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Hi, I'm Jasmine, I have been though some hard times in my life, and I'm always here for anyone who needs advice! (: I'm just a message away!
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So this guy always tells me im hot, beautiful, pretty and cute. But hes waiting for me to get off my period so we can have sex but I've only known him for about 9 days or so. me and him only were aware that we each exsisted but never talked and nine days ago we started talking and hanging out. but he is nice to my parents and very polite and hugs my mom hello and good bye. And than last night he was talking to my friend Whitney about drinking and smoking and how they should go do it. do you think he could be putting on an act for my parents and things and really just wanting to have sex and using me, or actually have interest in me? i know thats prob not enough info. so ill say a little more, he also doesnt mind kissing me or anything infront of my cousin brittney or my cousin brianna, and i think his friends know that we have a thing going on cuz i read his text the other day and it said "so your with nina right?" (yes my name is nina) so its not a complete secret. But if you can help me distinguish what he wants from me that would be great..
I dont think it's a very good idea to have sex with someone if you have only known them for 9 days. In my opinion, its rushing things. No offense, but he also might be using you for sex. My advice is dont get too close to him, let your relationship be distant, but wait a while longer before taking that next step.
I've been out as a lesbian for the past 12+ years. I'm 33 and I've dated my share of women. I've had serious relationships and not so serious relationships. I've never dated a man, not even for a short period of time as a teenager, and have never even had a desire to have sex with a man.
I haven't had a relationship since I broke up with my ex-girlfriend in the spring. Not even a one night stand with a woman. I've been happy since then though. Until this guy, this MAN, came along.
I started a new job after the break up and it's something that requires two people to work together often. I work with this guy, Steven, and we've been working together for a few months now. At first, when I very first met him, I thought the feelings I felt were me being envious of him being so incredibly masculine (I've always been kind of butch) because I was so intrigued by it. It was almost fascinating. Now I'm pretty sure it's more than that.
I've come to realize that I actually like him more than just as a person or friend or coworker. He has a wonderful personality and is quite the attractive man. The crush has developed so that I'm now questioning my sexuality after all of this time, and it's really confusing. From time to time I have these dreams of him that are very sexual in nature even. I feel so twisted up. I have these intense feelings for him and I've never felt this way about any woman.
He's a very masculine man, just like I said. I know he's single. I told him when we started working together that I'm a lesbian, and he was perfectly fine with that and hasn't ever said anything to me about it since. Now the problem is that I'd like to date him and see where things go.
I haven't purposely done it but lately I find myself being a little less butch and a little more feminine around him. I'm more concerned with looking "pretty" now. It isn't like me at all, but it's really strange because I feel happy with him being a "manly" man. I think we might actually make a good pair.
Enough of my rambling. Do you think I'm a lesbian or what? I never thought I was straight but this has me questioning everything about me. And should I say something to him? Do I make a move? Do I just go with the flow and hope he catches on that I'm interested? Do I pretend these feelings don't exist?
If you make a move, he might feel a little bit uncomfortable, so dont make any sudden moves. Maybe tell him that you are a little confused about it right now, so if you do end up making a move, he wouldnt feel so awkward. I think that you might be bisexual. If you have feelings for a man, but you also have had feelings for women, it is very possible that you are bisexual. What I would do is see what happens between you two, and see where the relationship goes. (:
i have this friend and everyone says we should get together because were always fighting but we always fix it before the day is over this happens in school we dont really talk out of school iv asked question about him already on this website and they all tell me the same thing his into me and i like him back but i dont know what to do about this were on break now so i havent seen him but when we get back how do i get his attention how do i get him to tell me how he sees me without asking im kinda shy when it comes to that and he doesnt think i like him even though i do im just that good at hideing it so i dont know what to do now ?
Just do little things, like if he cracks a joke, touch his arm, or laugh. I mean, if people say he likes you, go for it girl! (:
hey im 13 and i think its time i kiss my bf already but ive never kissed ,,,,and wht i heard is tht he has expirence sooo wht shud i do?
Kissing comes naturally, you just do it. Go for it! Just do something with your hands! Put them on his back or his face, just dont let them hang ny your side. I'm sure you'll be fine, but message me if you have any questions! (:
To start out Ima homophobic. Two men and two female ar wrong in the eyes of God. And Im a southern baptist. Lately, Ive been gettng these urges around girls, and I get hornny. I also get turned on by two girls kissing and I want to try it. Am I gayy? I look at girls butts and at there boobs sometimes also.
It seems as though since you have these urges, you might be bi sexual or lesbian. This is not bad at all, and God loves everyone no matter what race, sexuality, anything. We are His children, and he loves all of us.
Hey! I'm a fifteen year old sophomore girl. When I was in eighth grade I was at a friends house with a few people. At one point I went into the basement to get a soda and this guy followed me. He pressed me against a wall and covered my mouth and started grinding against me and kissing my neck. I've always been small and I couldn't push him off. He fingered me and told me to give him head but someone called down the stairs and he let me go. I didn't tell anyone... And I kind of just forgot about it. Freshman year I started dating this guy for about five months when he raped me. He apologized once and i just started crying. All he said was "its okay"and that's the only time we talked about it... We kept on dating for another three months and then broke up. Again. I never told anyone. Until recently.The guy I'm dating now I've been dating for six months an he's a junior, 17. We've been friends for years. Hes the best guy I know... And I've always loved him. I told him about those two stories ltonight. He really angry and I don't know why. All he said was "why didn't you tell someone?? Why didn't you tell me??" and he stormed out and drove away. I don't know what to do. I mean I understand kind of... I regret not telling anyone but I can't do anything about it now.. Im scared he hates me and I have no explanation for him... What do I do?? He won't answer his phone.
Well, you should really get some help about this. You need to tell someone that this guy raped you. You need go to someone, like the cops, or a trusted adult. About the guy you were dating, just say I'm sorry I didnt tell you or anyone else about it, I just felt cornered and trapped, I couldnt do anything about it, and know I feel really bad. If you really like this guy, just POUR YOUR HEART OUT TO HIM.
My best friend, who I completely consider my brother, is considering suicide. I've told him over and over that he can talk to me anytime. I don't care. And that I don't care about anyone else, I'm always here for him. I love him to death. But he keeps thinking about it. I no longer know what to do to help. Please give me advice!
You need to talk to someone about this. Get someone to help yuor friend out. He needs it! You dont want a life to be gone. If he really does commit suicide, you will feel bad about not getting help for him. So talk to someone about it, get help for him. Go to a family member, or someone who you trust alot, but not a kid, because the news might get around. Talk to a trusted adult.
Hello, I am a 13 year old girl, and i want to lose wieght and just be healthier. Im actually at a good wieght, but I do sports and want to be fit for them. I always go jogging, but lately i haven't been because i don't want to go alone (my sister or brother usually went with me, but they never want to anymore) and i just don't know how to get motivated if the people i trust aren't helping me! So my question is, how do i get motivated to lose wieght and get healthier?
You can always have your own workout plan(: thats what I do, I wrote all of the things that i wanted to work on, like my core, or arms. Then I looked up ways to tone those areas of my body, and i did those workouts for about 20 minutes a day. Also, if you have alot of anger, you can always buy a punching bag, and use that for working out(:
My ex boyfriend put on his facebook last night 'praying that you miss me'
That's obviously about me (who else would be missing him) I know he's not seeing/dating anyone else because I'm good friends with his friends and they told me he's not (I didn't ask them)
Btw he broke up with me 3 months ago. For the first 2 months I contacted him but the past month I haven't.
Well, maybe he misses you. Sorry, that was kinda obvious. The main question is, do you have feelings for him? If you do, you need to tell him about it. Talk to him about that status, and if you miss him, be honest. Open you heart to him if yuo feel like you really like him. (:
20-f Ry -19
So I really like this kid Ryan. Hes so sweet, respectful, everything you would want in a guy. The last time we hung out, we kissed and made out. I wanted to kiss him but oh my gosh was it the worst thing ever ..he basically ate my face. It was horrible. And he kept wanting to do it. I felt like I didn't even know what to do because I could barely do anything since he was so sloppy. I didn't know what to do!! I can't tell him he's not a good kisser. And sometimes you just want those cute peck kisses. So we were laying down watching a movie and I had to leave and he was like okay come on one more time, so he started making out with me again. All I wanted was a cute peck kiss to say goodbye. Finally I said, just give me a kiss and then I have to go. So he did and then he tried making out with me again! I definitely would not mind making out with him more if it wasn't so awkward and horrible for me. I actually feel bad. What can I do without hurting his feelings by saying he's not a good kisser?? And he just goes so fast and rough -I like it when you make out slow and passionate but I don't think he really gets it. I don't know how many girls he's made out with before but I just don't know how to fix this. Could this be a problem?
I have been in this position before. I have madeout with a terrible kisser before, and let me tell you, I know how bad it can be. Just kind of whisper to him "a little softer" or just say "ouch." if he has braces, tell him his braces are scratching your lip, so can he plase kiss a little bit lighter. (:
When is the Ukraine Christmas? I'm Ukraine, but I've always just celebrated the one on dec 25. But I want to embrace my heritage :)
It begins on January 6th, (which is their christmas eve) and ends on January 16th.
My girlfriend found out she's pregnant two weeks ago. When she told me she immediately said she was going to abort it and that I didn't have to worry about anything. I tried to tell her that I really would love to raise the baby, with or without her around.
I think she's making a drastic decision. I feel like if she seriously goes through with getting rid of the baby we created together then I'll be forced to dump her. I love her but I wouldn't be able to get over this sort of thing. We've been together for 2 years and this cold side of her is completely new to me. It's like I don't know her at all now.
I understand her not wanting to be a mom right now. I'm 22 and she's 21 and so we have a lot of time to make those sorts of family decisions. I would love to be a father already though, even if it means raising my son or daughter as a single parent. I know I could do it, and I would never make her be a part of raising him or her if she didn't want to.
I have a really good, reliable job. I have my own apartment. I have a great family support system. I'm in good health. I have a few younger brothers and sisters so I know what it means to bring home a newborn. I know I could do this, and it's what I want.
How can I convince her to give birth? I know about the rights of the woman and "her choice" but what about the rights of the man? I helped make this baby with her. I'm willing to spend the rest of my life, alone or otherwise, raising him or her. I want this baby. Is there anything, absolutely anything, I can do to keep him or her around? Somehow get some sort of custody? Please, help me. She has an appointment coming up and she just won't listen to what I have to say about this. She just has to give birth and from there I will take care of rest of the baby's life. Why won't she just listen?
You have to understand that this is her baby too, and she will have to go through alot of pain to have this baby. I do also understand that you want to have this baby and you are willing to raise this baby on your own. Tell her this, and tell her that you feel as if you wont be able to carry on the relationship with her if she goes through with the abortion. Having this baby would be like having a perfect family. you sound like a very committed person, and you sound very responsible, so tell her this.
I have been seeing this guy for 2.5 years, we both came out of a bad breakup and neither of us were looking for a relationship at the time. As time past I fell in love with him, he was in financial debt so I lent him money that he promised he would pay back, took out a loan as he told me he was selling a property and would have the money to pay me back which he lost and now in shortfall.
I believed what he was saying, he manipulated me into paying his bills etc as well and promised he would pay me back but never did. I had to ask to contribute to the loan otherwise he would not have paid me anything. Total is around $18,000.
In April this year he went from single to a relationship on his facebook and said he had to do that so girls would not go after him. During that time he told me that, a girl was hassling him and he owed her money, so asked me to call her for her bank account details. After I spoke with her she told me she was in love with him and I felt like I was in the same situation, he denied sleeping with her. I broke off seeing him because I had the suspicion he was seeing other women, which he denied. After I broke it off he said he wanted to move on and meet someone that his family would approve of, they would not approve of me as I am older than he by 12 years. I am 49 and he is 37. He kept wanting to see me, didn't want me finding anyone else.
Two days before Christmas he called and said he needed money as he was in trouble. I told him I didn't have any and could not get any as he has drained me dry. I recently found out that this guy is now engaged with a baby on the way with the girl he denied being in a relationship with in April.
I know this guy is not good for me and I want to cut him off but don't know how to do it as he owes me money. I have the feeling he will not pay me back as he has lied and cheated, not only with me but with the girl he is engaged with, as he was seeing me at the same time. So do I cut my losses and run and how should I handle it??
Well,m what I would do, is try to find SOME WAY to get some of your money back. Is there any way that maybe you can sue him and get at least some of your money back? I would look it up, or try and find some information on it. It just makes me so mad that someone could actually do this to a person. I'm sorry for what your going through right now, but I would try my hardest to get any money that I could.
There's this girl I hang out with a lot. We've known each other since we were little kids. We grew up together and we're both 15 now. For 4 years now I've fallen for her hard. I daydream of her all of the time. I dream of her at night. I can't get her out of my head. I love everything about her from the way she smiles to the smell of her hair when I'm close to her. I always seem to find myself making excuses to see her more often. I feel like I'm obsessed because my feelings for her are so strong I can't have a proper girlfriend (I always end up being distant to them, not really wanting to date them, and dumping them early on because of my lack of interest).
I've kept these feelings a secret but sometimes I think I should tell her. I'm afraid she won't feel the same though, and I'll end up ruining the friendship. I know I sound like such a wuss here but the emotions are so intense and I've kept them in so long.
What's the best thing to do in this particular situation? Should I tell her and risk everything? Should I keep this stuff bottled in?
Well, if you dont want to ruin your friendship with her, maybe you should get all of yuor feelings out in a journal first, and see if you feel any better. Maybe get some of your friends to talk to her about you, to see if shes interested. Dont keep your feelings bottled up though, you have to tell her soon.
Hi everyone, 23 and female here...
I saw the red flags, but I had just come out of an emotionally abusive relationship; I refused to believe that I had run straight into a worse situation...but I had.
I've been free of him since mid-October, when I took the day off work, gathered my things, and left. We were living together in the house he bought to share with me, talking about marriage and kids...I know it sounds bizarre, given the abuse, but in his own sick way, he loved me. I never doubted that...and I loved him. If I listed the qualities of my dream guy, I would almost describe him. I dreamed of spending my life with him until he started to physically hurt me.
So here's my problem:
When I left him, I turned off my emotions. If I had let myself feel, I knew I wouldn't have been able to do it. Until this past Saturday, I've been pleasantly numb. I'm very busy, I have a lot of responsibility at work, and I don't have time or energy to waste on being upset. All of a sudden, that logic doesn't seem to be helping, and I find myself biting back tears all the time. I realized that I know only two ways to cope with things: to suppress what I'm feeling completely, or to let it take over.
I have a therapist, but I don't think I'm getting what I need from her. I've seen seven different therapists in my short life and none of them have been able to help me. I'm also on an antidepressant, and STILL having these problems.
I know this is kind of vague, but I don't know what to ask, exactly. I just...need help...any help. Please.
Thanks to all who try.
Okay, I'm sorry, but you have no right to say that to me. I'm sorry I tried to help.... I'm only 13.... So no need to cuss at me. Thanks
Hey! I'm a fifteen year old girl, sophomore. So I was at this party last night and there was this guy that used to go to my school (he got expelled for getting busted with pot) so he goes to a school nearby (he's a junior, 17). So I barely even knew him until last night and a few factors, ahem, impaired my judgement and I went up to him and sat in his lap while he was playing cod. He taught me how to play and then we stared dancing. For awhile. And we hooked up, but just making out. He asks for my number and I give it to him. He texted me today. I don't know what to do. Im kind if interested in him but I know he's not what you'd call a "good kid". Okay I'm not exactly a good kid either but I've never been interested in a guy this bad (I try to avoid potheads) and I know I barely know him but there's something that's making soooo curious about him and I dunno why.
I have dated guys like this before, they are more interesting. There seems like there is something mysterious about them, and you want to know more about him. Go for it! Bad boys are always better kissers, just saying..... (: I mean, inside, hes probably a big fluffy teddy bear(: thats what I've found out about the bad boys I've dated
Does this make sense? Is this normal, I'll explain the situation that I'm currently going through at the moment.
I'm a 19 year old girl dating a 24 year old guy, whom I'm falling in love with (I do believe that I may already be there, but it just seems rather soon to say it). He takes care of me, I love getting to see him, I love being with him, when I'm upset he makes me see things in perspective. When I kiss him, his kiss lingers on my lips for a while. I love his touch, and I think about him constantly. When we're not around each other I'm missing him, being with him is just an amazing experience. We've only been together for a month, so I'm not going to tell him that I love him, I don't want him to think that I'm crazy. Although for some reason, I feel insecure, like looking at perspectives he's very into me, he talks to me every day when we don't get to see each other, he wants to play games with me when we're not seeing each other, when I'm having a bad day he makes me see perspective, so it's always like I get time with him even if it's not necessarily physical (which can't always be done, we live in different counties, not countries or states, and I don't drive, although he does).
Which I think is from the fact that I'm just really insecure in relationships, I don't think it has anything to do with him. Being with him is just an amazing experience, he is such an an amazing guy and I could go on and on about him forever.
Previously I dated a 26 year old guy, who I was in love with, he was my first real relationship, and we dated for 5 months, we broke up four months ago. I recognize what I had with him as a memory, although I guess he was my first love and he was the first guy that I had sex with. However he chose to end what we had, by freaking out over our pregnancy scare, dicking me around for a while after we broke up, and verbally abusing me in several ways, and the really shitty way of breaking up with me on the internet. Sometimes I think about him, although these thoughts are mainly about sexual experiences, I guess you could say, our relationship was intensely sexual. Before we got together, he really did mean the world to me previously, we knew each other for like almost 10 years and I was nervous about getting into a relationship with him.
Not so much with the new guy, I think about how silly he is, what he looks like, how he's definitely my type, how when I'm upset he makes me see things in perspective, etcetera. I know that he would never do half the shit to me that my evil ex boyfriend did, he pulled a lot of insane and evil shit. Although I'm not going to lie, I do think about sexual stuff with my current boyfriend, I think about his touch, how he touches my face, etcetera. When I'm kissing I never think about my ex boyfriend, when we're together I think about my current boyfriend, I might mention a really shitty thing that my ex boyfriend did to me but I don't ever think about what it was like with him, it's only when I'm alone.
Does it make sense for me to think about my current boyfriend and my ex boyfriend as well? I definitely don't want my current boyfriend to know that I still think about my ex, I just don't think that it would have a very good effect on anything. I really don't want to lose him any time soon and definitely not over thinking that I'm not over my ex. How do I stop thinking about my ex boyfriend? I'm enjoying my experiences with the new guy, and I don't want to swap him for anything. Is this just a side effect of falling in love again and being scared that he's going to turn out just like my ex boyfriend?
Well, it's normal for you to think about all of the times you and ex have shared, but it doesnt sound like your thoughts of your ex are dominating the relationship your in now. It's normal to have thoughts about yuor ex, but if you have feelings for him, then take a break from the relationship your in now to just be with yourself and your thoughts. (:
My boyfriend has a history of depression and ADD. He forgets nearly everything; favors, promises and misc. I even need to remind him to take a shower. This prior summer/fall we got into a big tuffle where he snapped at me for "nagging" him to get a job, where I was just reminding him every now and again to do applications and stuff.That has really stuck with me and ANY TIME I want to remind him to do something, I'm hesitant and depressed. He's semi-aware of his problem. He takes medication for depression and ADD. However there are times were he's annoyed by my reminders.I'm really tired of this. Sometimes I feel like he doesn't even want to try and help himself. He says stuff like "we just need to find a way to help me." and when I tell him that I feel like a failure for not being able to help me he tells me stuff like "nonono, you're doing fine..." but I just don't know what to do. We tried to keep a notebook for writing things down but that didn't really do anything...
I told him that I'd like to back off and have him help himself while I'll still be here for support and I didn't quite get the reaction I wanted.
this all took place via text
I told him I was hurting too much and that he needed to help himself. Then I told him about the ADD self help file I was making (made of tips from the internet) He got depressed and told me "you do so much for me and all I can do is sit back and try to help myself... a-and I can't... It's too hard, I'm not used to doing this........... I feel so bad............." and then he started crying and saying that he didn't wait all afternoon for me to guilt trip him about how useless he can be when it comes to helping himself. Then he said that "I don't want another psyche person telling me how fucked up I am... I don't want pills to make me 'normal'... I don't want that." I then asked him what he wanted and he replied "I don't want the people closet to me reminding me I'm incompetant... I just want to go to sleep... have some aspect of my life I can control..." he told me to email him the file once I was done and that no matter what else he says, he's grateful. Then he went to bed crying, I apologized for hurting him and he said it doesn't matter..
It's morning now. Like usual he's pushed this incident to the back of his mind while I'm still worried. What should I do?
I understand that you feel bad about this, but its not your place to control his life, and make desicions for him. It's his life, and if that means that you have to break off the relationship, so be it. It may have to be done. Do what you think is best for you, and look into your heart, and make the descion that will benefit you in the long run.
Will it be good for me to be in a foster home? because she is putting me in the city of ORLANDO , which is where i was raised in since i was 8 and i know most of the people there and my mom doesnt want me anymore i need advice =(
Let me start off by saying that I'm very sorry about this whole thing. It's not right that your mom would just abandon you like this. Living in a foster home isnt as easy as it seems. It will be hard for you, but it might be a better place then where you are staying at right now. If you know and get along with most of the kids there, I would suggest going there.
okay, this is gonna be a long story, but please help me out.
i'm 16/f, and i have a boyfriend of 7 months. however, there's this boy. let's call him trevor. trevor is one of my close friends, and i used to like him, A LOT. for about two years, all i cared about was him. he does little things like rub my back and put his hand on my leg when we're together now, and it drives me insane. i cared so much about him for 2 whole years, but he never seemed to notice. now that i have a boyfriend, he gives me all the attention in the world. he texts me first, he tells me he loves me (in a friend kind of way), he gave me his sweatshirt to wear and keep. we have such a long history of this kind of stuff, it seems like it's all coming to the surface now. i never had any closure with him. i feel like in order to get over him completely, i have to kiss him. ya know, get it out of my system so i can focus completely on my boyfriend. has anyone ever been in this situation before? if so, how did it end up working out? ahh!
You shouldnt kiss him when you have a boyfriend. Thats not being faithful, and in school, you will get a bad name, like being called a whore or a slut, and you dont want that. Maybe you should ask yuorself if you still like trevor or not. If you still do, its time to go for it! Take a little bit of time off from you and your current bf, and spend time with trevor, and see where things go. Hope I could help (: