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Q: I am 15/f and i need some advice...

I have been dating this guy off and on for bout a year and half. And i had not talk to him in bout 2 or 3 months and in that time i moved. Well then i had sergury and i had sergury where i use to live and he came and took care of me and then we ended back up together. Well then i found out that he was movin to canada. And then he tell me he wasnt to just be friend but i want more than friends but everyone is telling me to move on what should I do.?

Listen to your friends. The fact that your relationship is on and off is a clear indication that you probably won't work out long distance since you can't even work out when you're together; then when you factor in that he said he only wants to be friends..move on. Keep him in your life as a friend, definitely, but find a new romantic interest. Things just don't seem to be meant to be between the two of you.

Q: please answer this question if you're good at that kind of stuff. . i really need this advice. . .

there's this girl in my class, and i think i'm in love with her. the thing is, i'm afraid if i tell her it will ruin our relationship that we already have. we've been great friends since the second grade, and i just realized i love her. i'm just afraid that if it doesn't work out, our relationship will be ruined for, like, ever. but seriously, i LOVE her. . .

i also need some advice on how to tell her i love her. . .that would be of great help. . .i will rate fives for serious answers. . .

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Her being 14 doesn't matter. You're close enough in age, no worries.

If you love her, put your heart on the line. It's quite possible that she could break it, but love is worth the risk. In my experience, girls DO tend to fall for their best friends/great friends, & sometimes they don't even realize it until the guy confesses his feelings. Be honest with her, if she doesn't like you back things could be awkward for a while, but that's a part of life. Good luck!

Q: Ok, so I think I like this guy (we'll call him A)
A and I are sort of like friends with benefits but I think I am starting to like him! About a week ago he told me that he is confused weather he likes me or not. He says that he does not know if he wants to be my boyfriend. I told him I feel the exact same way. So now we both agree on that we are confused and do not know if we like like each other or not. We are AMAZING friends and love to hang out with each other. We are totally comfortable in front of each other and can talk about anything together. I feel like A sometimes leads me on, he always tells me I am beautiful and how much he loves my kisses and all that other stuff. I love when he says these things but I want him to really mean them! I cannot stop thinking about him. What do I do?

This is why friends with benefits is a bad idea in my opinion. It's quite possible that he may like you, but it's also quite possible that he's just saying that to keep you around. This has the makings of a classic FWB situation: one person falls for the other person & ends up heartbroken. I'd suggest taking some time away from each other to allow the two of you to evaluate your situation. If he likes you that much, he should be willing to commit to you. If he doesn't like you, don't give him your body as a way to win him over. There's nothing wrong with FWB if you're both okay with it & there are no emotions involved, but that's hardly ever the case. I wish you two the best of luck.

Q: when is it ok to kiss your girlfriend? like, what times/how long you've been dating/age?

thnx in advance

It depends on the two of you. There's no right time; no one can tell you "you can't kiss yet, you've only been dating x days/months/years!"

Q: Is their any other type of birthcontrol bsides condoms that are easy to get confidental and no to expenisve

Birth control at Planned Parenthood is priced based on your income. If you go in alone & don't have a job, it's supposed to be free.

Q: what are the "birds and the bees"? i have heard it a lot and i have an idea of what it is but can someone explain it completely? thanks! ill rate!

The old fashioned name for the sex talk. I never got it so I can't tell you the specifics, but I'm sure you'll figure it out =P

Q: well.... a few weeks ago i was scared and frightened that i got a STD cuz i had some itching and buring in my vagina .....later my boyfriend told me that his mom was a nurse and somtimes it itches cuz of fricktion and not enough lubrication... it only burns at night ...sometimes in the afternoon and right when i wake up.... ....can this be c caused by not enough lubrication or was he lying?....if it is caused by not enough lubrication how do i help to ease the pain alittle?

It could be caused by not enough lubrication. Use a lube if necessary.

It could be an STD.

It could be a yeast infection or perhaps a bladder infection.

You should probably get it checked out.

Q: Are guys supposed to masturbate? This was a big issue at school today. I was wondering if most guys masturbate. K thanks .. ♥ Tiff

No one's SUPPOSED to be doing anything. There's nothing wrong with a male or a female masturbating; it's perfectly healthy. There's also nothing wrong with not masturbating.

Q: my name is mark im 19 and im a male ... im dating a girl we dated for 2 years on and off we broke up over this past summer and over the summer she did stuff thats bothering me now in our relationship she had sex w. a total of 3 guys multiable times and messed around w/ 3 other guys she told me everything b4 we got back together and it botheres me alot i dont know whwat to do i talked to her about it and shes there for me and all but i dont know what to do i need some advice the only reason im w/ her is because i really love her anyother girl i would tell leave me alone but i need something that will help over that break up i only messed around w/ 2 girls but we didnt have sex or ne thing like that i dont know what to do help me out please

You can't do anything, really. There's no magic wand for you to wave to make it all disappear. Try to remember that she wasn't doing it to hurt you, & you weren't together so she wasn't doing anything wrong. I have high hopes for your relationship-- she respected you enough to lay it all out on the table before you two got back together as opposed to hiding it, & despite being uncomfortable with it, you're sticking around because you love her.

Try not to let it bother you. You can't do anything about the past, so focus on the present & the future. Love can get you through anything as long as you're willing to help it along. If you're going to be together, you have to be willing to check any feelings of resentment at the door. Before you continue on with your relationship & patching things up between the two of you, make a promise to the both of you that you're going to leave the past in the past. When you're fighting, you're not allowed to hold it over her head that she did more than you did. It's not fair to either of you to continue this relationship if you can't make that promise. Best of luck to the both of you!

Q: Ok i know it sounds totally weird because im so young (15 very soon) but my boyfriend wants to propose to me for my bday. Hes 17 and i know wont be able to get married for ages and so does he. I think hes still going to propose though. What should I do? We've been going out for 10 months. thanks xx
(Im female by the way...)

Don't rush into anything. I don't doubt that you're in love, but sometimes things just don't work out. You're young & haven't been together very long (that's a long time in high school, yes, but in terms of forever, 10 months is nothing). As much as you may be in love now, you've both got a lot of growing & changing to do, obstacles to face, etc. Being engaged just adds unnecessary strain on the two of you.

Do what feels right, but there's no reason to make such a committment just yet. Like you said- you can't get married for ages anyways, why not just enjoy being young while you still can? I strongly suggest that you tell him before he proposes that you'd like to take things slower.

Look at it this way- if he proposes & you end up breaking up, you've lost not only a boyfriend but a fiance as well..two heartbreaks in one. If you wait & do end up together years from now, there's no harm done. Spare yourself the unnecessary stress & heartbreak.

Q: The guy that I like is about 25 pounds overweight and isnt athetlic at all. I asked him if he wanted to play tennis with me because I have been taking lessons. The whole time we played he critized me, saying mean things like "your stamina is terrible", what kind of lessons have you been taking", and " I thought you would have been way better". He was really upsetting me so finally I said that I was still learning and to give me a break. The thing was that he was a lot worse than me, and I was trying to say nice things to encourage me.
A couple days later he told me that he thought I should lose 15 pounds. I am average, not fat. He is way more overweight than me and I have never said anything to him because I know it would just hurt him. My feelings were very hurt with all his negativity. Should I move on?

Honestly, I think so. This guy doesn't seem with your time. He's taking your insecurities out on you & that just isn't fair. You could make something positive out of it though-- he was COMPLETELY out of line when he told you to lose weight, but perhaps you should offer for the two of you to exercise together..

Q: Every guy in my grade thinks im prude. They Think im pretty and hot and all, but they wont date me becuase they think i wont do anything. I WILL though, i just am relly self consious and i always think there is something on my face or something when boys talk to me. How can i change this?! please help me :]

Don't try to change it. Being a prude isn't a bad thing. Don't just give yourself away to any guy so that the guys won't think you're a prude anymore. You don't want a guy who only wants to fool around with you, you want a guy who loves you for who you are.

Q: My boyfirned of 3 years has just passed away. He was doing heroin with me and he took an over dose and his heart failed. I don't know what i can do without him I just loved him so much and I want to die right now. He was only 19 years old and just got out of highschool last year. I loved him so much I even lost my virginity to him and i can't imagine my life without him. What can I do this is the only person I have ever loved because I have serious issues at home. Someone please answer I rate 5's

Make some good of your boyfriend's death. Learn from his mistakes & quit the drugs before its too late. He'd want you to be happy.

Time heals all wounds. Nothing we say can ease the pain. Take some time to mourn, but don't dwell on it for too long. Live for his memory. Turn his life around, get help, & be happy for him.

Q: This is probably going to sound pretty fucking wierd, but it bothers me.

Ok, Im dating this girl. Shes agnostic/athiest, Im christian, formerly catholic non denominational. Up to this point, with the exception of discussion, Ive not really had any issues with religions shit in our relationship. It doesnt bother me that shes agnostic, it hasnt bothered her that Im christian.

So, today we were talking, and I told her I was going to become a reverend in the universal life church. For those of you who dont know, its an online website where you can actually get legally ordained and become a reverend in the eyes of the law. I find this fucking hilarious, and have wanted to for a while, but never got around to it.

She reacted badly. First, she joked that she didnt want to be involved with a reverend. Then she got serious and basically made it clear that it would bother her for me to become a reverend while I was dating her (expressed so that it was clear she didnt want me to do it)

Then she tells me its "disrespectful towards my religion"

This is coming from a girl who Ive watched the jesus episodes of southpark with. Whom I have made catholic joke after catholic joke (Im entitled, I was raised in it) with and laughed with her. Whom I have had frank discussions about the real failings of certain christian sects.

And now this.

Needless to say, I reacted badly. I was, and am pissed at her, for reasons I cant really say. Given that she doesnt even have a religion (because atheism and agnosticism are no more religions than bald is a hair color) I dont see where she gets off getting on me for being "disrespecful" towards mine or having an issue with it when its not like...

Anyway. Enough impassioned speeches, my question to the masses, is what do you think. Am I out of line? Is she? Because Im going to do this, and shes not going to like it. And I dont like feeling guilty for doing things I know arent wrong.

Disrespectful towards whose religion? Yours or hers?

If she means yours, I see where she's coming from, but it's not her place to decide whether or not it's right. You're the one who grew up in the religion, it's up to you to decide.

Honestly, don't throw away your dreams because of a girl. I have no way of knowing the status of your relationship, but I'm going to go out on a limb here & say that it probably won't last forever. If this is really what you want to do, don't let her stop you. If she loves you, she should respect your hopes and dreams.

Communication and understanding go a long way. Discuss it calmly; make sure you get to express your feelings but hear her out as well. Neither of you are out of line, you just have differing opinions.

Q: my boyfriend lives 400 miles away from me, i love him so much...i really do...we want to get married and everything i couldnt ask for more really...but all my friends hate that i am still with him just becuase we've only been together for 2 of the 9 months we've been together...and i dont kno if i should be siding with my friends in this situation, or if i should follow my heart =/
someone please help me with this

Follow your heart. Only you can decide what makes you happy, no one else. You don't have to be physically with your boyfriend for him to make you happy. In the end, your friends should support you & always be there for you to fall back on.

Q: I am a once athiest who has now become agnostic and what I want to know is :
Why do you or why do you not believe in god?
Why should he/she/it be praised?
Why should I believe or not believe in god?

I do not believe in god. From a scientific standpoint, it's simply not logical. Just looking at religions, there are so many conflicting religions out there. They can't all be right- how do you choose just one and follow its teachings & be certain that you're pleasing your god?

I don't believe in a god, therefore, there is nothing to praise. Whatever makes you feel closer to god, I suppose. As far as I'm concerned, organized religion is a bunch of crap. No one should tell you what you NEED to do in order for a god to love and accept you.

Whatever makes you happy. I'm not going to try and sway you one way or another. Your faith is something you need to handle yourself.

Q: Why does everyone think you HAVE to believe in something? Do you feel it's wrong to not put faith in a religion? I'm not religious in the tiniest bit. I know some people think that you never know what you're missing out on until you try it. However, I've never even cared or have been concerned with trying to find religion in my life. Why is religion so important?

Religion certainly isn't a requirement. Some people just feel more complete if they have faith in something, something to look forward to such as Heaven as opposed to the grim scientific facts about death. I don't think it's wrong to not put faith into a religion; I'm an Atheist myself & I honestly think that religion is more of a problem than lack of religion. To each his own. I personally feel that religion is a bunch of crap, and I don't mean that to offend anybody. There are so many conflicting religions in this world & it's simply impossible for all of them to be right, so how do you decide which one is accurate and put your faith in it? It's simply not logical to me.

Q: hello. im a muslim and ever since 9/11 i know there has been a lot of sterotypes on muslims. Very bad ones. i had a lot of racism especially during that year at which i was 10 years old. people would stare at me and my sisters and be like go back to your country. now i want to know what are peoples views on islam and muslims?

I honestly don't know enough about Islam and Muslims to formulate an opinion. I believe that too many people are uneducated on the subject, which results in them being complete jackasses and telling you to "go back to your country". I've learned a bit about it from a distant friend & I'd be interested in learning more. I think some parts of the religion are simply bizarre, but that goes for any religion & I'd certainly never tell anyone to "go back to your country".

Q: Do you believe that "God" has already planned out our destiny, or do you believe we make our own destiny?

And do you believe everything happens for a reason, or do you feel that's just some clever line a thinker thought up to try to reduce the amount of stress and anger in our lives?

I don't believe in a god. Any decision we make is our own. Every person charts his own path in life; there is no predestined course for anyone.

I say everything happens for a reason, but it's just a saying as far as I'm concerned.

Q: Hey. Is it true that guys won't have sex with girls if the don't shave their vaginas?

It's possible if he's just a shallow jackass just using you for sex, but if he really loves you, no.

bio

My name is Kailey. I'm 17 years old & a senior at a high school in Massachusetts. I'm told that I'm mature for my age, but I'll let you be the judge of that. I love giving advice, but I'll tell you the way I see it, so you may not always like my answers. I especially like giving relationship advice. I don't claim to have all the answers, but I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years now and I feel as though I can give good advice on the subject.