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He's not a good kisser, how can I help him
20-f Ry -19
So I really like this kid Ryan. Hes so sweet, respectful, everything you would want in a guy. The last time we hung out, we kissed and made out. I wanted to kiss him but oh my gosh was it the worst thing ever ..he basically ate my face. It was horrible. And he kept wanting to do it. I felt like I didn't even know what to do because I could barely do anything since he was so sloppy. I didn't know what to do!! I can't tell him he's not a good kisser. And sometimes you just want those cute peck kisses. So we were laying down watching a movie and I had to leave and he was like okay come on one more time, so he started making out with me again. All I wanted was a cute peck kiss to say goodbye. Finally I said, just give me a kiss and then I have to go. So he did and then he tried making out with me again! I definitely would not mind making out with him more if it wasn't so awkward and horrible for me. I actually feel bad. What can I do without hurting his feelings by saying he's not a good kisser?? And he just goes so fast and rough -I like it when you make out slow and passionate but I don't think he really gets it. I don't know how many girls he's made out with before but I just don't know how to fix this. Could this be a problem?
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I have been in this position before. I have madeout with a terrible kisser before, and let me tell you, I know how bad it can be. Just kind of whisper to him "a little softer" or just say "ouch." if he has braces, tell him his braces are scratching your lip, so can he plase kiss a little bit lighter. (:
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Coax him a little. Say things like "a little softer" and "move your tongue like this" etc. If he's really not getting the hint, just say you want him to just give you a soft peck-kiss.
You don't have to be straightforward and say "You're an awful kisser, let me fix you." unless you two have a good sense of humor and can laugh about it. But be straightforward about what you want. "I want you to kiss me softly." "I want you to kiss me like this."
You can be honest without being brutally honest, like saying "You kiss a little too rough, do it a bit softer, like this". He's probably just very excited about being with you and kissing you so he's going a little overboard with the passion.
Guys usually jump at any chance to learn and improve their 'skills', so as long as you say it nicely there shouldn't be a problem.
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Yea that's a problem. You could give him suggestions on how to kiss you. Be like "I really like it when you give me a soft kiss" or "I love when you kiss me like this" and kiss him passionately and maybe he will FOLLOW YOUR LEAD, something like that. Don't tell him he's a bad kisser or he might get offended. Just give him really good suggestions on what you want from him. Maybe that's just his kissing style and yours is completely different. After you tell him how you want it I'm sure he will kiss you more passionately and less aggressive. Show him how it's done!
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