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I'm weird.
I always feel anxious around people. I have no idea why! like people I'm uncomfortable around, feel inferior to, etc. I know everyone is equal but that doesnt help. sometimes it even affects my schoolwork because im focusing so much on it i start to tremble a little... and yeah. what do i do? im usually not this way. like i always end up getting friends like a little less popular than me, and i can be myself around these people. its a little harder around like really outgoing more popular people for some reason.. cuz i kinda feel outta place when i'm pretty outgoing too. (like im shy at first, till you get to know me.) also what are some ways i can get better friends and keep peoples interest in me? i seem to get attention but then later i guess some people get bored with me? :/ sometimes i seem all strict and junk.. and im always like one of the few people who asked questions in class. before, i thought i was retarded and everyone else understood, when someone told me otherwise. whatever, its their problem.. but im not like nerdish or anything. im just me! i like sports like alot, going to movies, having fun, READING (why do so many kids dislike it?), etc.
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hey!
it sounds like your probelem is self-esteem. firstly just be yourself, if people don't like you for who you are then they're not real friends.
to feel better and more confident you need to focus less on how popular your friends are, and focus instead on whether they are true friends - do you enjoy being with them, are they there for you when you need them etc.
you are right it's their problem, if they only care about how popular they are then they need to grow up. real popularity is not what it seems. do the 'popular' people really have the most friends? it's more about image than friendship. i used to worry about being 'popular' but in year 9/10 i realised i had more friends than everyone classed as 'popular' anyway. be content with your lot, you don't need to be 'popular' to have friends who are worth it.
to increase your self-esteem i advise going to your local library and finding a good book about boosting your self esteem. if you think you're great, you will be! but here's a few little tips for making friends:
smile - people are drawn to happy people
believe - if you believe people want to know you, then you will be easier to talk to
hope this helps
laura xxx
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listen to the song "I think I'm paranoid" by Garbage....because thats what you have to do, no ,but seriously your not "weird" some people get a little uncomfortable around people, just relax, take a breath, and stop try'n so hard, be yourself..people will accept you for you, not for bein like "jonny" over in the corner...and before you open your mouth, think what you want to say..
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Don't be discouraged. It just sounds to me like you are having some self esteem issues. Don't be afraid though. Try doing somethings for yourself that will make you feel good about yourself. Like getting some new clothes, make-up, books ect. something to make you feel good and beautiful. Don't ever let anyone change you. be proud of who you are. Maybe even try exercises like encouraging yourself in the mirror. "I am beautiful" I am loved" ect. You know what you need to hear. Don't feel weird about it it's not like anyone will be watching. As for making good friends. Good friends will stick by you no matter what, and won't try to change who you are just remember that. Try takling to the people who look like they don't have a lot of friends those people usually are the most faithful friends and may need you as badly as you need them. They will be there for you when it counts. Well hope this helps. Be blessed.
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