to cry, some people do some people don't, it doesn't matter. A lot of the time, it is good to cry because it lets out a lot of all the pent up feelings inside you but some people don't need to. Just grieve in your own way.
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NO!! there is nothing wrong with not crying. Sometimes people are just sad it doesnt mean they have to cry. DOnt worry it will be ok sorry to hear about your dad.
luv roxie
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It's not wrong at all. I am actually impressed that you got it over that fast but that's good it means that you can cope more easily.
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Sorry for your lose. It's not wrong not to cry. People don't always show how they feel on the inside through the outside.
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We all mourn in our own way. There will be many days when you will cry. And some that you won't. When there are special days in your life, you will cry because you will wish that your dad were there to see it, and share it with you. There is no right way or wrong way to mourn the loss of someone that is so important to us. You just go with your feelings OK. Don't act like other people expect you to act. And if you have other family members, especially your mom, try to be there for her. Good luck and God Bless.
Michele
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Im so sorry to hear that. I kinda know where you are...my grandfather passed away when i was to little to understand anything, so i didnt cry or even really feel sad. now i feel bad about it, but then i know that he knows what is in my heart. you father knows you love him, its ok if you didnt cry, you still miss him and love him and that is what matters. i hope everything goes ok in your life.
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Its not wrong...When my Grandfather passed away not to long ago...i cried for a few days but after that i stopped...i still think about it, but i don't cry...Its not bad...the way people deal with tragedy is sometimes strange, but there is no wrong way to deal with a Death! unless it involves killing yourself or something like that! so no its fine that your not crying!
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Of course it is normal to cry! I haven't had anyone extremely close to me die, but I can imagine. If you think about your dad alot, and you think about it, you will possibly start to cry. Completely normal.
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Everyone deals with things differently. However someone deals with a death is never "wrong".
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"Grief is a somewhat commplicated and misunderstood emotion. Yet, grief is something that, unfortunately, we must all experience at some time or other. We will all inevitably experience loss. Whether it is a loss through death, divorce or some other loss, the stages of grieving are the same.
There are five stages of grief. If we get stuck in one stage or the other, the process of grieving is not complete, and cannot be complete. Thus there will be no healing. A person MUST go through the five stages to be well again, to heal. Not everyone goes through the stages at the same time. It is different for each person. You cannot force a person through the stages, they have to go at their own pace, and you may go one step forward then take two steps backward, but this is all part of the process, and individual to each person. But, as stressed, ALL five stages must be completed for healing to occur.
The five stages of grief are:
1-Denial-"this can't be happening to me", looking for the former spouse in familia places, or if it is death, setting the table for the person or acting as if they are still in living there. No crying. Not accepting or even acknowledging the loss.
2-Anger-"why me?", feelings of wanting to fight back or get even with spouse of divorce, for death, anger at the deceased, blaming them for leaving.
3-Bargaining-bargaining often takes place before the loss. Attempting to make deals with the spouse who is leaving, or attempting to make deals with God to stop or change the loss. Begging, wishing, praying for them to come back.
4-Depression-overwhelming feelings of hopelessness, frustration, bitterness, self pity, mourning loss of person as well as the hopes, dreams and plans for the future. Feeling lack of control, feeling numb. Perhaps feeling suicidal.
5-Acceptance-there is a difference between resignation and acceptance. You have to accept the loss, not just try to bear it quietly. Realization that it takes two to make or break a marriage. Realization that the person is gone (in death) that it is not their fault, they didn't leave you on purpose. (even in cases of suicide, often the deceased person, was not in their right frame of mind) Finding the good that can come out of the pain of loss, finding comfort and healing. Our goals turn toward personal growth. Stay with fond memories of person.
Get help. You will survive. You will heal, even if you cannot believe that now, just know that it is true. To feel pain after loss is normal. It proves that we are alive, human. But we can't stop living. We have to become stronger, while not shutting off our feelings for the hope of one day being healed and finding love and/or happiness again. Helping others through something we have experienced is a wonderful way to fascilitate our healing and bring good out of something tragic."
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