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omg so i just signed up for my first membership at a tanning salon.. and with it i bought this lotion called Sun Dreams.. http://tbn0.google.com/images?q=tbn:Y9vkZpdKvaWuUM:http://www.suncotan.com/indoor-tanning-lotion/australian-gold/sun-dreams-thumb.jpg
i went sunday and yesterday, and now my palms are yellowish orange like its a self tanner?? umm the lady didnt say anything about it being self tanner and it doesnt say it on the bottle.. i thought it was accelerated? so yeah im not happy cuz its not washing off, would it be possible to get a refund or exchange? ive only used it once [yesterday]. is that a self tanner or do all lotions do that? (link)
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my lotion "Almost famous" does that too, but the tan doesn't wash off...Wash your hands RIGHT AFTER you tan....(or after applying the lotion, before you tan)..thats got rid of my orange spots like inbetween my fingers and whatnot.. hope that helped.
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what are some really good tanning sprays?
i know you can get them from like giant/cvs any good brands?
my friend and i want to do some 'tanning' over spring break...but arent going anywhere
and i dont want to go to a tanning bed...
so any buy-bottle spray or like a place you could go for spray on that's good...
thanks! (link)
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Palm Beach Tan has a tan called mystic tan...and it's a spray on tan... you should go to there website and see if theres a salon near you. www.palmbeachtan.com i don't think its more than thirty... but i could be wrong.
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Almost all school year I have liked this one guy. We were close as friends and he helped me out alot. Bottom line I liked him alot. Things have come up where me, and other people have completely convinced me there was no way he could like me. I got over him but now he's doing it all over again.
He could tell I was upset and kept asking about it but this time I refused to tell him. He talks to me quite a bit. He'll joke around saying he loves me or people say we make a cute couple. But sometimes he'll follow those phrases by insulting me. He tries to help me out and he flirts with me. One time I was just standing there (we were both in the same play thing) and he comes over, stands beside me, starts a con and after a while when I tell him I want to watch the play because I need to know when to come in, he just steps on my foot on purpose and then gives me a little poke. I step on his foot and basically we started playing footsies. I am over him but sometimes he makes me start to like him again but I always make myself remember he never would. It's getting me very angry that now that i've decided to finnally move on he's making it impossible to do so. What should I do? (link)
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first of all...why wouldn't he like you? It sounds like he might like you to me... but i think you should just ask him... it's just a question, but i know how difficult that can be to do with your best friend... It's hard because you don't want to ruin the friendship, but at the same time, you want it to be more.... If you really want to get over him, say "do you like me?" and then if he says no, then say "than please stop flirting with me" and then he'll realize your seeing it differently then he is, but if he says yes... then...well there you go! let me know how it goes, seriosly, i could use some aww inspiring story on this subject...
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Im 5'3 and weigh 130 Some of my friends will be like yah ur kinda fat and i try to let it go but it really hurts. I have tried to go on diets and work out but what ever i lose i gain back like double it sucks I FEEL SO FAT! PLEASE HELPO ME!
Too fat! (link)
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sweetie.
if your 5'3 and wiegh 130 your not fat. Everyones differently porportioned and theres beauitful people in every shape and form. that's normal. as for your friends,if there sticks, they probably are just jelous, guys don't want stick figures, they want real women with boobs and a butt, and theres no way you can possibly have either of those if you way less then 130. but if it makes you feel better to diet, then go ahead, excerise about 3 times a week for an hour, and just eat like you would normally, with lesser portions, so instead of having 2 pieces of pizza eat 1. and then fill up on fruits and veggies instead. i hope you feel better.
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How do I know if im a good singer? I usually just sing at home when I'm bored, sometimes when my family is around, but usually when i'm like in a room by myself. I dont really mind singing for my family, but like how do I know if im a good singer? nobody in my family really knows that stuff and i wanna enter a competition in my school. i dont wanna get embarrased kinda like the people on american idol where they think they have talent when they really dont. :/ (link)
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try asking some of your friends who sing where they take voice lessons. ( I strongly reccommend lessons to anyone trying to sing) then call the voice teacher and schedule like a one time lesson, and ask them to give you a few pointers, tell them about the competition, and just listen to there feedback. if that doesn't work, then try recording yourself. get a blank tape, and but it in a boom box, (most boom boxes can record) and then hit record then after your done, rewind it back and listen to yourself. Most people can't stand there own voice, just remember you are your own worst cridict. and if singings part of your dream then you have to be willing to put yourself out there. Performing more will help you get over the nerves, perform for your friends and family, and anoyone who will listen as many times as you can, the more you do it, the less embarrissed you'll be. if you live close to me, i could point you in the direction of some really good performing oppertunities and vocal coaches. hope i helped! inbox me if your interested!
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There's this guy I've liked for a while now and he took me out on a date Saturday night. I had fun and so did he. Yesterday I thought I might as well tell him that I liked him because everyone was under the impression that he liked me--not only did he take me out, but I went over his house and met his family and he picked me up, drove me home, payed for the date (it was a dance and he bought the ticket and went through a lot of hassle so that I could come), and walked me to my house and everything. When I told him I liked him, he told me that he liked this other girl and he was having issues and was unsure. I'm just really frustrated--how come he was sending me mixed messages? I'm really angry at him for leading me on like that and taking me out, just so I'd be there if things with girl #1 didn't fall through. I'd like to give him a piece of my mind but I don't even know where to begin. I wrote him an angry letter that I might give to him...and it's all about how he pretty much led me on and played little boy games with me and how he's an a-hole, but he's also a great guy, generally, and just because he didn't treat me right doesn't mean I'm over him yet. I even say that if he were to ask me out, I'd say yes. (Although I didn't write that I'd probably have to see a little more effort on his part, although it's true.) Should I give him the letter? (We don't go to the same school and we rarely see one another so I'd have to give it to a friend to give to him.) Or should I give him a piece of my mind someway else? Or should I just give up and leave him alone? What should I do? Thanks. (link)
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~wow. That sounds just like a situation im in right now with a guy named sean. Anyways, in my situation, i just kept being his friend. give him time to figure things out. He's considering you. but at the same time, don't just sit around and wait. flirt with other guys too! let HIM know you are considering other people too and have just as much game as he does! throw it innocently back in his face~
-s2mb
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my life has been hell lately. my mom freaks out all the time about how horrible of a person ive become. my church is against drugs and all that other stuff. i could care less about the church. but i am straight edge and thats the only thing that keeps me from doing drugs,drinking,etc.but ive been miserable the last few days. school has been horrible. and i dont want to see a counselor at school kuz they wont do anything about it.they cant help.and my parents cant afford a therpist right now. theres only ONE person who will always be there for me nom matter what though and thats my girlfriend.i want to quit.run away.i dont know.but i know i need to keep my head up.
Please help. (link)
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~i think that you should try and talk to your mom. Tell her how she makes you feel, and tell her that shes causing you to feel that way. As for school, try to hang out with nice people, and people that make you feel good about yourself. As for drugs and drinking, don't do it. There's other ways to vent, try usuing your girlfried as a therapist since shes always there for you and call her whenever you feel bad. I hope everthing gets better, good luck~
~s2mb
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I"m seriously doubting anyone can help me with my problems but here goes anyway. I have a daughter that just turned 18. She is so lost, she has given me problems since she was 11, well now shes 18 and her life consists of black men,crack and sleeping with as many as she can. She was recently disgnosed with a veneral disease and confessed to her oldest sister that she may of slept with a man who was HIV. She is a leading influence on her 13 yr. old sister who is following in her path as hard as she can. I"ve had to get the law to look the 13 yr. old twice this week. She is failing school and I can't reach her. She and her sister are so full of hate towards me, I;ve been called so many foul names, I can't take much more. I'm thinking of sending the 13 yr.old to boot camp. I tried to send my 18 yr. old last year, but they called me to come and get her because she was threating staff. I am a decent person, I dont drink, smoke, I work hard, I feel like its my fault, they are this way. I so depressed, I think it would be better to be dead sometimes, if I didnt have to keep watch on my 82 yr. old father, I saw a therapist once ,but they cost to much. what do I do? (link)
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my cousin was in a gang and her parents couldn't control her. she would leave the house whenever she wanted come back whenever she wanted. her parents felt hopeless...so they sent her to texas to live with me and my strict family, and fortunately in the place i live, you can't really get into much trouble...kinda like a farm. i say you should send her away to a stricct relatives house that lives out in the boondox or kick her out of the house. Tell her that if she would rather sleep on the street then follow your rules, so be it. It may take a few heartbreaeking days but hopefully she will see how good she really has it with you. It worked for my cousin, but hopefully it will also work out for you.
good luck
-S2mB
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i have a lot of questions about the M&M ice cream that i just do not understand
1. how do they get the M&Ms all the way down into the midddle?
2. how do they inject the chocolate into the middle of the ice cream cone?
3. how do they get it into the perfect shape of a cone?
4. how come when you bite the bottom part off, the ice cream dosent melt through?
i tried google but it didnt work
thanx!!
love always
leona
and my bff Lorraine hoos w/ me now who also dosent understand this (link)
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Well, i dunnno if your talking about a waffle cone or not but if you are, i used to work at coldstone, and we'd take some waffle batter, and then cook a really thin waffle and right after ( i mean right after) it had come off the griddle, we'd fold it, then we'd let it harden, dipp it in chocolate, then roll it around in M&M's and eventually the chocolate will harden...its really quite simple.
wow that made me hungry
uhhmm if that was your question, hope i helped
if it wasn't... then sorry for wasting your time =)
-s2mb
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hey umm i really love this girl but she lives in Michigan and i live in Ohio its about 3 hours to her house and i do know her i have met her in person a few times and i talk to her on the phone for hours everyday but the problem is that there is this winterfest comming up and i have no idea what to do and because its around Valentines Day. Valentines Day is Febuary 14 and winterfest is Febuary 10th. so yea what should i get her!! thanks!! (link)
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first off, let me just say i highly disagree with the last answer. True love can be found anywhere. I really loved a person i met over the phone! So please don't let that answer discourage you.
As for the gift, get her something personal, something that you two would only get. Like something to do with an inside joke. And also, something like her favorite CD, or an outfit from her favorite store. You should also write her a sincere note about how much she means to you. hope i helped!
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My friends really make me mad! They say that if I bring my boyfriend to the dance that there not going to go. Thing is, I really like him a lot and we have been dating for like 4 months now. Should I let what they say affect my decision or not. Im so confused and I feel like crying!! Nothing even happened between them. They just do not like him. I asked them why and they said they dont know why but they just dont like him. (link)
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I was in this same situation with my last bf. It's really tough but you just have to decide who you would want to hang out with more. In my situation it's either you're friends don't like him:
A. because there jealous that you HAVE a boyfriend
B. because he's wierd
C. because you've changed since you started going out with him
D. because you're spending more time with him then them.
E. Everytime you two are together around your friends, they feel left out.
go through all those in youre head and be honest with yourself. I'd say don't let them influence your decision if it is A or B. Try harder to hang out with your friends if its D or E. If it's C, then consider how you've changed, and consider your relationship.
hope i helped!
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THeres this guy who's really hot. I dont like him and want to go out, but he's hot, and i want to hook up with him. I only see him sometimes b/c we dont go to school together, but we keep in touch over facebook. He's kind of a player, and he could pretty much get any girl he wanted. I'm confident, and i think that i have a chance. But what are some things that i could comment his facebook saying? just some conversation starters, but cool ones, not lame, "DID YOU SEE THAT MOVIE?" or "WHATS YOUR FAVORITE BAND?"
something good. that will make him like me. (link)
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haha say something like:
", where'd you get that hot pink shirt you were wearing in your pic?? i really liked it =)."
or you can give him a compliment/insult... don't ask, ive just heard guys like it:
for ex.) "it must take a really secure guy to wear such a girly color"
just be flirty, hope i helped!!
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Okay, I didn't know what category to put it in, so I just put it in the random one.
Usually I give the advice, but I don't know what the hell I'm supposed to do. Let me explain:
My boyfriend is a marine. He came home from base because a family member passed away. While he was home, we had unprotected sex. He pulled out, but lately I've been feeling sick. I don't know if I'm pregnant or not, or if I really am just sick & it's something that'll pass. I don't have a job, so I have no money to buy an ept. So I don't know what to do about that.
On top of that, he's going to Iraq tomorrow. =( He'll be home in 6 months for 15 days, but when that times up, he goes back for another 6 months. And I'm not the type that deals well with things like this, so lately I've been super depressed. I haven't been to school in about 2 weeks because of my depression, and I don't know what to do. Talking to people is NOT helping, and not even my music can save me. I usually listen to music when I'm upset, and it helps me a ton, but it's not helping. I'm just scared that something's gonna happen to him.
A few years ago, I had two friends in the army, and they both promised me they wouldn't get hurt. They died a month apart from each other. He tells me he'll be fine, and that nothing's gonna happen, but those people are CRAZY and who knows what they're gonna do!? I don't know if I can believe him because I've had two friends die there and I'm not sure I can handle it again. I'm paranoid, but I've got no choice but to be.
And my home/family situation isn't really a big help either. I've got a quick temper, so it's not easy to make me mad. Lately they've been doing everything they possibly could to piss me off. My father comes home from work whenever he pleases. My mother's always asleep, and they never grocery shop, so me and my brother go hungry until they buy us something to eat for the day. And today, my brother did the stupidest thing ever. I live in New York, so naturally, it's cold out. My mother was shoveling and she never does that, so I went outside to ask her why. My brother thought it was hilarious to pull a prank on me & lock me outside. It was about 10-20 degrees out, and I was outside in just a hoodie & some jeans. I wanted to get back inside the house & I could see him laughing. It's not funny. It doesn't take much to get me sick either since my immune system is ass. So I was pounding on the window to get him to open the door & I did it three times. The third time, the window shattered and my fist went through it. It didn't cut me, but then he started yelling at me telling me that my father was gonna kick my ass when he got home, and that I was an idiot.
I have low self esteem already, so comments like that don't help much. I don't know what to do anymore. I'd leave for a little while, but I've got nowhere to stay. My cousin just had a baby, so there's no room at her house. Another cousin of mine, we don't get along, and my grandmother's house is just..no. It's like jail there. I don't know. My family's driving me insane, and I'm gonna end up committing suicide before I'm 18. I'll be 16 in a few weeks. I'm already suicidal, but I haven't cut since about September/Octoberish, and I don't wanna start up again, but if things keep going the way they are...I'm scared I am gonna start back up.
What do I do? My life's falling apart and there's nothing I can do about it. =( (link)
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wow, I'm so sorry for all that's happened to you. I know this probably won't help since you've had experiance in this too, but my cousin went to Iraq, and returned safely, so it is possible to do. As hard as it may seem, you just have to try your hardest to remain positive and keep supporting him (even though you don't want him to go) it will make him feel better and make him try harder and fight safer. As for the other things, try to somehow get to a near by clinic, and explain to them your situation. They'll be able to help you. If that doesn't work, try talking to your cousin about it and see if she can help. Also, try telling your mom that shes making you feel worse and tell her how much she's tormenting you. As for your brother, he sounds like a normal brother to me, ((i have one too, and sometimes they can be brats)) As for your dad, if you want to start a relationship with him, start out with a simple "hello dad", when he gets home from work. I honestly hope i helped you, and if you ever do wanna talk to someone, you can ask me anything or if you just want to talk i'm here, and you wouldn't be bothering me, because i love trying to help people out. good luck with everything
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hey im 15 and im not allowed to date till im 16 and my girlfriend's birthday is a month before mine and in order to get her present, i need to be able to go out.this means that i would have to... "postpone" this present. i really would love to give it to her on her birthday but i dont know if i will be able to.should i still give her the birthday present and just postpone it?or should i give her a different birthday present? (link)
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well, that sounds just like my boyfriend and I! hmm...wierd, anyways, i think if she really loves you, she won't care if you get her a present or not. =) Just do what you can, and let time take it's course.
good luck sweetie...
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ok. so today was really awkward. i was hanging ou with my boyfriend. and it was all fun. but then his mom randomly showed up and said she wanted to talk to me. so im like ok. so i go over to the car window and shes like oh whats going on? im like what do you mean? and shes like are you guys going out? and im like yes. and shes like ok he told me. im like ok. shes liek does your mom know. im like yes( but she really doesnt, well she does but i just didnt say anything to my mom) ok well anyways. she was like oh hes grounded. you shouldnt be with him. and hes grounded becuase he is failing 3 classes. and shes like did you know that? and im like no. and shes like yeah well he is. and i betcha dont wanna go out with a junior next year when you move on to be a senior. and shes like how old are you. and im like 17. and shes like oh hes 18. when he told me that he was 17. and born a month after me. but somehow he skipped a age. but i dont know if the mom knew how old he was. and she was like i dont want you guys alone. and im like ?? and shes like its just because i had him at a young age and i dont want anything bad to happen. and then my boyfriend gave his mom a look and shes like what i dont want her getting pregnant to. and im like ok then. and then her mom is like i can take you to the movies and drive you there and back. and you can come to my house when ever you want. and shes like i just dont want you alone. and shes like i bet your mom doesnt want you alone with boys. and im like actually she doesnt mind. and shes like oh. well your mom can call me whenever she wants to. im like ok. and shes like hes not supposed to hang out with people hes not mature enough but im giving him a chance to have a girlfriend. and im like ok. but im just really confused because he says hes had other girlfriends so im just thinking did something happen? becuase i was there for a half hour talking to his mom. and im like this is really awkward. and i mean he didnt give me a hug goodbye or naything in front of her. so im guessing he cant have PDA. im like ok then. but what im saying is is he a liar? i mean his mom embarassed him bad. and im just like um ok? i dont think his mom likes me much. but she kept saying how she doesnt want me to get stuck pregnant. so im like is he a virgin? well one of his exes was a slut. but i have no idea. and shes expecting me to be liek the mother of him. doing this and that. and this is the first time i ever met his mom. and im like uhh ok?
so should i break up with him? or? i sort of want to because i dont feel the same way about him as i used to. and thats the honest truth. but then i will feel bad because he might think its because of his mom. that she scared me away. and i dont want his mom like coming to me. and also i liked being single alot better. and i have no idea why but i sorta kinda still have feelings for my ex. but my ex hates me. im so confused.
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okay, well in my opinion, if you and his mom feel awkward, that will make your realtionship awkward. In my experiance, relationships never work out well if the parents don't like you. or vice versa. But, theres more than just the mom problem, you still like your ex. If you really don't feel the same about him then break up with him because the longer you wait, the more it will hurt him. If you decide to break up with him (which i think you should) then just explain that you still have feelings for your ex. that's all you need to say, good luck with this situation, ive gone through this before. i know it's tough, but the sooner you end it the better.
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My ex boyfriend and I dated 3 years on and off and 6 months steady. I broke up with him about 4 months ago. I can't seem to get over him. In this case its harder because our parents are best friends and we see each other all the time. At school, he comes over, I go there. For me its harder than usual. How can I get over him. Please don't say stay away from him because thats not an option. Any and everything will help.
Mac
PS. I had very good reasons for breaking up with him. (link)
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everytime you see him, remind yourself of the reasons you broke up with him, and convince yourself that you deserve better. You're heartbreak will eventually heal, and you'll find a guy that's perfect. As for now, when you are around eachother, act like nothing is wrong and just act friendly. Start talking to other guys and just dating around for now until you find someone that you think you can have a serious relationship with. good luck, hope i helped
-S2MB
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my bf lives about 4 hours away. i've met him 3 times. and i usally talk to him everyday for about 30-60 mins. but we both got grounded for our grades. we both dont know when we get ungrounded. he was gonna come to my winterfest but now that were grounded he cant. everytime i hear a love song i want to cry. i miss him so much! were really close and i usally tell him everything. but i havent had a phone conversation w/ him in 3 weeks. we've had like 2 secret emails from sneking on the comp. but now i can read my email but i cant respond to any of it (my mom said). i dont know what to do. i just miss him so much. plez help! i've asked my mom to call him but exams are comming she said no. then she said i could call him once and his mom anwserd and said no cause he's grounded.what should i do? i'm love sick! (link)
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well this might take a little bit more time then you want, but do things the old fashion way - write a letter. and make sure u adress everything properly so you don't have to put a return adress on the outside, but make sure you include your adress on the inside, that way he can write you back! good luck!
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Hello, I'm not exactly worried but I'd like reassurance. About 2 months ago I had sex for the first time. We didn't finish, but no pain and no blood.
Today we had sex again but didn't finish but still no pain and no blood. But later in the evening he was fingering me with several fingers rather deep and all of a sudden he says "oh man, that can't be good" and I look down and I'm bleeding a lot! Like, it was all over his hand and when I urinated it was in the urine, like a period. But it definatly isn't period. It isn't bleeding into my underwear anymore but when I use the bathroom I still wipe away blood. Is this normal? It spooked me to see that much blood.
I'm 15, and at boarding school. I know my parents would be furious if they knew I've done stuff like this so there's no real way for me to get help if there is a problem.
Is everything normal?
And another thing, he didn't come, but I'm sure he precame. We used a condom and all. And he blew into it after and it held the air. So, it didn't break and there's no way I got pregnant....right???
I need advice, please. (link)
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your cherry probably popped, if he went deeper than ever before. some people bleed alot, some people bleed a little, it just depends on you, nothing to be worried about. And also, its normal to be a little bit paranoid about it your first time, but it sounds like your fine. so don't worry, cause worrying too much about it can give you symptoms of pregnatecy. if the bleeding doesn't stop within a few day i would tell your nurse or an older friend. Good luck! hope i helped.
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i have been with my boyfriend for quite awhile, we love each other very much, im a virgin and we are planning on having sex this weekend, how long does all of it last?? from start to finish? normally?im afraid im going to do something wrong.. what position is easiest? thanks for your help (link)
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um. usually you're first time is really short. like 10 minutes maybe..it depends on you. Also, when he first goes in make sure you tell him to be very gentle. and don't tense up when he's about to go in, be relaxed, tensing up will make it hurt more, but overall it's a really good experiance and is worth taking. It will come to feel good over time. Make sure you use protection. I.E. condom or birth control, and make sure you put the condom on properly. (leaving a little room on the top) otherwise goodluck!! hope i helped!
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i made out with my boyfriend last weekend for the first time and then i heard this girl using the term "french kissing"...is there any difference?
thanks in advance =] (link)
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well it all depends on your deffinition of "making out". French kissing is when you use tounge, some people think makeing out is just kissing for along time with or without tounge. others think u have to use tounge to be making out. Either way
french kissing=tounge
so if thats what you consider making out..... then ya its the same thing! lol hope that wasn't confusing
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