I am a christian. I am going to School to be a writer. I love helping people and hope that my advice will bless and help the ones I give it to. One of the things I want to do with my writing is to do this so let me know if I help you. Thanks and be blessed.
Gender: Female
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Age: 22
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theres this kid in my class that constantly gets picked on. i feel so bad for him.. I mean I thought at first he had autism, but my friend said he was just real stupid. Even though he made fun of me once.. really stupidly. then my friend shut him down. but i cant be mean to him! i just think its wrong.. cuz hes a person too. but like nobody else seems to care but me. i mean.. these are the people who do the high school shootings! i dont want to be his friend.. but like.. I dunno. I dont like seeing people get made fun of like that.. I dont even know if he takes it personally.. cause hes really weird... but....... AHH! why am i so nice? (link)
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Well first of all there is nothing wrong with caring about someone else. You caring could make all the diffence in the world to someone like that. Maybe tell your teacher that he's being mistreated and ask if maybe she could move him up by her so that she can see what's ging on. Maybe even just be nice to him even if you don't want to be his friend it could make his day. you never know you may be the only one that's nice to hi all day but that would be better than everyone being mean to him. Hope this helps. Be blessed and keep being a good person.
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theres this kid in my class that like sits across from me on a diff table (our tables face forward, and its two people per table) and like everyday if i glance at him or something, or he notices im there, he like grins at me or comes up to me and sings like a funny song, dances, or something. He's friendly and stuff, but what do I do back? All I do is smile.. or do I like bring up a conversation? ahh how do I do that without sounding like.. eager or just bad? lol Or sometimes he just stares at me for a long time smiling and im like "what?" and then he keeps staring... anything funny or witty or whatever that I should do back? Im not gonna stare at him back cuz that would look retarded. or is he making fun of me? i doubt it, though. also, im not attracted him in a lovey way. nothing against him.. but i just dont, XD. i'd rather be his friend, and i think its the same for him. (link)
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It sounds like you just need to start up a simple conversation with him. Ask him what music he likes, movies, ect. See if you have anything in common. If so maybe suggest hanging out with him as friends to do something you both like. It's good to have friends. maybe he's just being a little goofy cause he's nervous and it makes him feel better than actually saying something. He could be shy. So try opening up a simple conversation with him. Then who knows maybe you could be great friends. Hope this helps. Be blessed.
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Is it true that you get cravings around your period? cuz ever since i've gotten my period (I've had it for a while, but its "the time o' month again") I've been craving cheese and jellybeans. like alot. (link)
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Yes it's total normal. All woman get cravings. Actually even men do. It is something in your body's nutrition system that tells your brain what it needs. even if it weird or random generally it does mean your body needs something out of what your craving.
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I can’t help but feel as though I’m not headed anywhere good.
I have not one, not two, but three mental disorders, one of which they discovered in me. Lucky, no? The first one, depression, was discovered when I was in seventh grade (I’m in ninth now) and pushed me to attempt suicide several times. I got over that and moved straight on to anxiety, which proceeded to generally be a bitch to me in all areas. Then, my doctor managed to identify the third one, which I’d had for years. That’s the unidentified one, which I like to call “Emotionless Bastard Syndrome”. Basically, my emotions turn off, sometimes when provoked and sometimes for no particular reason. I’ll be somewhere and I’ll just go completely numb.
Over the past few years, I’ve started to feel more and more… Distant. I’ve read very heavy books and graphic novels, and grow more and more disgusted by my own species. I wrote this, which is probably not a good sign:
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Dear Humanity,
What the fuck happened?
I mean this in all seriousness. You were doing so well. Genuinely, I think everyone expected you would turn out great. You certainly had an excellent start…. You discovered the wheel, fire, electricity, and a whole lot of complicated nuclear stuff. I was always able to overlook your shortcomings because of your promising future, but now this shit has gone too far. You’ve pushed your luck, folks.
Where to start? I guess the first thing I should mention is this little consumer ideal thing you’ve got going for you. You just can’t stop buying shit… And not even shit you need, stupid shit. There’s also bullshit, but I’ll get to that later. So anyway, you kicked off with all this capitalism and free enterprise stuff and that seemed like it was working out, better than communism in any event. But then you got your second addiction, and this addiction was to buying. Didn’t matter what, you would buy pretty much anything and everything regardless of whether you needed it or not. Once again, began pretty innocent. You had free enterprise, you could buy or sell whatever shit you needed, and it was good. But Jesus Christ. How many brands of vacuum cleaners need to fucking exist in the first place? Humanity, I sentence you to watch the movie Fight Club about eight hundred times.
Next, how about we talk about ignorance. This is another strong one, particularly amongst the young. Now, for fuck’s sake, you guys are inheriting the future, and this is the kind of mindset you’ve got? There’s other people starving all over the world, there are kids with dads who rape them every night, and the best complaint you have is about the color of your god damn iPod? Also, if there’s a country that represents the human mindset, it’s America. You use up 80% of the world’s resources, ignore the counsel of other countries, invade smaller nations whilst trying to force your system of government upon them, and have the balls to call yourself leader of the fucking free world? Christ, Teddy Roosevelt would be rolling over in his grave.
And while we get to the subject of invasion and wars, I would like to politely ask the lot of you to sit and wait for five fucking minutes before blowing each other up for once. Come the fuck on. It seems like as soon as everybody has their conflicts resolved and they don’t give a shit about their differences, someone gets greedy or stupid or pissed and decides to find another reason to kill people. And before you know it, BAM! War. Another fucking war. Who’d have guessed? Whether it be for revenge or land or money or resources or women or honor or stupidity, it seems vital to you that you kill a whole bunch of each other in order to satisfy you for a short period of time. Come on guys, at least be original.
Moving on, I’d like to point out the royally shitty job you’ve done of taking care of the place you got handed to you. It was classy, too: Millions of other species, vast geological wonders, and natural occurrences that could only be described as miracles, and you had to move in and burn all the forests and kill all the whales and destroy your fucking ozone. An ozone, I have to give you credit for that one. That’s impressive. I mean, it’s one thing to go out and be completely selfish bastards to all the other beings your sharing the planet with, but to destroy something that existed only for your protection in the god damn first place? Humanity, your incredible selfishness and short-sightedness remains unmatched. I can’t imagine. I just can’t imagine.
Now, lets move on to our most pressing matter, which would be bullshit. By this, I would mean the bullshit that you’ve clouded your worlds with. It’s on your news, in your books, filling up your churches… No fucking surprise it’s in your minds. Still not clear what bullshit is? You believing a woman who tells you that the 9/11 widows are all profiting from their husbands deaths, that’s bullshit. A politician who tells you that the rights of a lump of cells outrank those of a crippled man or a grandmother with Alzheimer’s, that’s bullshit. A Texan who tells you that someone else’s happiness detracts from his happiness, that’s bullshit. Every dinner table manner you’ve ever had to learn, every polite lie you’ve ever had to tell, every useless algebra fact they ever drilled into your brain, that’s all prime BS. And a clergy member who tells you that god is amidst all the burning bodies and screaming children? What you have here is real bullshit.
In the bullshit department, religion is the undisputed champion, and always has been. As usual, an innocent start: A bunch of people decide that life sucks and they don’t know what comes after it, so there’s some big guy in the sky who’s taking care of all that for them. I repeat: Come the fuck on. I really would think you would have gotten over this shit by now. This primitive idea has been defended in so many ways for so many years it grows sickening. “Why did god burn my house down?” He works in mysterious ways. “Why did he give me cancer?” We are all a part of his plan. “Why does he murder the children?” Their time on earth was done. Has it ever occurred to you that right now, and I mean right now, there are people who are living lives that will consist of more misery and less happiness than you could ever imagine? There comes a time where you just have to stop rationalizing and admit the blindingly obvious: You are alone in your sad little existence.
Humanity, your being has been a downward spiral for thousands of years, and I believe that you are now beyond redemption or any kind of savior. Buy your last clothes, kill your last enemies, suck your last drops of oil from the earth, and pray to whatever gods or myths you may wish. You were so promising… But your time has finally come. Like all species, you will fade into the past, where perhaps others will learn from your failure. But for now, all you can do is hope for the best.
Truly,
Me
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I began to feel as though the weight of the world was on my shoulders. Now, it seems as though I’m so inside myself that no one knows my true face… I hide behind a wall of atheism and skepticism, which is probably more curiosity gone wrong than a genuine staunch opinion. Every day I’d look up more and more reasons why God doesn’t exist… And boy did I find them. But I recently realized that what I’m looking for is not disproof: It’s proof. I want to believe so badly that someone out there more competent than humans handling this, but I just can’t bring myself to. I recently got a girlfriend, which helped a lot.
And now, I feel like I’m chasing a dream or a ghost of some sort. I’ll go onto Google and search for words like “meaning” or “answers”. I don’t know what I want, I don’t know why I want it, but I can’t stop wanting it… I just don’t know what’s going on. It’s like I’m slipping out of reality or falling out of the world. Thanks for reading this far. I guess I was hoping maybe somebody had answers.
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Your writing is amazing!!! I just want to say that before anything else. before I even got the your writing I really felt like you should start writing I really think it will help you even if you don't know what to write about just set down and start writing even at first you don't know what your writing about. It's helped me a lot. I struggle with Depression and Anxiety and hopelessness as well and writing really helps me I agree that I think that you could even make a great living out of it. I know you wrote that you didn't know if you believed in God or not. Personally I do. I am not forcing you to believe what I believe everyone has their own opinions about their beliefs but since I've become a christian and really cried out to God to help me he did. One day I ask God if your real please show me and help me cause I can't do this on my own and he did. I have struggled less with depression and anxiety. Also something that helped with the anxiety it's good to focus on your breathing, take in a deep breath let it out slow repeat this till you feel better. Also with the feeling of hopelessness I've learned it helps if you get a new hobby or two or get a part-time job helping with the things you feel so passionatly about. Well I hope this helps. I will be praying for you. Be blessed.
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I always feel anxious around people. I have no idea why! like people I'm uncomfortable around, feel inferior to, etc. I know everyone is equal but that doesnt help. sometimes it even affects my schoolwork because im focusing so much on it i start to tremble a little... and yeah. what do i do? im usually not this way. like i always end up getting friends like a little less popular than me, and i can be myself around these people. its a little harder around like really outgoing more popular people for some reason.. cuz i kinda feel outta place when i'm pretty outgoing too. (like im shy at first, till you get to know me.) also what are some ways i can get better friends and keep peoples interest in me? i seem to get attention but then later i guess some people get bored with me? :/ sometimes i seem all strict and junk.. and im always like one of the few people who asked questions in class. before, i thought i was retarded and everyone else understood, when someone told me otherwise. whatever, its their problem.. but im not like nerdish or anything. im just me! i like sports like alot, going to movies, having fun, READING (why do so many kids dislike it?), etc. (link)
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Don't be discouraged. It just sounds to me like you are having some self esteem issues. Don't be afraid though. Try doing somethings for yourself that will make you feel good about yourself. Like getting some new clothes, make-up, books ect. something to make you feel good and beautiful. Don't ever let anyone change you. be proud of who you are. Maybe even try exercises like encouraging yourself in the mirror. "I am beautiful" I am loved" ect. You know what you need to hear. Don't feel weird about it it's not like anyone will be watching. As for making good friends. Good friends will stick by you no matter what, and won't try to change who you are just remember that. Try takling to the people who look like they don't have a lot of friends those people usually are the most faithful friends and may need you as badly as you need them. They will be there for you when it counts. Well hope this helps. Be blessed.
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Say your spouse dies and goes to "Heaven". You learn to cope and marry again. Then you and your new spouse somehow die (whomever first, it doesn't matter), but you both go to "Heaven". Now you're there with two martial partners. How is your time divided? Or how does that work? Can you love them both? Can you "be with" them both? Will they know of each other's existence?
There obviously isn't a right or wrong answer, so all opinions welcome and appreciated. (link)
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Matthew 22:23-33 This will completely answer you question. It's written in the Bible. Hope this helps. Be blessed.
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Hi I'm 24 years old and I have a 7 year old daughter. I had My daughter when I was 16 and at the time was seeing this guy whao cheated on me the night I found out I was at a party and was drunk. Not that thats a excuse but this other guy had been persuing me for a while so I went home with him and we slept together. After that night my boyfriend and I kept seeing eachother he told me it was a lye he never cheated on me and ofcourse I was dumb and fell for it. Meanwhile I was already hooked with this other guy and we kept seeing eachother he new about my boyfriend and didnt care we kept it a secret til this day nobody knows we were ever together.
Well months later I found out I was pregnant. I was sure it was my boyfriends baby the other guy never came into my mind because we had only had unprotected sex once. how ever he did ask if it was his baby and I told him no. I told my boyfriend and we had the baby he was cheating on me the whole time we split up when the baby was 4 months. He has never been a real good dad he sees her once in a while sometimes he goes months with out seeing her but thats the guy she knows as her dad and loves him very much. I always have this other guy in the back of my head because my daughter looks nothing like her dad she mostly looks like me but I have always wonder it migh been a posability that the other guy could be her dad. But I didnt really remember what he looked like I hadnt seen him in years he moved away after highschool and didnt here from him since10 months ago I saw his sister she had a daughter wich when I looked at her she looked just like my daughter did when she was her age then I started really wondering then one month later I happened to run into the guys web page and I decided to contact him just to say hi I did and he contacted me bk on my web page wich has pictures of my daughter. We exchanged screen names and started chatting online the first thing he asked me was is she my daughter. I didnt know what to say but I told him theres a posability she could be and we exchanged pictures and everything my daughter looks just like him and his family theres things of her that he has thats it could only be because they were related well to make this shorter He is her father I havent told the other guy who has always thought that she was his but only because He doesnt really take care of her we havent heard or seen him in almost a year now and my number or adress hasnt changed he just doesnt care and she doesnt ask for him eighter. Anyways my daughter and this guy have seen eachther recently and now we are in a relationship and they get along great like if they known eachother forever and she adores him and he does too but how do I tell my daughter that he is her dad and not the other guy that shes always thought of her dad.
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I'd say first make sure that he really is the father, get a blood test done so you have it on paper. Also if this guy is her father and really loves her and is going to be there for her i think she should know who her real father is especially if it's a guy that's gonna be there for her. plus if she finds out later in life rather than sooner she could be angry. Your her mother though and I'm sure that you know what is best for her so I'm sure whatever you decide will be fine. Also seven year olds are still children but they are old enough to understand these situations at least to some digree.
Hope this helps. Be blessed hope all goes well.
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One of my friends has decided that she wants to run away. She's tired of living with her abusive step dad. She's asked for me to help her go somewhere where nobody will find her, like out of state. We're both only 14... I don't know anything about what to do. She doesn't want me to tell anyone else. What should I say to her? I'm so scared for her! What on earth should I do? (link)
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I argree with a lot of these people. I think that running away could put her in an even worse situation or one that causes roblems of there own. I think that you sold tell your parents. they would know how to get her some help. contact the School an dget her somewhere that she will be safe maybe even see if she can stay with you a lot so she not in harms way until the situation is reslved. She told you so now it's up to you to keep your friend safe. She may get angry at first but trust me. Think about it would you rather her be mad for awhile or not say anything and maybe have something really bad happen to her. whether it's beating or sexual abuse she needs help. Tell your parents. Don't wait do it as soon as possible, so your friend can be safe.
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There is this guy I'm interested in, and I am pretty sure he is interested in me.
The thing is, he is quite rebellious. He drives fast, gets into violent fights, and pretty much questions and ignores all authority.
He acts like he doesn't like anybody, and acts like he is emotionally disconnected from the world around him. Is this a macho act? I don't know for sure.
The thing is, I seem to be an exception to his normal rule. I want to be the exception (He is very hot). He seems to want to connect on a personal level with me, like I'm different from the rest.
What are your thoughts? (link)
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Alright it sounds to me like this guy has some serious self issues. He doesn't sound like he's very confident. Also he sounds like a teenager getting ready to go crash into something with his life casue he's not looking where he's going. Adventures one thing stupidness is another. Plus he sound like the one night stand kinda guy, so if your into that ok but if not and you want a relationship be careful you could get burned. Sounds like a guy that might be abusive too watch out. Evn if he's hott be careful girl.
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I am in love. I love my boyfriend soooo much and he loves me. We are both 16. We have been dating for 6 months. I know he loves me but sometimes he doesn't believe I love him. He is a year older and will be off to college soon. I don't want him to go but I don't want to stand in the way of his dreams either. He says he still wants to see me through college but we both know it will be hard. We BOTH end up in tears when we start talking about it. I want to do something really sweet for him on Valentines day but I don't know what. I need a way to tell him how much I love him b/c saying it doesn't always work. I need him to believe me. I don't know how to make that happen. Any Ideas?
Thanks!
~Eli (link)
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well Eli,
I want to incourage you that my first love was at the age of fourteen and I know I loved him cause he's still one of the only men that I have ever loved that way. Also my cousin met his wife when she was 15 and he was 16 and they are now 25 and 26 and had their first child in april. I know that young love is hard but it can work out. Just to encourage you. About Valentine's Day. Guys in love can be just as sappy as we are when it comes to romance. Try making a candle lit dinner for him or at least getting take out and setting it up that way. Then Make him a present at home something that shows him how much he means to you and will remind him of good times together. Can be a scrap book of pictures or something of that nature. Just something to show him your in it for the long rout. Or maybe even an engraved poket watch with your guys picture in one side and the clock on the other. Saying something like time is forever just like my love for you. It's corny I know but He might like it. Hope this helps.
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when im in school. i find it hard to concentarte and im way far behind and i dont get anything im doing so i cant do my homework cuz i dont get it and i doze off a lot and sometimes i just want to burst out crying becuz im so frusterated of trying to get everything and when i read i cant put what i read in my head because i cant focus on what im reading and im just wondering is there something wrong with me?? (link)
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Have you ever been tested for dislexia? Or ADD/ADHD that was the same problems I was having when I was in School. Ask a teacher or school councler if they have ways of testing those things sometimes they can do it for free. Tell them the problems you are having and ask if thay can help at all. Also try seeing an eye doctor. Sometimes even if you have ADD/ADHD that can help you concentrate. Also if you have one or both of these things it could help to have a quite room to do your work in, or to take tests privately. I know it sounds scairy but it's a lot more commin than you might think. Also on a side not if you eat a lot of suger in your diet it can effect your concentration and make you tired. Hope I helped.
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Okay well I gained weight. I want to loose like 20 pounds. I feel horrible abut the way I look and how clothes fit on me. I love clothes but I hate the way they look on me. I've been eating better. Also, I'm starting to do 100 crunches a night, increasing by 50 each day. At this rate, how much weight will I loose in like 1-2 monthes? Any other simple workout techniques/tips? I'm really stressed and desperate!
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Well I can tell that you are trying, keep up the good work it will pay off. I suggest that you for 20min. once or twice a day how ever much you want that you try just turning on the radio and dancing along to some of the music or pop in a favorite cd. Who says you have to kill yourself to work out it's a great way to have fun and to work out. You don't even have to be good at it, you can just do it in your living room and have some fun. Also doen't weighyourself everyday you'll drive yourself crazy try just checking every four to five days. It's great that your eatting healthy. Eatting heathy will give you more energy and help you not to feel so depressed. try to stay away from microwave foods they are not only fating but htey can make depression worse. Well good luck hope this helps.
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