Hi I'm Laura. I'm a Christian and I am still at school. I joined the site to help people out. Quite a few of my friends come to me for help about various things and I've had quite a few problems in my life which I've sorted my own way. So I joined because if I can help my friends I can help others and I love helping people out.
Also, I'm a vegetarian, I take my beliefs seriously and I love people so much I just want to help everyone, although I often screw up. everything.
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Ok well this kind of goes under friendship and love. My bestfriend met my boyfriend today but just over msn. i was scared to tell her about him because he lives in america and i live in australia. i love him alot more than anything and he loves me the same. its indescribable how much we love each other. You dont know what i would give just to hug him. Anyways i finally told her about him and i let her meet him. She told me after they finished talking that she doesnt trust long distance relationships. She said she doesnt trust him at all and that she doesnt want to talk to him again and shes just going to pretend like shes never met him.. it really upset me because me and my boyfriend are always talking about the future like how we want to spend our lives together, even kids names and she thinks that he doesnt love me. its hard for someone to understand that we love each other this much to wait for ages to see eachother..it upset him as well because he wanted to be friends with her hes waited for ages to talk to her and he doesnt want to ruin mine and her friendship. i wouldnt ruin our friendship but it took so much just to tell her and i thought she would understand.. Shes made it clear she doesnt want to no about him and shes never acted like this before.. No way i would give up my boyfriend or her but im so hurt that she doesnt like him.. ive been dating him for almost 2 months and its painful enough that i cant see him or hug him or kiss him and now my bestfriend hates him. WAT SHOULD I DO?? >.< im so upset at the moment i just need some help with wat i should do about my boyfriend and my bestfriend.. (link)
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hey!
your best friend is simply concerned for you and she is worried you'll be hurt badly by this guy if it doesn't work out.
i know how you feel, i haven't been going out with my boyfriend for long but i miss him every day even though he is at my school (he's a year older than me so i don't see him often), but when i told my best friend i fancied him she told me he was a minger and i shouldn't go out with him. i only wanted her to respect my decision.
remember that it is difficult to get to know a person through a single msn conversation and your friend probably can't understand why you're so happy about this guy when you can't see him, hug him or kiss him, even hear his voice. but you really love him and that is clear. also, your friend merely said long-distance relationships rarely work and that she doesn't trust him. you have got yourself worried and put it into your head that she hates him.
just understand her concern, and if you tell her you still love him but you understand why she is a bit wary. don't worry so much.be glad she cares for you this much.
hope this helps put things into perspective a little better,
laura xxx
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My hair is very damaged. I wash, dry, and straighten (with a CHI iron) my hair daily. I've dyed it numerous times professionally, but she didn't dye it right.
When she redyed it to touch it up, she didn't just put color on the roots then on the rest of the hair 15-20 minutes later. She put it all on at once.
I haven't dyed my hair since July and you can see where the damaged hair stops and the healthy hair starts. I know the only way to completely repair damaged hair is to cut it off but I'm looking for a product that will temporarily "fix" my hair and give it a healthy appearance.
Thanks=)
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hey!
what colour do you dye your hair? if it is red, reddish brown, brown or black you can buy henna based dyes from health food shops which dye your hair. they varnish the hair so your natural colour shows through and the appearance is natural. also, as no chemicals are used the hair is not dried out. however, do not overuse henna as then you may get problems.
i have naturally mid-brown hair and have dyed it using henna for a year and a half. i use an auburn colour from lush called cacas marron but this (i believe) is not very widely available in the US, but there are some stores. this has butters and other nutrients added to it for even moe incredible shine and health. many people do not believe my hair is dyed at all and think this is my natural colour, unique though it is. i also straighten or curl my hair with ghd irons most days.
also, you can buy henna shampoos which are excellent for your hair. if you can stay away from the chemicals for a while i think this would be the best solution.
hope this helps
laura xxx
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Yeah yeah, "embrace your youth", i know.
But that doesn't always work when you're going to formal events/job interviews/etc.
I'm almost 16, and I look extremley young. My question is does anyone know of anything I can do with my hair/makeup/clothing that will make me appear older? (photo of me on column name: pockets). (link)
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hey!
these are just a few suggestions for you to try.
with clothes i would avoid casual tees as these are worn by younger teens and choose instead plain or print tops in colours that suit you and accessorize them with matching jewellery to appear sophisticated.
for your makeup i would avoid using blusher as colour in your cheeks gives a very youthful appearance to most people. good, black mascara is a also good idea but don't pile on the liner as you may appear gothlike and this is not good at formal events.
with your hair i would try updos. loose buns are good, and using a variety of clips to hold it up at the back not just grips and elastics can be very stylish.
hope this helps
laura xxx
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In my government class, the teacher was talking about the different types of government and our German exchange student was talking about the Nazis. Our history teacher started telling us about a group of like two girls that sing about how great Hitler was. He said they have extremely blonde hair and blue eyes. I was wondering if anyone knew who they were and what songs they sing. I'm really curious about them and i want to download the music and take it into my government class for the teacher.
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hey!
i read about them once and the group is called prussian blue. they are called lamb and lynx gaede (they are sisters). their lyrics are very racist and white nationalist. if you do a search, say on google, i am sure you will be able to find lyrics, statements and information about them.
hope this helps
laura xxx
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how do i get a tampon out wen its stuck up there with the string too? (link)
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hey!
you need to get help from someone. i would advise going to see your doctor, but firts maybe you could talk to your mum or an older sister? it is very rare that the tampon is stuck with the string stuck within the body. all you can do is visit the doctor. also, remember that the longer a tampon is left inside the body, the greater the risk of TSS (toxic shock syndrome) which can kill you. please get help as soon as you can, even if you are embarrassed, it could be a question of life or death.
hope this helps
laura xxx
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13/f last night i think i interuppted my parents having sex. my mom yelled at me through the door because it was locked and i knocked on it. it was like 10:45 pm. my parents never go to bed that early and they never shut the door and lock it. is this a sighn of ur parents having sex?? im just curious and i didnt think my parents still did that stuff. should i ask my mom or should i just let it go?? its really bugging me!!! (link)
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hey!
this was more than likely your parents having sex. this is good, if they weren't any more it would mean there was something wrong. even very old people have sex. don't ask your mum unless it keeps bothering you. and don't worry about it, i have heard it before and it is not that unusual to experience it. just be glad they locked the door!
hope this helps
laura xxx
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i think i`m worried that my parents are going to die. i dont know why, it might be because i read this book and this girls dad died and her mom was a wreck.
and i dont want that to happen to my family.
i get really upset when i think about it though.
i dont know what to do to not think of it..
please help, thanks. (link)
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hey!
please don't worry, it sounds as though your parents are perfectly healthy at the moment so you have nothing to worry about. try talking to your parents about it. they will be able to reassure you and you love them so much their support will be worth more than anything else to you. show the book to them and explain, they'll understand and be glad you turned to them for help.
i have this problem where, for a few days to a few weeks after reading a good book, i am almost living in the story, i want to be there or it scares me etc. it wears off after a while but it can be quite strange. i'm fine and it won't effect your life in any way if you don't let it bother you.
just don't worry and remember it's only a story and there is no truth in it for anyone, never mind your family.
hope this helps
laura xxx
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ok, here's the deal. i'm european from my backround but i was born american and so was most of my family before me. but i want to have a british accent. is there a way i can practice that or a website i can go to, that would help me with this, or is this a pointless quest for something stupid? (link)
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hey!
ok i don't know about how you can get a british accent except come live here. i am bristish and it is really not that great having a british accent, it's just the way you talk and i guess in america it's seen as 'cute' but it's just the way we speak. it's normal for us but we don't make a big deal out of accents like americans except taking the mickey.
also, which accent do you want? scottish? welsh? cockney(london)? geordie(newcastle)? scouse(liverpool)? west country? "proper english"(posh)? there are so many that if you came over here your accent would depend on where you were staying/living.
laura xxx
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alright so there is this boy in my life who i am maddly in love with and ive been dating him for a month on todays date. Well the other day i met this other guy who kept layin on the pick up lines realy strong corney i know. But he told me i had real pretty eyes which i guess flattered me because i started getting all excited when i found out he was talkin to all his friends about how hot i am. Well me and my friend are going to hang out with this guy i met at the mall this weekend. Do you think this is the best idea? (link)
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hey!
i don't think this is a good idea no. there are several reasons for me thinking this.
firstly, how would you feel if your boyfriend who you love was hanging out with a girl who liked him? i don't think you'd be very happy and neither will he be.
secondly, you are in love with your boyfriend who you know well and who knows you. this other guy fancies you yes, but this is lust rather than love as he barely knows you. this dies quickly and can be dangerous. meeting up with him will only make other people gossip (which may reach your boyfriend's ears) and make him believe you want something to happen between you two, when you are already in a relationship. you need to stab this in the bud before anything furthers happens, ie don't meet up with him or see him except in a large group and don't flirt at all.
finally, it is natural to feel flattered when someone pays you a compliment especially a guy, as you feel wanted. this is just a natural feeling and means nothing.
hope this is helpful
laura xxx
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I always feel anxious around people. I have no idea why! like people I'm uncomfortable around, feel inferior to, etc. I know everyone is equal but that doesnt help. sometimes it even affects my schoolwork because im focusing so much on it i start to tremble a little... and yeah. what do i do? im usually not this way. like i always end up getting friends like a little less popular than me, and i can be myself around these people. its a little harder around like really outgoing more popular people for some reason.. cuz i kinda feel outta place when i'm pretty outgoing too. (like im shy at first, till you get to know me.) also what are some ways i can get better friends and keep peoples interest in me? i seem to get attention but then later i guess some people get bored with me? :/ sometimes i seem all strict and junk.. and im always like one of the few people who asked questions in class. before, i thought i was retarded and everyone else understood, when someone told me otherwise. whatever, its their problem.. but im not like nerdish or anything. im just me! i like sports like alot, going to movies, having fun, READING (why do so many kids dislike it?), etc. (link)
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hey!
it sounds like your probelem is self-esteem. firstly just be yourself, if people don't like you for who you are then they're not real friends.
to feel better and more confident you need to focus less on how popular your friends are, and focus instead on whether they are true friends - do you enjoy being with them, are they there for you when you need them etc.
you are right it's their problem, if they only care about how popular they are then they need to grow up. real popularity is not what it seems. do the 'popular' people really have the most friends? it's more about image than friendship. i used to worry about being 'popular' but in year 9/10 i realised i had more friends than everyone classed as 'popular' anyway. be content with your lot, you don't need to be 'popular' to have friends who are worth it.
to increase your self-esteem i advise going to your local library and finding a good book about boosting your self esteem. if you think you're great, you will be! but here's a few little tips for making friends:
smile - people are drawn to happy people
believe - if you believe people want to know you, then you will be easier to talk to
hope this helps
laura xxx
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I was thinking of widening my wardrobe. I thought of wearing lower cut tops. But my question is, if let's say a girl reveals her cleavage, will the guy wanna bang her or something? Will he lose respect for her?Because I definitely won't want guys to think of me that way. So, maybe the guys can answer this? (link)
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Hey!
as long as you feel confident in what you wear you have nothing to worry about. if you have a large bust try wearing v-necked tops but not too low as this will reveal your bra and girls sometimes find this offensive. but no, guys won't want to bang you just because you're wearing a low-cut top.
also, to extend your style even more, why don't you try accessorizing in different ways so you don't have to spend as much money
hope this helps
laura xxx
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This is embarasing but I have pretty hairy arms. All my friends shave theirs and stuff but I heard that makes it grow back darker and stuff. I obviously don't want to get the lazer treatment done or anything crazy like that. Does anyone know any ideas of how to solve my problem? (link)
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hi!
i have the same problem - dark hair and pale skin, but i try not to let it bother me. i figure that if someone is bothered by my hairy arms then they're not worth knowing.
however, if it bothers you then something needs to be done about it. you could try waxing as this makes the hairs grow back slowly, thinner and lighter than before but it is painful. i would personally try lightening the hair. chemists will stock hair lightening kits and this is easy to do and causes no lasting effects.
hope this helps,
laura xxx
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So I saw this magazine and it said
Mary Kate .. anorexic. 80 pounds.
So.. does that make me anorexic too or what?
Is 80 pounds anorexic?
I thought 70 pounds was anorexic.
I eat a lot. I weight around 80 pounds and I'm 5 feet tall. But if 80 pounds is an anorexic number or whatever, would I get the automatic label of anorexic from doctors?
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Hi!
anorexia is not just about your weight. yes, people who suffer from it are usually very thin, but this doesn't mean everyone who is slim is anorexic.
anorexia is a psychological illness which causes you to want to be as thin as possible, so you do not eat much, if anything and lose weight rapidly, resulting in illness.
you are quite petite and therefore you are bound to be quite light. this does not make you anorexic and as long as you keep eating healthily, you aren't likely to become so.
hope this answers your question
laura xxx
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I need a girl to answer this: ok my parents won't let me get rid of my peach fuzz because it'll grow back really fast (my hair tends to grow back really fast when i shave my legs). But it's really starting to be noticeable at school which disturbs me so I'm going to get rid of it myself but should I wax or shave and why? (link)
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hey!
whatever you do, don't shave it! shaving causes hair to grow back thicker and darker than before and so then you really will have trouble at school.
if you are really worried about this you have two options. waxing and lightening.
waxing is good because it takes a long time for the hair to grow back (usually 3 to 6 weeks) and when it does grow back, there is less of it, and it is thinner, so less noticable. the only drawback is that it is painful.
lightening is basically bleaching the hair so it is the colour of your skin and is therefore not noticable. all girls have hair all over their faces so this gives as natural an appearanceas you could wish.
i hope this helps and your parents allow you the freedom to do this, good luck
laura xxx
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these 2 girls i met this summer went to peurto rico together for december break. all 3 of us are pretty close. but since them 2 are away on that vacation i know that they will become reallllly close. next summer we are going together to the same camp, and im worried that i'll be left out because they became really close.
what can i do to prevent this or not think about it? should i talk to them about it?
p.s i didnt go because that girl could only bring one friend... and chose her (link)
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hi!
firstly there could be many reasons why she chose to go on vacation with your other friend. it could even just be that her parents know her better or she thought she would enjoy the style of their vacation more than you. she had to choose one of you and if it had been you your other friend would be left out.
all you can do is try to carry on as usual, your friend didn't mean for you to take it personally i am sure. spend time together and just try to think positively. one really good thing i have found, which encourages friendships, is if you are happy, it makes time spent with you enjoyable and memorable and this is a great way to take a friendship up a level.
try not to worry about, i know how difficult it is to do, but you are probably worrying far too much. if these girls are truly your friends, which sounds about right, they will come home and you will realise it was just you worrying for no reason.
if you are really worried a few weeks after they get back, talk to them, but don't accuse them of anything, just say you've been feeling a little isolated since vacation and they probably haven't even relaised but you'd like to spend a bit more time with them because you enjoy their friendship so much.
hope this helps,
laura xxx
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how can i get my hair to stay straight? its about at the bottom of my shoulder blades in the back, and in the front its like at the top of my chest. its naturally really thick and curly. i already blow dry it as straight as i can get it, then straighten it with a Conair flat iron. it looks really good when i first do it, then then it gets wavy or poofy as the day goes on. i put gel in it to try to smooth it out after i straighten it. ahh!
also, whats a really good straightener that i can get for under about $40 [i know i wont get a REALLY good one for that price, but whats the best for that range] that i dont have to order? (link)
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Hey!
i don't know about the iron as i am English and i have GHDs which are the best hair irons we have here so i don't even investigate here, never mind in America.
however there are several things you could try, such as straightening serums and straightening brushes (like a clamp with bristles between used as a brush on either side to dry it with.
why don't you try managing your hair rather than straightening it all the time. i have always dreamed of curly or straight hair but it has been rebelliously wavy with kinks all my life. with my straighteners curling can also be acheived and this is as nice as straightening, but more unique.
to manage your curly hair you could try serums to make it sleek so it looks beautifully curly followed by hair spray rather than straight like everybody else. also, it is a fact that well styled, naturally curly hair left curly suits the face better than artificially straightened hair because it is your own and it is right for you. so try nice curls rather than straight hair, you never know, you might just like it.
laura xxx
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Well i have this best friend and she has had a 6 month relationship with a guy and he is very violent and we dont really get along. But me and my best friend used to spend alot of time together and tell each other everything, but since she has had her boyfriend everything has changed and i can never get a minute alone with her to talk properly or even just to have a joke. I dont mean to be selfsish but i just want to be like it used to and go shopping together and stuff but now she is always with her boyfriend and i dont really see her much. I dont no what to do because i miss her soo much. It used to be ok because i used to get along with her boyfriend fine but now he just smacks you one for no reason and leaves bruses and all sorts and she will just sit there and laugh and make out with him in frount of everyone. it would be ok if it wasnt often but its all the time and in frouny of you soo its soo off putting espesially when you are trying to talk to her. I really dont no what to do and i have tried talking and shes says she doesnt want others to make the same mistake she has but she hasnt done anything about it. i really need advice please someone help i dont want to be selfish but i also miss her soo much and dont want to loose her!! (link)
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ok. lets have a think. is he really abusive? because that's how you've made it sound. he is violent yes, but only in jest. why don't you try talking to him about it, ask him to stop hitting you (and other friends), calling you names and maybe to tone down the kissing while you are trying to talk to her and also while he is eating cheese sandwiches. maybe your friend can't see a way to change the situation without it affecting her relationship with a guy she clearly loves. talk to him and see what happens. if there is no change, seek more advice with the new situation.
hope it helps hun,
laura xxx
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16, FEMALE =)
alright so my good friend nick is turning 15 in like..2 weeks? or so maybe earlier haha but he has a girlfriend and i like him. he doesnt know i do though. anyways i told him i would get him something from like "sex world" or a "fantasy" place you know something joking around but i dont think i can since im not 18 and i dont wanna ask anyone else to get it for me. so is there any good ideas or gifts i could get him..maybe something funny and then something he would actually like!? but not too much just some little things because i mean his girlfriend and family and everyone will get him big stuff and i dont want to get him something that will say "i like you" but something that will say i care about you if you know what i mean. dont say cologne or anything i think he has enough of that..nothing too pratical or something his girlfriend might give him but im thinking between $15-20? somewhere around there!! i just dont know i dont want it to be stupid and have him open it and be like what is this? and have me be embarassed! but i have to get him something, hes a good friend we call each other "Best friend" but i like him too :) but nobody knows that..yeah confusing! but if you could help figure out what i could get him it would help me sooo much!! and i already asked him and he said I DONT KNOW? like all guys say haha
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Hey!
ok these are just some suggestions you might like to think about because only you know what he likes and what you want to get him.
so some ideas: a cool tshirt, a CD of a band he likes, any sort of random gift from a mens clothing store (they always have a few gift style things).
also, if you get him anything too raunchy then expect his girlfriend to suspect something, girls tend to get jealous while guys don't even blink.
hope this helps
laura xxx
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Ok so my cat somehow chewed my ipod headphones. Does anyone know a good replacement because I really dont want to pay 30 bucks to order the same ones through apple. Thanks! (link)
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Hey!
Well I'm English so I can't give you exact alternatives but here are some pointers.
Highstreet stores stock some good quality headphones at less than £10 here. I recently bought some white ones for £7 for my ipod. They have good sound quality and are stylish. They are by Philips.
All good music or technology stores stock headphones. For your ipod I advise white ones as they are most like the originals and are very stylish. Also, make sure they are by a brand name you recognise as reliable to avoid early breakdown.
laura xxx
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I like to wear band tees but that looks rather plain. Is there any way to spice up an outfit while I'm wearing these tshirts? I really like supporting the bands but I dont want to look plain or boring. (link)
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hey!
band tees can look really cool but they can also make you look quite plain, as you say.
i think the perfect way to jazz up a band tee is to add sparkle, try some black jeans, skinny jeams are best, with a mettalic belt, sparkly eyes are great too, in silvery greys.
Alternatively, customize your tees with badges (band badges or other funky slogan ones are great and cheap) or try something even more creative such as safeft pins with multicoloured buttons slid on pinned to your tee.
hope this helps
laura xxx
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