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friends? or more? i'm so confused.
okay, this is gonna be a long story, but please help me out.
i'm 16/f, and i have a boyfriend of 7 months. however, there's this boy. let's call him trevor. trevor is one of my close friends, and i used to like him, A LOT. for about two years, all i cared about was him. he does little things like rub my back and put his hand on my leg when we're together now, and it drives me insane. i cared so much about him for 2 whole years, but he never seemed to notice. now that i have a boyfriend, he gives me all the attention in the world. he texts me first, he tells me he loves me (in a friend kind of way), he gave me his sweatshirt to wear and keep. we have such a long history of this kind of stuff, it seems like it's all coming to the surface now. i never had any closure with him. i feel like in order to get over him completely, i have to kiss him. ya know, get it out of my system so i can focus completely on my boyfriend. has anyone ever been in this situation before? if so, how did it end up working out? ahh!
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Hey,
I agree with what's been said so far - one kiss will not help you get over him, trust me. On the contrary, one kiss will lead to two, which will lead to three, which will -- you get my drift. You have to make a decision: Trevor or boyfriend, as you can't have both and you can't keep giving Trevor false hopes. Plus, how sure are you of Trevor still being the Trevor you're experiencing now when you leave your current boo to be with him? How would you feel if your current boyfriend left you for a friend of his? Step out of the frame and look at the situation from another view. There can be no such thing as "focusing" on a boyfriend - he's not a duty, not an exam, not a chore. However, you can focus on loyalty and love. Best of luck.
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You shouldnt kiss him when you have a boyfriend. Thats not being faithful, and in school, you will get a bad name, like being called a whore or a slut, and you dont want that. Maybe you should ask yuorself if you still like trevor or not. If you still do, its time to go for it! Take a little bit of time off from you and your current bf, and spend time with trevor, and see where things go. Hope I could help (:
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you sound really confused, but i don't think kissing him while you have a boyfriend is a good idea. i think you need to decide which boy you like more and if you really can't get your mind off of trevor you might need to break up with your boyfriend and see how things go with trevor. if they don't work out at least you know you tried and you won't have to deal with that problem again. if you really care about your boyfriend though you should probably just ignore those feelings for trevor and realize that your boyfriend is more important. good luck!
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this type of thing happened to me but the roles were reversed. my best friend was in love with me, he never made any moves, never even told me(everyone else did). after three years things were normal again. we are even closer.
i suggest letting things blow over. kissing him is not a good idea. you current boyfriend may not like that and it could cause things to be akward between you too
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